How Many No's Have You Faced Before Succeeding?

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How many no's have you faced from a person before you achieved a success? Whether boss asking for a raise, a business client for a sale, or romantic date, etc.

As far as I can remeber I faced at least 10 no's before I received a raise. 6 months later I quit and joined the Military.
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  • Profile picture of the author juninhop
    Failure is a part of success and success is a part of failure. Indeed, you cannot have one without the other.

    One of my favorite quotes of all time is:

    Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm."
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    • Profile picture of the author The Niche Man
      Originally Posted by juninhop View Post

      Failure is a part of success and success is a part of failure. Indeed, you cannot have one without the other.

      One of my favorite quotes of all time is:

      Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm."
      --Winston Churchill
      That's a good quote from Winston Churchill that sums up a secret of success. Going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm. The key is how. Whoever could bottle and sell that would be an instant billionaire.
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    • Profile picture of the author hireava
      Originally Posted by juninhop View Post

      Failure is a part of success and success is a part of failure. Indeed, you cannot have one without the other.

      One of my favorite quotes of all time is:

      Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm."
      --Winston Churchill
      I totally agree....Nice insight! You can't succeed without experiencing any failures at all.
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  • Profile picture of the author emmndi
    The NO's I have received in the past are countless, but that never stops me, one has got to keep at it no matter what.
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  • Profile picture of the author ameerulislam10
    If you receive a No, you should learn and improve accordingly. If you are receiving nos and not improving then you are annoying.

    I can't remember how many nos I received before getting a job offline and online.
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  • Profile picture of the author Debra Barrow
    Are we counting? What's important is to not take it personally, and keep moving forward. Of course, it would help to know if there is something to improve on. That's where feedback would be helpful.

    There is always a reason for the "no". Sometimes you'll know why, and other times you won't. Maybe you can turn the "no" into a "yes". But, it shouldn't make you give up and quit.
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    • Profile picture of the author Warrior Child
      I receive countless of NO's until now but it never stops me from doing what I love doing. I keep in mind the (The 4 SW) "Some will, some will not, so what. someone else will come and listen to me with arms wide open". Your passion should never stop you from any hindrance you might face along the way.
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      • Profile picture of the author JoeUK
        Still facing them
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    • Profile picture of the author The Niche Man
      Originally Posted by Debra Barrow View Post

      Are we counting? What's important is to not take it personally, and keep moving forward. Of course, it would help to know if there is something to improve on. That's where feedback would be helpful.

      There is always a reason for the "no". Sometimes you'll know why, and other times you won't. Maybe you can turn the "no" into a "yes". But, it shouldn't make you give up and quit.
      Yes, I have been known to count the No's. That comes from my direct sales background. Where we determine the amount of no's we have to face before we get to a yes, most sales organizations have a specific formula concerning that. And yes I agree, feedback is vital in helping to turn no's into yeses.
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    • Profile picture of the author dorianjohn425
      Originally Posted by Debra Barrow View Post

      Are we counting? What's important is to not take it personally, and keep moving forward. Of course, it would help to know if there is something to improve on. That's where feedback would be helpful.

      There is always a reason for the "no". Sometimes you'll know why, and other times you won't. Maybe you can turn the "no" into a "yes". But, it shouldn't make you give up and quit.
      I agree, every "no" we faced in life has always a reason ... We just have to view it positively though hard in order to see it's good purpose for us.
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  • Profile picture of the author DominiquePrentiss
    I've never counted the no's. I've always seen them as some sort of opportunity. What I'm offering may not be for everyone, so when the no comes, I quickly shake the dust from my feet and move on.

    You can't revel in the no's. They will eat you alive and prevent you from moving forward.
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  • Depending on the person I'm talking too, I take a person's first "no" as a lack of understanding. It's natural to reject something we don't quite understand. Usually, after an initial consultation, I get a "no" because even though they now understand the value of what I'm offering, there's still some lingering doubts. Once I address those concerns I usually get a "yes" on the third try.
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    • Profile picture of the author The Niche Man
      Originally Posted by TheGetStartedExpert View Post

      Depending on the person I'm talking too, I take a person's first "no" as a lack of understanding. It's natural to reject something we don't quite understand. Usually, after an initial consultation, I get a "no" because even though they now understand the value of what I'm offering, there's still some lingering doubts. Once I address those concerns I usually get a "yes" on the third try.
      That's a good example of not reveling in the no's or letting them intimidate you. But understanding, harnessing them and using them to help you succeed. Not everyone has the stomach to do that, it's a gift.
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      • Originally Posted by The Niche Man View Post

        That's a good example of not reveling in the no's or letting them intimidate you. But understanding, harnessing them and using them to help you succeed. Not everyone has the stomach to do that, it's a gift.
        There was a time when I didn't have the stomach for it either until I learned how to look beyond the words and find out what's really going on. Interestingly, this lesson came from a former co-worker. This was one of those folks that sabotages your efforts by constantly putting obstacles in your path. I used to curse the day I met that guy until I realized that he wouldn't have done that if he didn't think I had the potential to surpass him. Instead of being angry at his blatant efforts to sabotage my work, I started seeing him as an intimidated little kid and even felt sorry for him. From that lesson, I learned the most important word: PERCEPTION. I now take a step back and look at what people are really saying or doing. That's why no's don't intimidate me now that I've learned to look beyond the obvious.
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  • Profile picture of the author Scott Skinner
    THOUSANDS! Literally.

    Hearing "no" is not failure. It is simply an opportunity to learn and sharpen your skills.
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  • Profile picture of the author Timothy Reuscher
    Look at it this way. If you listen to "no", then have fun working for that going nowhere job for the rest of your life.

    Listen to "yes" and you can be sipping on pina coladas on Honolulu beach til the day you die.
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    • Profile picture of the author The Niche Man
      Originally Posted by Timothy Reuscher View Post

      Look at it this way. If you listen to "no", then have fun working for that going nowhere job for the rest of your life.

      Listen to "yes" and you can be sipping on pina coladas on Honolulu beach til the day you die.
      That's a good point, I agree with your conclusion. But I don't see "no" as a stop sign, but a go sign. It all comes down to how you look at it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Anotherdesignteam
    The more No's you get. The closer you come to a yes
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    I've lost count
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  • Profile picture of the author ameerulislam10
    Things that you get after some number of Nos has high value to you. Things that you get without Nos you don't care about it. You can take rich people's spoiled kids as an example.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kaysa
    It is a really good question. We have to face so many no's in our life to reach success. I don't know how many times I've got a no in my life, but I know there are a lot of them.

    That you have counted them, means that you know for sure that every "no" get you near to a "yes"
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    • Profile picture of the author ameerulislam10
      Originally Posted by O0o0O View Post

      It's said the world is 80% negative and 20% positive. So if you want to succeed, then fail more.
      Wow, is that some one's quote?
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      • Profile picture of the author jrgattison
        I don't have a complete number although I here no from my wife at least one time a day so using that as a base that would be 365 Jo's and I've been married for 13 years which equals a lot but I keep still on going.
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        • Profile picture of the author The Niche Man
          Originally Posted by jrgattison View Post

          I don't have a complete number although I here no from my wife at least one time a day so using that as a base that would be 365 Jo's and I've been married for 13 years which equals a lot but I keep still on going.
          LOL ... Now That's what I call Love. Right on brother.
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          • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
            If you are getting too many no's and want to turn those into yeses, just simply rephrase or redirect the question.

            I understand this may not help you succeed, however you won't have to hear that dreaded word no any longer.:p

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            • Profile picture of the author The Niche Man
              Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

              If you are getting too many no's and want to turn those into yeses, just simply rephrase or redirect the question.

              I understand this may not help you succeed, however you won't have to hear that dreaded word no any longer.:p

              Terra
              Interesting point Terra, could you give us an example please.
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  • Profile picture of the author Joshua Morris
    I love hearing "no's", It means I'm closer to a "Yes"...

    btw.. if the wife says "no", it's "no" lol

    Seriosly though, the "no"s are just part of the whole process of succeeding, if you cant face the "no"s, then your not up to it!!.... Just keep going no matter what and you will succeed!

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  • Profile picture of the author stopper
    I once got 4 nos before getting a yes from scrap dealer before getting a yes
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    • Profile picture of the author The Niche Man
      Originally Posted by stopper View Post

      I once got 4 nos before getting a yes from scrap dealer before getting a yes
      Interesting, did you know what changed his mind?

      - Was it an extra detail you revealed?
      - A question you asked?
      - A current change in his circumstances?
      - Just raw persistence? Wore him down?
      - Time for him to build trust in you?
      Or some other reason?

      I'm always curious what turned a no into a yes. In fact, I may do a book someday.
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  • Profile picture of the author finnavery
    I've had countless NO's before I achieved what I want, but every time I've had it, I look to it in a positive side that it is just a challenge for me to push harder.
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  • Profile picture of the author mariazz
    me too, countless "No's"..but this word help me strive more and to push harder.
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  • Profile picture of the author danstelter
    I can remember getting tons of 'nos' before finally meeting my wife. The lesson I learned from that was that it wasn't all about me. All I could do was my best and then let go of the outcome. That's precisely what I did, and even though I didn't always get the outcome that I wanted, things turned out well in the end.
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    • Profile picture of the author The Niche Man
      Originally Posted by danstelter View Post

      I can remember getting tons of 'nos' before finally meeting my wife. The lesson I learned from that was that it wasn't all about me. All I could do was my best and then let go of the outcome. That's precisely what I did, and even though I didn't always get the outcome that I wanted, things turned out well in the end.
      It's interesting how "no" can be either a menace or a motivator, depending on how you look at it and ... react to it!
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    countless,,,but its a challenge for me...
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