Your first reason why you failed and fall down, but did not give up?

I have failed Many, Many times in my 11 year span of self employment and every time I fail I learn a valuable lesson and jot that lesson down into a journal I keep.

The failures I look at now as a positive thing as it helps me steer my ship in the right direction once I know what caused me to get off track or fail in the first place.

I kept going forward after failing because I personally did not want to go back to a 9-5 job and wanted to work from home and spend more time doing the things I enjoyed so everytime I would fail I would learn from it and keep pushing forward.

Working for yourself is a very hard thing to do especially if you are coming from a job. You HAVE to stay focused, maintain drive and desire if you want to succeed. You cannot be the type of person to fail at something and give up or take 3 weeks off to try and figure out what happened.

Learn from your failures, keep pushing forward, keep learning new things and you will be fine!

The reason why I failed is the fear of failing but it is the same reason why I chose not to give up because I want to conquer my fears and defeat it.

not having any other choice - is a good motivator - you literally have to sort your life/business out and make it work or you dont survive - just get on with it -

I make a big deal about what I am going to do. I announce it to the world, but more importantly I tell it to my closest friends and people who I respect. Once I make that "announcement" it sort of sets my brain for an "I can't fail at this or I lose face" sort of mode. Then when I fall (or fail) the first, second, third time, I know I have to get up until I achieve my intended goal.

I will also add the caveat that I don't set "impossible" goals like making a million dollars in a week or something (impossible for me at this stage anyway) but have realistic "stretch goals" which make me work hard, but are do-able.

Moving to Charleston, SC from Reading PA was one of my goals and people told me "that will never happen" Now I live there, ten minutes away from Folly Beach, and love it.

I have failed many times to meet my goals but I don't dwell on it for days i don't have that luxury yet.

If I give up, I will admit my own powerlessness and weakness. And I don't want to do that. This helps me try again and finally reach the goal.

My "go-get-em" moment occurred as I was driving home from work one day.

I work at a Panera, and it is stressful work. 8-9 hour shifts, standing, running, extreme focus needed, I'm working 40+ hours a week, getting up at 4am.

I made myself ill (literally) and started having bouts of extreme fatigue, couldn't exercise, started getting depressed etc etc meanwhile couldn't sleep and was angry at the whole world.


Then, one night I was driving home, in my 215,000 mi crap honda, every inch of my body aching, my mind filled with so much anger towards everything, feeling helpless and tired and close to the breaking point

And then it hit me like a brick:
"How is it possible that I can work so hard at my crappy Panera job, killing myself in order to learn quickly and prove myself and be the best worker, but it's "too hard" to just START on TRYING to generate automated income? How can I possibly give 200% at Panera, without blinking an eye, but not even 1% on this? I had a full ride to college, but I can't do this?"

and it was such a shocking thought, to think I was giving it all to a $9/H job and nothing to a real source of livelihood?


It sorta put everything into perspective for me. After that, there were no issues about motivation or mind-games. I have the work ethic needed, the evidence is right in front of my face!

All I had to do was step on the path.
All I need to do is stay on it.



tl;dr everyday I have to go into my sh*t job is my motivation.