Sabotaging Your Success In Life

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Talking about success with some people recently. We concluded that success encompasses such a wide array of things in our life.

Success has different meaning to different people. Some look for financial success, some look for personal success, others look for relationship success. Whichever one they are looking for, success just eludes them. These people are always chasing after success in life, but can't get it.

Do you know that some people have the tendency to sabotage their success in life? They create incidents to get themselves diving off from the success cliff into the valley of thorns. They love to have success, they want to achieve success, they are chasing it every minute of their life. But they are infected with a virus which is getting in the way on their pathway to success.

What Virus Is This?

I call it the Sabo (short for sabotage) Virus. It lingers in some people, feeds on its host and waits for an opportunity to strike. What are the symptoms of being infected by Sabo Virus?

Here's the checklist:

Do you have difficulty breathing success?
Do you feel any chest pain while running towards your dreams?
Do you have hallucination of growing up means experiencing pain?
Do you get headache when life get too routine?
And lastly, very importantly,

5. Do all of the above relapse over and over again?

If you answer "Yes" to all of the above, get help fast, you may have been infected by Sabo Virus.

How Do We Develop Sabo Virus?

It was developed since young from your past experiences, things you've seen, heard or feel. You created a message from these experiences. And that message becomes your operating manual. That message could be the Sabo Virus.

I followed my dad to a morning jog when I was 6. I fell and was badly bruised. My dad being encouraging said, "it's ok to fall, you'll grow up stronger."

I was infected with Sabo Virus from that day on.

This was one of the incidents that planted Sabo Virus in me. There are many more similar experiences.

How Did That Statement Affect My Life?

For many years in my life, I experienced falling down when I was at the peak. Sabo Virus will strike during my peak, so that I can grow stronger. And when I reach another peak, Sabo Virus strikes again.

Sabo Virus comes in many different forms. Another form is "I am motivated and driven when I'm struggling." In this form, Sabo Virus creates breakdowns when you are almost at the peak to prevent you from success. From this struggle, instead of giving up you gain motivation and drive to climb the next peak. And just before you reach success in life, this form of Sabo Virus sabotage you again.

For this group of people, reaching their dreams is always a dream. Because when they are almost there, they fall back down.

Being aware of your Sabo Virus starts the change process. Being aware that you have the virus breaks that cycle of self sabotaging. Being aware opens you to choices that allows you to act and decide from a place where it's not self sabotaging anymore.

Being aware provides you with the ability to declare. Declare that you are cured form the the virus, you are free from this self-sabotaging cycle. It gets you to having the power to choose. This leads to freedom in life.

Practice noticing where you are acting from. Do you act from self-sabotaging or your own power? Once you get to awareness, Sabo Virus dissipates.

You may like to start by recalling what incidents imprint a virus in you. You gain awareness from there.
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  • Profile picture of the author JRemington
    Great post. I know people terribly affected by this and I have been, to some extent and I've also understood it and caught it out.

    This can happen especially in relationships. A girl who continuously chooses the wrong man only for it to fail, time after time, is most likely to be affected by the sabo virus.

    But what I don't get is, how do you know that your Dad telling you it was ok to fall over when running that caused you to have the sabo virus? How did you arrive at that conclusion?
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    • Profile picture of the author skyjoe76
      Originally Posted by JRemington View Post

      Great post. I know people terribly affected by this and I have been, to some extent and I've also understood it and caught it out.

      This can happen especially in relationships. A girl who continuously chooses the wrong man only for it to fail, time after time, is most likely to be affected by the sabo virus.

      But what I don't get is, how do you know that your Dad telling you it was ok to fall over when running that caused you to have the sabo virus? How did you arrive at that conclusion?
      Oh, I did a coaching session and this issue came out. This incident is imprinted deeply in me. I always tell myself when I fell is so that I be stronger.
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      • Profile picture of the author JRemington
        Originally Posted by skyjoe76 View Post

        Oh, I did a coaching session and this issue came out. This incident is imprinted deeply in me. I always tell myself when I fell is so that I be stronger.
        Yep, what kind of coaching session was this then?

        And, do you really need to know where your "sabo virus" is from? According to what you say, no.
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        • Profile picture of the author skyjoe76
          Originally Posted by JRemington View Post

          Yep, what kind of coaching session was this then?

          And, do you really need to know where your "sabo virus" is from? According to what you say, no.
          Not necessary have to know where it's from, but have to know what is it? Awareness leads to change.
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    Another aspect of the sabo virus is the "I know better" syndrome.
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    This is a great post,remember not everything is about me,be a good listner and look for solutions to the problem.
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    Awesome post thanks for sharing, awareness of your problem is the first stop towards change and then from then on forming positive habits and raising your standards. Great
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  • Profile picture of the author Rohm
    Originally Posted by skyjoe76 View Post

    Talking about success with some people recently. We concluded that success encompasses such a wide array of things in our life.

    Success has different meaning to different people. Some look for financial success, some look for personal success, others look for relationship success. Whichever one they are looking for, success just eludes them. These people are always chasing after success in life, but can't get it.

    Do you know that some people have the tendency to sabotage their success in life? They create incidents to get themselves diving off from the success cliff into the valley of thorns. They love to have success, they want to achieve success, they are chasing it every minute of their life. But they are infected with a virus which is getting in the way on their pathway to success.

    What Virus Is This?

    I call it the Sabo (short for sabotage) Virus. It lingers in some people, feeds on its host and waits for an opportunity to strike. What are the symptoms of being infected by Sabo Virus?

    Here's the checklist:

    Do you have difficulty breathing success?
    Do you feel any chest pain while running towards your dreams?
    Do you have hallucination of growing up means experiencing pain?
    Do you get headache when life get too routine?
    And lastly, very importantly,

    5. Do all of the above relapse over and over again?

    If you answer "Yes" to all of the above, get help fast, you may have been infected by Sabo Virus.

    How Do We Develop Sabo Virus?

    It was developed since young from your past experiences, things you've seen, heard or feel. You created a message from these experiences. And that message becomes your operating manual. That message could be the Sabo Virus.

    I followed my dad to a morning jog when I was 6. I fell and was badly bruised. My dad being encouraging said, "it's ok to fall, you'll grow up stronger."

    I was infected with Sabo Virus from that day on.

    This was one of the incidents that planted Sabo Virus in me. There are many more similar experiences.

    How Did That Statement Affect My Life?

    For many years in my life, I experienced falling down when I was at the peak. Sabo Virus will strike during my peak, so that I can grow stronger. And when I reach another peak, Sabo Virus strikes again.

    Sabo Virus comes in many different forms. Another form is "I am motivated and driven when I'm struggling." In this form, Sabo Virus creates breakdowns when you are almost at the peak to prevent you from success. From this struggle, instead of giving up you gain motivation and drive to climb the next peak. And just before you reach success in life, this form of Sabo Virus sabotage you again.

    For this group of people, reaching their dreams is always a dream. Because when they are almost there, they fall back down.

    Being aware of your Sabo Virus starts the change process. Being aware that you have the virus breaks that cycle of self sabotaging. Being aware opens you to choices that allows you to act and decide from a place where it's not self sabotaging anymore.

    Being aware provides you with the ability to declare. Declare that you are cured form the the virus, you are free from this self-sabotaging cycle. It gets you to having the power to choose. This leads to freedom in life.

    Practice noticing where you are acting from. Do you act from self-sabotaging or your own power? Once you get to awareness, Sabo Virus dissipates.

    You may like to start by recalling what incidents imprint a virus in you. You gain awareness from there.
    Insightful.

    It has happened to me.

    I recently won a Toastmasters speech contest, but felt undeserving of it. I literally scowled when the picture was taken.

    I use visualization exercises to purge the virus (try "NLP Toolbox").

    Thanks.
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      Originally Posted by Rohm View Post

      Insightful.

      It has happened to me.

      I recently won a Toastmasters speech contest, but felt undeserving of it. I literally scowled when the picture was taken.

      I use visualization exercises to purge the virus (try "NLP Toolbox").

      Thanks.
      There are many ways to purge the virus! If you tends to have that undeserving feelings, you may like take a deeper look at it.

      Because when you have that feeling in one area, chances are you will bring that feeling to other areas of your life. You may check in to see if it's there.
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