5 Tips For Handling Failure

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1. Acknowledge your mistakes - The best way to handle failure is to acknowledge your situation. Only when you accept the mistakes and errors in your actions will you be able to move forward and take the necessary steps to correct them.

2. Evaluate your situation - By taking a step back and tracing your steps, you will you be able to correct the situation you are in. Evaluating what happened will allow you to see what went wrong. The best part of doing this is that it will allow you to see that things can be corrected, and that it's not the end of the world for you.

3. Talk to people you trust - When we experience failure, we get so stressed out and worry so much that we are not able to think straight. It is always good to try to talk to people you trust. They may be able to give you advice and comforting words that will allow you to think more positively, which may help you manage your situation better. Don't be afraid to ask for help. As I mentioned earlier, no one is perfect. Maybe your friends and family have been in the same bad situation that you are in now, and they can teach you how to overcome it.

4. Learn from your situation - The best way to handle failure in any aspect of our lives is to learn from the bad decisions we have made, and try to make sure that we do not repeat them again.

5. Move forward - Forgive yourself and move on. We can only free ourselves from failure if we let go of the past and move forward to live life the best we can. Try and try until you succeed is always my battle cry when I experience obstacles on the way to my goals.


Source: the author Misty Belardo
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  • Profile picture of the author Sheila Dunfrey
    Just an additional... Most failures don't prove a lack of ability, they reflect a lack of effort or learnable skill. In most areas we will never know our limits because we will never push ourselves to the limit. It is obvious that some of the "reasons" above are excuses for our failures. Self-handicapping is a similar process, except it occurs before the performance rather than after. Common excuses arranged in advance for a poor performance are: I'm very tired, sick, drunk, anxious, unprepared and so on.
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  • Profile picture of the author PandaPoacher
    All great tips! Failure isn't something you have to live in fear of, I see it as learning. We all learn from our mistakes. When we make a mistake I think we all make an attempt to change one's self to never do a similar mistake again.
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  • Profile picture of the author jackcoburn
    Very nice tips! No matter what happened, it is really important to move forward. The failures we had are just an avenue for us to strive more and become better.
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  • Profile picture of the author profitmaster7
    Self-affirmation is another important aspect. Don't get down on yourself. Talk to yourself like you would a young protege--offer encouragement, respect and hope. A self-defeating attitude will be your downfall. Don't let it happen to you. And don't do drugs.
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  • Profile picture of the author Daymon
    Awesome Share! Really appreciate it, I think those are the kinds of thing I was looking for today as was very down.... Thanks for reminding to forgive myself now and then. I forgot that failure in life are there for teach us lesson, they could be the biggest teachers and course of life correctors for us...
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  • Profile picture of the author Anang Andriana
    Acknowledge our mistakes, Evaluate our situation, Talk to people we trust, Learn from our situation and Move forward. 5 easy steps but sometimes these are hard to done.
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  • Profile picture of the author Courtney Lee
    Good points Warriors. Also, pay attention and learn from those doing the same things as yourself--learning from other people's mistakes is the best!
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  • Profile picture of the author journalistabid
    thnks for sharing nice info
    Learning from a failure is very important...
    failure is also very much important in our life....
    which gives us the clear idea of what to do next which would be right...
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  • Profile picture of the author hgy
    moving forward is probably the most important
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  • Profile picture of the author zackick
    I did lot of mistake in the past that I find it hard to forgive me, why this happen? It is because I not calm down and just thinking fast fast fast. I learn it and from now on i need to stay calm even there have a bomb. think what to do is better than nervous.

    Nervous nervous is mine biggest problem, and how to solve it? is to calm down and spend more time what to do
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  • Profile picture of the author johndurant
    Pretty awesome tips, thanks for the share.
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  • Profile picture of the author melltonroper
    Pretty good list, thanks for the share buddy!
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  • Profile picture of the author clayherb
    I too have faced all the situations mentioned above and I got the solution to come out of it.
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  • Well said. I always feel like after learning and moving forward, I wasted all that time doing something the wrong way. But by following these steps we can move forward, and that felling goes away.
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  • Profile picture of the author joelkippax
    Nice tips. It is very important that you know at the first place what causes your failure. Then try it again, never ever give up to your dreams.
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    • from recent research on sports failure (Le Bron James in the playoffs).

      keep focusing on your failures until you become emotionally detached.

      then your ready to move on, or you risk the failure haunting you and still effecting not only your decisions, but how you see things going forward.

      example : you lost some business and the person said you were to "pushy", so you go to the other extreme and become too soft (and not asking for the business outright).

      reminds me of tony robbins seminar in which a guy loved chocolate, so he told him for the 3 days there, to eat only chocolate.
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  • Profile picture of the author lukecorser
    Pretty awesome tips, i really need this one.
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  • Profile picture of the author chelsean
    These are great. I love posts like these when I'm struggling. But I agree that moving forward is the most important. Thanks!
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  • Profile picture of the author hireava
    Great post laurarussell49! Very motivational and helpful. Thanks for sharing!
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  • Profile picture of the author Emotia
    To make the decision to forgive yourself and move forward is probably the hardest yet liberating step to take.
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  • Profile picture of the author jeresteem99
    Just what to share.

    You need to spend some time alone and analyze things. Try and figure out what you did wrong. Listen to some soothing music. Go out for a walk alone, this will surely help.

    Also, writing in a diary is known to help many people.
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  • Profile picture of the author magnates
    I love the tips .You touch on forgiving yourself which is a big thing . We are humans and bound to make mistakes .It is the only way we learn. There is no point beating yourself up for getting thing wrong .
    It is OK to get things wrong. It is OK to make mistakes . The only person that is perfect and has never failed at anything is the biggest failure because he is too afraid to try anything and will never achieve anything

    Going for it is the best way to move forward
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  • Profile picture of the author mariazz
    Great tips TS! Now I know how to handle failure. Though sometimes it helps us to strive more and more.
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    Very nice tips and goof share , i appreciate it
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  • Profile picture of the author elexmedia
    Another important thing for me to handle my failure:

    Take responsibility. Never blame others, or you will never moving forward. You will stuck in blaming other for your failure.
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  • Profile picture of the author Ezyboy
    Originally Posted by laurarussell49 View Post

    1. Acknowledge your mistakes - The best way to handle failure is to acknowledge your situation. Only when you accept the mistakes and errors in your actions will you be able to move forward and take the necessary steps to correct them.

    2. Evaluate your situation - By taking a step back and tracing your steps, you will you be able to correct the situation you are in. Evaluating what happened will allow you to see what went wrong. The best part of doing this is that it will allow you to see that things can be corrected, and that it's not the end of the world for you.

    3. Talk to people you trust - When we experience failure, we get so stressed out and worry so much that we are not able to think straight. It is always good to try to talk to people you trust. They may be able to give you advice and comforting words that will allow you to think more positively, which may help you manage your situation better. Don't be afraid to ask for help. As I mentioned earlier, no one is perfect. Maybe your friends and family have been in the same bad situation that you are in now, and they can teach you how to overcome it.

    4. Learn from your situation - The best way to handle failure in any aspect of our lives is to learn from the bad decisions we have made, and try to make sure that we do not repeat them again.

    5. Move forward - Forgive yourself and move on. We can only free ourselves from failure if we let go of the past and move forward to live life the best we can. Try and try until you succeed is always my battle cry when I experience obstacles on the way to my goals.


    Source: the author Misty Belardo
    That's great! thump up
    thanks
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  • Profile picture of the author adnadn
    Good tips...but i can`t find the word : "failure" in my brain dictionary
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  • Profile picture of the author billMarket
    I love making mistakes and failing - it's what got me to where I am today

    Only tip I would add is 'Keep failing, just fail faster!'
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Bucker
    Originally Posted by Greg Wildermuth View Post

    Good tips!

    Here's how I deal with failure - It doesn't exist. I don't believe in it. Failure is just another word for a tough learnin'.
    All a failure is, is another way not to do something, it and narrows the field of what not to do until you are left with only the true answer. The whole process is only leading to your answer. Well said Greg.
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    Awesome share, thanks a bunch!
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  • Profile picture of the author ShaneMcc
    read the example of abraham lincoln for a great example as to how to deal with failure
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  • well said.. nice tips!! You can easily handle failure by changing your perception of it looking at circumstances from a different angle.
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  • Profile picture of the author natebunger
    Failure is of course a great disappointment and it can hurt us but we should learn to get over it and learn from it. It's a learning experience for everyone.
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  • Profile picture of the author lincolndesigns
    Those are great steps for handling failure! It's probably most important to be as objective as possible about the situation.
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