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I'm a little seesaw, indecisive, how should I improve my decision and avoid indecision?

by AbdullahKaragoz
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I'm a little indecisive,

wether I have alternatives and information about their consequences ready I sometimes (or often) remain seesaw, shilly-shally, hazy and confused.

Do you have any tips on how to improve decision skills?

Any tips on making better decisions?

And any tips on avoiding being seesaw, indecisive and shilly-shally?
#avoid #decision #improve #indecision #indecisive #seesaw
  • Profile picture of the author Joshua Morris
    Originally Posted by AbdullahKaragoz View Post

    I'm a little indecisive,

    wether I have alternatives and information about their consequences ready I sometimes (or often) remain seesaw, shilly-shally, hazy and confused.

    Do you have any tips on how to improve decision skills?

    Any tips on making better decisions?

    And any tips on avoiding being seesaw, indecisive and shilly-shally?
    try luminosity... it helps with brain improving and decision making, as well as many other things..

    also the trick I use is just giving myself 5 seconds to decide...

    99% your mind will natually pick the right choice..

    if you give yourself too long to decide, then you will have time to justify the wrong choice, and you might make the wrong choice..

    make all your decisions, SPOT decisions, and it will work out for the best!

    Joshua
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  • Profile picture of the author perfectlovehere
    Every morning visualize exactly what you want. Once that's done write a list of what you can do to reach those goals. Don't allow yourself to get up from your spot (unless required) until you have finished those tasks. Once done, reward yourself with something you like.

    Good luck!
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    • Profile picture of the author AbdullahKaragoz
      Originally Posted by perfectlovehere View Post

      Every morning visualize exactly what you want. Once that's done write a list of what you can do to reach those goals. Don't allow yourself to get up from your spot (unless required) until you have finished those tasks. Once done, reward yourself with something you like.

      Good luck!
      This reply looks a little inappropriate and irrelevant.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jason Kanigan
    Hi, are you the type of person who wants more data, one more fact or figure?

    Do you find the "soft side" of things, the people-oriented stuff, more difficult?

    Or are you the complete opposite?

    Then I can give some helpful advice because I'll know your behavioral type. If not, then we'll see if I can come up with something else.
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    • Profile picture of the author AbdullahKaragoz
      Originally Posted by kaniganj View Post

      Hi, are you the type of person who wants more data, one more fact or figure?
      Yes. I feel by getting more data/information on the actual topic I get, then it's easier to make a better decision. But the information can often be conflicting and disagreeing with each other, so it can lead to more confusing than decision.

      Of course one do not need to be 100 % sure to make a decision, but when you are 100 % UNSURE (shilly-shally or whatever it's called), it feels like you are totally gambling and not doing a business.

      Do you find the "soft side" of things, the people-oriented stuff, more difficult?
      I think it is.
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      • Profile picture of the author Jason Kanigan
        Originally Posted by AbdullahKaragoz View Post

        Yes. I feel by getting more data/information on the actual topic I get, then it's easier to make a better decision. But the information can often be conflicting and disagreeing with each other, so it can lead to more confusing than decision.

        Of course one do not need to be 100 % sure to make a decision, but when you are 100 % UNSURE (shilly-shally or whatever it's called), it feels like you are totally gambling and not doing a business.



        I think it is.
        OK. You're what is called a "C" type in the DISC profile (you can look this up if you want). So am I. If you've watched Star Trek, we're the "Mr. Spock"s of society. (And Mr. Spock is pretty freakin' effective.)

        Try this. Figure out what the outcome you want is. Then assess your options based on how well you believe they will get you to your outcome.

        Limit your decision making time. One of the big problems you and I have is that we always want one more piece of information. The result of this can be "analysis paralysis", where we wait around for more data and miss out because we didn't act. Give yourself a deadline: you are going to collect info until that time, and no further. Once that deadline is up, you make the decision with the information you've got.

        Think of approaching a girl to ask her for a date. If you sit around mooning about and wishing, you'll never talk to her, and someone else will ask her out.

        I don't know if you've ever seen anything about the US Marines training, but they have had shows about them on TV. One of the things I took from those shows is that the trainers tell them to Make A Decision. Fast. Regardless of whether it's ultimately right or wrong, the important thing for the Marines is to make a decision and start taking action down a particular road. Think about this.

        Anything more than 70% sure is overthinking.

        Figure out your criteria of evaluation for what's important in making your decision, and let the facts that you gather during your limited decision making time fall on either side of that line. When the time's up, make your decision and stick with it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Magnus Koenig
    If you are an adult and you behave that way, I think you should undergo self therapy. I mean, try to be someone greater than you are. Like, if you have to make a decision under pressure, think of someone you know that is a genius on that matter. Ask yourself, "What would X do if he was on my position?", "What would he choose if he was me?". This is a very helpful way to train yourself on being decisive. Also, when you have decided on a thing, don't try to alter it. If it has consequences, face it. That way, you give yourself a lesson to learn and remember all through.
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  • Profile picture of the author perfectlovehere
    "Try this. Figure out what the outcome you want is. Then assess your options based on how well you believe they will get you to your outcome."

    I like that. Thanks for sharing!
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  • Profile picture of the author Saito
    Decision-making skills is probably half of it, and overcoming fear and procrastination is the other. Maybe pick 3 ways to work on each and see what works.
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