[WHY] I feel like giving up

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  • Profile picture of the author Post Demise
    Interesting stuff! Much like you, I've been lurking around here for a while now but I've decided to register.

    You described a lot of the emotions most of us feel when trying to improve, that sudden rush of depression when something goes amiss and the want to give up... but we should all know better.

    Nothing good can happen if we do not suffer to let it do so - if you want to run faster, then you have to go through the agony of your legs burning to do so. In the same way, if we want to be better, stronger minded people then we must conquer the feeling of depression and giving in. If we do so, we will change and improve. It's hard, but that's just one of those parts of life.

    "You want something? Go get it."

    Cheers
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    • Originally Posted by Post Demise View Post

      Interesting stuff! Much like you, I've been lurking around here for a while now but I've decided to register.

      You described a lot of the emotions most of us feel when trying to improve, that sudden rush of depression when something goes amiss and the want to give up... but we should all know better.

      Nothing good can happen if we do not suffer to let it do so - if you want to run faster, then you have to go through the agony of your legs burning to do so. In the same way, if we want to be better, stronger minded people then we must conquer the feeling of depression and giving in. If we do so, we will change and improve. It's hard, but that's just one of those parts of life.

      "You want something? Go get it."

      Cheers
      Thank you for your reply and also for being the first to do so Our first post have been set in concrete now, cheers!

      I especially like this paragraph you have written, "f you want to run faster, then you have to go through the agony of your legs burning to do so. In the same way, if we want to be better, stronger minded people then we must conquer the feeling of depression and giving in."

      Agree with you my friend, so many times (sometimes even many in a day) we have to recover from each setback and don't allow ourselves to fall. Sometimes even if there's no one being able to give the support we might need at that very moment. Kudos to a new found friend Thank you
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  • Profile picture of the author travlinguy
    Imagine what might happen for you if you spent as much time as it took to create this post on success...
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    • Profile picture of the author mikehuff
      Originally Posted by travlinguy View Post

      Imagine what might happen for you if you spent as much time as it took to create this post on success...
      Indeed, I was recently talking to Justin Popovic who put out over SIXTY products last year. He told me if nothing else do 20 min of work and it'll add up over time.
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      • Profile picture of the author tjcreation
        Originally Posted by mikehuff View Post

        Indeed, I was recently talking to Justin Popovic who put out over SIXTY products last year. He told me if nothing else do 20 min of work and it'll add up over time.
        It's so true. If everyday you say "I'm not ready or I'm busy" then at the end of a month nothing will have happened.

        On the flip side, if everyday you say "I'm going to spend 30 minutes doing something to the best of my ability" - at the end of the month you will have accomplished 15 HOURS of work on a project.

        A lot can happen in 15 hours.
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        • Originally Posted by tjcreation View Post

          It's so true. If everyday you say "I'm not ready or I'm busy" then at the end of a month nothing will have happened.
          How true! Yes, I imagine that many of us have fallen into this trap at times before, lol It does sting when we procrastinate and realizing we are doing that at that moment too, yet allow ourselves to do so. I think everyone does so now and then, but it's hard to admit.

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          ]On the flip side, if everyday you say "I'm going to spend 30 minutes doing something to the best of my ability" - at the end of the month you will have accomplished 15 HOURS of work on a project.

          A lot can happen in 15 hours.
          Agree. 15 hours is alot of time that we can invest to do work or to waste away. Sometimes though it's the quality of time invest that could beat the quantity spent. Some of the projects my friends and I have done that got the greatest gain took 3 hours but it was a very focused 3 hours. Nothing but work. In contrast, it a challenge to produce something of quality in a span of 15 hours but it's disrupted every now and then.

          I read in a research that the average person may be working 9 hours a day but his real productive hours is just about 2 to 3 per day. Which means, it took 3 hours of working time to produce 1 hour of productive work. Pretty enlightening research I must say

          Thank you for your reply and also the other guys, do appreciate it.
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      • Originally Posted by mikehuff View Post

        Indeed, I was recently talking to Justin Popovic who put out over SIXTY products last year. He told me if nothing else do 20 min of work and it'll add up over time.
        Thank you for sharing about Justin Popovic's rate of product creation! 60 products is a very respectable number. Yes, I do concur with you on that piece of advice, 20 minutes every now and then does add up to pretty much.

        If one project takes 10 hours to do, a few of those 20 minute sessions will help much to complete it before schedule A healthy habit indeed.
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    • Originally Posted by travlinguy View Post

      Imagine what might happen for you if you spent as much time as it took to create this post on success...
      Cheers for the reminder! Yes, the 20 mins could be very useful at times.

      *I'm residing in Singapore and the post was written about 5am in the morning before I went to bed
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    • Profile picture of the author Nereah
      Originally Posted by travlinguy View Post

      Imagine what might happen for you if you spent as much time as it took to create this post on success...
      This not only applies to MaynasEric but to us all, imagine what would happen if we spent as much time on taking the little steps to our desired goals. Great post.
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      • Originally Posted by Nereah View Post

        This not only applies to MaynasEric but to us all, imagine what would happen if we spent as much time on taking the little steps to our desired goals. Great post.
        Thank you Nereah for your kind words and yes, sometimes it the little things at the end that made all the difference. Have read some of your posts Nereah, always insightful, cheers broz!
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  • Originally Posted by honestbizpro View Post

    I for one really appreciate this thread. I never would give up because this is what I love to do and to me the word JOB makes me want to vomit.

    If you ever get stuck and need to bounce ideas or get a fresh perspective from another viewpoint just shoot me a PM my friend.

    Dave
    Thank you Dave! Nice to see this first thing in the morning. I appreciate your reply too

    Cheers and congrats that you are doing what you love to do!

    Cool! Will definitely keep in contact with you my friend, I went through some of your posts in this forum, kudos for the good work you have been doing. I respect that Keep in touch!
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    • Profile picture of the author JohnWiz
      Great post Eric...

      I think having responsibilities and expectations is fine and all. The problem is having unrealistic expectations, and that's when disappointment and frustration often set in.

      Sometimes when you're feeling frustrated with the lack of success, a way to almost instantaneously lighten up... is to lower or even drop your expectations when you realize just how silly they are, perhaps because of your situation, lack of time, resources etc.

      In fact if you look close enough, you may even lol at how insane your original plan was. And at that moment you lol, your stress immediately evaporates.
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      • Originally Posted by JohnWiz View Post

        Great post Eric

        I think having responsibilities and expectations is fine and all. The problem is having unrealistic expectations, and that's when disappointment and frustration often set in.

        Sometimes when you're feeling frustrated with the lack of success, a way to almost instantaneously lighten up... is to lower or even drop your expectations when you realize they are unrealistic, perhaps because of your situation, lack of time, resources etc.
        Thanks JohnWiz. I second that and agree with you.

        You mentioned this, "The problem is having unrealistic expectations", how very true!

        I remembered a long time ago, while still in school, sometimes, it's sad to see some of our school mates postpone doing a project until a few days before the deadline (and didn't manage to compete it in the end) At work, this somehow happens more often to many more people...

        Thanks for the reminder and great share for everyone broz
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    • Originally Posted by rusty1212 View Post

      Never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever give up.
      4 words, long post and you sent the message in the right way cheers broz!
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Ten
    Wow. Yeah! Freedom AND personal responsibility are both quite important. One without the other is tyranny, perhaps.
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  • Profile picture of the author MMateo23
    Never give up. I only fail if I give up...and I could never forgive myself for that.
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    • Originally Posted by MMateo23 View Post

      Never give up. I only fail if I give up...and I could never forgive myself for that.
      Originally Posted by Michael55555 View Post

      Wow. Yeah! Freedom AND personal responsibility are both quite important. One without the other is tyranny, perhaps.
      Thank you both. Warriors are figthers
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  • Profile picture of the author JeremiahSay
    Thank you for sharing.. I see that you're quite active in the Mind-Warriors section Perhaps you could be a great help to many people here like me who needs motivation at times

    Never ever give up! Make mistakes = Making a difference somehow.. and life is about making a difference!

    may God bless you always,
    Jeremiah
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    • Profile picture of the author Jim Guererro
      Things happen to us because we want things to happen. The trick is to try to make things happen in our life that complements our attitude and our goals. Sooner or later life will come around and give us what we want.

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      • Originally Posted by JeremiahSay View Post

        Thank you for sharing.. I see that you're quite active in the Mind-Warriors section Perhaps you could be a great help to many people here like me who needs motivation at times

        Never ever give up! Make mistakes = Making a difference somehow.. and life is about making a difference!

        may God bless you always,
        Jeremiah
        Thank you Jeremiah, great to see a fellow countryman here I imagine that we all need encouragement and motivation at times (not easy to admit though for some ), lovely to see your writings in your blog and posts. All the best for your business too!

        Let us rock the world broz

        Originally Posted by TopKat22 View Post

        From my many years of experience in business and with people who want to be in business, I know what you are talking about.

        It takes a lot of dedications, persistence and being able to keep yourself going when you don't want to in order to succeed.

        I think most people have no idea how much work is ever required.

        I also don't think most people have any idea how much of a role their mindset plays in the whole thing.

        This is why I recommend that people read books like Rich Dad, Poor Dad and Think & Grow Rich and The Game of Life and How to Play It (and any other self improvement books) in order to work on the mindset.

        It also helps to surround yourself with other positive people, videos, books, etc.

        But in the end, the thing that will make the biggest difference is you total unwillingness to stop until you succeed regardless of how you may feel in any moment.

        Good luck.
        Thanks TopKat22, I think you nailed it there with this "It takes a lot of dedications, persistence and being able to keep yourself going when you don't want to in order to succeed. " , not easy to keep oneself motivated 24 hours of the day (or while we are still awake!) but the difference is "doing" things whether we are motivated or not.

        The game of life is a nice book indeed

        Originally Posted by paul_1 View Post

        I read this in one of the discussions (can't really remember) here in WF a few days ago...

        Thanks Paul! Nice quote, thanks for sharing, there's another post for quotes here http://www.warriorforum.com/mind-war...-part-1-a.html which you may find interesting

        Originally Posted by Jim Guererro View Post

        Things happen to us because we want things to happen. The trick is to try to make things happen in our life that complements our attitude and our goals. Sooner or later life will come around and give us what we want.

        Jim
        Thanks Jim, "The trick is to try to make things happen in our life that complements our attitude and our goals" this is something explained in a new form and I thank you for that Sums up alot in that one sentence.
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  • Profile picture of the author TopKat22
    From my many years of experience in business and with people who want to be in business, I know what you are talking about.

    It takes a lot of dedications, persistence and being able to keep yourself going when you don't want to in order to succeed.

    I think most people have no idea how much work is ever required.

    I also don't think most people have any idea how much of a role their mindset plays in the whole thing.

    This is why I recommend that people read books like Rich Dad, Poor Dad and Think & Grow Rich and The Game of Life and How to Play It (and any other self improvement books) in order to work on the mindset.

    It also helps to surround yourself with other positive people, videos, books, etc.

    But in the end, the thing that will make the biggest difference is you total unwillingness to stop until you succeed regardless of how you may feel in any moment.

    Good luck.
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  • Profile picture of the author paul_1
    I read this in one of the discussions (can't really remember) here in WF a few days ago...

    "Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow."
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  • Profile picture of the author Social Expert
    When thought of giving up crosses your mind, revisit the big picture, make sure your goals haven't changed or do you have strong reasons to go after what you are trying to achieve, Some times its clue that may be you are not on right path...
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  • Profile picture of the author ElliotBerg
    I can relate with you because I have my share of depressive moments when I fail to complete a project on time due to my habit to procrastinate but despite failures or mistakes one thing I have learned over the years never ever give up, but at the same time as the Uncle Einstein said " Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results". This is what we need to remember. It's certain that we must not give but apart from that with every failure we must have courage and responsibility to accept it and learn lessons from it. This way we can keep growing. Cheers... Great thread. Thanks
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    • Profile picture of the author Joseph G Spiteri
      Great thread I think it was Harland David Sanders (Colonel Sanders)
      who got 1001 no's before he got his first yes for an investment in
      Kentucky fried chicken did he give up you should not either.
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  • Profile picture of the author perfectlovehere
    Don't give up! Remember to visualize success instead of failure and pray... OFTEN!
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  • Profile picture of the author TLH Media Mktg
    In my experience, saying just DO IT, is like telling a homeless person to just go get a house. It's not that simple. And, obviously, if it was as simple as just going and getting house, they would have already done it! When people say trite stuff like that, it lets me know that the person has not walked in the other person's shoes.

    For me, what has worked is writing down goals in detail with time lines, having accountability (with a partner), and using energy psychology to remove any blocks that are preventing me from achieving my goals.

    We all are very capable and if things are not working out then, there is an inherent reason why that is happening. Most likely, some false belief or program is stored in our subconscious mind that needs to be corrected. A common false belief is that we "have to work hard for money". Not true. We have evidence of that because there are people out there making tons of money doing little work themselves.

    If something is showing up that you don't like or deserve, there is a reason, and most likely it's not about NOT working hard enough. I like to see the root cause of an issue addressed rather than masking over it with flowery sayings and tired cliches that do not work for the majority. The book "The Emotion Code" explains it very well. This type of advanced energy work is for those who are interested in taking full responsibility for everything that shows up in their lives. Having a non-victim mentality.

    I've done a lot of research and the same ol' same ol' just doesn't cut it, it doesn't work. There's more to it than meets the eye. I have found this approach to work for many - who are willing to look outside the box for answers, that is.

    In the end, to each their own.
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  • Profile picture of the author Robert Kim
    yes, never ever give up. Freedom and responsibility are both important in life.
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  • Profile picture of the author Calvin Cole
    Every time I feel like giving up, I always think of Nick Vujicic and his quote "If I fail, I try again, and again and again." Nick don't have arms and legs, but still he didn't give up on any challenges that he may encounter in his life. He is my inspiration.
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  • Profile picture of the author payperman1000
    It happens to the best of us, even those in the know of their destiny can still fall prey to the enemy's attack of your mind ....my thing is never let the words come out of your mouth of they may come to past
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  • Profile picture of the author jmiezejeski
    Just always remember:
    " If you say you CAN you are right, if you say you CAN NOT you are also right"

    Make the choice to always say You CAN !

    Also, "When the student is ready, the teacher will come."

    "There is no such thing as failure because with every failure a lesson is learned."

    These are affirmations that have always helped me get through any difficult situations. I live by them and many others!

    Good Luck,
    Juli
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  • Profile picture of the author Shubh Ashish
    always keep on trying and one day you taste success .
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  • Profile picture of the author sandy christine1
    I really appreciate this thread. I would never give up in my life.
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  • Profile picture of the author answergal
    I can resonate with your words. The Guilt of Responsibility is one that can knock me down a lot. It takes hard work to battle the mind sometimes. But I have to keep on repeating to myself that Guilt is a self-imposed feeling. Instead of fighting it, I take a break, go out for a walk, go to a restaurant to relax, anything... to rid that feeling and forgive myself. That's the hard part. Forgiving myself for not completing the hundred goals I unrealistically set up for myself today. I do a lot of self talking and it seems to work.
    I am so happy you brought this subject up because many of us that have our own business can suffer from being overwhelmed. I thank you, Blessings, D
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  • Profile picture of the author Calskinator
    .. when we let go of the story... the shoulds and should nots... and release the resistance... freedom finds us...
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  • Profile picture of the author staffelseo
    When tough time comes in, people usually feels like to give up. Especially when people don't have the outlets to let it out. Don't let your guilt overcome and ruin everything you had now. Go out, relax, find someone to talk to so you can release the stress you have. Don't forget to go to church though. God can help you with this kind of crisis.
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  • Profile picture of the author tunbridgeangus
    Take courage! Don't easily give up!
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  • Profile picture of the author Chloe Emerson
    It has been said that we are our own worst enemy -

    You Can If You Think You Can!

    If you think you are beaten, you are,
    If you think you dare not, you don't.
    If you like to win, but you think you can't,
    It is almost certain you won't.
    If you think you'll lose, you're lost,
    For out in the world we find,
    Success begins with a fellow's will.
    It's all in the state of mind.
    If you think you are outclassed, you are,
    You've got to think high to rise,
    You've got to be sure of yourself before
    You can ever win a prize.
    Life's battles don't always go
    To the stronger or faster man.
    But soon or late the man who wins,
    Is the man who thinks he can.

    ~ C. W. Longenecker ~
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  • Profile picture of the author dgmufasa
    I appreciate your post because it was honest. Sometimes, I have felt out of sorts as well. I think the danger could be in staying this way for too long. Don't focus on it and give a negative seed soil to take root. The things that help me are :

    => Making a list of what I do have and how I can use it
    => Listening to upbeat speakers (I sometimes listen to Joel Osteen)
    => Being thankful for the small things in life (like a blue sky or sunny days) - when I lived on the coast, I would go to the ocean.

    The way I looked at it, what happened behind me was written in stone and was something I could not change (so why worry about stone)? I could only work on "now".

    I am looking forward to seeing a post that says "I made it" :-) I love hearing stories of folks that have overcome.
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