Sacrifice is Inevitable

by derekd
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Rather than trying to avoid sacrifice, recognize it is an inherent component of all the choices you will ever make, including the choice not to choose. One of the greatest sacrifices made is when one sacrifices their potential for a fleeting sense of comfort at the eventual cost of a longing sense of regret.

A simple shift in the way you look at things can have a profound impact on your life. This is the power of having mentors who show you differently ways of not just doing things, but a different way of being and thinking all together.

The topic I'd like to briefly cover is that of sacrifice.

Most people try to avoid sacrifice at all costs, as we assume sacrifice means giving up something we enjoy.

In reality, we are always sacrificing one thing for another everytime we make a choice.

Let's use health and diet for an example.

If someone is choosing to eat junk food every meal of everyday because they don't want to "sacrifice" their favorite treats, then they may have a temporary sense of pleasure and satisfaction. But in the long run, they are sacrificing the joy of having a healthy body that looks good, feels good, and that they feel good about.

It's not that occasional treats really hurt anything in the long run, but constant indulgence compounds over time which is what many are guilty of.

Oftentimes these same people will feel a sense of guilt and shame over their choices, but rather than making a change, they will mask it with more "comfort" behaviors that simply prolong the problem and do nothing to truly fix it.

It is human nature, and no judgement on my part as I am as guilty as anyone. Although there are many underlying factors into why we do this, largely emotional and subconscious, one thing you can do is make a conscious shift in how you view things.


One can shift from seeing eating junk food rather than healthy food not as a choice that avoids sacrifices, but as a choice that causes the sacrifice of a healthier body.

The language can even be changed from "sacrifice" to exchange.

So giving up a favorite junk food is not seen as a "sacrifice", but an "exchange" for something you want even more. A healthier more fit body.

These simple changes in mindset are powerful, but they don't often happen overnight. You must be aware of your thought patterns and make an effort to shift them consciously, then eventually you will develop a whole new way of thinking naturally without any conscious effort.

Remember, everything you perceive as a sacrifice can be perceived as an "exchange". Is the exchange worth it?

- Derek Doepker - Excuse Proof

"We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret." - Jim Rohn
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  • Profile picture of the author GT
    I look at "sacrifice" more as "delayed satisfaction." You do what you HAVE to do right now so you can earn the right (or the means) to do what you WANT to do later. Use it as an incentive.

    Work hard today. Reward yourself tomorrow.

    GT
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    • Profile picture of the author JoeUK
      Originally Posted by GT View Post

      I look at "sacrifice" more as "delayed satisfaction." You do what you HAVE to do right now so you can earn the right (or the means) to do what you WANT to do later. Use it as an incentive.

      Work hard today. Reward yourself tomorrow.

      GT
      Thats brilliant, delayed satisfaction, but a far greater satisfaction that could not be achieved and experienced without the sacrifice. I think sacrificing most definitely makes you a stronger and more resilient person.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dyer402
    Some people may be thinking "easier said than done" and youre right, however derek makes a good point -

    "These simple changes in mindset are powerful, but they don’t often happen overnight. You must be aware of your thought patterns and make an effort to shift them consciously, then eventually you will develop a whole new way of thinking naturally without any conscious effort."

    Ive had many conversations with friends and mainly my girlfriend on this topic. Changing your mindset is an extremely difficult task. What you end up doing is reversing the way you have been conditioned to think. So its not just a process of consciously replaceing unhealthy thoughts with good thoughts, you have to recondition your mind. And the only way to achieve that is by repetition and obviously to see the desired change or result. General rule, within the first few weeks of attempting to change a habit, if you become commonly uncomfortable, frustrated or even miserable, youre probly making the right moves. Its stretching or expanding your moral fiber. Its not fun initially, but youll be happy you did it. Just promise yourself at least 3 weeks of 100% effort toward your goal and more often than most youll see a positive result.
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    • Profile picture of the author derekd
      Originally Posted by Dyer402 View Post

      Some people may be thinking "easier said than done" and youre right, however derek makes a good point -

      Ive had many conversations with friends and mainly my girlfriend on this topic. Changing your mindset is an extremely difficult task. What you end up doing is reversing the way you have been conditioned to think. So its not just a process of consciously replaceing unhealthy thoughts with good thoughts, you have to recondition your mind. And the only way to achieve that is by repetition and obviously to see the desired change or result. General rule, within the first few weeks of attempting to change a habit, if you become commonly uncomfortable, frustrated or even miserable, youre probly making the right moves. Its stretching or expanding your moral fiber. Its not fun initially, but youll be happy you did it. Just promise yourself at least 3 weeks of 100% effort toward your goal and more often than most youll see a positive result.
      Very good points. The key isn't to beat oneself up if a shift doesn't occur right away as changing years or a lifetime of thought patterns rarely happens in an instant. It's an ongoing process that first starts with being aware of what is happening as opposed to running on "autopilot."

      This is one of the reasons I believe mentors are so worthwhile. They are examples of a new way of being that allows you to gradually notice and then take on their traits over time and regular exposure.
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  • Profile picture of the author ProScribe
    I like the perspective of discipline as really being about substution.

    When we discipline ourselves we are really exchanging something of a lower value for something of a higher value.

    The problem is of course that with things of a lower nature the immediate benefit is obvious i.e Cake taste nice where as higher value things exercise / healthy eating having a much greater payoff but the benefit can take to materialise.

    Changing your time frame can really help you get leverage when trying to make the right choices
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  • Profile picture of the author abugah
    Not many people stop to question their actions. And this eventually becomes a habit. And rarely do people think about the consequences of indiscipline.

    Sacrifice, hard work, visionary leadership has become unfashionable and in-acceptable in society today.

    But the road to wealth as never changed and will never. If you want a better tomorrow, delay gratification.
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    • Profile picture of the author ERPLeadsWriter
      Originally Posted by abugah View Post

      Sacrifice, hard work, visionary leadership has become unfashionable and in-acceptable in society today.
      Tell me about it (and I say this as one of the younger folks of this same society)!

      I get many people in my life right now telling me to buy this and to buy that. However, when I say no to just one of them and tell them I'm saving up, a grand majority of them treat me like I'm a party-pooping, joy-killing, stingy, cheap-skate Scrooge.

      Honestly, there's no such thing as a free lunch. That's a basic rule/law that they taught me back in my highschool economics class. If you want something, you're gonna have to give something else in exchange.

      Seriously, my generation seems to really lack the capacity to think ahead (and I'm not even talking too far ahead) in favor of raw impulses.
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      • Profile picture of the author derekd
        Originally Posted by ERPLeadsWriter View Post


        Honestly, there's no such thing as a free lunch. That's a basic rule/law that they taught me back in my highschool economics class. If you want something, you're gonna have to give something else in exchange.
        This is exactly how I think of it, like a money exchange. You want something, you "give something" else up in exchange. We can also spend money and get far more than our money's worth in return, or we can spend money and get virtually nothing in return or something of little value to us.
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        • Profile picture of the author derekd
          The key point of sacrifice being inevitable is that every choice, say something like choosing to read a particular book is in essence "sacrificing" every other book one could be reading at that same moment. Or more obviously reading a book is "sacrificing" anything else one could be doing at that moment that isn't reading a book like speaking with someone, writing something, watching tv/movie, eating, etc. (assuming one isn't trying to multitask)


          It's not even that every choice is always more "right" or "disciplined" than another, it's just a simple recognition that every choice entails sacrifice or (less emotionally charged) exchange, so strive to make choices wisely. (can be easier said than done)


          Successful people are successful oftentimes because they're very aware of the impact their choices are going to have not only in the short term, but the long term based on how their actions enable or hinder other things from happening in their life.
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  • Profile picture of the author TamekaMunk
    Sacrifice is the offering of food, objects or the lives of animals or people to God or worship.
    While sacrifice often implies ritual killing, the term offering can be used for bloodless sacrifices of cereal food or artifacts.

    In trinitarian Christian teaching, God became incarnate in Jesus Christ, sacrificing his first-born son to accomplish the reconciliation of God and humanity, which had separated itself from God through sin
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  • Profile picture of the author AndreasJacobsen
    hmmm.. interesting thoughts.. thanks for sharing
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    • Profile picture of the author ERPLeadsWriter
      Originally Posted by derekd View Post

      We can also spend money and get far more than our money's worth in return, or we can spend money and get virtually nothing in return or something of little value to us.
      More or less, that's what goes on in my head whenever I'm tempted to buy something. Granted, I haven't been perfect. However, when I do it right, it really frustrates me that the rest of the MTV generation sees that as being stingy or cheap-skate.

      Originally Posted by derekd View Post

      The key point of sacrifice being inevitable is that every choice, say something like choosing to read a particular book is in essence "sacrificing" every other book one could be reading at that same moment. Or more obviously reading a book is "sacrificing" anything else one could be doing at that moment that isn't reading a book like speaking with someone, writing something, watching tv/movie, eating, etc. (assuming one isn't trying to multitask)


      It's not even that every choice is always more "right" or "disciplined" than another, it's just a simple recognition that every choice entails sacrifice or (less emotionally charged) exchange, so strive to make choices wisely. (can be easier said than done)
      Indeed. It's pretty much a law of nature. It's a fact that's staring at everyone in the face. And yet, most people are more concerned with having a party time than meditate on the consequences of what they do or what they spend their money on.

      P.S.

      In fact, as a bit of a multi-tasker myself, I too know the dangers when I don't carefully measure what I'm giving up between the act of switching activities.
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  • Profile picture of the author tubes00
    Simply put..."No pain, No Gain"
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  • Profile picture of the author danlew
    If we are trying to become very successful in our career, we should learn how to sacrifice some time. Eliminate those things that are useless for you everyday, and start taking action now.

    I know its been painful, but we can't really gain without it.
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  • Profile picture of the author rusty1212
    i couldnt agree more.

    Look - those people who think sacrifice is not necessary and try to avoid it their whole lives only end up hurting themselves. As tough as life may be, and as difficult as circumstances some are born with - there is no excuse. Its up to us to deal with it, live with it - make the sacrifices and become successful. Thats why i love internet marketing so much - it gives many people a path to find what they have potential to become.
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  • Profile picture of the author brentcans
    Yes indeed because without it we can not achieve our goals in life.
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  • Profile picture of the author focused
    "Sacrifice" doesn't necessarily entail a negative experience.
    For example, to become proficient in an activity or a sport,
    practicing to perfect those skills requires regular and diligent practice.
    But I've found that once you get in the habit of practicing something,
    the practice can itself become enjoyable. In the area of golf, I actually
    found that eventually I enjoyed the practice element more than playing.
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    • Profile picture of the author derekd
      Originally Posted by focused View Post

      "Sacrifice" doesn't necessarily entail a negative experience.
      For example, to become proficient in an activity or a sport,
      practicing to perfect those skills requires regular and diligent practice.
      But I've found that once you get in the habit of practicing something,
      the practice can itself become enjoyable. In the area of golf, I actually
      found that eventually I enjoyed the practice element more than playing.

      This is precisely my point. It's about getting outside of labeling sacrifice as "bad" when you realize it simply is what it is, a law of sorts.

      Long-term success is also about letting go of attachment to the goal, and learning to appreciate the process. This is how one no longer needs to "force" themselves to do things, like eat healthy for instance, but do it naturally day in and day out as a habitual process.

      The things I've been (and I'd assume most) most successful at are the things where I appreciate the process as much as the result, if not more so. Otherwise you're always chasing something in the future and never appreciating what you have in the present.
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  • Profile picture of the author webworm
    Everybody is selfish in this world.Sacrifice are the only terms that are used only on mouths not on implementation.
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  • Profile picture of the author sophiebond
    Pretty good share, love this thread.
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  • Profile picture of the author leorocking25
    That's great, it sounds good.But fact is that most of the people of this world are selfish...
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  • Profile picture of the author David Sneen
    Not to choose is to choose not to.

    I choose to work online as much as I can. I don't feel I am making a sacrifice in my online work. I enjoy doing this, and I try to steal all the time I can to work online.

    If I didn't enjoy my online work, I would feel I was making a sacrifice, and I would not get nearly as much done.
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    • Profile picture of the author derekd
      Originally Posted by David Sneen View Post

      Not to choose is to choose not to.
      That kind of sums it up.

      The idea behind this is that you can't get around "sacrifice" so it's not to be feared. Every choice entails giving up another choice that could have taken its place. And as you say, "not choosing" is still a choice.
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  • Profile picture of the author Nick Lawless
    Hi,

    Thanks for sharing this post! Really love what you pointed out here.

    I believe that in order to achieve success we need to get out of our comfort zone and eventually will be making sacrifices or exchanges.

    Exchanges are inevitable if we want to succeed. I always hear people saying that you have to put 120% into whatever you do in order for you to achieve your goals. I never understood this until I started making some exchanges of my time like staying up all night working on some blog posts etc.

    Exchanges can be tough but if we learn to celebrate the small successes every day as what Bob Yeager told me in an interview I did with him, then I think we can easily adapt to the sacrifices/exchanges we are making.

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  • Profile picture of the author bushidosurfer
    As Jim Rohn says, "Discipline Weighs Ounces and Regret Weighs Tons".

    Which do you choose?

    As some pointed out, I don't see it as a sacrifice too since you will "feel good" as you are finally moving toward your end goal, out of debt, loosing that weight, making your first $1 etc.

    I see it as hardwork, commitment to success. You don't see as sacrifice as at this point, it's something meaningful for you to achieve as you're finally "sick" of your previous non-result self and want a change.

    Sacrifice has a negative feel toward it - that you are missing something and delaying the gratification where in effect your mind has adopted this new belief ("instant gratification") doing the new work for the end goal that you want.
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    • Profile picture of the author derekd
      Originally Posted by bushidosurfer View Post

      As Jim Rohn says, "Discipline Weighs Ounces and Regret Weighs Tons".


      Sacrifice has a negative feel toward it - that you are missing something and delaying the gratification where in effect your mind has adopted this new belief ("instant gratification") doing the new work for the end goal that you want.
      Jim Rohn really sums it up.

      I also feel that sacrifice has a negative feel to it. I love analyzing the language people use and the impact it has. I feel by "reframing" sacrifice as an "exchange," even though it's essentially the same thing, it takes the sting out of it for a lot of people.

      There are certainly those who take pride in feeling they've made huge sacrifices, but for the masses, it helps to think in terms of what will be positively gained from the new choice as opposed to what they're missing out on.

      Focusing on the benefits of making wiser choices rather than the costs so to speak. Or focusing on the costs of the old choice and the benefits of the new choice, but many people look at what they're going to miss out on and fail to see what they will gain from taking on a new action or habit.

      A simple perspective shift can sometimes be all it takes to really make a huge difference for people.
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