DON'T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU READ..

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I attribute my bull**** detector being finely tuned to training in the martial arts for 10 years where a week wouldn't go by where some chi master was claiming he could knock a guy off his feet from 10 feet away. This served me well when I entered into the world of personal development, where an abundance of absolutes and sparkling white teeth engulfed the industry and claims were made which were as reliable as a virgin sex coach.

Some of my favourites include:

- Ask the universe and it will deliver (I wonder if it outsources?).

- We only use 10% of our brain (Take a chainsaw to your head and see if that's true).

- It takes 21 days to build a habit (more in the region of 66).

- Change your life with positivity ("I have just invested in my 5th home study course and the bank are sending red letters, but I am happy and know this investment will pay off soon".)

Whilst reading these can provide a warm fuzzy feeling inside, the true test is what you do with the information and what results you get from it. Reading, for most people is a passive activity, but a lot of business involves acting and the implementation of strategies. In order for that information to be useful you have to apply it and then get feedback into how it played out.

Whatever you read in books, blogs or watch on videos, don't believe it will work for you until you implement it in your business/life. Apply an air of curiosity that allows you to explore what happens when you integrate new information experimentally and see what difference it makes.

If you were to look at some of the strategies I talk about on this blog, some would work with a particular client whilst others wouldn't because their circumstance dictates a different approach. That is the advantages of personal coaching because a tailor made strategy can be formed specific to the individual.

The art of testing what you have read also shows an instigation of responsibility; not just blindly accepting the truth but discovering whether the tip is true for you and your circumstance. There have been things I have read in marketing books that have not worked for me and there have been ways of working with clients that have not worked for me.

Of course, in order for you to know whether something works for you or not, this will depend on what criteria you have for success. If you did a social media campaign what would let you know it was success? How many views you had? How many people converted into buyers? If you had a lot of people go to your Facebook fan page, it would still be considered unsuccessful if your criteria for success was how many people bought your product on that page and found not many did.

So you read about a tactic for success in your business, you figure out how to apply it in your business, you apply it and after a specific period of time you compare your results with what your criteria for success was. If it didn't work you can discard or adapt. If it was successful you can repeat.

Ultimately whatever you read about is a generalised view or the experiences of someone else in their business. It is up to you to take any information you feel necessary and make it your own in your business.
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  • Profile picture of the author mvimes
    Very true post. There is so much out there now that you can spend all your time reading and unless you trial what you read then it is a waste of time.
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  • Profile picture of the author Holmstrom
    “Believe nothing, no matter where you read
    it, or who said it, no matter if I have said
    it, unless it agrees with your own reason and
    your own common sense.” - Buddha

    Cheers
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  • Profile picture of the author Shack0812
    Finally a post that tells it. I see here many people so obsessed with ideas from books, quotes from famous personalities. Seriously, we need more realism, this is the real life. No one will ever find a general formula that will work...
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  • Profile picture of the author monkeytrousers
    The issue with too much great knowledge is inaction. There is a point in all of this learning that we actually have to apply everything we know. The only way to achieve anything is by taking massive action!
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  • Profile picture of the author paul_1
    Reading definitely gives you a lot of ideas. It is a source of motivation as well. while I believe that there is a general formula, I also believe that there are always exemption to the general rule. We have to genuinely think the value of what we read to ourselves. Ultimately, I believe in order to learn, we have to practice those that we think can be applied, then assess if these are worthy or non-worthy.
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    • Profile picture of the author sethczerepak
      Originally Posted by paul_1 View Post

      Reading definitely gives you a lot of ideas. It is a source of motivation as well. while I believe that there is a general formula, I also believe that there are always exemption to the general rule. We have to genuinely think the value of what we read to ourselves. Ultimately, I believe in order to learn, we have to practice those that we think can be applied, then assess if these are worthy or non-worthy.
      This is spot on. One of the first things I tell people in my courses, or when coaching them is that success can't be taught. It can only be learned through actions, a good coach knows that and acts as a strategist of action and learning instead of as a teacher.
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  • Profile picture of the author AaronMorton
    @mvimes & @shack0812 thank you for liking the article and you added some great points to my message.
    @paul_1 in order for learning to become engrained there has to be an immersion aspect where you totally embody what the learning is about. That is when you pull apart what the learning is in order to see if anything can be added to the process.
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  • Profile picture of the author Nate D
    Know the difference between a fact and belief. It's amazing when you listen to people talk - and they think that their beliefs are facts. Also you mentioned "chi" energy above. There are tons of BS martial artists out there. However, I practice Spring Forest Qigong - and I can feel the Chi quite effectively. Always keep an open mind about things.
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  • Profile picture of the author AaronMorton
    @sethczerepak - good point about the role of a coach, thank you

    Aaron
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  • Profile picture of the author Nic Oliver
    Good coaches are facilitators - they see the oak tree in the acorn and help it to flourish.
    Bad coaches are ego-driven - they try to force the acorn to produce a chestnut tree!
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  • Profile picture of the author AaronMorton
    @NicOliver - great point and something that distinguishes those who have a model and tell someone to follow it and call that coaching, rather than recognise that everyone has potential to craft their own way, it just needs to be facilitated out of them...that is the real heart of coaching!
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  • Profile picture of the author iceman365
    You are right on point Aaron never take something for face value it is normally someones else opinion Before you believe cross reference the information and then do it again until you have found the answer to be valid..
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