10 Reasons Why People Never Achieve Their Dreams

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1. Lack of consistency
2. Lack of focus
3. Lack of definiteness of purpose
4. 'Get rich quick' mentality
5. Reaping where one has not sowed
6. Overindulgence in sex and drugs
7. Poor time management
8. Lack of continuous self improvement program
9. Lack of passion and drive
10. keeping wrong company
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  • Profile picture of the author mervyngoh
    No burning desire to achieve success.
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    • Profile picture of the author speedbird
      Originally Posted by mervyngoh View Post

      No burning desire to achieve success.
      Thanks for adding this one, I totally agree with you
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  • Profile picture of the author darrenchow
    Afraid to Fail- No.1 reason
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    • Profile picture of the author Terrilyn
      Originally Posted by darrenchow View Post

      Afraid to Fail- No.1 reason
      very true man.
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  • Profile picture of the author TopBackBuilder
    Afraid to Succeed, think about it
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    • Profile picture of the author speedbird
      Originally Posted by mervyngoh View Post

      No burning desire to achieve success.
      Originally Posted by TopBackBuilder View Post

      Afraid to Succeed, think about it
      True, the opposite also applies..Fear of failure
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  • Profile picture of the author David Sneen
    Great thread, Speedbird! There are a lot of speed bumps on the highway to success. The reasons for failure you mentioned will come up again and again.
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    • Profile picture of the author speedbird
      Originally Posted by David Sneen View Post

      Great thread, Speedbird! There are a lot of speed bumps on the highway to success. The reasons for failure you mentioned will come up again and again.
      Thanks David, I do appreciate
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  • Profile picture of the author kavitapore
    1.lack of knowledge
    2.fear to fail
    3.negative mindset
    4.negative thinking
    5.low morel
    6.low confidence
    7.poor management
    8.lack of idea but not final one idea
    9.poor time and money management
    10.lack of focus
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    • Profile picture of the author speedbird
      Originally Posted by kavitapore View Post

      1.lack of knowledge
      2.fear to fail
      3.negative mindset
      4.negative thinking
      5.low morel
      6.low confidence
      7.poor management
      8.lack of idea but not final one idea
      9.poor time and money management
      10.lack of focus
      Thanks for your addition to the list
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  • Profile picture of the author chriscyan
    I totally agree with you
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  • Profile picture of the author Nic Oliver
    I'd add procrastination to the above, and overcomplicating things!
    There's also the desire for perfection - wiring until a product is absolutely perfect before launching. It's not necessary, as Microsoft have shown!
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    • Profile picture of the author speedbird
      Originally Posted by Nic Oliver View Post

      I'd add procrastination to the above, and overcomplicating things!
      There's also the desire for perfection - wiring until a product is absolutely perfect before launching. It's not necessary, as Microsoft have shown!
      I totally agree with you that procrastination can be a huge obstacle for one to achieve their dreams.
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  • Profile picture of the author vic alexander
    I totally agree Nic. I would also add Huge EGO as a obstacle to your dreams.Your only as good as your last project etc!! If your ego is deflated and your a shadow of your former self, then its much harder to make a comeback
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  • Profile picture of the author BlackMetal
    Originally Posted by speedbird View Post

    1. Lack of consistency
    2. Lack of focus
    3. Lack of definiteness of purpose
    4. 'Get rich quick' mentality
    5. Reaping where one has not sowed
    6. Overindulgence in sex and drugs
    7. Poor time management
    8. Lack of continuous self improvement program
    9. Lack of passion and drive
    10. keeping wrong company
    I think Hunter S Thompson has about half of those, and he was pretty successful.
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    • Profile picture of the author Bic Johnson
      Good list. Reminds me a friend I know.
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  • Profile picture of the author majay
    lack of patience to see the dream to fruition
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    • Profile picture of the author speedbird
      Originally Posted by majay View Post

      lack of patience to see the dream to fruition
      Very true, thanks for contributing another point to the list
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      • Profile picture of the author Alcon
        Here are a few to add on:

        1. Not Knowing What You Really Want
        2. Lack of Focus
        3. Mentally defeating themselves
        4.
        Lack of persistence
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  • Profile picture of the author hireava
    I totally agree with your reasons man. They're very true and people will never achieve their dreams having those reasons you mentioned.
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  • Profile picture of the author zachary0611
    Dont forget fear. It is a huge factor for many people.
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  • Profile picture of the author LukeZ
    Lack of people who believe in, support and help you achieving your dreams. (big factor to overcome fears)
    Lack of a plan, from the daily task to the big scheme.
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  • Profile picture of the author pittmanstanley
    great insights....thanks for the share
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  • Profile picture of the author mb1
    here's my list...


    1. Their dream isn't cleary defined.

    2. They aren't willing to take responsibility.

    3. They are afraid to fail/succeed.

    4. They lack discipline.

    5. They focus on the wrong things.

    6. They have low self-esteem.

    7. They don't set goals.

    8. They are paralyzed by negative programming.

    9. They lack knowledge.

    10. They give up easily instead of adapting.
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    • Profile picture of the author CashFlow1337
      Originally Posted by mb1 View Post

      here's my list...


      1. Their dream isn't cleary defined.

      2. They aren't willing to take responsibility.

      3. They are afraid to fail/succeed.

      4. They lack discipline.

      5. They focus on the wrong things.

      6. They have low self-esteem.

      7. They don't set goals.

      8. They are paralyzed by negative programming.

      9. They lack knowledge.

      10. They give up easily instead of adapting.

      I like this! +++
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  • Profile picture of the author anja98
    this is a great post. Knowing our mistakes is the key to success.
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  • Profile picture of the author coley252
    I definitely fell victim to the get rich quick mentality early on and it did not lead me to much success.
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  • Profile picture of the author marc14
    Some reasons are mentioned below:

    1. Lack of belief in your abilities

    2. Laziness

    3. Letting opportunities pass by

    4. Mental blocks

    5. Lack of clarity

    6. Contradicting goals

    7. Negative thoughts

    8. Fear of achieving your goal

    9. Setting the wrong goal

    10. Harmful goals etc.
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    • Profile picture of the author speedbird
      Originally Posted by marc14 View Post

      Some reasons are mentioned below:

      1. Lack of belief in your abilities

      2. Laziness

      3. Letting opportunities pass by

      4. Mental blocks

      5. Lack of clarity

      6. Contradicting goals

      7. Negative thoughts

      8. Fear of achieving your goal

      9. Setting the wrong goal

      10. Harmful goals etc.
      Great list, thanks for the addition!
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      • Profile picture of the author DWolfe
        Failure to get out of the confort zone
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        • Profile picture of the author speedbird
          Originally Posted by DWolfe View Post

          Failure to get out of the confort zone
          Thanks for the addition, the list is growing long than I had anticipated.
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  • Profile picture of the author keiranorton
    Nice list speedbird, thanks for the share.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mosa
    Many marketers also spread theirselves too thin. They try to learn everything all at once and get overwhelmed. Many are also not self-driven. They expect it to be easy and they don't like the idea of having to really spend time learning something without getting paid.
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    1. Fear of failure
    2. Lack of focus/shiny object syndrome
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    • Profile picture of the author speedbird
      Originally Posted by Ryan Popovic View Post

      1. Fear of failure
      2. Lack of focus/shiny object syndrome
      Thanks for the addition Ryan
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  • Profile picture of the author 1234nasir
    All the guidelines in thread and moreover in reply posts are very useful and effective.
    Thanks
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    • Profile picture of the author speedbird
      Originally Posted by 1234nasir View Post

      All the guidelines in thread and moreover in reply posts are very useful and effective.
      Thanks
      I hope you are not trying to SPAM this thread.
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      • Profile picture of the author 1234nasir
        Sure, not spamming..........sorry for any inconvenience.
        Actually I want to appreciate your useful suggestions.

        Originally Posted by speedbird View Post

        I hope you are not trying to SPAM this thread.
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  • Profile picture of the author wangui
    A good summary of why we do not succeed in our objectives. I like it.
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    • Profile picture of the author speedbird
      Originally Posted by tas26 View Post

      1.lack of knowledge
      2.fear to fail
      3.negative mindset
      4.negative thinking
      5.low morel
      6.low confidence
      7.poor management
      8.lack of idea but not final one idea
      9.poor time and money management
      10.lack of focus
      Great! Thanks for your contribution to my initial list
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  • Profile picture of the author patriciabyers
    great thoughts
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    • Profile picture of the author success4all
      Their Belief System.

      We are nothing more than a bunch of belief systems. Whatever belief system is dominant in a given moment that is what we are in that particular moment. Even the external world and events are just a reflection of our dominating belief system.

      Dreams come true to those who manage to bring together their mind set and belief system.

      When there is conflict between our mind set and belief system, the all powerful belief system always wins. The good news is, we are the ones that created our belief system in the first place and we have the power to modify it to agree with our mind set. When we set our mind (mind set) & create or modify our belief system to agree with the mind set, we achieve our dreams no matter how big the dreams are.
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      • Profile picture of the author ljlinning
        Originally Posted by success4all View Post

        Their Belief System.

        We are nothing more than a bunch of belief systems. Whatever belief system is dominant in a given moment that is what we are in that particular moment. Even the external world and events are just a reflection of our dominating belief system.

        Dreams come true to those who manage to bring together their mind set and belief system.

        When there is conflict between our mind set and belief system, the all powerful belief system always wins. The good news is, we are the ones that created our belief system in the first place and we have the power to modify it to agree with our mind set. When we set our mind (mind set) & create or modify our belief system to agree with the mind set, we achieve our dreams no matter how big the dreams are.
        The Belief set is the all-encompassing converter of spiritual power to action to results. "Whether you think you can or can't, your right" Henry Ford
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    Can i put one more
    Lack of ACTION
    No Action = No results

    Massive Action = Massive Results
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  • Profile picture of the author leorocking25
    That's true...great thinking.
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  • Profile picture of the author miserman
    This is so true, but I believe there is one more that is actually De-track from the original idea or your mission. This problem is very common, and people use to attract other ideas rather then focusing on their particular idea on which they are working.
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    • Profile picture of the author Snd65
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      Great points to share. These are facts.
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  • Profile picture of the author keivn2
    1. Lack of consistency
    2. Lack of focus
    3. Lack of definiteness of purpose
    4. 'Get rich quick' mentality
    5. Reaping where one has not sowed
    6. Overindulgence in sex and drugs
    7. Poor time management
    8. Lack of continuous self improvement program
    9. Lack of passion and drive
    10. keeping wrong company
    The bold statement is my greatest enemy, especially the first one; lacking of consistency. If I can write 2 or 3 articles per day, I think I can yield a decent result for my online business. Trying to write one article per day is difficult task for me.
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    • Profile picture of the author Lee A Bracey
      I only added one to my earlier post, but in reality, this list could grow quite large! There are countless reasons people don't succeed, but most of them involve themselves.
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    • Profile picture of the author zelgly2
      1. Their dream isn't clearly defined.

      2. They aren't willing to take responsibility.

      3. They are afraid to fail/succeed.

      4. They lack discipline.

      5. They focus on the wrong things.

      6. They have low self-esteem.

      7. They don't set goals.

      8. They are paralyzed by negative programming.

      9. They lack knowledge.

      10. They give up easily instead of adapting.


      great thread and the above list reminds me of someone who betrayed me.
      he has all the above mentality because of which he could not do anything. I read another point in this thread wrong friends and they do not find good people.
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  • Profile picture of the author hawktom010203
    1) Fear of success and/or failure.
    2) Lack of understanding about the goal-setting process.
    3) Lack of commitment to the goal.
    4) Inactivity.
    5) Analysis paralysis.
    6) Lack of a real destination.
    7.) Failing to plan.
    8) Having too many goals.
    9) Feeling unworthy of the end result.
    10) Lack of motivation to change.
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    Heeding to influence of others.

    Many many times in the past I have told someone about some project only for their response to be "thats not possible" or "it can't be done"

    Trust me, anything can be achieved if you put your mind to it, because I have done the "impossible" on a number of occasions.
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  • Profile picture of the author sash024
    Fear of loosing
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  • Profile picture of the author AllenYK2
    Lack of focus is my main problem.
    there just so many things run through my head when I try to complete something.

    Thanks, I'm gonna change from now on =))
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  • Profile picture of the author Lee A Bracey
    LAZY! Let's not forget this one. I am grateful for this forum to encounter like-minded people. I cannot believe the mentality of most people I come into personal contact with these days. If its not delivered on a platter, given for free, or done for you, people don't want to be bothered. If it takes more energy than putting the TV remote down, Don't ask them.
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  • Profile picture of the author HolyWarrior
    People are also very afraid of making mistakes, of failing... This often keeps them from even taking the first step.
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  • Profile picture of the author azjoemartin
    I see this subtle success killer consistently pop up..

    You say you're going to try it out...of course that leads me to my favorite quotation...

    "Try is a non-committal word that justifies mediocrity and failure".

    Fact is, in my opinion, if you're going to try to succeed you've given yourself the excuse up front to fail. After all..you did give it a good try...
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  • Profile picture of the author Anna7
    those are so true.

    I think one more is being too idealistic. Some people expect too much like they're going to succeed immediately, or that everything will go their way. So when things go differently from what they thought, they get frustrated and many aren't able to deal with that.
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  • Profile picture of the author sax.sunny
    I think, many of these reasons to failure or success are greatly discussed in a book "Think and Grow Rich". In my opinion, one must read that one.

    If you are a reader, you should also go for "Law Of Success". Both of them are by Napoleon Hill.
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  • Lack of information as well.
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    • Profile picture of the author Larry Carter
      The list could go on and on but I think if someone who is starting out and read more than the first 10 they would quit before they even start.
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  • Profile picture of the author bangzenk
    in my opinion, there are two reasons why people failed:
    - too much things without action
    - too lazy to start action

    then, the only thing to get succeed is action
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  • Profile picture of the author rmolina88
    Originally Posted by speedbird View Post

    1. Lack of consistency
    2. Lack of focus
    3. Lack of definiteness of purpose
    4. 'Get rich quick' mentality
    5. Reaping where one has not sowed
    6. Overindulgence in sex and drugs
    7. Poor time management
    8. Lack of continuous self improvement program
    9. Lack of passion and drive
    10. keeping wrong company
    I suffer from all of these except for #6, sadly.
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  • Profile picture of the author ryandre
    Nice lists guys you've summed up most self help books in a nutshell, easier said than done to be sure. Lack of consistency is definitely a big one, as it cures most other things on that list.
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  • Profile picture of the author NatalieJ
    I the biggest obstacle is really believing than you can succeed. This comes from lack of:
    self esteem, confidence, self worth. It is a major component in procrastination.
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  • Profile picture of the author Andrew johnson4
    I am totally agree with speedbird. thanks.
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  • Profile picture of the author newfaridasus
    The best way to reach the dream is, to wake from the dream and start action
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  • Profile picture of the author gnuga2007
    That's so true..
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  • Profile picture of the author stopper
    I think I can give myself a fifty percent on your list thank you for bring outright.
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  • Profile picture of the author TheCrott
    i think the most reason why people never achieve their dreams is NATO (No Action Talk Only)
    They fear of many things (the risk, etc)
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  • Profile picture of the author phoenixseo
    Yeah!These are true for not getting success!
    Thanks for the share everyone!
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  • Profile picture of the author eguinan
    I think that it all comes down to fear. Your list was so true, but it is fear that keeps us in those places.
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