What is your relationship to money?

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Have you ever stopped to think about how you relate to money?

We certainly know how to relate to other people, but how do YOU relate to money?

For those of you who may feel 'stuck', I encourage you to think about these questions:
What kind of thoughts do you have regarding money?

What is your core limiting belief about money?

Do you believe money is somehow hard to get?

Do you think making money requires tremendous hard work? (Hard work is fine as long as it's smart, not just randomly working hard lol)

Do you believe you can't be wealthy and happy at the same time?

Do you (subconsciously) believe it's wrong to be wealthy? (be honest with this, because it may trigger some uneasy feelings)

Do you believe there isn't enough to go around?

Do you think that others can be wealthy but that you cannot?

Do you believe that you need to master every single step perfectly before you take action to make money?

Do you believe it takes many years to be wealthy, so you don't even bother making a determined/committed effort?

When you see rich people, do you resent them? (Be honest with this one! This is a HUGE stumbling block.)

What consequence is there for you to be wealthy? (I'm suggesting there is some subconscious fear of being wealthy)

What are you subconsciously trying to gain by not being wealthy?

What does not being wealthy allow you to avoid?

In what way is your desire to be rich getting in the way of being rich? (there may be a very subtle yet twisted desire that is actually preventing you from being wealthy)

How has other people's opinions of money affected the way you relate to it?

What do you gain by procrastinating? And what does procrastination allow you to avoid?

If money can talk to you, what would it say to you? And how would you react to it?
Some of these questions may seem a bit odd, but if you feel stuck somewhere, these questions will raise greater awareness of what you're doing internally to maintain your stuckness. Quite often, just the mere awareness can allow you to experience a breakthrough.
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  • Profile picture of the author Joseph Robinson
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    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    What kind of thoughts do you have regarding money?
    It is a way to keep a roof over my head, put food on the table, and a way to build a secure future.

    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    What is your core limiting belief about money?
    Can't really say that I have one.

    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    Do you believe money is somehow hard to get?
    It isn't easy to get, or we would all have it. The difficulty is not in obtaining it though, the difficulty is in committing to work for it.

    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    Do you think making money requires tremendous hard work? (Hard work is fine as long as it's smart, not just randomly working hard lol)
    I think at first it does require a lot of hard work, but over time creating leverage will alleviate this.

    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    Do you believe you can't be wealthy and happy at the same time?
    Nope, people can say money doesn't buy happiness all they want. Doesn't make it true.

    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    Do you (subconsciously) believe it's wrong to be wealthy? (be honest with this, because it may trigger some uneasy feelings)
    No, depending on what you do with the status.

    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    Do you believe there isn't enough to go around?
    I do believe this. The fact that there isn't enough for everyone to be wealthy is intrinsic to the survival of society, at least in my opinion.

    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    Do you think that others can be wealthy but that you cannot?
    Yes, there are plenty who were, are, and will be wealthy in ways that I may never reach.

    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    Do you believe that you need to master every single step perfectly before you take action to make money?
    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    Do you believe it takes many years to be wealthy, so you don't even bother making a determined/committed effort?
    Yes it does take many years. This does not deter me though.

    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    When you see rich people, do you resent them? (Be honest with this one! This is a HUGE stumbling block.)
    Nope, respect the hell out of them.

    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    What consequence is there for you to be wealthy? (I'm suggesting there is some subconscious fear of being wealthy)
    Can't really think of one, except for higher taxes.

    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    What are you subconsciously trying to gain by not being wealthy?
    Not a factor.

    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    What does not being wealthy allow you to avoid?
    Higher taxes?

    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    In what way is your desire to be rich getting in the way of being rich? (there may be a very subtle yet twisted desire that is actually preventing you from being wealthy)
    It's not in the way, it serves as motivation.

    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    How has other people's opinions of money affected the way you relate to it?
    It doesn't. I don't let outside influences affect me that much.

    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    What do you gain by procrastinating? And what does procrastination allow you to avoid?
    Nothing. It makes you avoid productive work.

    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    If money can talk to you, what would it say to you? And how would you react to it?
    Get me out of your pocket! I'd probably scream.
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  • Profile picture of the author JasonChoi
    LOL thanks for responding! By the looks of your answers, it looks like money isn't really an issue for you. But there are a good number of people here who have such a strong negative view on money that they keep themselves stuck in limitation despite their desire to succeed.
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    • Profile picture of the author Joseph Robinson
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      Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

      LOL thanks for responding! By the looks of your answers, it looks like money isn't really an issue for you. But there are a good number of people here who have such a strong negative view on money that they keep themselves stuck in limitation despite their desire to succeed.
      Money can be an issue for anyone if they let it be lol. Just months ago it was a huge source of stress. It's all about mindset though; and if people learned to stop worrying so much, they would often find that the money comes much easier. Solves two problems at the same time .
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  • Profile picture of the author leorocking25
    Money is really a serious issue of life but not all the thing...some emotional attachments shouldn't be incorporated with monetary values.cause after all we are human being.
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    • Profile picture of the author PaulWSutherland
      There are only three problems in life -

      Money ~ Health ~ Relationships...

      What ever challenges you face in life it will in some way fall into one of those three categories.

      The answers do not have to be complicated and everyone already has the answers, if they only look within.

      To often we look for books and courses for answers when all we need is a little quiet time for reflection and for the answers to come naturally.
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  • Profile picture of the author carolynhoney
    What's interesting for me is that I absolutely don't have a negative view of success or even wealth, but I do have a very negative view of money as we presently know it.

    Money as it exists today is a debt-based currency. Scarcity is built into it - i.e., whenever more dollars are created a corresponding and larger amount of debt is created by the Federal Reserve. This means that there's always more debt present in the world than there is money.

    So money has scarcity built into it - it encourages hoarding (i.e., right now in America 1% of people own 40% of the wealth).

    But the bounty of the earth isn't scarce and doesn't encourage hoarding. Which is not to say that the earth isn't finite but that the resources it offers are self-renewing when not abused.

    (for anyone interested in reading more about this, you might check out the book Sacred Economics by Charles Eisenstein, which is free online at a web magazine called Reality Sandwich)

    So there's a fundamental disconnect between the way our money system works and the way real wealth (i.e. natural resources) work.

    I'm interested in seeing a world created where no one hoards and where everyone shares in all the beauty and bounty that the earth offers through the use of permaculture systems.

    In the mean time, I have to participate in the money system in order to stay afloat in this society. And I'm not too jazzed about that, but I am willing to accept the reality.
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  • Profile picture of the author Billy Levin
    Honestly, I can't stand money.

    If only we could live in a world where it doesn't exist.

    Of course, that isn't going to happen, and, put simply, everyone needs to get some. It's a necessity to keeping a roof over our heads and providing us with essentials.

    That's why I'm trying my best to make money.
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  • Profile picture of the author rmolina88
    I honestly dislike money. I hate spending it, I hate saving it, and I hate constantly having to lend it out to so many people.

    I wish I can go back to the caveman days where I wouldn't need it and all I would have to do is drink water from a lake or mountain to survive.
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  • Profile picture of the author kayebee
    I think I have a love/hate relationship with money. In my mind, it's hard to get money despite hard work. It has a direct impact on my life at the moment. I know it's not good to say that money isn't happiness but I know there will be a lot less tears and more smiles if I had more of it in my life. I love money... I see it as a luxury.
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  • Profile picture of the author Makemoneyc
    Not make a relationship to the money with all thought. There are basically social life and Business different.
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    • Profile picture of the author Nauman K
      Originally Posted by Makemoneyc View Post

      Not make a relationship to the money with all thought. There are basically social life and Business different.
      Money is honey and you can't get your honey without money its true..
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  • Profile picture of the author Mary Wilhite
    Money gives one the freedom to live a full life without regrets, fears or worries while exercising our need to contribute to others.
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  • Profile picture of the author HolyWarrior
    I have deep respect for rich people who built their business from nothing into something successful. I appreciate money as well, I don't believe there's ever a point in which I could possibly have "too much" of it. Money is just a tool, like anything. You can use it for good or for evil, selfishness or generosity. I know how I plan to use mine, and so I have a good relationship with money.
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  • Profile picture of the author hardraysnight
    me and money are just good friends
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  • Profile picture of the author sarcher88
    I feel like my relationship towards money has changed drastically from when I graduated college. When I first got out, my only thought was to get a job that made money. I would just do any work, not really thinking about what made me happy, but how to pay the bills.

    While I still care about feeding myself, I feel like my attitudes have matured. I want to be satisfied with the things that I am doing, and not feel like I'm simply comprising myself for the sake of a buck.

    Do I still care about money? Hell yes. But I'm trying to not let that go at the expense of my own happiness.
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    • Profile picture of the author candoattitude
      Good questions to get down to your limiting thoughts about money.

      My father grew up in the Great Depression and I think that his scarcity mentality rubbed off on me.

      I've been using EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) or tapping to try to release those limiting thoughts. It has been helping some.
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  • Profile picture of the author w3bTools
    My opinion of money has change in the last 10 years. Since I started doing IM the physical value of money means nothing to me.

    I can recall when Adwords first started, I started a campaign and had my daily budget @ $20, I thought $20/day x 7 days, wow thats half my 9-5 paycheck for the week...
    Within a few months I was spending $20k/day and I have always looked back on that and remembered how scared I was to spend that first $20.

    Money now is nothing more than a tool I use in my daily business. No different than a carpenter uses a hammer and nails, I use a computer and money.
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  • Profile picture of the author hoffman
    Money is needed for every person in the world, so honestly, i am fond of it. And it is really hard to earn money.
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    • Profile picture of the author Globalassistant
      Originally Posted by hoffman View Post

      Money is needed for every person in the world, so honestly, i am fond of it. And it is really hard to earn money.
      For the money every one can give his or her hard labour. But we need to know what is the way & how will we go. If you are know this way, please explain to us. we are waiting.
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  • Profile picture of the author cherylssmart
    money is very important because all things you can take with money..all you need is easy to get with money specially material not in bad using..
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    • Profile picture of the author redbottom52
      Most of the self help gurus today will tell you that money cant be happines. Happiness is an inside job... and yet, you still must earn money to keep a roof over your head and food on your table. While the extent to which you spend money on material goods is a personal choice... the truth is that in our modern society living comfortably and within the realm of "normalcy" unfortunately costs money. And for some, a goal to live comfortably creates confusion about spirituality.
      Many people think that spirituality means forsaking the external world completely. Yet, dropping out of society leads us into isolation, disease, pain and suffering. From this place, we cannot fully realize who we truly are, nor can we manifest the gifts we are meant to give back to the world.
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  • Profile picture of the author hireava
    Practically speaking, money nowadays, is every person's needs. Unfortunately, money is very powerful at our present time.
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  • Profile picture of the author LulaFor
    Money were very important for me till i had no money in my pockets. When You Get money, everybody respects you. When you dont have any money, they`ll leave you for good
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  • Profile picture of the author Globalassistant
    Some one can help me that how can i earn money by online easily?
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  • Profile picture of the author addaminsane
    Money is simply a means to an end for me. That end is survival, leisure, travel, & charity.
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  • Profile picture of the author Evocess
    Good post Jason,

    Money is one of my closest friend. With money I can have all my wants and needs in my life.
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  • Profile picture of the author luane
    I agree that money is a tool to have the freedom we all need and crave, especially for those we love who have pressing medical bills they can't pay and can't sleep at night. Money is a means to an end, not the end-all to use to entertain ourselves endlessly. That leads to an empty existence. I believe we were created to give to others, but we must have financial means to do that.


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  • Profile picture of the author Niche_Boy
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    Money is nothing but a tool for me to get what I need.

    That's the only way I really see it.
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  • Profile picture of the author TheDollar
    I need money to have food and water and a roof over my head. I also want money to live the life I dream of like debt free and a good life where I don't have to work.
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  • Profile picture of the author JD Ways
    GREAT post!! I need to change my relationship with money! THANKS for the reminder!! I heard a billionaire on tv say he was intimately involved with money!! Amazing!
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  • Profile picture of the author clarajames
    No one should think life about money so I don't think anyone has stopped thinking about money.
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  • Profile picture of the author bellakristen
    Money is necessary for humans to be happy.I need money to make my surroundings happy , to make my family to be happy , to get some good facilities.
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  • Profile picture of the author Freshmorning
    Money is important, no doubt even i have paid my bills so i am here with the broadband, if i get hospitalized i need the bills to be paid, i need it to be alive and get going.Yes i differentiate it according to "value:" and "price" -just a currency for that matter to get your daily super market needs.Charity and helping the poors can only come when yours stomach is first full and pockets tight.Its easy sitting back on a leather chair with A/c running and i pods plugged earphones to say -" I do not care about money and money is not so important to me" but just pull off the gadgets and **** the persons boiling red chicks will show it all.
    Money is damm necessity but not for the cost of relationship,values and emotions.
    Its after all invented by humans and for nature every thing is FREE.
    Suppose if nature would have billed us for using OXYGEN.................
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  • Profile picture of the author Jillian W
    Money = Financial Freedom

    I wish is not this way but it's seems to be the only way for me to be able to live happily without financial burden. I don't know if I should consider money as my ally or enemy in this case..
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  • Profile picture of the author Crimson Duo
    I've found that enough to not need to check bank balance more than occassionally, knowing there is enough to cover expenses, is the real freedom. It's not about having a lot, and I don't need a luxury car or mansion or the so-called Internet Lifestyle, just knowing there is enough and if I don't go look at the balance today, the bills are being paid, the fridge isn't empty, my family is taken care of, there are things I might want but nothing more that I need - and that's my definition of good fortune as well.
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  • Profile picture of the author BlackMetal
    Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

    For those of you who may feel 'stuck', I encourage you to think about these questions:
    What kind of thoughts do you have regarding money?

    What is your core limiting belief about money?

    Do you believe money is somehow hard to get?

    Do you believe you can't be wealthy and happy at the same time?

    Do you (subconsciously) believe it's wrong to be wealthy? (be honest with this, because it may trigger some uneasy feelings)

    It's easy to make money, but the vibe I pick up from your wording is that your whole perspective seems to be that success or life is only fulfilling if you have money.
    If anyone thinks they need money to be happy/is so obsessed with money, then they are in for a rude shock, and wasting their life.
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  • Profile picture of the author jhessymoore
    Money can buy what you just need.
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  • Profile picture of the author ankur sharma
    Damn i am scared to post my answer here lol
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  • Profile picture of the author TheProgrammer
    Money relationship for me is like a relationship between mom and son. LOL
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  • Profile picture of the author jfambrini
    Money is a valuable resource. It should not be an end-in-itself but a means to an end. Too many people make it a source of their self-worth. Having more does not make us more worthwhile and losing it does not make us less worthwhile. If you are a loving and caring person you can do a lot with money to ameliorate the suffering mankind in all parts of the globe. There is so much sickness, starvation, malnutrition, poverty, disability. If every person contributed just one dollar a month we can completely wipe famine from the world. Money is an invaluable resource for good in hand of good people and source of incalculable evil in hand of the wicked.
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  • Profile picture of the author RoadCEO
    Wow some good questions and some good thoughts ... I am going to print out these question and really do some thinking about them and then I will post my answers as I do need to find a way to turn my life around and start heading back down the river then my poor boat spinning circles down stream of a waterfall like it is right now ... (The waterfall symbolizes a huge hurtle I overcame a year or so ago)
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