I feel that writing down my goals is not enough to motivate me

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A lot of people and gurus say if you want to get things done, you should have a goal and write them down. I feel that this is not good enough. Even when I write down my goals, I still feel lazy and not want to do the tedious tasks that are required to take action on.

I've tried everything like "to do lists", being accountable to other people, and all that stuff. But somehow they don't work for me.

I kind of feel some resentment against these productivity gurus who say prioritize your task and use all your will power to tackle the hardest task first. What if you've got no willpower to begin with. I don't think it's that simple. if it were a lot more people would be successful.

For a very long time I've had this vision of myself where I'm full of energy and motivation throughout the day, just taking massive action and doing the stuff that needs to get done. Being in full control of my mind and not succumbing to procrastination anymore. If I just have that I can do, be, and have anything.

Anyways, just wanted to get all that stuff off my chest. Sorry for the long rant.

Good night.
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  • Profile picture of the author oppyeaunome
    Hey Tre Here and man do I understand what you are going through. Its like everyday you need an extra pump you try to be productive and you just aren't You set goals and you fail to meet them and most of the times you are left feeling like you should just give up. Well my friend the problem lyes deeper within you first ask yourself:

    Why Do You want to do this In the First Place?

    Your reasons for business or IM should be something that really drives you. For example I've always seen a business and I'm as an avenue for me to help people while I earn a living. When We get caught up on money we can lose sight of our goals quickly.

    Am I Doing What I Need To Because I Love It Or Because I Think I Should?

    Having and starting a business whether online or offline should first start with a "little" love for what you are doing. If you view a business as a way of money only you will fall flat. Also if you care nothing about people or even love them you end up with a lonely feeling and you become less motivated. Develope a love for it my friend.

    Just Do It!!!!

    Pretty straight forward, even though you may feel lazy force through that by cutting off all distractions and focusing on what needs to be done.

    Change your thinking change your life. Develope a love for it all and what "was" seen as work you'll begin to love because you'll be reaping the benefits.

    Hopes this helps my fellow warrior. If you need any motivational help feel free to hit me up.

    Peace,
    Tre
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  • Profile picture of the author ashleysmith12
    Dude, we all have only one life. So don't take it too seriously and don't waste your whole life chasing something. Don't write your goals down. Life is for enjoying each moment . But remember your goals. Keep a good balance between your enjoy time and the time you devote for achieving your goals. By doing this you will spend your life happily and will also achieve your goals. Be in control of yourself and don't become a slave of a timetable . This is my personal experience and its up to you what you think is right.
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  • Profile picture of the author jeffduhon
    What are you currently doing with your life? Just curious. I tell my friends that want to be successful but don't take action that maybe their current life hasn't gotten painful enough yet. It will eventually if you want something but aren't going for it. You'll find your own path, no trick or self help book will help until you reach that point. Best of luck my friend...
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    • Profile picture of the author Theresa Perez
      Sometimes it depends on what your goal is. If it's really not important enough to you, it is difficult to trick your mind into thinking that it is worth pursuing now rather than doing other activities you really enjoy

      I read somewhere that willpower can be mentally & emotionally exhausting. So if you need to exercise a lot of willpower, do it when you're fresh.

      I would suggest it would come in handy when you're trying to first exert self discipline over some new activity.

      About 3 months later, you no longer need to exert so much effort into this activity, since the discipline involved will now be habit.

      So you can move on to other things now...
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  • Profile picture of the author John F Kennedy
    I read your thread, then read it again, here's my take..

    You so want to be motivated and full of energy but it's easier for you to stay where you are because becoming motivated is going to mean 'you' behaving in a manner that you are not familiar with.

    So.. you resent those that are motivated and out there doing it?

    Setting a to do list is a must if you want to get things done. I suggest making your list by writing (not typing - ink) a list of 3 daily tasks. Then, with great pleasure use a black marker pen and scrub them off when done.

    Don't make unrealistic 'to do' lists, as not completing them will demotivate you.

    Despite what others have said here, you have to have goals, just don't make it your entire focus. Set them, take action. The majority of goals I have set come to fruition when I am least expecting them.

    If you are resenting others that are doing it, you are building more resistance as to why you are not.

    Your focus needs to be on what you are doing right, not wrong. This may surprise you, but we all do things wrong, don't finish things and mess up! It's how you respond to it that will make you grow.

    Resentment and self pity will attract more of, guess what? Yeah, more resentment and self pity!!

    You need to visualize, yourself in a better place, talk, walk and be the person you desire to be. When you feel yourself slumping back, laugh out loud, scream your affirmations, anything to change your vibration, but do it, start laughing!!

    It's easy to stay where you are as its what you know best, it takes balls to be different.

    Get out of your comfort zone and get to work!

    You are not a machine and entitled to not be perfect, give yourself a break
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    • Profile picture of the author kardesh10
      Originally Posted by John F Kennedy View Post

      I read your thread, then read it again, here's my take..

      You so want to be motivated and full of energy but it's easier for you to stay where you are because becoming motivated is going to mean 'you' behaving in a manner that you are not familiar with.

      So.. you resent those that are motivated and out there doing it?

      Setting a to do list is a must if you want to get things done. I suggest making your list by writing (not typing - ink) a list of 3 daily tasks. Then, with great pleasure use a black marker pen and scrub them off when done.

      Don't make unrealistic 'to do' lists, as not completing them will demotivate you.

      Despite what others have said here, you have to have goals, just don't make it your entire focus. Set them, take action. The majority of goals I have set come to fruition when I am least expecting them.

      If you are resenting others that are doing it, you are building more resistance as to why you are not.

      Your focus needs to be on what you are doing right, not wrong. This may surprise you, but we all do things wrong, don't finish things and mess up! It's how you respond to it that will make you grow.

      Resentment and self pity will attract more of, guess what? Yeah, more resentment and self pity!!

      You need to visualize, yourself in a better place, talk, walk and be the person you desire to be. When you feel yourself slumping back, laugh out loud, scream your affirmations, anything to change your vibration, but do it, start laughing!!

      It's easy to stay where you are as its what you know best, it takes balls to be different.

      Get out of your comfort zone and get to work!

      You are not a machine and entitled to not be perfect, give yourself a break
      Thanks for reading my post. I didn't say I resent those who are motivated. I do resent those who teach about goal setting and make it very simplistic like " You have to set a goal and take action". These productivity teachers are so popular I have no doubt that you've heard of them.

      I think that procrastination is a much deeper issue. I think most of it is due to emotional baggage, fears, traumas, limiting beliefs, etc. These need to be resolved first and you can't just write down goals and take action. It doesn't work for everyone.

      A lot of people have goals and know exactly what they want, and are willing to pay the price, however they have these emotional issues that stop them.

      For me, it would be much better if these productivity gurus taught about how to remove these subconscious blocks and limiting beliefs, and then they can teach about goal setting.
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  • Profile picture of the author GT
    Hello, Kardesh:

    By now, you have discovered that you are not alone in this universally challenging state of misdirected motivation. A few members have given you some suggestions. I don't really have anything to add, other than saying that what you may be lacking is a clear, intense reason for achieving something today.

    One thing that I do when my levels of motivation are low is to identify the top priority on my list for that day as well as some really fun or exciting thing I also want to do that day and then mentally convince myself that the fun "just ain't gonna happen" until I complete that priority task.

    If you are not used to disciplining your activities that way, it can be difficult in the beginning, I know. But if you work at it, you will get better. For me, this technique of "delayed gratification" has been the catalyst for many very productive days!

    GT
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  • Profile picture of the author travlinguy
    Writing goals isn't supposed to motivate you. It's designed to guide you and implant your desires into your consciousness. Finding your life's passion is what inspires and motivates you naturally.
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  • Profile picture of the author luckystepho
    You can motivate yourself by identifying the things you want to buy when you are successful. The cars, the holidays, the freedom. Now read all you can on them and find plenty of pictures. Make a 'dream board' out of all the pictures and put it somewhere you can see it every day (or make a wallpaper image for your computer).

    Look at it regularly and imagine how you will feel when you own it/ done it/ have been there... really experience it. This is one way to get motivated to work through the goals and helps focus your subconscious mind on what you are working towards.
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  • Profile picture of the author sabinavarga
    Maybe you're writing down the wrong goals. If they're not strong enough to motivate you, you're probably (secretly) wishing you'd be heading towards something else. Just a thought
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    • Profile picture of the author mixxa
      I just stick a picture on the wall directly opposite where im working so i cant help but look at it at least a couple of times a day. At the moment its an iMac. I will soon get one! just got to keep going. Different things motivate different people, its really hard though. Keep going mate! Never Give Up!
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  • Profile picture of the author Viramara
    Sometimes people want something but don't know why. What they "want" is not exactly what their subconscious wants. For example, your goal is to make 5 figures online. But again, for WHAT? Is it just to "pay the bills"?

    I mean, make your goals compelling enough. Really ask your subconscious : "if I have this $ x,xxx, what would I do first?". Is it buying luxuries? Traveling?

    For example, when I still a newbie blogger, I need money so bad to travel to Bali . That was the first time I sell something online. I looked for a free public domain book, translated it ASAP, and sell it in my blog in my local currency for about $2. I got 30 sold, and got $60. That was my first time I make money online, and I got addicted. But I then put off the selling page asap, because I'm afraid WP will caught me. the blog was still hosted on wordpress.com that time, and I set the payment process manually via Bank Transfer like a lot of local bloggers do. That's why it's sold slower.

    Sorry sorry for ranting. A compelling "what will I do if I have $$ amount of money" always works better than "make $$$ in x days" itself.
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  • Profile picture of the author Lovenus
    Originally Posted by kardesh10 View Post

    A lot of people and gurus say if you want to get things done, you should have a goal and write them down. I feel that this is not good enough. Even when I write down my goals, I still feel lazy and not want to do the tedious tasks that are required to take action on.

    I've tried everything like "to do lists", being accountable to other people, and all that stuff. But somehow they don't work for me.

    I kind of feel some resentment against these productivity gurus who say prioritize your task and use all your will power to tackle the hardest task first. What if you've got no willpower to begin with. I don't think it's that simple. if it were a lot more people would be successful.

    For a very long time I've had this vision of myself where I'm full of energy and motivation throughout the day, just taking massive action and doing the stuff that needs to get done. Being in full control of my mind and not succumbing to procrastination anymore. If I just have that I can do, be, and have anything.

    Anyways, just wanted to get all that stuff off my chest. Sorry for the long rant.

    Good night.
    kardesh10, what are the problems that you are encountering now?

    Please do share them so that maybe I can help. ^^
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    • Profile picture of the author LindseyRainwater
      A few thoughts . . .

      1. I know it is an older program, and I have it on cassette (thanks to my parents buying it years ago and loaning it to me) but I highly recommend "The Procrastination Cure." I listened to it, and a lot of things started making sense about why I and others I know procrastinate on certain things, and how we can talk to ourselves and others to break those habits.

      Because you're right - it's caused by metal processes and emotional states. Generally ones that were ground into our minds for years. Which means they're tough to deal with - but you CAN and SHOULD break them.

      2. Try working with pain and pleasure. Someone here mentioned that your current situation isn't painful enough yet - and this might be true. Try attaching a lot of pain in your mind to keeping things the way they are, and lots of pleasure to changing - it can REALLY help to get the wheels rolling in the right direction.

      3. I'm trying something new, and it seems to be making a difference: I'm picturing something I want like I already have it. Two things in particular. One is a new truck, the other is a specific piece of recreational/exercise equipment. I picture the truck sitting in front of the house, and the exercise equipment in my living room. I picture it in such detail that later I look over and am surprised and a little disappointed when the items aren't there.

      This is causing me to get motivated! I think it ties into the pain thing, because it hurts to realize that the things I want so bad I can taste aren't in my life. That in itself causes me to get my butt back to work. But the crystal clear visualization is making a big difference for me.

      These things may not work for everyone, but they're helping me - so I thought I'd share.

      I've also started writing down what I do during the day - in 5-15 minute chunks. Yes, this takes a little effort, but when you have to account for your whole day and week, you find that you don't WANT to write things like "2 hrs on Pinterest" and you find the enthusiasm to get back to work.

      Just my thoughts. I hope you root out what is holding you back.
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  • Profile picture of the author Rory Singh
    Trying to get motivated will never work. Either you are 'inspired' or not. And until you are truly inspired for what ever real reason, you may end up just spinning your wheels.
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  • Profile picture of the author TopKat22
    "Whether you believe you can or you believe you can't, you are correct." Henry Ford

    What you are talking about is changing not only what you believe you can do and doing it or just writing down goals.....

    You are talking about an entire shift in your whole being because for you, this is ingrained in your thinking and thus it is true.

    However, given the fact that you at least heard these "gurus" say these things must mean that you are open to positive change.

    I have found that the biggest barrier to someone who is at point A and wants to get to some other improved point on anything usually wants to take the whole jump all at once.

    When you have a very deep seated belief about yourself, the only real way you can make any headway is to go at a very low gradient of increase until there is something that you BELIEVE that is an improvement.

    However, most people, when they do not see immediate progress, will then just give up and say, this, too, did not work for me.

    It most certainly does take a strong will but I think it is easier and simpler to do when you take it a step at a time and not try to get to the end goal all at once.

    Since you know what you believe does not work for you, then try something else.

    How about this as a suggestion:

    Write down all your goals.

    Pick the easiest one.

    Take that one you pick and break it up into smaller parts.

    Now of that list, take the easiest thing to do and if still too much break it down, too.

    Finally find something really small yet still a step in getting you to a goal and DO THAT!

    Once it is done, check it off as completed.

    Celebrate that you are making progress and then continue the exercise.

    The key is to do what gives you WINS!

    Whatever works for you.

    Here is to you finally making some small headway to change you behavior to be more the way you want it to be!
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  • Profile picture of the author Mark Singletary
    Ironically the easiest way to overcome those psychological barriers isn't to read about them but to decide what you're going to do and get going.

    For example, fear holds a lot of people back. Think about being afraid to jump off the high dive into the cold water. You can't move even though you really, really want to jump. It seems that something else is controlling you. The fear is overwhelming.

    And just then someone comes and pushes you in. It is then that you realize that it isn't so bad and so the fear goes away and now they can't stop you from jumping over and over and over again.

    It's not easy but it is simple. Just do it. Just get started and many of the blocks will go away.

    I read somewhere something like - it's a lot easier to work yourself into motivation than it is to motivate yourself to work. In other words the motivation comes as a byproduct of the work.

    Consider yourself pushed. Now go do it.

    Good luck.
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  • Profile picture of the author helpmefindmyself
    Hi, I've found the best way to motivate myself is to be honest with myself. I have, in the past, tried the affirmations, 'I accept myself for who I am', 'I am this and that' but I realized I was lying to myself. I didn't really accept myself. At one point in my life I didn't even really like myself very much. But, I realized, one truth was that I could see I had potential. I had the potential to do and be those things I wanted. That was enough to motivate me. There was no pressure to 'accept myself' or whatever. It really helped.
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  • Profile picture of the author TD
    Originally Posted by kardesh10 View Post

    A lot of people and gurus say if you want to get things done, you should have a goal and write them down. I feel that this is not good enough. Even when I write down my goals, I still feel lazy and not want to do the tedious tasks that are required to take action on.

    I've tried everything like "to do lists", being accountable to other people, and all that stuff. But somehow they don't work for me.

    I kind of feel some resentment against these productivity gurus who say prioritize your task and use all your will power to tackle the hardest task first. What if you've got no willpower to begin with. I don't think it's that simple. if it were a lot more people would be successful.

    For a very long time I've had this vision of myself where I'm full of energy and motivation throughout the day, just taking massive action and doing the stuff that needs to get done. Being in full control of my mind and not succumbing to procrastination anymore. If I just have that I can do, be, and have anything.

    Anyways, just wanted to get all that stuff off my chest. Sorry for the long rant.

    Good night.
    Hi kardesh10


    Here's a bit of advice:

    Take a step back from your goals and check to see if they stir
    up any resistance or fear within you. When we set goals we often
    fail to take into consideration the unconcious programs that may
    not agree with your conscious desires.

    Once you've identified a fear or resistance take a sheet of
    paper and write down what you fear or resist about it and then
    work to eliminate that belief because thats it is.

    Often procrastination or so called laziness are symptoms of
    something deeper that we fail to really look at and they're
    signals telling us that some part of us out of allignment with
    what we consciously want.

    Just my 2 cents.

    TD
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  • Profile picture of the author gentryliving
    Originally Posted by kardesh10 View Post

    A lot of people and gurus say if you want to get things done, you should have a goal and write them down. I feel that this is not good enough. Even when I write down my goals, I still feel lazy and not want to do the tedious tasks that are required to take action on.

    I've tried everything like "to do lists", being accountable to other people, and all that stuff. But somehow they don't work for me.

    I kind of feel some resentment against these productivity gurus who say prioritize your task and use all your will power to tackle the hardest task first. What if you've got no willpower to begin with. I don't think it's that simple. if it were a lot more people would be successful.

    For a very long time I've had this vision of myself where I'm full of energy and motivation throughout the day, just taking massive action and doing the stuff that needs to get done. Being in full control of my mind and not succumbing to procrastination anymore. If I just have that I can do, be, and have anything.

    Anyways, just wanted to get all that stuff off my chest. Sorry for the long rant.

    Good night.
    You seems so serious about your goals. It takes discipline and perseverance if you really like to reach your goal.
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  • Profile picture of the author WebPen
    I know what you mean- I've written down goals dozens of times- never seems to help.

    I think the problem sometimes comes from thinking that goals are more powerful than they really are. I mean it's nice to have some kind of direction, but it takes 2 things- direction and action- make money.
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  • Profile picture of the author Usmile
    Listing down once goal might work for others but not with you, based on your statement. I suggest you to try another approach, I am sure that you have your own brilliant idea too.
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  • Profile picture of the author eguinan
    visualization and photos that trigger the emotional feeling of having already accomplished your goal is very powerful. Affirmations too. I feel that the universe will place me in the right place, at the right time. I just need to show up and be open.
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