Please Tell Me, How Did You Stay Focused?

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Hi!
I am reading through threads and see that other newbies are also struggling with FOCUS. For the successful internet marketers out there, how do you stay focused??

Right now I own 3 websites, 1 is with a partner. I have a plan and when I don't see results, I wonder if it's an effective plan...when most likely I need to just keep moving forward. Or, even worse is when I reach the mental blocks and don't know what to write, get sidetracked or procrastinate.
I am actually working with a coach and find it very helpful except that the in-between times is when all the problems start!

Are there mantras you use? Some other way to keep yourself accountable to yourself and the plan you set out? How do you know when, yes, it really IS time to change direction?

Thanks!
#focused #stay
  • Profile picture of the author SMSWriter
    I will pass on to you a suggestion that a WF member named Raydal, passed on to me.

    If your coach hasn't instructed you to yet, read and religiously apply the instructions in the book "Psycho-Cybernetics""Psycho-Cybernetics" by Maxwell Maltz.

    Here's an Amazon linkAmazon link to the book.

    I am the embodiment of 'lack of focus' (and 'lack of self-confidence'). This book steadied my mind and changed my life.

    Shanen
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  • Profile picture of the author Joseph Robinson
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    A strict daily schedule has worked well for me. Of course, you actually need the self discipline to be able to follow it. If you really want to succeed and reach your goals, that discipline should come naturally. If you can't seem to find it, then you have a problem on your hands.
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  • Profile picture of the author John F Kennedy
    A few pointers...

    1. Turn off your internet browser when working on something unless you need to be online to do it.
    2. Have affirmations that remind you what you're trying to achieve.
    3. Set yourself realistic daily tasks
    4. If you are struggling to complete something because of lack of technical know how, find someone who can either show you or do it for you.
    5. Meditate daily morning and night reiterating what you are trying to achieve

    Good luck
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    • Profile picture of the author Hypericum
      Shanen, thank you for the book recommendation. It looks like a potentially very useful one for me.

      A strict daily schedule has worked well for me. Of course, you actually need the self discipline to be able to follow it. If you really want to succeed and reach your goals, that discipline should come naturally. If you can't seem to find it, then you have a problem on your hands.
      Joe, thank you, yes I seem to get stuck somewhere between following the plan and evaluating the results, as in I begin to evaluate before doing what I set out to do. I do appreciate the idea of a schedule and something that has helped me in the past is actually setting times for each task.

      Also, John, your post is very helpful to me as well. I will save those reminders. About turning off my browser, totally spot on, it's too easy to check on this or that. Often I use the net to research and then can get lost. The realistic tasks is super helpful too, as I tend to way overshoot my goals for the day and when I don't reach them feel quite discouraged.

      Thanks so much for the reality checks!
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    • Profile picture of the author ChrisEllgood
      Originally Posted by John F Kennedy View Post

      A few pointers...

      1. Turn off your internet browser when working on something unless you need to be online to do it.
      2. Have affirmations that remind you what you're trying to achieve.
      3. Set yourself realistic daily tasks
      4. If you are struggling to complete something because of lack of technical know how, find someone who can either show you or do it for you.
      5. Meditate daily morning and night reiterating what you are trying to achieve

      Good luck
      Great advice.
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      • Profile picture of the author Hypericum
        Persistence, that's a great quality. I see it (experience it, haha) in my toddler son and always say what a great quality it is though at the time hard to deal with.

        I have been thinking about this thread and realized a few things. One is that my goal was too big (to grow my 2 sites into authority sites) so that was really holding me up, trying to go from a to z in a few steps. I was thinking about how when my goal was to get the sites up and running I was able to be super focused and effective. Then they were up and I sort of got lost, like ok, now what? I did some monetizing and have seen some results but nothing stellar. So, I've scaled down to a shorter term goal of $30/day, $900 per month and what steps can I take now to get there.
        The other is that I also have a hard time focusing on the "how" as we all know there are so many different methods, it is hard for me to stick with one.

        Joe, lol, right, that is called second guessing, should I be doing it this way, oh I read about another way to do it that'll probably be better- that trainwreck of thought. For example, I have some Adsense ads on one site and I've gotten 3 very low-paying clicks so far. So my initial reaction is to evaluate that as a no-go and try something else rather than playing with ad placement, putting more ads on different pages, overall just really staying with the initial action. At what point do I really know it's a no-go, I'm not sure. Just talking this out here has been helpful and I'm going to stick with what I've set forth so far.
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    • Profile picture of the author hireava
      Originally Posted by John F Kennedy View Post

      A few pointers...

      1. Turn off your internet browser when working on something unless you need to be online to do it.
      2. Have affirmations that remind you what you're trying to achieve.
      3. Set yourself realistic daily tasks
      4. If you are struggling to complete something because of lack of technical know how, find someone who can either show you or do it for you.
      5. Meditate daily morning and night reiterating what you are trying to achieve

      Good luck
      I totally agree! Very well said!
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  • Profile picture of the author alksense
    Schedule in daily times that you will focus on work.. however many hours it may be. You can work outside of those hours if you choose to, but make sure you are ALWAYS working in the time you define as "work time".

    I have multiple projects going on at the same time so I schedule in a couple of hours for each project. I can't just say "today I'm going to work from 11am-3pm" because I will find myself bouncing around from project to project and not really accomplishing what needs to be done.

    If you're in your scheduled work time and you find yourself procrastinating just ask yourself "Do I have what it takes to be successful?"... if the answer is yes, you will put in the time and energy required and the results and rewards will come. If you keep procrastinating then you either need to move onto another niche that you may be more interested in or go get a job and make someone else rich.

    I read a great interview in INC a few years back from a successful online entrepreneur (can't remember the name right now) but they asked him what it takes to be successful when working for yourself. He said the hardest part is working even when you're not motivated and you know you could be doing anything else. If you can get past that and on focus on your work, even when you're not inspired, you will be amazed of what you have accomplished when you look back on it. It doesn't take inspiration, it takes persistence.
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  • Profile picture of the author Joseph Robinson
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    Hypericum,

    How exactly are you evaluating results before even performing the intended action?
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  • Profile picture of the author stopper
    One way to stay focused it to have designated times for everything and complete a step before moving to the next also the warrior forum is a great aid in staying focused as long as you get there after your other tasks
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  • Profile picture of the author evansjanet
    great advice
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    great advice...
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  • Profile picture of the author TamilYoung
    1. First thing I would suggest is that you unsubscribe of all those (atleast most of) lists where you get lot of distracting mails on all those shiny objects not allowing you to stay focused.

    2. Next thing is that prepare a list of TO DO things every night before going to sleep so that they get into your subconscious and make you accomplish them next day.

    3. Try using Pomodoro technique, that works for me and should work for anybody to stay focused!
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  • Profile picture of the author JasonChoi
    Originally Posted by Hypericum View Post

    Hi!
    I am reading through threads and see that other newbies are also struggling with FOCUS. For the successful internet marketers out there, how do you stay focused??

    Right now I own 3 websites, 1 is with a partner. I have a plan and when I don't see results, I wonder if it's an effective plan...when most likely I need to just keep moving forward. Or, even worse is when I reach the mental blocks and don't know what to write, get sidetracked or procrastinate.
    I am actually working with a coach and find it very helpful except that the in-between times is when all the problems start!

    Are there mantras you use? Some other way to keep yourself accountable to yourself and the plan you set out? How do you know when, yes, it really IS time to change direction?

    Thanks!
    Much of what was said is good advice. This may help as well:

    1) Cut out all temptations (I know this isn't exactly easy since the mind is conditioned to fall into them). This will require will power and determination. If your desire to be successful is greater than your temptations, then you can stick to your goals. Having a compelling reason to have your goal can keep you focused.

    If the above doesn't work, then consider a radically different perspective:

    2) Take your focus off of trying to get money and focus on contributing towards people's lives. That's how you get paid anyway. Money comes when you provide a product/service that makes them happy.

    Focus on putting a smile on your customer's face. Do something to bless them. In other words, think beyond just making money from the websites. Contribute towards people's needs through your website. I recommend reading this forum post I wrote: http://www.warriorforum.com/mind-war...e-instead.html

    3) Find a way to clear your issues that are driving your procrastination. There is likely some subtle fear of failure or lack of self-confidence driving your procrastination. Shanen Smith mentioned Psychocybernetics. That is good book to change your self-image, but it requires doing, not just reading.
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    • Profile picture of the author helpmefindmyself
      Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

      Much of what was said is good advice. This may help as well:

      1) Cut out all temptations (I know this isn't exactly easy since the mind is conditioned to fall into them). This will require will power and determination. If your desire to be successful is greater than your temptations, then you can stick to your goals. Having a compelling reason to have your goal can keep you focused.

      If the above doesn't work, then consider a radically different perspective:

      2) Take your focus off of trying to get money and focus on contributing towards people's lives. That's how you get paid anyway. Money comes when you provide a product/service that makes them happy.

      Focus on putting a smile on your customer's face. Do something to bless them. In other words, think beyond just making money from the websites. Contribute towards people's needs through your website. I recommend reading this forum post I wrote: http://www.warriorforum.com/mind-war...e-instead.html

      3) Find a way to clear your issues that are driving your procrastination. There is likely some subtle fear of failure or lack of self-confidence driving your procrastination. Shanen Smith mentioned Psychocybernetics. That is good book to change your self-image, but it requires doing, not just reading.
      Jason Choi, I found your response very helpful. It really hit the nail on the head for me. Thank you.
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      • Profile picture of the author Hypericum
        Thanks everyone for the great suggestions. I'm happy to report that I've implemented some of them and already am feeling back on track (well until my Adwords ads were disapproved :p). I have set a financial goal and that is giving me something to work towards.

        Jason, I appreciate what you wrote about. That is foundational to the work I do. I have been serving in various ways in my field for years now and the IM is a continuation of that (and I expect it to be a profitable one so that I can serve more). There is a balance with serving and making money.

        I found that it also helps to write things down and post them where I see them.
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  • Good thing you have your mentor, but still its up to you to have the right mindset.
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  • Profile picture of the author Anita Clark
    Removing and/or closing as many distractions as possible (Internet, Email, other programs, TV, etc.) always works for me.
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  • Profile picture of the author zelgly2
    sleep well in the night. Sit in a quit room and start your days work. plan your work before and set a goal.
    turn off all distracting programs like gtalk, Facebook as told etc.
    when you look up internet for some details do not jump to some adds or some unwanted things and waste time. look for only the needed details. this will save hell lot of time and you can stay focused.
    if you are tired take some time off and watch some TV or listen to some good music. best time off is good sleep for some time, which will relax you and give a fresh mind to start your work again. I think this should help.
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  • Profile picture of the author HolyWarrior
    I listen to personal motivators, such as Tony Robbins, James Ray, Brian Tracy, and others. I also think about how painful it's going to be for me if I DON'T get things done. I'd hate myself if I did nothing, and in the end, the pain is much greater than procrastinating.
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  • Profile picture of the author cardwelldoris
    Good thing you have your mentor, but still its up to you to have the right mindset.

    i agree to this thought....
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  • Profile picture of the author Cyber Rankings
    Set yourself

    Daily Goals
    Weekly Goals
    Monthly Goals

    And don't let any excuses stop you from completing your daily goals. Wether it's build a new site or write 5 more pages for your e-book. You will be so suprised how much you can get done in one day. Most people could do a weeks work in one day if they just let themselves stay focused.

    By the sounds of it you keep secound guessing yourself, that's something you need to stop if you wan't to be more productive not to mention it's just not healthy. Believe in yourself and your plans.
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  • Profile picture of the author iamnotfrankkern
    Moving on from people which are holding you back will be a great weight lifted on your shoulders. I’ve noticed that when I move on from specific aspects of my life that are preventing me from progressing, new ones start to come into my life which help accelerate my goals.
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  • Profile picture of the author Rick Britton
    Learn to generate states...

    this does take time but in the recesses of your memory there will be a time in your life when you were as focused as you are capable of becoming

    what you need do is access the pathway that lead you to that state and then practice switching into it at will.

    This is an enormous area of study but one that pays off with effort

    All the resources you will ever need are locked away in your unconscious, unlocking them is the answer
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  • Profile picture of the author robert88
    Be able to crank out declares...

    this specific can take some time but in the particular recesses of your respective memory there'll be an occasion in your own life if you have been because aimed while able to turning into

    what you require do will be accessibility the particular walkway of which connect you with of which express after which it process moving over involved with it with will.

    That is a large part of study nevertheless one which takes care of together with attempt

    All the means you can ever before need tend to be closed aside with your unconscious, unlocking these individuals could be the answer.
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    • Profile picture of the author Larry Carter
      The book that Shanen recommended by Maxwell Maltz is a great book but I would also look into this subforum for techniques such as subliminals and maybe brainentrainment. Something that would give you an edge.
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