My life changing/horrible experience with playing with my mind

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I picked up this book

"how to get lots of money for anything fast" by staurt lichtman and joe vitale

I read this ebook thoroughly and implemented it in past 15 days. From past 15 days, my life has totally changed. I am in such a shock that i dont even know how my life totally changed in past 15 days.

When i picked this ebook, i had one goal in my mind. Very small one and i wanted to check whether this stuff works or not. I wanted "$500 extra, so that i should help out my gf financially".

So, after reading and implementing, i came up with my own subconscious story and began writing it down on my paper. something like this

"May is best month for me in 2012. I made lot of money, i touched $10k mark. I called my gf and told her, i will like to contribute $500 in your installment. I am asking her loan account number. I am roaming in my house and called my employee. Gave him $500 and after an hour, he came back with slip and said "sir, i deposited the money"


I wrote these lines 100 times. Than started visualizing it using all my 5 senses. I dont know what happened to me, my whole persona changed. I started working like mad. I am introvert, but i picked phone and started doing 50 calls daily. I started knocking every opportunity for next 4 days.

5th day, my gf called me. She said "Ankur, i want to break relationship. I am in love with other boy now. dont want to marry you"

My heart just stopped for a moment. It was worse moment of my life, the girl whom i loved for 5 years, just dumped me. She said "Ankur, i have found boy, who got better financial status. My loan gives me headache and i am sure, my new bf will help me out in clearing my debts."

In next 2 days, i made enough money, that i had $500 extra to pay her installment. I called my employee and he deposited money.

So, i eventually, fulfilled what i wrote on paper. But my relationship was dead now. I was in more pain, than ever.

Than, i again picked pen paper and wrote "In july, me and my gf is marrying and we all are really happy". But, next 10 days, she constantly ignored me, became very rude.

I have house now, money for marriage, we were waiting for this day from past 5 years and now when everything is ready, she is gone.

Anyway, next 8 days i kept writing these same sentences. This time, i made modification and added, on my wedding day, everybody is really happy.

However, after 10 days of her being rude. Her constantly reminding me, that she will marry whosoever will have more money, ancestral property and doesnt care for his family.

It was too much for me and i realized, she is so much shallow, even if i bring her back in my life, i will be a complete looser.

I stopped writing sentences "me and my gf marrying.....". Because, even if this does happen, i was sure, i will not be happy with such a shallow person. She has totally changed over the years and she is not really whom i fell in love with.

I was extremely hurt. So much so, i didnt eat anything for next 5 days, not even a single piece of bread. Everytime i think of her, i feel like vomiting because of stress.

Just 2 days back, i picked up this book again, started reading it again. The book clearly said, whatever you demand from yourself, please write "This thing should be good for me and everyone else". Clearly, i didnt write this part in my first go. That was my mistake.

So, 2 days back, when i was in complete stress. I again picked pen and paper and wrote down "I have full well established seo company in month of august and i have 50 employees under me. I am enjoying my work and i am very happy working on my client's seo projects. This is going to be fun for me , my family and friends".

Now, i am feeling better. Dont think about her so much. Though, when i am alone, i do feel pain in my heart. But, i am back to my work, working diligently with my employees and after 15 days i guess, today i smiled.

So, before doing these sort of unconscious experiments, be very very careful. Be careful, what you wish for. You dont know, how your unconscious mind will behave and act.

I can even say may be this is all a great coincidence. But, still, be very very careful with how you play with your unconscious mind. In many moments, even we dont know what we want from life.
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  • Profile picture of the author Viramara
    Yay, congratulations on ridding off a chick who only seeks a man for his money and status. Consider this had saved you thrice : 1) get rid of a gold digger, 2) establishing your new business to a new stretch, 3) stretching yourself to beyond the limit.

    I like Joe Vitale's books. Never heard this one. Thanks for the head's up
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  • Interesting post.
    You must be careful what you ask for, as you may actually get it.

    Everything should end in "For the highest good of all concerned"

    By the way, that is a great book, and I highly recommend it.
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  • Profile picture of the author ryanman
    Originally Posted by ankur sharma View Post

    I picked up this book



    So, before doing these sort of unconscious experiments, be very very careful. Be careful, what you wish for. You dont know, how your unconscious mind will behave and act.
    Hey Ankur I - Did you add the sentence "Please make it happens in ways that are for the highest good of me and of all concerned"? Your sub-conscious will only work in according with the commands you give it and it's important that you add this statement at the end.

    Also, based on what you've said so far, it appears that some part of you still didn't believe all this was possible for you. As in was your goal a perfect 10 on the desirability scale and was it below 5 on the difficulty scale?

    Another important point I'd like to mention is this - NEVER SET A GOAL WHICH INVOLVES THE ACTIONS OF OTHER PEOPLE.

    Because deep down your sub-conscious knows that there is an element of uncertainty involved and when that happens, no matter how many times you write down your goal, you will always have this doubt at the back of your mind. So, the goal you set with you and your girlfriend being together happily married actually backfired.
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    • Profile picture of the author PaulMcGregor
      The follow up responses are spot on. I'm always careful what I wish for and i'm always grateful for what i've got. I'm always thankful in meditation and whatever I want to achieve I write down as if i've already achieved it. Great story dude
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      • Profile picture of the author webazony
        It's funny how I found this post, exactly when I was thinking of trying my own cybernetic transposition.
        I have just read the book and I was going to start writing my first target. I'm so GLAD that I found your honest insights on this one. Now I'll be very careful of what I wish for and work with my unconscious better to make my dream come true.
        Thank you so much for sharing!!!

        p.s. I really feel for you. Make another Metastory of finding your soul mate and she will come your way sooner than you think
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        • Profile picture of the author ankur sharma
          Originally Posted by webazony View Post

          It's funny how I found this post, exactly when I was thinking of trying my own cybernetic transposition.
          I have just read the book and I was going to start writing my first target. I'm so GLAD that I found your honest insights on this one. Now I'll be very careful of what I wish for and work with my unconscious better to make my dream come true.
          Thank you so much for sharing!!!

          p.s. I really feel for you. Make another Metastory of finding your soul mate and she will come your way sooner than you think

          Lol, you are right. But i want to concentrate on my work for sometime. I want to live for myself. I want to spend on myself, i want to make myself happy. From past 5 years, 24 hours i use to think how to make her happy. I have to recharge myself and get back on track.
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    • Profile picture of the author ankur sharma
      Originally Posted by ryanman View Post

      Hey Ankur I - Did you add the sentence "Please make it happens in ways that are for the highest good of me and of all concerned"? Your sub-conscious will only work in according with the commands you give it and it's important that you add this statement at the end.

      Also, based on what you've said so far, it appears that some part of you still didn't believe all this was possible for you. As in was your goal a perfect 10 on the desirability scale and was it below 5 on the difficulty scale?

      Another important point I'd like to mention is this - NEVER SET A GOAL WHICH INVOLVES THE ACTIONS OF OTHER PEOPLE.

      Because deep down your sub-conscious knows that there is an element of uncertainty involved and when that happens, no matter how many times you write down your goal, you will always have this doubt at the back of your mind. So, the goal you set with you and your girlfriend being together happily married actually backfired.
      No, i did not, i think thats where i made a huge mistake. Regarding the desiribility scale, it was really confusing for me. When i read or write particular paragraph, i felt extremely excited and motivated. I imagined, this is happening right now. But, sometime when i was feelng low (like gf becoming more and more rude), my desiribility scale use to fall down to 2. But, i didnt know what to do for it.

      Now, you said do not undertake goals which requires action from other people. I didnt know about this. But i thought this should work for everything. So, i actually wrote what i actually wanted from life.

      I am still shaken up. Lol, i think i wrote this whole stuff 300 times in 4,5 days. I just dumped that notebook in trash. But, still today i am shaken up by what my unconscious can do.
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  • Profile picture of the author Evocess
    That is really a horrible experience. Congrats men.
    Just keep yourself in the track of moving on. Girls are always their.
    Cheers!
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  • Profile picture of the author JD Ways
    Thanks for your inspiring post!! I'm glad you got rid of that gold digger!! You ARE better off!! Your going to get a better girl!! AND you'll always get more money!!
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  • Profile picture of the author Luke Frisby
    What about women, always be careful and remember that you're the one for her, you're the best thing she can get, you're the finest guy she could ever met, but she has to fit your criteria. Women are an addition to life for a successful guy.

    REMEMBER, the worst experience is your best motivation and best teacher!
    Cheers!
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    • Profile picture of the author ankur sharma
      Originally Posted by Luke Frisby View Post

      What about women, always be careful and remember that you're the one for her, you're the best thing she can get, you're the finest guy she could ever met, but she has to fit your criteria. Women are an addition to life for a successful guy.

      REMEMBER, the worst experience is your best motivation and best teacher!
      Cheers!

      Agree, i guess she took me for granted. May be, she got bored of me. May be she need some time off for me, 5 years is heck lot of time.
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  • Profile picture of the author JasonChoi
    Hi Ankur, thanks for sharing your story! I encourage you to not believe a word I say, as the following is just my point of view. Just take it for checking and see if it makes sense to you:

    Believe it or not, what you've demonstrated is the law of attraction.

    While the breakup may feel terrible, it may actually have happened so that you would be freed from a dysfunctional relationship. The fact that you felt so much pain suggests you had a lot of insecurities at the time that had to be cleared.

    Your realization that she was 'shallow' (in reality she's stuck in her emotions and thinks money will give her security/happiness) made it clear to you that she isn't who you really want to be with. In that sense, you gained tremendous clarity on the type of relationship you do want (which is one that doesn't involve such insecure women!).

    In the past, you resonated with your ex-girlfriend, but as times changed, perhaps because of your own growth and her lack of growth, the two of you no longer match. This is exactly what happened with me and my ex. She and I were growing apart from each other as my life began changing dramatically.

    So what if your experience isn't to be feared but rather embraced as a lesson on accepting yourself?

    As you find greater acceptance of yourself, you will naturally attract women who resonate with you.

    And this is exactly the same with attracting clients and customers. As you change your internal issues, you will naturally attract client/customers who resonate with you. In other words, greater acceptance of yourself makes you a better businessman.
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    • Profile picture of the author ankur sharma
      Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

      Hi Ankur, thanks for sharing your story! I encourage you to not believe a word I say, as the following is just my point of view. Just take it for checking and see if it makes sense to you:

      Believe it or not, what you've demonstrated is the law of attraction.

      While the breakup may feel terrible, it may actually have happened so that you would be freed from a dysfunctional relationship. The fact that you felt so much pain suggests you had a lot of insecurities at the time that had to be cleared.

      Your realization that she was 'shallow' (in reality she's stuck in her emotions and thinks money will give her security/happiness) made it clear to you that she isn't who you really want to be with. In that sense, you gained tremendous clarity on the type of relationship you do want (which is one that doesn't involve such insecure women!).

      In the past, you resonated with your ex-girlfriend, but as times changed, perhaps because of your own growth and her lack of growth, the two of you no longer match. This is exactly what happened with me and my ex. She and I were growing apart from each other as my life began changing dramatically.

      So what if your experience isn't to be feared but rather embraced as a lesson on accepting yourself?

      As you find greater acceptance of yourself, you will naturally attract women who resonate with you.

      And this is exactly the same with attracting clients and customers. As you change your internal issues, you will naturally attract client/customers who resonate with you. In other words, greater acceptance of yourself makes you a better businessman.

      Jason, thanks for stopping by and sharing your views. I do agree with you on some level, but at same time i disagree with some things. No matter who you choose in entire world, there will be pain and happiness involved in relationship. Happiness and sadness is part of same coin. If you feel, you will get happiness with particlar person, there will be hard times as well.

      When you say " I love that person" , you just created a moment where you will say " i hate that person". Now, i wanted to create a relationship beyond that. I made huge mistakes in relationship. I should have tackled few things differently. But, my love for her was beyond feeling of happiness. I knew, if i accept her as she is, i will be spiritually higher and i will gain wisdom that "Human being cannot control anything".

      However, law of attraction may also hold true here. Because, my "Human side" wanted to get rid of her. Many times, i prayed that she should be out of my life. But, if your partner is money minded, should you leave her? Having money mindedness is illness. She had troubled childhood and thats why may be she is greedy.

      Should i leave her because she is ill? No, i wont and i never leave her. She left em, thats her decision and still, i respect her. For me, my love is pure for her. She want to come back to me, i am fine with it. She want to marry someone else, i am ok with it also (though it will pain somewhere).

      I know, i gave her max i could give to her. Every minute, every hour, i thought about giving her happiness. I couldnt fulfill her material happiness, i am sorry for that, but i wont cry on this issue. Because i know, i tried hard.

      Now, other part is law of attraction. Seriously, i have no clue how to control my thoughts. I am trying every day to think little more positive. Is there any specific trick for this?

      Thanks
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      • Profile picture of the author JasonChoi
        Hi ankur,

        Yes there is! It's by asking good questions!

        But first let me explain a few things and feel free to disagree with me

        I believe our happiness is really 100% our responsibility. Why? Because happiness doesn't come from another person. It can't. If you depend on someone else for happiness, that is making yourself a victim. If you still feel some pain regarding the breakup or if you feel terrible about her marrying another man, then you're still subconsciously seeking something from outside of yourself. It is a subtle way of saying, "I need _____ to be happy"

        What I'm suggesting is that happiness is already inside of you.

        Happiness or staying positive is based on your focus of attention. In other words, to stop being a victim of your circumstances, change your focus of attention and your will gain mastery over the mind.

        If you focus on what's right, your mind will see the good. If you focus on what's wrong, then your mind will show you what's wrong (and many people do this unconsciously very often throughout the day). Therein lies the 'secret':

        By asking empowering questions like, "Why is my life getting better everyday?" (I HIGHLY encourage you to ask this daily!) or "What can I be grateful for today?", you will notice it shifts your focus and this is a major key to staying positive consistently.

        One time I felt very jealous over a woman. So I asked myself, "Why can I be grateful for this jealousy?" and for 20 minutes I just thought about it in the midst of the pain. To my surprise very interesting answers began to surface and the pain began to decrease just by doing this!

        It led me to see that I was depending on her for my happiness. I also realized the type of woman I truly wanted. I had several other unique answers that came to me, but I don't recall all of them.

        So, unconditional happiness is dependent upon the power of your focus. It's based on your perception of the world, not the actual circumstances. Since questions can direct your focus, you can change your perception of the world.

        My mentor put it this way: "When you change the way you look at things, the things around you change" and I really believe this!

        Other questions to shift your focus:

        "How amazing can this day truly be?"
        "What is the best that can happen today?"
        "What is good about this?"
        "How amazing can this situation turn out?" (use this when your mind tries to assume the situation is terrible)

        Hope this helps!
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        • Profile picture of the author ankur sharma
          Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

          Hi ankur,

          Yes there is! It's by asking good questions!

          But first let me explain a few things and feel free to disagree with me

          I believe our happiness is really 100% our responsibility. Why? Because happiness doesn't come from another person. It can't. If you depend on someone else for happiness, that is making yourself a victim. If you still feel some pain regarding the breakup or if you feel terrible about her marrying another man, then you're still subconsciously seeking something from outside of yourself. It is a subtle way of saying, "I need _____ to be happy"

          What I'm suggesting is that happiness is already inside of you.

          Happiness or staying positive is based on your focus of attention. In other words, to stop being a victim of your circumstances, change your focus of attention and your will gain mastery over the mind.

          If you focus on what's right, your mind will see the good. If you focus on what's wrong, then your mind will show you what's wrong (and many people do this unconsciously very often throughout the day). Therein lies the 'secret':

          By asking empowering questions like, "Why is my life getting better everyday?" (I HIGHLY encourage you to ask this daily!) or "What can I be grateful for today?", you will notice it shifts your focus and this is a major key to staying positive consistently.

          One time I felt very jealous over a woman. So I asked myself, "Why can I be grateful for this jealousy?" and for 20 minutes I just thought about it in the midst of the pain. To my surprise very interesting answers began to surface and the pain began to decrease just by doing this!

          It led me to see that I was depending on her for my happiness. I also realized the type of woman I truly wanted. I had several other unique answers that came to me, but I don't recall all of them.

          So, unconditional happiness is dependent upon the power of your focus. It's based on your perception of the world, not the actual circumstances. Since questions can direct your focus, you can change your perception of the world.

          My mentor put it this way: "When you change the way you look at things, the things around you change" and I really believe this!

          Other questions to shift your focus:

          "How amazing can this day truly be?"
          "What is the best that can happen today?"
          "What is good about this?"
          "How amazing can this situation turn out?" (use this when your mind tries to assume the situation is terrible)

          Hope this helps!
          I got your point. You are saying my happiness shouldnt depend upon how particular person behaves. I completely agree with you. I guess, i need more meditation, more relaxation and more peace, before i reach this level. Thanks for sharing the video. Now, let me watch it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Gerald Arno
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    Congrats on your success! And it sounds like you reached a breakthrough in your business as well.

    I´ve found that once one area of your life drastically improves, other areas improve as well. It´s almost inevitably.

    I love how you talked about the visualization process.. Very few people know about it and even fewer people do something about it. But it´s an indespensable tool to creating YOUR SUCCESS.

    Some people don´t believe in visualization, affirmations, gratitude and think that it´s bull****. It´s not bull****!

    Whatever you believe to be true for you is up to you. So why not decide to see objectives and tasks as true that can bring you the most success?

    Easy game..
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    • Profile picture of the author ankur sharma
      Originally Posted by GeraldGigerl View Post

      Congrats on your success! And it sounds like you reached a breakthrough in your business as well.

      I´ve found that once one area of your life drastically improves, other areas improve as well. It´s almost inevitably.

      I love how you talked about the visualization process.. Very few people know about it and even fewer people do something about it. But it´s an indespensable tool to creating YOUR SUCCESS.

      Some people don´t believe in visualization, affirmations, gratitude and think that it´s bull****. It´s not bull****!

      Whatever you believe to be true for you is up to you. So why not decide to see objectives and tasks as true that can bring you the most success?

      Easy game..
      Its one of the strongest thing anyone can say right now in this forum. But seriously, what happened with me. Its crystal clear. Think, visualize and get it
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  • Profile picture of the author JasonChoi
    ankur, I think you will like this presentation!


    Shawn Achor explains around the 8 minute mark about how 90% of our happiness is predicted how the brain processes the world!
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  • Profile picture of the author fixxidotnet
    respect, but i stopped reading after " in 15 days changed everything"

    in my experience takes 6 months for any visible change in business or behavior ...

    could be just me .. extreme circumstances can have a profound effect ... but not 15 days.
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    • Profile picture of the author ankur sharma
      Originally Posted by fixxidotnet View Post

      respect, but i stopped reading after " in 15 days changed everything"

      in my experience takes 6 months for any visible change in business or behavior ...

      could be just me .. extreme circumstances can have a profound effect ... but not 15 days.
      Ever experienced burning? Ever experienced how you behave when your body catch fire? With in 2 seconds your body start doing what you never imagine you will be able to do.

      Ever went into situation when your most prized posession is going far away from you? You will run in 1 minute.May be i am too emotional and too sensitive. But i did feel profound change in me with in 15 days. Like, i tried my whole life to get up early at 5 a.m. Now, i get up early every day. Its just ne of the thing. But yes, you can change overnight.
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  • Profile picture of the author TheOneCommand
    Hi I think that your girlfriend leaving you was the fulfillment of your desire to be married to your soul mate. We never know what good can come from our experiences, especially the painful ones, but good does come just as surely as the sun rises every day. You shifted to a higher vibration she stayed put. Now you are ready for your right match.

    I witness your joy and happiness in advance.
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  • Profile picture of the author hireava
    Great share of insight ankur! Very inspirational and motivational....and mos of all very much appreciated!
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  • Profile picture of the author SmallFry
    I know that you're hurting right now, but it's actually a great thing that you found this out about her * before * you married her. You don't really want a woman like that, do you ? Relationships are supposed to be based on love, trust, and respect...not finding the person with the most money. If she wants more money, why can't she try to make some herself ?? If this helps at all, I spent 10 years in a relationship that became unbearable. I left a couple of years back, & yes, it did hurt...

    ...but I met a man last year who is the polar opposite of my ex. He treats me with kindness, respect, & love every day, & I realize now that I'm extra - grateful for this man that I have now * because * of my awful relationship before. Another thing that I'm thankful for is that I know what I know now not to ever let a man treat me badly again, so it was a real learning experience for me, as opposed to looking at it as 10 years down the drain.

    My point is, when you find the right woman for you ( and you WILL ) & she treats you like a human being instead of a walking dollar sign, you'll look back on this, then look at your new girlfriend & you'll feel extra - happy because of what you're going through now. So keep your chin up & congrats on getting rid of that toxic woman !! You deserve better anyway :-)
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  • Profile picture of the author rgeraldes
    Thanks for that post SmallFry and other posts. I spent 4 years in a relationship and i respected my ex a lot and our four years were very very good but she wanted more fun and drinks, and going out with her friends that had boyfriends and now they didnot have, I wanted it too but she didnot have a strong personality to say what she wanted and i tried to do my best but looked like it wasn't good enough, and instead of trying to make our relationship better, she decided to leave me and since that time im having difficulties to let it go because she is just doing crazy things and didnot respect me after she left me.
    I really would like to forget her because she doesnt deserve me but we had fantastic moments during the four years, thats why its difficult to forget.

    Do you have any advice?

    Thanks
    Richard
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    • Profile picture of the author SmallFry
      Originally Posted by rgeraldes View Post

      Thanks for that post SmallFry and other posts. I spent 4 years in a relationship and i respected my ex a lot and our four years were very very good but she wanted more fun and drinks, and going out with her friends that had boyfriends and now they didnot have, I wanted it too but she didnot have a strong personality to say what she wanted and i tried to do my best but looked like it wasn't good enough, and instead of trying to make our relationship better, she decided to leave me and since that time im having difficulties to let it go because she is just doing crazy things and didnot respect me after she left me.
      I really would like to forget her because she doesnt deserve me but we had fantastic moments during the four years, thats why its difficult to forget.

      Do you have any advice?

      Thanks
      Richard
      It's definitely a tough situation when you're with someone for a long time then they're not there, no matter how bad they were...you're going through a big adjustment right now & it's natural to only remember the good, but what I did was every time I started thinking about all of the good times, I would make myself remember the bad times, & that they far outnumbered the good !! Trust me, it's much better being alone right now than with someone who is awful for you & adds nothing good to your life.

      It also helps to figure out what you learned from your bad relationship...there's always something...in your case, it might be that you've learned what kind of woman you * don't * want ( someone only interested in drinking )...so you'll know what to look for now, & what you won't tolerate. I know it's hard right now but your life gets soooo much better when you're not tied to someone who only drags you down. You'll find someone great & more suited to you & then those good memories won't hold a candle to what you'll have then.
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      • Profile picture of the author rgeraldes
        Originally Posted by SmallFry View Post

        It's definitely a tough situation when you're with someone for a long time then they're not there, no matter how bad they were...you're going through a big adjustment right now & it's natural to only remember the good, but what I did was every time I started thinking about all of the good times, I would make myself remember the bad times, & that they far outnumbered the good !! Trust me, it's much better being alone right now than with someone who is awful for you & adds nothing good to your life.

        It also helps to figure out what you learned from your bad relationship...there's always something...in your case, it might be that you've learned what kind of woman you * don't * want ( someone only interested in drinking )...so you'll know what to look for now, & what you won't tolerate. I know it's hard right now but your life gets soooo much better when you're not tied to someone who only drags you down. You'll find someone great & more suited to you & then those good memories won't hold a candle to what you'll have then.
        Thanks for the advice, i'm gonna start focus on the bad side. Better days will come.
        Richard
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        • Profile picture of the author JasonChoi
          Originally Posted by rgeraldes View Post

          Thanks for the advice, i'm gonna start focus on the bad side. Better days will come.
          Richard
          While that does help, I don't know if it's the best solution.

          To release the pain you feel towards your ex, you must let it go.

          My ex and I stayed together for 2.5 years before she decided to break up with me. When it happened, I decided to become friends with her. Believe it or not, within 24 hours of the break up, I was feeling grateful for the relationship that I had.

          The pain was extremely intense until I just kept letting it all go. I would say roughly 90% of the pain was gone within that first day, as I was applying certain techniques to clear the pain.

          The key is to let go of any attachments towards her. A breakup will reveal where your insecurities lie, and it will force you to either face the pain or suppress it. What worked for me was allowing myself to feel the pain and then letting it go.

          Quite often people try to just suppress the pain with drugs, alcohol, food, or whatever, but that just temporarily puts it aside.

          So if you're wondering how I let stuff go, I'll post a video on what you can do. I know what it's like to go through such pain, so I'll post a video response with a technique you can use. In the mean time, this breathing technique might help:

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          • Profile picture of the author rgeraldes
            Originally Posted by JasonChoi View Post

            While that does help, I don't know if it's the best solution.

            To release the pain you feel towards your ex, you must let it go.

            My ex and I stayed together for 2.5 years before she decided to break up with me. When it happened, I decided to become friends with her. Believe it or not, within 24 hours of the break up, I was feeling grateful for the relationship that I had.

            The pain was extremely intense until I just kept letting it all go. I would say roughly 90% of the pain was gone within that first day, as I was applying certain techniques to clear the pain.

            The key is to let go of any attachments towards her. A breakup will reveal where your insecurities lie, and it will force you to either face the pain or suppress it. What worked for me was allowing myself to feel the pain and then letting it go.

            Quite often people try to just suppress the pain with drugs, alcohol, food, or whatever, but that just temporarily puts it aside.

            So if you're wondering how I let stuff go, I'll post a video on what you can do. I know what it's like to go through such pain, so I'll post a video response with a technique you can use. In the mean time, this breathing technique might help:


            Thanks for the advice. I have been using SmallFry advice's and so far its working very well. When i remember the good times, i immediatly try to remember the bad ones with a lot of emotion. I think its a good solution because in my case, she didnot respect me after she left me. I dont want to waste time caring about people that don't deserve.
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    All I can say is work work work. I started earning money when I start working instead of buying WSO's. Most of them are trash to be honest.
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    completely agree with you guys.
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    This is beautiful bro. VERY GOOD SUCCESS STORY haha. F that woman, she doesn't know what she's missing bro. Also, hey, what's the name of the book. Please PM me it. Thanks man.
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    • Profile picture of the author JasonChoi
      Originally Posted by ceogod View Post

      This is beautiful bro. VERY GOOD SUCCESS STORY haha. F that woman, she doesn't know what she's missing bro. Also, hey, what's the name of the book. Please PM me it. Thanks man.
      LOL The title of the book is the 2nd line of the OP!
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    "Be careful what you wish for." - I really like that moral of the story.

    Thanks Ankur for sharing something personal with us.
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    Thanks for your share. My story is quite amazing too! I quit my job, had nothing left until I found the right niche online.
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    Really interesting post, thanks for the share!
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  • Profile picture of the author JasonChoi
    Here's a video I made about heartbreak. I hope this is helpful:

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    It seem you fell in love at first then she change. Was it she that changed or you or was it you that failed to notice the real person at first love.
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    I dont know, more i think about it, more it seems there are no answers.
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  • Profile picture of the author Viramara
    For anyone who experience breakups, you can read a very valuable information here. I don't own this site whatsoever, but it helps me a lot and very straightforward from most self help websites that will just throw out cliche "just be positive thinker" crap. Just lurk around, it's very helpful.

    How to get over someone | 2KnowMySelf

    Ankur, I got the book after reading your post (bye bye War Room, maybe I'll join thee later, LOL! ), and now have read half of it. This book really blown me off!!! This is hands down the simplest law of attraction practice I've ever seen. I'm a longtime student of LOA, have used them but with mixed results because of nagging limiting belief. Can't wait to do the practice now!
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    • Profile picture of the author ankur sharma
      Originally Posted by Viramara View Post

      For anyone who experience breakups, you can read a very valuable information here. I don't own this site whatsoever, but it helps me a lot and very straightforward from most self help websites that will just throw out cliche "just be positive thinker" crap. Just lurk around, it's very helpful.

      How to get over someone | 2KnowMySelf

      Ankur, I got the book after reading your post (bye bye War Room, maybe I'll join thee later, LOL! ), and now have read half of it. This book really blown me off!!! This is hands down the simplest law of attraction practice I've ever seen. I'm a longtime student of LOA, have used them but with mixed results because of nagging limiting belief. Can't wait to do the practice now!

      ha ha, yeah book is awesome. I am glad my experience is adding something positive in your life. Are you single by the way? just kidding
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      Law of attraction on Steroids is what it is
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        I went ahead and signed up for the Super Achiever Coaching Program. It includes coaching with the creator of the method and weekly calls and a bunch of other things. I started reading the book today.

        I'm excited!
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    Hi Ankur, it's nice to see you have taken action on cybernetic transposition strategies. I am too involved with this stuff with three years and its really powerful.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mortis
    You really never know what the future holds...

    Thx for referring the book, i just downloaded it.
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    • Profile picture of the author sanjaysharma
      I have this book with myself and now I am reading it. It is also very complicated one. I am not able to do the dialouging with myself i try about 30+ times but still not able to find out what my Unconscious wanted to tell me.

      Can you share your experience regarding dialouging with your unconscious so that i can do it successfully.


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