Theraputic or destructive?

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Ranting raving and throwing a tantrum on bad news or failure... Theraputic or destructive?

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  • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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    Kind of ironic because your post is destructive. You're asking a rhetorical question and posting a silly picture. Let's keep this place productive and constructive and not break the positive vibe that people have built.
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  • Profile picture of the author GrantFreeman
    I think this is subjective, meaning it depends on the circumstance.

    It's destructive for more than one reason..

    First, ranting and raving, just for the sake of getting attention, or feeling that way because you're fearful. That's the opposite from acting out of a state of love.

    I believe that "you bring about, what you think about".

    For the people that feel like they have to rant & rave for getting approval, they are doing it for all the wrong reasons, and more than likely, they will continue to repeat their bad behavior. They are doing nothing more than inviting more bad feelings, and that's probably what they will get more of.

    It can be theraputic if:

    You are coming from a place of really wanting to understand a particular circumstance, and getting fed up with not knowing what one is doing wrong, so that you can put negative feelings this thing is attached to behind you. In other words, letting off steam, doing something to break the habitual thinking that lead up to this circumstance.

    A "clearing" of the mind, in this case can be therapeutic for the sole purpose of putting whatever is bothering you to rest, and moving forward with your life with a more positive outlook than before. It's a dream of a clearer sky after the storm. A aggressive wish for positive answers, and new beginnings.

    There's much more going on physiologically, but I hope this makes sense.

    ZigZag,

    "Kind of ironic because your post is destructive"

    Are you sure about that?

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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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      Originally Posted by GrantFreeman View Post

      ZigZag,

      "Kind of ironic because your post is destructive"

      Are you sure about that?
      At first glance it appeared to be. However if you're going to provide great information like that then I'm tempted to change my mind. I think that letting off steam can be healthy providing that it's done appropriately.

      Ranting and raving and throwing a tantrum like a child is (obviously) an immature way of dealing with life's challenges.
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  • Profile picture of the author Vincelog
    Originally Posted by Scott Ames View Post

    Ranting raving and throwing a tantrum on bad news or failure... Theraputic or destructive?
    Hmm.. this is a good question. I find that throwing a tantrum can be rather destructive then theraputic. What is your opinion?

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    • Profile picture of the author Scott Ames
      Originally Posted by Vincelog View Post

      Hmm.. this is a good question. I find that throwing a tantrum can be rather destructive then theraputic. What is your opinion?

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      I think it can be both depending on how its done. I know people that keep everything in and it just eats at them everyday. Others vent quickly, then it's over and they are happy again.
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  • Profile picture of the author sanders9632
    Well its really depends on the person.
    I know people who rant and it really makes them calm down and rethink things.
    I also know people who rant and it just makes them even angrier.
    Also if its a baby and their completely cry their eyes out and yelling it can be therapeutic like self soothing. But for a toddler they'll make themselves cry just to get things, which can be destructive.
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  • Profile picture of the author A8ch
    Ranting, raving and throwing a temper tantrum is often viewed as destructive behavior associated with childish immaturity, but it does serve as an important outlet for frustration and anger. It is physiologically therepeutic. Society is more tolerant and understanding of this behavior when children do it, but expects a more disciplined response from adults.

    Taking a few deep breaths, screaming an obscenity or two, going for a run or hitting the bar are some of the ways adults tend to handle stressful situations. If we allow our frustration to consume us, it can be destructive. If we have an appropriate outlet through which to channel it, it can be therepeutic.

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    • Profile picture of the author jcisme
      I always say what's cute with a child is not necessarily cute with an adult. I would say it's a matter of balance. One can't keep everything pent up as that's the road to ulcers and hypertension however a tantrum or rant in the presence of others can be very counter productive. Personally I go outside, walk to a deserted spot and let out a few howls and screams.
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  • Profile picture of the author jayden.fellze
    It is therapeutic for me because it lets you rid off of negative feelings inside you. It somehow relaxes a person's inner self. But you have to be aware that there are people around you who are affected of the attitude.
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