Unsubscribing? Do you feel guilty?

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I have a real problem unsubscribing from stuff. There are two issues:

1) Will I miss something so massively important to me that I will regret it for the rest of my life (bit emotional there LOL)

2) Will the person I subscribed too notice and hate me forever

Of course, I know that both the above are absolutely and completely irrelevant. But to me it shows the power of those autoresponder email sequences.

Everything in IM is about emotion and influence, and it works even despite what people like Gary Vaynerchuck say about people becoming more BS savvy etc.

I mean, we all know that unless you concentrate fully on one single project instead of skipping around one after another, you will more than likely fail. But that is just so damn hard to do when each new tool appears (that you thought was going to make all the difference) is replaced by another, even smarter tool.

Has anyone here ever unsubscribed from everything until they completed a project?
#feel #guilty #unsubscribing
  • Profile picture of the author William Veasley
    I unsubscribe from stuff all the time. I think that we all have our own fears, but we have to be strong so that our fears don't change or decisions/life. You should not care what other people think. Do what you feel your heart wants and do not regret or look back. You are light. You will and can find your own way through the dark.
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    • Profile picture of the author sethdrebitko
      I never feel bad about unsubscribing because it works out for both parties. My rule of thumb is:
      1. Give it one week of emails to decide if I am going to drop them.
      2. More than 1 email a day will probably get dropped.
      3. If I don’t see anything I am interested I unsubscribe.
      The problem with just ignoring the emails or setting them to spam is that you are then costing someone money without even benefiting from the email.
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  • Profile picture of the author blueonblue
    Originally Posted by Techology View Post

    I have a real problem unsubscribing from stuff. There are two issues:

    1) Will I miss something so massively important to me that I will regret it for the rest of my life (bit emotional there LOL)

    2) Will the person I subscribed too notice and hate me forever

    Of course, I know that both the above are absolutely and completely irrelevant. But to me it shows the power of those autoresponder email sequences.

    Everything in IM is about emotion and influence, and it works even despite what people like Gary Vaynerchuck say about people becoming more BS savvy etc.

    I mean, we all know that unless you concentrate fully on one single project instead of skipping around one after another, you will more than likely fail. But that is just so damn hard to do when each new tool appears (that you thought was going to make all the difference) is replaced by another, even smarter tool.

    Has anyone here ever unsubscribed from everything until they completed a project?
    I never feel guilty unsubscribing from a newsletter/email if it no longer suits my needs. To many newsletters that I have subscribed to no longer work for me. They may have started out well, but then the person writing it falls into the trap of selling selling selling and only a few times giving me a message that is actually a message and NOT a sales pitch.

    I don't mind receiving marketing messages but don't do the following.

    1)insult my intelligence--stupid headlines that have nothing to do with the content of the email that you are sending to me.

    2) have emails like George has created a great program that sucks money into your bank account and it links to a crappy Clickbank product.

    3) send me to an offer that has already been pulled down, has a 404 or other such problems.

    4) don't send me things more than once a day.

    5) vary emails--one day a non marketing message, the next day a non marketing message.

    6) be consistent--don't send me a different offer every day, especially if the first day it is to your own product and the next day to an affiliate offer. If looks like you don't have enough confidence in your own product to make you money if I buyit.

    These are reasons why I will unsubscribe from a list, so don't feel guilty. The marketer in most situations does not care if you unsubscribe or not. He has enough chickens in his coop that he doesn't need you but if enough of us did that, then they would get the message.

    IMHO!
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Ten
    I feel no guilt whatsoever.

    If you filter things though using your e-mail program/client then you don't have to subscribe, and you also don't have to see it, either. And... you can go look at it later if you want.
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  • Profile picture of the author LuceMk
    unsubscribe
    when the information that I get is useless and often the exact affiliate offers I unsubscribe
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  • Profile picture of the author infinityplr
    I unsubscribe from a lot of pages, notifications, blogs, and a lot more. However I do not feel guilty. Sometimes I do this because my email is so cluttered with a lot of things I do not find interesting or even useful to me anymore. Mostly it is a personal choice over the matter. In my case I just want to have those important ones to get into me. I don't think they would notice that you unsubscribed from them.

    Yet again it is different if you know they personally, then that would be a problem.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mr Bill
    Without a moment's hesitation or guilt.
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  • Profile picture of the author Joseph Robinson
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    Originally Posted by Techology View Post

    1) Will I miss something so massively important to me that I will regret it for the rest of my life (bit emotional there LOL)
    If the stuff you have seen so far isn't good enough to make you stay on the list, chances are you won't miss anything later.

    Originally Posted by Techology View Post

    2) Will the person I subscribed too notice and hate me forever
    Maybe, maybe not. If they hate you for a simple unsubscribe though, is that the kind of person who's good graces you would want to stay in? Probably not.
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  • Originally Posted by Techology View Post

    I have a real problem unsubscribing from stuff. There are two issues:

    1) Will I miss something so massively important to me that I will regret it for the rest of my life (bit emotional there LOL)

    2) Will the person I subscribed too notice and hate me forever

    Of course, I know that both the above are absolutely and completely irrelevant. But to me it shows the power of those autoresponder email sequences.

    Everything in IM is about emotion and influence, and it works even despite what people like Gary Vaynerchuck say about people becoming more BS savvy etc.

    I mean, we all know that unless you concentrate fully on one single project instead of skipping around one after another, you will more than likely fail. But that is just so damn hard to do when each new tool appears (that you thought was going to make all the difference) is replaced by another, even smarter tool.

    Has anyone here ever unsubscribed from everything until they completed a project?
    Don't feel guilty in doing this, if you are no longer happy with the service or whatever it is feel free to unsubscribe. At least you've tried and there is nothing you can do if you really don't like it anymore.
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  • Profile picture of the author signalGreen
    I unsubscribe if I can do it without them getting a notification about it. OR if they are so popular that it they wouldn't see it if I did.
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  • Profile picture of the author ebiz1
    there is absolutely nothing to feel guilty about.
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  • Profile picture of the author AMABIZ
    No guilt whatsoever, it depends on the reason for unsubscribing. Use your own judgement.
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  • Profile picture of the author Khemosabi
    I got an email the other day from a cronic WSO seller/promoter that actually said "Please unsubscribe!" In his email, he went on about if I wasn't a buyer then I was of no use to him. Gosh. I think you can guess what I did next!
    Don't feel guilty, chances are it goes unnoticed, and most often, you're on multiple lists of theirs, or you're on one of their "partners" lists.
    If it's the same marketer(s) that are always emailing you, then you really have to ask yourself this:
    If they are always marketing their product, or their buddy's product, are the products they're marketing making anyone money? :rolleyes:
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    • Profile picture of the author ImWendy
      Originally Posted by Khemosabi View Post

      I got an email the other day from a cronic WSO seller/promoter that actually said "Please unsubscribe!" In his email, he went on about if I wasn't a buyer then I was of no use to him. Gosh......
      Wow! Not only will I feel not-so-guilty (at all) for unsubscribing, I'd want this joker to KNOW that I unsubscribed! LOL!

      But generally, no. I NEVER feel guilty for unsubscribing from someone's list. Not now, not ever.
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  • Profile picture of the author fannysee
    Wow, I actually do feel a little guilty when I unsubscribe because being in IM myself I can see the disappointment my unsubscription will bring. But having said that more than 1 emails a day is really really annoying!
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  • Profile picture of the author Kragsig
    You can in Gmail mark sender as spam, and it the mail will automatically be moved to spam in the future. This way you don't need to unsuscribe..

    But I think that unsuscribing is necessary to do sometimes. I always give people a fair chance to send me some valuabe information before unsuscribing. If you're not unsuscribing you will just provide other with big unresponsive lists which noone will benefit from... Therefore I will suggest just to unsuscribe instead
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  • Profile picture of the author Evocess
    Unsubscribing is an option. Before you choose to unsubscribe a certain news feed make sure to unsubscribe without any hesitation so that you will not feel any guilt.
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  • Profile picture of the author cloudstrife
    Everyone apart from the OP seem not to have any problem unsubsribing to stuff, myself included. So does anyone else feel like him/her?
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  • Profile picture of the author rbates
    To unsubscribe is to free yourself from:

    WASTED TIME
    USELESS INFORMATION
    UNNECESSARY DISTRACTION
    THE ALMIGHTY EMAIL "BLOAT"

    Unless you are getting information that is substantive, and actually has some
    meaning an value, then you owe it to yourself to do some "Housekeeping".

    If I get inundated with emails every day (sometimes several times a day) that
    sender is GONE! No one can send out good information that often. If you
    absolutely feel that you "Must" keep your emails, then create a folder for them
    and dump them into that folder for a "Rainy Day". Go back to them (if you remember)
    and see if there were any "Golden Nuggets" that you feel were worth keeping.

    What you will likely find is that much of it is crap and at that point you can go ahead
    and unsubscribe without any guilty feelings.

    CHEERS!
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  • Profile picture of the author Larbi Rahmani
    some newsletters are just too spammy so unsubscribing is unquestionable,
    I like to keep things organized and do a little unsubscribing cleaning session from time to time, to avoid that cluttered mail box look.
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  • Profile picture of the author Khemosabi
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    You are so right! I'm still a little angry. If I thought he would actually read it, I would. I'm sure he has a "support" team to handle his incoming mail. I also considered PM'ing him. :rolleyes:
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  • Profile picture of the author AgentHomes
    If you are not getting any value from it then unsubscribe and make room to subscribe to something that might be of more value to you.
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  • Profile picture of the author Aliasjackjones
    You should not feel guilty, if its not providing you any value its not worthy of your attention.
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    • Profile picture of the author Michael Harris
      It depends on the individual list that I'm on..

      Some list owners run too many solo ads,
      and are basically sending emails that go
      to squeeze pages for other marketers..

      This offers little value to the subscriber,
      when I end up on one of these list I usually
      unsubscribe pretty quick..

      Other lists I have been on for 3 or so years,
      they send me offers, their products are good
      and they also provide a lot of value in the
      information they send out..

      I stay on these list, through a fear of loss
      as I don't want to unsubscribe in case I
      miss some "really" important information..
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  • Profile picture of the author Derrick H
    If the information you receive is good and worth while you'll never even question yourself about wanting to unsubscribe...

    However if you even question yourself about unsubscribing then its probably time for you just to unsubscribe...and like many others have said you can always subscribe again if you feel that you are missing out on valuable information.

    My thoughts are ...wait hold on I have to unsubscribe from a spammy newsletter i'll be right back.
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  • Profile picture of the author stopper
    I just unsubscribed from one item last week am still feeling cool about it.
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