It's a cruel world.. I've hidden from it since I was 13. I'm not hiding anymore.

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To be honest. This is going to be the first time I'm ever going to state it to the world.

This is something so personal, that I have never told any of my friends, it took me months to tell my girlfriend, and I've almost never talked about it in my entire life.

My name is Justin Lewis and I have gynecomastia.

Gynecomastia - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Throughout my childhood I tried to hide it, even going to the point of using duct tape to hide it. I got so depressed that I myself considered suicide multiple times due to bullying.


Heck, I remember I would start panicking when the gym teacher told me to change my clothes in the gym locker room... I felt so embarrassed that I didn't tell anyone and failed gym class nearly 3 times. It's also another reason I did so poorly in high school. I would stress out everywhere I went and just wonder who was looking at me or laughing at me.

I just want to state, that in my adulthood (I'm now 23) I now own multiple businesses, have become a fairly popular personality online, and I've turned into the person that I truly feel is who I'm supposed to be... And I feel that gynecomastia had a huge impact on my life.

Even though I was ashamed of myself and I still don't feel so comfortable with it, it's morphed me into the man that I am today.

I'm thankful.

Thanks again for allowing me to express something that has been hidden inside of my mind for years.

P.S. I read this thread and just couldn't bare hiding it anymore.. suicide..

I felt like sharing even more about this.. just because it's haunted me my entire life.

In today's society we are pushed into wanting to be perfect, we are terrified of being different, we even go to extreme's to fit in with the crowd.

Well you know what, screw the crowd. I can't do it any longer.

This is my moment.

Just like the man in the article I shared previously, I taped my chest just so that I wouldn't have to worry about fitting in. It got so bad that I almost died. I had SERIOUS chest problems and because of this, I have developed what seem to be heart/chest/muscle problems.

To think that something so small could cause such a dramatic impact is astonishing to me. I don't hate myself, but I did. I felt so ashamed of my body that I wouldn't play sports, go to the beach, swim in pools, talk to girls, and even got to the point many times where I felt like committing suicide because of being bullied.

I NEVER want anyone else to go to that point in their lives, no matter the situation and I want to say right now, that life gets better. Just because you are faced with obstacles, doesn't mean you can't overcome them. They may seem pretty huge. But at the end of the day, if you have a roof over your head (even if that's in a car like I was in 2008), you're doing a lot better than millions of people in the world.

It's a cruel world.. I've hidden from it since I was 13.

I'm not hiding anymore.

This is who I am and I don't want to be anyone else. Take it or leave it.


For anyone out there that's interested. I attend the Out of the Darkness walks each year in Virginia Beach, Virginia. If you ever want to join me, you are absolutely welcome to. My brother Jonathan actually committed suicide in 2008, knowing this my "likelihood" of committing suicide are greatly increased. I have no intention of ever allowing myself to go down that path again and really do love my life and everyone that's apart of my life and I don't want to see anyone else around me faced with the same situation.

AFSP Out of the Darkness Community Walk - DonorDrive®


EDIT: I shared this with my friends, family, subscribers, followers, fans, and everyone else. I want to wake up tomorrow.. free. Thanks.
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  • Profile picture of the author Will Edwards
    Hey Justin

    I'm really glad you have come to terms with who you are, and your story can inspire and help others too, so (who knows) perhaps that's why you were born with that condition.

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    • Profile picture of the author Justin Says
      As my sister shared on Facebook.




      Originally Posted by Will Edwards View Post

      Hey Justin

      I'm really glad you have come to terms with who you are, and your story can inspire and help others too, so (who knows) perhaps that's why you were born with that condition.

      Will
      I just shared this post with every single one of my friends/family on Facebook, all of my email subscribers, my huge FB following, and everyone I know.

      To be honest, this is one of the first times I have ever felt.. free in my life.

      Maybe some people will laugh at how silly I acted when I was younger.. but that's what I faced when I was growing up. And I'm grateful for everyone that has ever been there for me.

      Especially my mom, sister, girlfriend Jocelyn, and best friend Will. They are my biggest hero's.
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  • Profile picture of the author Elizabeth Fee
    One day I'd love to walk with you at the Out of the Darkness event. This must feel so liberating - very proud of you Justin and proud to know you.
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  • Profile picture of the author Joel Young
    Justin, thank you for posting this. I, too, have had an unusual health issue all my life that didn't make me popular. It shaped me as yours did you. I have strengths others do not have, but I also have weaknesses where others are strong, due to the way people can be so cruel at times. But your story is inspiring, and I'm happy for you that you could "out" yourself and feel freer for it. Good for you! *handshake* (and a manhug if you're not opposed to it )
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  • Profile picture of the author ryanman
    It takes tremendous guts & extreme personal courage to reveal something like that to the world, hats off to you. This should be a lesson to everyone that complete self-acceptance is the only way to be truly free.
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  • Profile picture of the author Aaron Autrey
    It seems like at this point in your life, you are more than secure enough to share this disease with others. Takes balls, man. Good luck with your on going success!
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  • Profile picture of the author ceenote100
    Thank you for sharing your story. You are one brave and strong individual and I applaud you for that.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mark Singletary
    Great attitude Justin. Keep up the good fight. Thanks for the inspiration. Most of us need it because, I dare say, many of us have our own little "secrets" too.

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  • Profile picture of the author andybeveridge
    Justin, thank goodness you do not feel trapped anymore and with the experiences you have had you are now in a position to help so many others.
    Hold your head up and be proud to be who you are.
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  • Profile picture of the author cashtree
    Hey Justin,
    you know I always been a big fan of yours, you're a great guy and I'm sorry you've had to struggle with this thing. I'm glad telling people has been liberating for you though.The internet can be a really negative place sometimes so I hope that if anyone says anything hurtful to you, you don't let it bother you. And please never ever ever ever take your life, that absolutely is not the answer, as I'm sure you know. God Bless you and thanks for being such a giving and awesome dude.
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    • Profile picture of the author Justin Says
      I don't like leaving being by the wayside, so I'm going to try and respond to every single message that is posted int his thread.

      Originally Posted by Elizabeth Fee View Post

      One day I'd love to walk with you at the Out of the Darkness event. This must feel so liberating - very proud of you Justin and proud to know you.
      Elizabeth, you know how I feel about you. You're an inspiration all on your own and I can't yet imagine what it's like to be raising 2 kids and pushing yourself to work from home. You're one of my best friends I really do appreciate the comment. More than anything, I thank you for just being there for me. You rock socks! #

      Originally Posted by Joel Young View Post

      Justin, thank you for posting this. I, too, have had an unusual health issue all my life that didn't make me popular. It shaped me as yours did you. I have strengths others do not have, but I also have weaknesses where others are strong, due to the way people can be so cruel at times. But your story is inspiring, and I'm happy for you that you could "out" yourself and feel freer for it. Good for you! *handshake* (and a manhug if you're not opposed to it )
      *handshake* and lol I'm not opposed to manhugs.

      I don't know what your health issue is or what happened in your life with it, but I can say that I really do appreciate the fact that you're sharing that. It's hard to share things like this, especially if they had such a huge impact on our lives. Sadly we live in a world where it's funny to laugh at others misery or issues.

      I remember when I was at the mall one year with my nephew and there was someone that had lost their legs. They were in a wheelchair next to use going up the elevator and my nephew laughed. I was so angry with him and still to this day try to push it on him to be a better person. I know as a young child, we don't know as much, but we need to raise our children to be better.

      Originally Posted by ryanman View Post

      It takes tremendous guts & extreme personal courage to reveal something like that to the world, hats off to you. This should be a lesson to everyone that complete self-acceptance is the only way to be truly free.
      Ryan I absolutely agree.

      I'll be honest, even after sharing this I'm still going to feel afraid to take my shirt off in public.

      Heck, we have a huge swimming pool out back of the new house we moved into and I barely get into it. But I'm trying. The other day for the first time since before I was 13, I swam in a pool with no shirt. It was just my girlfriend and I, but it was definitely liberating.

      Originally Posted by marketforus1 View Post

      It seems like at this point in your life, you are more than secure enough to share this disease with others. Takes balls, man. Good luck with your on going success!
      Thanks a lot.

      I definitely do feel more secure than I've ever felt in my life and it kind of hurts me to think that I held it in for so long, when it wasn't even that big of a deal. But at the end of the day, I'm happy

      Originally Posted by ceenote100 View Post

      Thank you for sharing your story. You are one brave and strong individual and I applaud you for that.
      I'm glad to have shared my own, I can't wait to see if anyone else wants to share anything for the first time. It was pretty hard to write all of that, tears were going down my face while I was typing. To experience that, makes me open my eyes even more.

      Originally Posted by Mark Singletary View Post

      Great attitude Justin. Keep up the good fight. Thanks for the inspiration. Most of us need it because, I dare say, many of us have our own little "secrets" too.

      Mark
      And that's why I really hope that maybe a few people here or around me will also share secrets that they feel are a huge deal. Some of them may be, but we hide many things that really don't matter as much as we think.

      Our lives are our character.

      Originally Posted by andybeveridge View Post

      Justin, thank goodness you do not feel trapped anymore and with the experiences you have had you are now in a position to help so many others.
      Hold your head up and be proud to be who you are.
      I definitely am Andy, thank you so much for the comment. I feel proud of the person I am still turning into every single day and I wouldn't change who I am for anything.

      Originally Posted by cashtree View Post

      Hey Justin,
      you know I always been a big fan of yours, you're a great guy and I'm sorry you've had to struggle with this thing. I'm glad telling people has been liberating for you though.The internet can be a really negative place sometimes so I hope that if anyone says anything hurtful to you, you don't let it bother you. And please never ever ever ever take your life, that absolutely is not the answer, as I'm sure you know. God Bless you and thanks for being such a giving and awesome dude.
      Hey

      Thanks a lot for leaving a comment, you've always helped support me and I greatly appreciate it.

      I know the internet is a crazy place, since we aren't face to face, it's much more of a challenge to not speak our minds. If anyone does leave a harsh comment, honestly I'm going to be a bit like "Rebecca Black".

      She was the girl who sang "Friday" and received hate from all around the world. Even though she's much younger than me, she inspires me because of how she handled the situation and has held her head up high.

      Thanks for the comment, once again!
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    Justin - so glad you survived through the teen-age torment. Ya know what? The freedom you are experiencing comes with age. Some things that are very traumatizing when young become not much more than a moot point as you get older. You will just keep getting freer from here on in.

    The worst thing about suicide is that many who do so would have found out a few years later that what they think is a never ending misery wouldn't have mattered much in the long run.
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    • Profile picture of the author Justin Says
      Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

      Justin - so glad you survived through the teen-age torment. Ya know what? The freedom you are experiencing comes with age. Some things that are very traumatizing when young become not much more than a moot point as you get older. You will just keep getting freer from here on in.

      The worst thing about suicide is that many who do so would have found out a few years later that what they think is a never ending misery wouldn't have mattered much in the long run.
      While I was responding to the prior comments, you actually just posted yours

      It's funny because I saw you "thanked" the post and was wondering if you'd leave a comment, unknowing that you were typing right then. How awesome is that?

      You've shown a lot of positiveness to me on this forum and I thank you for that.

      I definitely do feel like a HUUUGE piece of my fear has been lifted away. Now the next big step is actually talking about it to someone in person, I've only ever done that with the select few around me.

      And I agree on the whole suicide matter. Having had my brother go through it, I know that it's a huge decision that not only will end our life, but will dramatically hurt others around us. I would give anything to have my brothers back, just so they could see who I'm turning into and I will continue to strive to be a better person each and everyday.

      Thanks for the comment
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    Just yesterday I was watching your videos on nicheoptimizer and watched your life story,
    luck or coincidence , I bumped into this thread ...So anyways ...

    I would like to thank you for motivating a lot of people and goodluck with your life.
    Keep up the good work friend.
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    • Profile picture of the author Justin Says
      Originally Posted by -seomaster- View Post

      Just yesterday I was watching your videos on nicheoptimizer and watched your life story,
      luck or coincidence , I bumped into this thread ...So anyways ...

      I would like to thank you for motivating a lot of people and goodluck with your life.
      Keep up the good work friend.
      Thanks a lot for the support I really do hope you enjoyed the videos as well. I feel that by sharing my life, I can help open other peoples eyes and give them some sense of inspiration or motivation to want to do better.

      It's hard touching peoples lives but on the internet, I have such a wide audience that I really enjoy helping.

      Just to touch one persons life is amazing to me. So thanks for the comment
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  • Profile picture of the author rmolina88
    Justin, your courage is inspiring and I'm happy that you're living your life to the fullest.
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    • Profile picture of the author chilote77
      Justin, I thank you for sharing this very private issue. it is evident that you want to inspire other people to open up, accept who they are/what afflicts them, and that is to be commended.
      tolerance, kindness and open-mindedness are sorely needed in today´s society.
      so sorry to hear about your brother,


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    Justin, I admire you for sharing your story. So many people are on the same path you were. Some find God, some find some other purpose, but some unfortunately don't. It's incredibly sad and brings a tear to my eye everytime. I hope the actions that we all take has an impact on suicide rates. If anyone feels like life isn't worth living anymore, they are very wrong and should turn to the many people that care.
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  • Profile picture of the author RoadCEO
    I to am struggling with myself and my past. As you I have decided no more and to just move on and climb away from it all and stop letting it hold me back. I am really hopping everything and everyone on this form can help me along that journey. One that will lead me to living a life on the road, going where the road leads and doing what ever happens to be around where I end up before moving on somewhere else.
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    • Profile picture of the author Justin Says
      Originally Posted by rmolina88 View Post

      Justin, your courage is inspiring and I'm happy that you're living your life to the fullest.
      Thanks a lot That's the only way life should be.

      Originally Posted by chilote77 View Post

      Justin, I thank you for sharing this very private issue. it is evident that you want to inspire other people to open up, accept who they are/what afflicts them, and that is to be commended.
      tolerance, kindness and open-mindedness are sorely needed in today´s society.
      so sorry to hear about your brother,


      Rich
      Thank you for noticing my brother in the post. That's one of the huge reasons I feel that I shouldn't delay on sharing this.

      Originally Posted by MattWell View Post

      Justin, I admire you for sharing your story. So many people are on the same path you were. Some find God, some find some other purpose, but some unfortunately don't. It's incredibly sad and brings a tear to my eye everytime. I hope the actions that we all take has an impact on suicide rates. If anyone feels like life isn't worth living anymore, they are very wrong and should turn to the many people that care.
      I'm glad that you liked my share here. It was tough putting into words, but I knew I had to do it. I've had nothing but good feedback since I shared it. And I agree. I hope everyone that is facing something tells someone else, it's hard holding everything in.

      Originally Posted by RoadCEO View Post

      I to am struggling with myself and my past. As you I have decided no more and to just move on and climb away from it all and stop letting it hold me back. I am really hopping everything and everyone on this form can help me along that journey. One that will lead me to living a life on the road, going where the road leads and doing what ever happens to be around where I end up before moving on somewhere else.
      Hey man, you can do it. Just by posting in this thread, you're improving yourself everyday WE are in this together. Even though we may not have had similar stories or paths, we are on the path towards living the life we want to live and that's important.
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  • Profile picture of the author todawg_not
    Justin your video is very inspiring. You touched on something today which is very close to my heart. I too struggled from self esteem issues and depression till this day in some from or another. But like you I'm am committed to become a better person and crush my fears and anxieties so I can help others.



    Thank you my friend

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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    So ya see, Justin? We are much more critical of ourselves than others will ever be (once we get to be adults anyhow - kids will always be cruel). You were so unsure - such a big step - thinking of all that childhood judgement..........and what it all boils down to is that we really didn't even give much of a shit either way. Find someone perfect and we can all think about if we want to feel inferior. You aren't Johnny Depp and I'm not Raquel Welch. Leave it behind. It doesn't matter anymore. It really just doesn't matter.
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    Hello..
    Thanks for telling your story.
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  • Profile picture of the author AlbertGA
    you are brave that you share your story. It may be inspirational for those who facing same problem.
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  • Profile picture of the author tryinhere
    A great story Justin, If it is ok with you I would love to share your youtube video and a bit of your story on my site and hope it may help others. will drop a pm.
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    • Profile picture of the author Justin Says
      Originally Posted by tryinhere View Post

      A great story Justin, If it is ok with you I would love to share your youtube video and a bit of your story on my site and hope it may help others. will drop a pm.
      I'm comfortable with that. I'd like to be able to help anyone out there that might be "suffering" with the same problem.

      I put suffering in quotes because although I felt like I was living a terrible life, there are people out there going through much harder things.
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    I know what you're talking about - although I have had another "problem". And I think you can be massively proud about this "coming-out". Justin, you're the man, honestly.

    All the best!
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  • Profile picture of the author GlobalTrader
    Justin, I came to find this video after viewing a few others that you have posted and felt a need to post a comment.

    I am old enough to be your grandfather and must say that I would be proud to have a grandson like you.

    The videos that I have viewed thus far are incredibly lifting for ones spirit and in a world that tends to push one's spirit down, having someone who can provide even a minute or two of uplifting can be valuable to them.

    I would like to encourage you to continue your successful Internet business but to also consider expanding into the motivational speaking field. You have a natural ability to project sincerity that is seldom found and often faked.

    Please keep posting the videos as you have been but again, please consider the motivational speaking suggestion -- I really believe you have been provided with a gift to convey an uplifting message.
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  • Profile picture of the author Gary Joseph
    Justin,

    You are extraordinary. What you just did was so brave and highly inspirational! I cannot imagine how liberating it must feel now.

    I think we all have parts of our body, health and live that we would rather change and it is so relieving to see that you have become comfortable with it!

    Kudos to you my friend. It's a shame I don't live in America to go on that walk with you!

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    • Profile picture of the author Justin Says
      Originally Posted by GlobalTrader View Post

      Justin, I came to find this video after viewing a few others that you have posted and felt a need to post a comment.

      I am old enough to be your grandfather and must say that I would be proud to have a grandson like you.

      The videos that I have viewed thus far are incredibly lifting for ones spirit and in a world that tends to push one's spirit down, having someone who can provide even a minute or two of uplifting can be valuable to them.

      I would like to encourage you to continue your successful Internet business but to also consider expanding into the motivational speaking field. You have a natural ability to project sincerity that is seldom found and often faked.

      Please keep posting the videos as you have been but again, please consider the motivational speaking suggestion -- I really believe you have been provided with a gift to convey an uplifting message.
      Thank you very much GT, I appreciate comments like this, especially from someone that has been down a much longer path than myself.

      I will definitely take your thoughts into consideration and may take steps to go further into that direction in the future.

      Originally Posted by Gary Joseph View Post

      Justin,

      You are extraordinary. What you just did was so brave and highly inspirational! I cannot imagine how liberating it must feel now.

      I think we all have parts of our body, health and live that we would rather change and it is so relieving to see that you have become comfortable with it!

      Kudos to you my friend. It's a shame I don't live in America to go on that walk with you!

      GJ
      Thank you Gary, I can tell you this, it's something I didn't think I'd ever do. I felt I would just get surgery or hide from it for my entire life.

      But I started reading forums related to the condition and found that it wasn't as rare as I had thought, but I did notice that almost everyone that had it, were embarrassed, and felt the same way I did.

      And hey, I plan to travel the world, ya never know
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    Originally Posted by Justin Lewis

    I'm not hiding anymore.


    Justin,

    My good man.

    #1 -- Proud of you.

    For showing courage and liberating yourself from this personal problem you've been clinging on to.

    #2 -- If you were not born the way you were. You WOULD NOT HAVE BEEN ABLE to GROW to BECOME the MAN you are today.

    #3 -- I was born with a skin inflammatory disease called Roscea

    All throughout high-school my confidence level was relative to how red my faced looked. Haha. And I tried everything (least I thought I did).

    To overcome it mentally and to assist it physically to prevent it from happening. You can imagine....

    You can't hide your face. No shirt to cover this up. This was 24/7.

    Imagine trying to be social - when your cheeks are red as apples. People perceive you as insecure, uptight, and nervous when your face is red.

    But I wasn't. I felt fine. Or at least I would have felt fine If I knew that I had looked fine.

    But I did not look fine. And it did not make me feel fine. It F&&@#$ Sucked.

    #4 - At any moment I could get what's called a "flare up" and It would look like was uncomfortable - Like I had just been offended or - like I had shit my pants (haha) Obviously not the case.

    But I would literally become insecure BECAUSE I simply LOOKED that way. Talk about a total MIND#$%^.

    #5 - The good news is - like anything, you can find a cure to [to almost anything] if you are committed enough.

    My cure was found where any cure is found. Identifying the causes [the real causes]. And then doing something about it.

    I learned that my "condition" was an internal issue. Lotion etc would only "band-aid" the problem. I was deficient in an amino acid called L-Lysine.

    But that was square 1:

    Square 2: Was learning more about our bodies' acid/alkaline ratio

    Alexa Smith (If you're reading this right now Please don't attack me )

    Based on what I have learned from Anthony Robbins and Who He trusts as the top nutrionists in the world. I learned that by eating/drinking Alkaline rich foods more than acid-inducing foods/beverages allows your bloodstream to be cleaner which then allows your body to function at a much healthier state.

    How is that relevant?

    Let me explain. When we eat pizza and drink beer for example - that's like shoving a pile of pure crap into our bodies. If we do that all the time, our organs and bio-systems only can process that much garbage a set number of times before are cells have to "morph" or change to adapt to the crazy needs to process all of the toxic material.

    These "morphs" or "changes" happen when are cells adapt to keep doing their job - this is when diseases and cancers start in the body.

    Now [I PERSONALLY BELIEVE] (with MY NON Harvard PHD education).

    That our bodies DNA trains itself to manage over-acid based on our habits that induce massive acid into or bloodstream.

    -Stressful emotions
    -Poor eating habits
    -Excessive exercise

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    I personally believe that my DNA adapted "itself" to manage my over-acid habits.

    My Old Habits:

    -Swam 5,000+ yards each day 6 days or week or ran 3 - 5 miles a day
    (massive massive over-exercise)
    -Drinking Alcohol and eating poor foods
    -Stressing out about my face "condition"

    Those habits led to massive acid build up. With almost know alkaline to counteract it naturally.

    I believe my DNA trained itself to store the extra acid that could not be purified in my skin. Which led to inflammation which = roscea in a nutshell.

    Likewise. When people are "fat" (no offense to anyone here) it is because of over-acid and the bodies defense mechanism to keep the blood PH hovering around 7.2 -- leads to that extra acid being stored in "fat tissues". [Make more sense?]

    Ironically exercise creates more acid. I drink 3 "green" drinks each day super-rich in alkaline. And I eat salads/lettuce/raw food all the time.

    I NO LONGER HAVE A TRACE OF ROSCEA.

    Dermatologists (Alexa I hope you're reading this)

    *With their fancy credentials

    Told me it was not curable just "treat-able" I DO NOT BELIEVE....

    That my experience is a bloody placebo either. I know what that is. And I am not a positive thinker. I think logically not positively. Wishful thinking is for "hopers" not doers".

    Here is what I suggest you do:

    COPY WHAT I DID.

    Roscea is just one weird disease.

    According to Anthony Robbins (Who I would happily trust with my life)

    Many other terminal patients, sick people and individuals have deleted problems that physicians mark as incurable or untreatable.

    I'm not a physician. or a PHD.

    But I believe a person's CREDENTIALS are based on results you get for yourself and people.

    Not how much schooling you have had. I could not go through a PHD program of any sort on my best day. I respect you guys reading -- for those of you who have.

    I'm declaring my opinion. And Back to being relevant again (woo-wee tangents).

    I would try doing a crazy green alkaline diet like I have man. I can recommend more strategies that i've used.

    I feel like I got a bit off track with this post - I had like 7 ideas bubbling in my mind that I wanted to share with you.

    Hopefully I got at least 2 or 3 of them effectively and legibly.

    Best Take care,

    The "other" Justin on WF.
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  • Profile picture of the author Micah Medina
    ^ Thanks so much for that post. Honestly it was such an uplift that it easily could have stood as its own thread.

    Justin, most people are pissed off and ashamed at themselves for things that happened to them in their life that are kind of a result of their own doing and personality.

    You got dealt a really shitty hand during the time of your life where that's probably the hardest. What really makes me think is how the emotional and social aspects of the disease caused more damage than anything physical could.

    The amount of time you spent beating yourself down emotionally must have been constant and terrible. Someone really close to me attempted suicide recently and when I asked about it, they just said that everything pent up in their brain just went sour one day. It takes an amazing amount of vigilance to survive that kind of situation, let alone to strengthen yourself and thrive through it.

    Never forget to congratulate yourself.
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  • Profile picture of the author speedbird
    Thanks for sharing that touching story of gynecomastia. I am certain that many people will learn a lot from this.
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  • Profile picture of the author tylerjaysen
    dude right on brotha......ya know putting things about yourself online that are so personal and painful for the world to see....well that takes guts. Be proud of yourself.

    Yeah I didn't even know what that was til I clicked on the wikipedia link....man boobs....

    That's a rough one dude....as you don't look obese....where you would typically see man boobs...but that would surely be embarrassing as a kid in the school locker room.

    On the flip side though, even though you struggled for years and got depressed and all that....having that is one of the reasons that you have been successful both online and in your personal life. Right? I think that we all have these types of insecurities growing up...it's normal. But the trick is to overcome them and keep going.
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  • Profile picture of the author Justin Spencer
    Originally Posted by Micah Medina

    ^ Thanks so much for that post. Honestly it was such an uplift that it easily could have stood as its own thread.
    I like to sprinkle gems in everything - those who take the time to find them appreciate

    No Problem man!
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  • Profile picture of the author Justin Says
    I figured you guys would like to see this... it really touches me to know that my video has helped others.

    Hi Justin... congratulations for this step you have taken. I personally understand what you have gone through, as I am now 38 years old and have had gynecomastia since the same age as you. My family never had money either, so I could not have had surgery years ago, this I understand. I hid it just as you did for many years. I am finally going to have the surgery later this month and for the first time I have begun to talk about it. I wish you well.
    Hey Justin! , it has been 4 weeks since the day that I was operated, I'm still re-cooperating from it all. The operation went smoothly and I was impressed with the results, I seriously won't look at myslef in the mirror cause I won't stop staring! Lol . My friends and family see me as a whole new happier person and that all I ever wanted
    Its time for a new chapter in my life! I want to thank you for making this video, you connecting with us to share and express our feelings!
    -Bruce
    ^ this kid was 16, so just to know I helped in some way really brightens my mood

    Justin, it makes me happy to know there are people out there like you. People that want to help others. You are right about not caring what people think and they do that to make them feel better about themselves. You are truly amazing.
    I want to recommend you guys a book by Maxwell Maltz pchycocybernetics. It's all about self image pchycology....I hope it will help you to overcome the stress related to gyno. It's not a how to do guide. It's about the science related to your mind. Just go through it....
    ^- figured I'd share this one just incase anyone wants to read the book.

    Hi I'm 23 as well. Feel like we have a lot in common. I've worked out lost weight to the point that ppl don't notice it unless I'm wearing a white t or shirtless. But it still is in the back of my mind. I luckily have a job and can afford surgery. But I realize I have no one I'm comfortable telling that I would be getting surgery. What kind of life is that lol
    Anywho. Thanks everyone for all of the support!
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  • Profile picture of the author Jacob Isaacs
    Right on man! Right on! If you own your situation, no one else can own you.
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