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Goals Are Lame!

What did I just say?! Am I questioning the almighty “goal”? Yep. I don’t like them, they bother me (at least the way they are presented to most people), and I’ll tell you why. But before I do, let me say I’m not referring to essential goals like “pay rent, bills, etc., by Thursday.” Those you must (of course) keep.

I’m referring to the “fantasy” goals. You know the ones, “Wouldn’t it be nice if…?” Here’s the normal goal setting process; to really cement the direction, you get all decisive about it, write it down in a special book (which you may not ever look at again), and put a date next to it to give it some more “power”. Ah, made you feel great – right?

That may work for some but not for me. I think it’s a huge downer having to look at those goals every day, reminding you of things you do not have. It’s like a few drops of kerosene in a cake mix.

But then, what happens the next day after your goal was set? Something else comes along and you get sidetracked. I was discussing this with a member and he said:

Bill, you know, I have this fantastic website I go to. It allows me to set out all my goals and add details. It also allows me to set specific steps that I must achieve by certain dates in order to be on track to get my goal. It even notifies me all the time to remind me. It’s very modern , but the only time I go in there these days is to move the dates away, because they make me feel bad.”
There is no denying there is something powerful about writing down a goal and putting a date next to it and feeling the urgency, but its only use seems to be to get you moving initially. Because what does it really matter if you achieve anything by a certain day or a week, month or year, later or sooner?

When you achieve it, all it will do is fill your shot glass with some excitement or satisfaction for that day. The next morning you’re still going to have to live on something. Arguably satisfaction will suffice, but really, all that effort for one day of excitement, was it worth all the anguish?
But you might say, “But Bill, I like my goals, I want them,” and that’s fine because…


You may keep all your “goals” on one condition…
LOSE THE DATES!!

That’s right. Go to all your goals right now and cross out all the dates of your nonessential fantasy goals, but while you’ve got your pen in your hand, I’ll show you a neat trick.


Replace Dates on Goals with ‘A.S.A.P!’


Nature is slowed down by the human notion of “dates on goals.” Nature only understands one speed – AS SOON AS POSSIBLE! That’s nature’s way. If you let your goals come to you at their own pace, they will come at you so fast that you will literally be caught off guard. I also suggest instead of “goals” you call them “aims” or “directions,” and there’s a very good reason why.

Achieving a goal is a one-off exciting event that usually lasts just one moment. It can only last one day at the most, because that’s the maximum amount of real time we have. When you are sleeping at night, you are un- conscious and have no control over your life.

Every day you start fresh and thirsty for something new, exciting or satisfying. But let me ask you; a fantasy goal, can you achieve it today? No. It must go down as a “failure to achieve today.”

However, if you removed your dates and made it a “direction” or an “aim,” could you travel in that “direction” today? Yes. Then it must go down as a “success achieved today.”

I don’t know about you, but I don’t need goals with dates staring at me everywhere I look, killing my buzz and reminding me of things I don’t have or have not achieved yet. It’s just another negative thought I have to try and flush for nothing. If anything they are a DE-motivating force.

Keep the nice pictures and desires (if they make you smile), just lose the dates and replace them with A.S.A.P! You’ll get them much faster.
The reason for this is that goals will expand to the time allotted to them, no matter how fast a pace you think you’ve set them.

An example might be to finish writing your book by next Christmas. So you divide the task into little chunks and set a task to do each day or each week, just as you’ve been told. You might even start achieving these steps and feeling good. One day you might do your 30 minutes of writing then stop and relax, satisfied that you’ve done something to achieve your ultimate goal.

Now let’s try it with A.S.A.P!

You aim to write a book as soon as possible. You set out the tasks, but there are no dates. Think of the tasks as mile markers you wave to on your way past. What happens when you remove the dates and replace them with ASAP!? You allow for immersion.

For example, let’s say one day you’re bored or get a spark for a paragraph you must include in your new book. You rush into your writing room (taking a huge swig of excitement along the way) and sit down. But without a 30 minute “restriction,” you just sit and write and write and write and write, until at 3a.m. you realize that you just finished five whole chapters. Something the old step-a-day system would not have accomplished for months.


Remove the dates on all your fantasy goals, replace them with “As Soon As Possible!” and
watch your life TAKE OFF!


I know you might be worried about removing the dates from your goals, because everyone has always said, “Put dates on your goals!” Well, let me ask you…how has that been working for you?


I give you permission to remove the dates off all your nonessential goals and replace them with A.S.A.P!
#goals #lame
  • Profile picture of the author lMlariaVC
    Wow, great share Bill! I dislike the word goals as-well. I use promises!
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  • Profile picture of the author Mr Bill
    I like "aims". Just keep moving in that direction and every move is a win. Goals are only "wins" when they are achieved - lame.

    I've had more reaction to this chapter of my book than almost any other (apart from the 2x formula). People like to be released from the burden of "goals".
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    • Profile picture of the author namktqs
      Yes,we need have goals and dream in life, everything want to achieve with naturally way, right time. You only need focus on them, that is simple but not easy to do.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mr Bill
    As long as you don't force yourself with fake dates that are otherwise meaningless.
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    • Profile picture of the author elainehh
      This might be corny but I like new years resolutions Not specific 'must do x y and you never get around to it' but things like 'I will not let any opportunities pass me this year / When options present themselves, I will always choose to do new things'.

      Having this mindset this year, and making decisions based on this has really helped me to grow & push myself more.
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    • Profile picture of the author Anthony Gibson
      Originally Posted by Mr Bill View Post

      As long as you don't force yourself with fake dates that are otherwise meaningless.
      Setting a goal in and of itsself isn't enough to achieve it. I would guess that some people stop after they write down the goal. The equivalent of getting a gym membership and never going. I've heard that something like 75% of gym members RARELY use their membership. So I don't think the intricacies of goal-setting are to blame for a person's inability to achieve, but rather lack of a solid plan. "The largest task in the world can be broken down into enough small steps" - Henry Ford
      Your idea of sizable chunks is right on the money, and I can see how replacing with ASAP would enable people to work more freely and capitalize on bursts of inspiration.
      Great Share Bill


      Anthony
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      • Profile picture of the author Mr Bill
        Originally Posted by Rod Cortez View Post

        Interesting perspective. I'm the complete opposite. I get excited when I see those dates next to my well-thought out goals. I also know full well that those dates can be adjusted at any time. At least with my entrepreneurial endeavors, having goals and a date attached to them have payed off immense dividends.

        I took a goal-setting sub-seminar with Tony Robbins over 15 years ago and the process that he taught me changed the way I viewed and implemented goals. He taught me to visualize from my goals and not simply to jot them down, but to review them and write compelling reasons for them. I carry those habits with me to this day.

        But like my grandpappy used to say, "there's more than one way to skin a goat!" And you've got to do what works best for you.

        RoD
        If it works for you that's the main thing. I wonder how much faster you'd go though if you removed the dates and tried "ASAP"? Some goals require dates though - I absolutely agree.

        For me, it never worked so I tried ASAP and I started achieveing much faster. I thought it was just me but when I started sharing this strange phenominum with others and they tried it it would work for them too so I wrote it down more as an alternative to taking the pressue off people and getting things done faster.

        People started really enjoying taking the pressure off and things started happening faster and the joy was spread out more on a daily basis rather than coming all at once for just one day then leaving people deflated the day after a goal was met. It tends to even out fthe joy and when added up more joy was experienced. It's just something to try or maybe even incorporate. In reality it's a mix of the two methods that will probably work best.

        Originally Posted by Anthony Gibson View Post

        Setting a goal in and of itsself isn't enough to achieve it. I would guess that some people stop after they write down the goal. The equivalent of getting a gym membership and never going. I've heard that something like 75% of gym members RARELY use their membership. So I don't think the intricacies of goal-setting are to blame for a person's inability to achieve, but rather lack of a solid plan. "The largest task in the world can be broken down into enough small steps" - Henry Ford

        Your idea of sizable chunks is right on the money, and I can see how replacing with ASAP would enable people to work more freely and capitalize on bursts of inspiration.
        Great Share Bill


        Anthony
        Great way to put it it Anthony! "Capitalize on bursts of inspiration". I'm going to use that in the new book - for sure. My feedback is that this method is working very well to get people moving on specific types of goals - mostly large things like gardening, writing, exercising, learning to play an instrument. I used it to consume Tony Robbins' "Get The Edge" and "Personal Power". I'd immerse myself and do several days all at once. Had a huge imjpact and I remember those days exactly. They had a huge impact on my life. It's another reason I'm not a fan of "drip feed" courses. I have enthusiasm NOW - allow me to consume, don't hold me back.

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  • Profile picture of the author Rod Cortez
    Interesting perspective. I'm the complete opposite. I get excited when I see those dates next to my well-thought out goals. I also know full well that those dates can be adjusted at any time. At least with my entrepreneurial endeavors, having goals and a date attached to them have payed off immense dividends.

    I took a goal-setting sub-seminar with Tony Robbins over 15 years ago and the process that he taught me changed the way I viewed and implemented goals. He taught me to visualize from my goals and not simply to jot them down, but to review them and write compelling reasons for them. I carry those habits with me to this day.

    But like my grandpappy used to say, "there's more than one way to skin a goat!" And you've got to do what works best for you.

    RoD
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  • Profile picture of the author Anthony Gibson
    So I guess I need to ensure that the drip-feed style program I'm currently creating allows enough room for varying levels of inspiration. Definitely glad you said that

    Anthony
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Ten
    That is what I usually do... use ASAP. I am glad someone else said it. Lololol.....
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  • Profile picture of the author Isaiah Jackson
    I've used the "ASAP" approach to get things done. Which works so in essence you would have completed a goal extremely quickly and felt great about it

    So I'm going to be doing this "ASAP" and will report back with the results.

    - Isaiah Jackson
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  • Profile picture of the author godinu
    What this says to me is the "now" approach. What can I do NOW to work on that goal? It's like the difference between trying to do something and actually working on it. Try = failure, you're not doing it. Doing something = taking action, even if it is just one small thing.
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    • Profile picture of the author Mr Bill
      Originally Posted by Anthony Gibson View Post

      So I guess I need to ensure that the drip-feed style program I'm currently creating allows enough room for varying levels of inspiration. Definitely glad you said that

      Anthony
      I would personally advise against it. I've seen massive drop off rates. Just give them what they bought and offer to help them through it. That way you don't patronise anyone by implying they are not smart or disciplined enough to do this at their own speed. I can understand that a 4 year Univeristy degree might need some drip feed (but they give you the text books in a complete state - not one page at a time) but in IM and MMO I can't see any reason to slow people down to a speed that YOU think is appropriate. Give people their wings and let them fly if they can.

      Originally Posted by Michael55555 View Post

      That is what I usually do... use ASAP. I am glad someone else said it. Lololol.....
      Some one had to. I know the "goal spruikers" will be displeased but I've just checked in the mirror and I don't look like I care.

      Originally Posted by Isaiah Jackson View Post

      I've used the "ASAP" approach to get things done. Which works so in essence you would have completed a goal extremely quickly and felt great about it

      So I'm going to be doing this "ASAP" and will report back with the results.

      - Isaiah Jackson
      I look forward to hearing your results. You should have some by the end of today. Report back. I see that you also joined my forum - I look forward to your input.

      Originally Posted by godinu View Post

      What this says to me is the "now" approach. What can I do NOW to work on that goal? It's like the difference between trying to do something and actually working on it. Try = failure, you're not doing it. Doing something = taking action, even if it is just one small thing.
      Goals Are Lame works in perfectly with the "ShotGlass Theory" as well.

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  • Profile picture of the author textchx
    I like the process your promoting. Definitely will give it a try, it sounds interesting for sure. Think I'll go with "directions".
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  • Profile picture of the author Mr Bill
    Directions is ok but I prefer "Aims". Having an aim is already a natural part of the way we talk and lends itself to the long term view. A direction seems more immediate and puts some pressure back on you. Pressure works ok in some cases (with externally dated goals - i.e. dates that are forced upon you) but I've rarely seen a fantasy/"optional dated" goal achieved under artificial pressure.

    Not using the word "goal" is going to make you laugh as well.

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    • Profile picture of the author lMlariaVC
      Originally Posted by Mr Bill View Post

      Directions is ok but I prefer "Aims". Having an aim is already a natural part of the way we talk and lends itself to the long term view.

      "aims" is great as-well. As long as it has a set exact date you can work towards then great. So like "x" amount of day or months.
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  • Profile picture of the author rising_sun
    Banned
    My goals are not,
    because I am determined to achieve it.
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    Aims and goals = dream. and success without hardwork is a dream
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    • Profile picture of the author Mr Bill
      Originally Posted by rising_sun View Post

      My goals are not,
      because I am determined to achieve it.
      Did you even read my post before replying?

      Originally Posted by lMlariaVC View Post

      "aims" is great as-well. As long as it has a set exact date you can work towards then great. So like "x" amount of day or months.
      Well, the whole point of my post is to lose the dates entirely and replace them with ASAP so putting an exact date would kind of defeat the purpose.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mark Kent
    If you have one goal then may be ASAP. What if you 5 or 6 things you need to accomplish?
    How do you prioritize them?
    "Wouldn't it be nice" kind of thoughts are not goals, they are merely a wishful thinking, they won't
    feel bad even if those wishes don't come true.

    Dates are for prioritizing and to remind you if you
    don't accomplish it by the deadline, there's some form of price you have to pay. It's how
    much urgency you can create for yourself, how much you can compel yourself to do things
    that needs to be done. You can have a goal and put a date as Dec 31st of the year . But that
    doesn't mean you have to elongate or delay or tasks to finish it by that exact deadline. You can
    accomplish it as soon as possible, may be even 6 months ahead of deadline so that you can work
    on your another goal.
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    • Profile picture of the author Mr Bill
      Originally Posted by Mark Kent View Post

      If you have one goal then may be ASAP. What if you 5 or 6 things you need to accomplish? How do you prioritize them?
      Why would you need to? Do them as you feel like it and when you feel like it is the best time to immerse yourself into them. My point is that you'd do them faster if you just let yourself go without restraint.

      Originally Posted by Mark Kent View Post

      "Wouldn't it be nice" kind of thoughts are not goals, they are merely a wishful thinking, they won't feel bad even if those wishes don't come true.
      What I mean by that is just the difference between "pay the rent on Thursday!" and "thing I'd like it my life".

      Originally Posted by Mark Kent View Post

      Dates are for prioritizing and to remind you if you don't accomplish it by the deadline, there's some form of price you have to pay.
      But if the deadline is false and there are no real consequences of you not meeting the goal then all your left with is a lot of effort for maybe a few hours joy some day in the future. My point is that there is real time daily joy in immersing yourself in achieving something ASAP. Besides, what price do people ever pay for not achieving something by a certain non important date? No one ever fines themselves or penalises themselves for not achieving something on a certain date. They just hate themselves for it for a while or as usually happens, they just drop it and consider themselves a failure.

      Originally Posted by Mark Kent View Post

      It's how much urgency you can create for yourself, how much you can compel yourself to do things that needs to be done. You can have a goal and put a date as Dec 31st of the year but that doesn't mean you have to elongate or delay or tasks to finish it by that exact deadline. You can accomplish it as soon as possible, may be even 6 months ahead of deadline so that you can work
      on your another goal.
      The reality (as I've witnessed it) is that most goals with dates are never achieved so people are left with not only getting no joy in immersing themselves whenever the enthusiasm strikes them but not even a moment of joy when you finally achieve something.

      I'm not "anti-having" I'm just "pro-doing". You can have all the things you want and want anything you like but putting a date on a goal just pushes all the importance into some far away future date when there is real joy in moving as fast as you can, enjoying the immersion and counting any movement as an achievement in and of itself.

      But of course if you like dates - use dates. It's just that (from what I've seen) the only joy in setting a date is when you set it. At that moment it feels great and everyone's happy but when it's counterproductive I don't really see the point. Most dates become stones around our necks reminding us of what we don't have and in the end they become reminders of how much action we're NOT taking. There is real joy in getting immersed in something and I'll take daily joy over some fictitious pressure I chose to place on myself with a date that means nothing and only lasts for a few hours.

      I've seen ASAP work to achieve things many times faster than dated goals and I've only ever seen dated goals fail and make people feel guilty. I just want to offer an alternative thinking that usually has the effect of getting the things you want much faster. It's a win, win situation.
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  • Profile picture of the author AchTi
    I was lost there for a second but you brought your point on home! Thanks
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  • Profile picture of the author Mr Bill
    Thanks. It's a strange concept and we've been pushed the same goal setting message by everyone for so long that it's hard for some people to get it at first but I really want to show how we can be many times more productive if we release ourselves from the shackles (and inherent limitations) of dates.
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  • Profile picture of the author masterbizcoach
    I don't set timer on my goals, i keep reaching it everyday of my life.
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  • Profile picture of the author OmarNegron
    Interesting concept indeed! This can work to keep you focus on the fact that you are going in the right direction. At the same time when a goal is a MUST by a certain time it will develop your character to make sure you get it done.

    So maybe a combination of both will be the key.

    Example:

    *Are you going in the right direction of what you want to achieve? YES (every day)

    MUST #1 completed - Yes!

    MUST #2 completed - Not yet but I will!

    haha =-)

    Great share though. Thanks!

    -Will
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  • Profile picture of the author KillKenny
    I've always heard that telling people you're going to do something is a bad idea. Because once you tell them, you psychologically think that it somehow brings you closer to your task at hand.

    And I second that notion.
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    • Profile picture of the author Mr Bill
      Originally Posted by OmarNegron View Post

      Interesting concept indeed! This can work to keep you focus on the fact that you are going in the right direction. At the same time when a goal is a MUST by a certain time it will develop your character to make sure you get it done.

      So maybe a combination of both will be the key.
      Yep, there are defintely some goals which MUST be dated (e.g. "Pay the rent on Thursday!) but some of the "life expanding stuff is reached faster if you just immerse yourself in, drop the dates and use ASAP. It's worked for me and many others and most people use it in their daily routines to some extent anyway.

      Glad you got something out of it.

      Originally Posted by KillKenny View Post

      I've always heard that telling people you're going to do something is a bad idea. Because once you tell them, you psychologically think that it somehow brings you closer to your task at hand.

      And I second that notion.
      Yes, I've also heard this. "Don't tell me what you're going to do - just tell me what you've done". For some people there is actually a release when they share the goal that is almost as satisfying as achieveing it. Strange but true. Listening to plans is fun but listening to achievement stories is thrilling.
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  • Profile picture of the author geraldspins
    Goals are fine.. just make sure you set "probable" goals, not things like my goal is to become a billionaire. It's possible, but highly improbable!
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  • Profile picture of the author Mr Bill
    Setting probable goals is fine (for some I suppose - I prefer to keep them on the large side so they are worth the effort) but putting dates on them that just makes you angry and upset every time you're reminded of how you "don't" have something yet. Seems (to me) to be counter productive.
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