What would you do in my place?

by djaro
13 replies
Hello All

I have been reading the forum for a long time but never posted, today I decided to make this thread to see what people think and would do in my place, dont know what to really expect but we will see..

So currently I am 22 years old, living in a new city, i dont know anyone here, i dont have a single friend, nobody knows i exist, dont have a girlfriend and havent had one recently, I just feel so lonely. I dont have a job, my online business is barely making any money and I just dont know what to do with my life. All day i am sitting on the computer trying to make my business grow and watching TV and just doing nothing else, I go out sometimes for a walk or to run, but nothing else, just dont know what to do all by myself, I feel so stuck that I just dont know from where to start and what to do. I have never thought that my life would be such a mess when just 22 years old, I have never thought that I will be making a thread in a forum asking people for advice- but I am doing it.
So what would you do in my place ? What would you do to turn things around?
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  • Profile picture of the author WarrenPeterson
    Not knowing what to do with your life is a life-long question for most, so let that one slide for now. I'm not saying it isn't important, just that you can focus elsewhere for now...

    You need to get involved in things outside the house and outside what you do now. So, if I were in your situation, I would do two things.

    I would find a local food pantry or other place to go and volunteer some time. Even a few hours a week, or few days a week. They always need help, and you will find some amazing people there. Your contribution will be appreciated, and you may end up creating some powerful relationships.

    Next, I would find a church to attend. I have no idea what your views are, and right now, they don't matter. The reason for attending is fellowship, not conversion to one religion or another. Hopefully you are in a large enough city that you have choices and can find a church that offers more than a Sunday service, something that has other groups and events you can participate in. Again, the intention is for community and fellowship. Over time, you make your own decisions about the religious side of attending.

    Those two things, volunteering your time at a place that has tremendous need and spending some time to meet new people at a church can change entire lives. And, they won't cost a penny (ok, yes you may have to spend money to travel to/from them, but that is worth every penny!)
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  • Profile picture of the author ours
    First and foremost love yourself and believe on yourself. Say yourself "You can do it" everyday. Learn to go outside talk with xyz people, try to make friend there. Listen music.

    You know what - at my age i am also not sure what i am doing - every one feel that way - so relax you are not alone buddy. Check this video and listen the song and do what it suggest.

    Related to work and money - just focus on your skills and do what you like. You will see result.

    Remember, you are lucky - think about those people who cant eat daily, who need to think every moment whether they will live or die. So, relax man, you just need little focus and you will find proper track.

    All the best !
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  • Profile picture of the author mfarg
    If you are making some money in your business, you are doing better than most of the people on here! Scale up what you are doing.

    Don't fall into the trap of watching tv during the day. It will suck the life out of you. Only watch tv for short periods after you have been productive. For example, reward yourself by watching a movie after you have built a website, done some videos, or written an AR series.

    Come up with a schedule that works for you and stick to it. Don't waste your time reading email and being sales bait. Instead, think of ways to build your business and increase your income. Remember that it's about traffic and conversion.

    But by all means, find some good people to hang with. Great advice from Warren about church and volunteering. Also maybe you can find some marketers in your city and form a group of some sort.

    Blessings to you!
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  • Profile picture of the author jvest
    Hi, djaro. I'm around your age, and I can relate. I started trying to make money through IM and content writing after dropping out of grad school. Honestly, I don't know about how to turn it all around. I'm still working on that myself. But for the loneliness, I recommend trying really hard just to get out of the house every day. Even if it's only to a coffee shop to do your work, or something like that. It helps to be around people. Or you could try looking on craigslist for local groups to join. There are a lot of internet marketing groups that meet in person, too, if you live in a big city. You can do it

    Best wishes, and feel free to PM me if you want.
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  • Profile picture of the author iceapplez
    Church is a ridiculous idea in my opinion.. why not volunteer instead?
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  • Profile picture of the author GuruGuna
    Having the motivation is NOT enough. You need a plan and you need to commit to stick to your plan and not to the TV.

    If you are serious about making money, cancel your cable subscription and take a note book and write down these words.

    "I will build an email list of 1500 people by end of the month and before the year ends, I will have 5000 people subscribed to my list."

    The money will follow.

    Take action. I am not kidding. If you need help on building your list, buzz me. If you are not a keeper of your commitments, don't was your time and not to mention others.

    Hopefully this will get you going. Now you have a plan in front of you. Get to work.
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  • Profile picture of the author HealthBuff
    Hi there djaro, I am empathic to your situation. I have been there serval times.
    It is most important that you connect with others.
    You run - see if you can find a group to run with. We don't know where you live, but many countries have a running group called Hash House Harriers. From recollection they wouldn't charge you to join until you checked them out/ran with them a few times.
    Investigate on this forum about joining a MasterMind group. Research this first so that you know what you will be committing to. This would be so valuable for you on many levels, especially business.
    Investigate visiting/joining a Breakfast Club Meeting. You may even end up getting some work from this sort of group.
    Check out Anthony Robbins - he is a coach who has miles of free 'stuff' on the web - this might help you get out of the dumps a bit and get a bit more confident. I am a wee bit older than you and I have been using his 'Free' stuff to give my self a kick-start.
    See if you can put an add on fiverr.com - you might be able to pick a job or two that would give you a focus.
    All the very best and kind regards HealthBuff
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  • Profile picture of the author Akori
    Socialize with other marketers alot of them are more then willing to help!
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  • Profile picture of the author Luvnish
    I agree with mfarg here, don't let your time go to waste on tv, or random video games. I'm not saying that it is a bad thing. Everything is good in moderation...
    Find a hobby, meet new people, go for a stroll (personally, i like strolls )
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    • Profile picture of the author redfiredsoul
      Don't feel bad.. Everything is going to be ok.

      You can actually learn a lot from this situation and it going to help you appreciate things a lot more when your life does make a turn for the better.

      See this is an opportunity to grow from spiritually. Wealth doesn't always have to come in terms of money. Gaining spiritual wisdom is much more valuable as it is something you can never lose.

      You are blessed.. You just don't know it yet. But you will someday..

      And as you change.. Your life will change as well. Really .
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      • Profile picture of the author SP ESP
        Djaro,

        Firstly, your life is not a mess. You have a roof over your head, food and are making a small amount of money. These are good things.

        As others have said - do some voluntary work or try to find a job. This way you will meet people who can become your friends. Look for a running club or get a bike and join a cycling group for rides.

        Next time you go out, to the shops or a cafe, speak to someone. Strike up a conversation about the weather or anything. Do this every time you are out and you will find that it becomes second nature. You will feel less alone if you are talking to people regularly.

        Ditch the television, it's a waste of time. Use the time online wisely and create a plan and stick to it.

        Look at all the people here who have shown that they care. Friendly people are everywhere, you just have to introduce yourself to them.

        You are young and at the beginning of a great adventure. Go live your life.
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        • Profile picture of the author djaro
          I didnt have an internet connection the last few days, but I am just shocked how many people have given their honest advice trying to help me. Thanks to everyone who has posted!
          Regarding church and volunteering, it cant happen in my the place where I am living, but I will start going out as much as possible, just to brake my current routine.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mousumi
    The best would be you looked around for a job (even a part time will do)
    When life comes at a pause, we need to make some change. Whenever I feel like the way you do, I go on a short trip along with my husband and kids.
    22 is just the beginning of a life..take it easy
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