The best tool to conquer worry

by jonb
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Worrying sucks. So, I sought out some answers to help deal with it.

What I found was a book written decades ago, but is as powerful as anything I've ever read:

"How to Stop worrying and Start Living" by Dale Carnegie. It's Carnegie's less famous work, but it's every bit as brilliant as "How to win friends..." -- maybe more so.

What I liked is that Carnegie doesn't offer a "one size fits all" approach. rather, the book is a collection of techniques used by successful people to overcome worry. Some will suit your personality. some won't. But you'll find plenty that will do the job, and they're all explained in Carnegie's straightforward style.

When you wake up at 2 a.m. wondering if your business will really succeed and if the mortgage will get paid, this is the best possible book to turn to. It's pure gold.

(PS: Your business really will succeed and your mortgage will get paid. You're a Warrior! )
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  • Profile picture of the author jayden.fellze
    I have read a few pages of that book, but though I haven't finish them I have learn something to help me stop and cease worrying. Worrying can lame us at times, but then if we stop thinking about the problem and focus on the solution, that is one way to stop worrying. Avoid procrastination and live each day with solutions in mind, and everything will fall into its proper places.
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  • Profile picture of the author Vincelog
    Originally Posted by jonb View Post

    Worrying sucks. So, I sought out some answers to help deal with it.

    What I found was a book written decades ago, but is as powerful as anything I've ever read:

    "How to Stop worrying and Start Living" by Dale Carnegie. It's Carnegie's less famous work, but it's every bit as brilliant as "How to win friends..." -- maybe more so.

    What I liked is that Carnegie doesn't offer a "one size fits all" approach. rather, the book is a collection of techniques used by successful people to overcome worry. Some will suit your personality. some won't. But you'll find plenty that will do the job, and they're all explained in Carnegie's straightforward style.

    When you wake up at 2 a.m. wondering if your business will really succeed and if the mortgage will get paid, this is the best possible book to turn to. It's pure gold.

    (PS: Your business really will succeed and your mortgage will get paid. You're a Warrior! )
    Hi jonb,

    I had read the book too and it is definitely a great book to help us conquer worries. I tend to think too much about things and start worrying about things that don't happen. I had applied the techniques thought in the book and it does work.

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    • Profile picture of the author pluto1
      I had an opportunity to read Dale Carnegie's powerful book too, along with some other good ones. He really illustrates some good points in his book, and some very simple techniques.

      As another member mentioned, worrying is important for successful business, but anxiety is not. If you are waking up at 2 in the morning, worried about your business, you are anxious.
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  • Profile picture of the author bobcath
    Think of the very worst that could happen, play that through in your mind and ask yourself how you might cope, then forget it as 90% of what we worry about never happens. I also find it very cathartic to say f... it! doesn't always work but sure feels good at the time!

    Bob
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  • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
    Thanks for the recommendation Jon.

    Loved "How To Win Friends ..." And I think I'm going to buy that book because I've been doing my fair share of worrying recently. (Such is life.) What's your favourite technique from the book?
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    • Profile picture of the author jonb
      Originally Posted by ZigZag View Post

      Thanks for the recommendation Jon.

      Loved "How To Win Friends ..." And I think I'm going to buy that book because I've been doing my fair share of worrying recently. (Such is life.) What's your favourite technique from the book?
      Here's a link to a quick summary: Dale Carnegie's Advice On How To Stop Worring

      Some of my favorites:

      "The next time Trouble--with a Capital T--backs you up in a corner, try the magic formula of Willis H. Carrier:

      1. Ask yourself, "What is the worst that can possibly happen if I can't solve my problem?
      2. Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst--if necessary.
      3. Then calmly try to improve upon the worst--which you have already mentally agreed to accept."

      "Use the law of averages to outlaw your worries. Ask yourself: "What are the odds against this thing's happening at all?" "

      "Today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday"

      Put yourself in the future: "Two months from now, I won't be worrying about this, so why worry now? Why not assume now the same attitude I will have in two months?"

      A train engineer starts his journey with only one green light ahead of him. He has faith that the lights beyond his vision will be green. If they're not, he'll adjust. translation: don't let fear of the unknown stop you from taking the first step.

      Another great tip from the book: expect ingratitude. That was an important one for me. I expected people that I helped to be grateful. many have been, but I've stewed over those who weren't. By expecting ingratitude, you learn to treasure those folks who actually are grateful. It's a neat little twist in thinking.
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  • Profile picture of the author Charan Saini
    Thanks for recommending the book.
    The best tool to conquer worry is to live you life in the present moment, not think of tomorrow or yesterday.
    Read the book, or listen to audio "The power of Now" - Amazing , you start thinking at a different level, also the Peaceful Warrior is a great book
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