How to recognise an emotional manipulator

i kind of disagree with the premise of the video.. not all manipulation is based of extortion .. and this video describe extortion ..

I guess it is the type of language used, In my own training seminars i use the word "influence" to support somebody actions for the positive and "manipulate" to use somebody in the negative

ahh .. yeah i can see the difference .. manipulation does have a negative tone attached to it ..

extortion is the easier types of emotional manipulation to spot ..because most at the time you know it is happening ..and generally in my experience ..is done more person to person "..I can make you feel this way..but only if you do this thing for me .. that you really do not want to do .."

and come to think of it your video was more blackmail than extortion.. i guess though i have no place to say anything if your info is actually helping people ..

maybe where you are a teacher .. you are probably already teaching people that if that are the manipulator .. tactics on how to switch from negative methods for manipulation.. to positive techniques for to influence others for mutually beneficial outcomes ?

we tend to learn the extorion and blackmail manipulation method for mom and dad ..

You bring a good point though because if you picked up on that maybe others do also but dont say and then restrict their ;learing,

I like the words you use also and will include

Thanks

You are welcome,
right now i am picking out and breaking free of the manipulative cycle that has been a big pattern in my life .. a lot of times we don't know what it is . then we see it as the way things are , then we go numb to it ..and repeat it with others in our lives ..

even if we get away from our orginal environment..we bring ourselves with us and can tend to place those cycles back in our environment and bring people in to fill certain rolls.. or even if they don't fill the roll originaly we train them into the role .. a sort of in life karma ..

there is no point blaming those who imprinted the pattern on us .. as 90 percent of people seem to get a dis functional imprint . so the one we got was good enough to get us to a point now where we notice it is not such a good one ..

I am empathic and very open to the emotional patterns of others ..but also can project thoughts or feelings into others..or quickly tune into how to influence others .. but much of my growing up life .. though i am sure the was no physical abuse .. there was emotional and mental abuse from every angle .. i cultivated to thing .. numbness and a physical /emotional shield.. to keep people away ..

a year ago i figured out what was going on.. and erased the numbness .. now i have been revamping my presence to be more friendly ..and inviting . but i am at a point where i need to get away from my family .. as they will always see me how i was ..

People manipulate others to get emotional responses that they should be willing to give themselves without the need to manipulate others .. but things like love ..acceptence, happiness, joy, excitement , adventure ..need to come from others right .. ?

eehiee .. i am in philospher mode today

Thanks for the video. I have a niece who at age 7 is being bullied by a neighbor in the neighborhood at home and school. Parent and teacher is working with my niece, and it is dying down.

My brother has had to work on her attitude as well. After a while she was feeling bad about herself and she wanted to get back at the person.

Its interesting too, i always have the yin yang approach,

We have to work on ourselves, if we do not we will always be a doormat to these people

but also sometime be prepared to walk away or lash out as sometimes these people do not or will refuse to change as they get too much payoff hurting others (even though it hurts them also)

follow your own heart Odahh, many will do their best to get you to follow their path only because they want more people to verify that they are correct in their choice
Your own path will be the most amazing adventure you can ever dream , mine is and following it for 20 years now