How did you get over Failure?

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There is a saying, "Uninterrupted success is less satisfying than success intertwined with failure." We all have failed once, twice and more...How did you get over them?
Who did you think about and what did you do?

Share your story, life experiences and tips with us all.
Thanks!
#failure #overcoming failure
  • Profile picture of the author Amandasimmons
    The Failure: I failed in a committed relationship. I must admit he was a good guy.
    How I got Over it: I found another guy...lol

    Lesson Learnt: Move on for something better without regrets!
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  • Profile picture of the author surferchris
    I always follow the words: 'live and learn'. I always view my past failures as a lesson and a reminder what to avoid. History repeats itself if nothing goes through your senses and nothing is retained. The whole process involves constant growth. Keeping positive encourages me in getting through my past failures and my anxieties of the future! The proper mindset goes a long way.
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  • Profile picture of the author jandd
    It may be a cliche but I have found the following quote by Winston Churchill most useful in times of stress:

    "Success is never permanent, failure is never fatal"

    Ultimately, we will always face failure, it is the price you pay for gaining experience and learning and trying new things. What you need to do is to learn not to fear failure, rather be able to learn from it when it happens and accept it. Having a positive attitude will not stop you failing, but you can utilise failure rather than just curse it.

    Life is meant to be difficult sometimes and I believe we are the stronger for it. Indeed, as Marcus Aurelius said:

    "The art of living is more like wrestling than dancing"

    Learn, resist and keep going, after all we all face the same struggles and end in time.
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  • Profile picture of the author affshow
    In my mind, I think the entire life should contain success and failure, so I consider failure is as the same as success.
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    • Profile picture of the author Duncan
      You fail to learn something new from it, if you never fail you never learn from it.

      Psychological and emotional ties to failure cause paralysis, and prevent you from assessing the failures to learn, adapt, and move forward.

      Life is full of failures, and everyone fails at one point or another.
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  • Profile picture of the author elevenmg
    I have failed a lot! I have lost more more of my own money and others than some people make in a life time. I'm also going through a divorce. So I know a little about failure.

    I think one of the most important things to remember about failure is that failure is an event. Failure is not who you are or what you could be.

    I've found too many people who think of failure as who they are or something that they are.

    If you make failure into a big deal it will own you.

    Children don't know what failure is. If you watch children play you can see that they don't understand the concept of failure.

    If you have ever experienced a child learning to ride a bicycle with out training wheels you have seen someone with no concept of failure. The child falls over and skins their knee. They may cry and find comfort in their pain, both emotional and physical. Moments later they are back on the bike trying again.

    Shortly the child is riding the bike. They never considered that they wouldn't be able to ride a bike.

    Failure is a condition of giving up.

    That being said. Failure is not a bad thing or something to be ashamed of. Failure is defined as falling short or lack of success.

    The silver metal winner can view themselves as a failure or a champion. This is to say that failure is a view point.

    In the end failure is the stand that you make. The stand of I'm a failure and I'm going to stay that way. Or. I've found another way not to do something.

    I apologize for anything mistakes as I wrote this on my phone.
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  • Profile picture of the author andywestfall
    Learn from it, that's hoe i get over failures. Then move forward and don't get stuck.
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  • Great people became great when they experienced failure many times. I need to fail to become one of them.
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    • Profile picture of the author marktwins
      Failure is a chance to review our acts and make it fit and perfect for the next trial.
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  • Profile picture of the author maximus242
    The key is to fail so often you become numb to it. After this, your not longer afraid of it. Like anything, with increased exposure comes decreased sensitivity.
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    • Profile picture of the author SimplyNDT
      Originally Posted by maximus242 View Post

      The key is to fail so often you become numb to it. After this, your not longer afraid of it. Like anything, with increased exposure comes decreased sensitivity.
      I agree with this, but I tend to take a more measured approach to failure. No matter what happens, I have promised myself that I will never go hungry again. But absolutely, if I hadn't fallen as hard as I have in the past, then I would not be numb to experiencing possible failure in the future. It's all about knowing what you're getting into, and you can't do that a 2nd, 3rd, 4th time without having done it that first time.

      It's the fear of the unknown that paralyzes people for the most. But once you've been through it, it's not that daunting to risk going through it again. Plus it's fun to challenge yourself constantly, and that's why we're all trying to do the same thing right?

      Excellent thread by the way
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    • Profile picture of the author KenThompson
      Originally Posted by maximus242 View Post

      The key is to fail so often you become numb to it. After this, your not longer afraid of it. Like anything, with increased exposure comes decreased sensitivity.
      Yes. This sounds almost funny but I think it's true. Well, it can be true depending on what you do with it in your mind.

      Obviously we're all different, and some are forever crushed by any failure. It just all depends.

      Many years ago, I made mistakes in IM that resulted in a lack of success. I don't view it as a failure, though. I never did.

      For me, lack of success so many times makes it a friend you're not afraid of. Just smile and say hello, and then keep going.
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  • Profile picture of the author esuresh
    How did you get over Failure?

    I have still not got over it. I am still a failure. But I will come back. I am gonna comeback with a Bang.
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  • Profile picture of the author joewalter
    "Dont Think How to win, Think how did I failed" this is the easiest way to get success
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    Failure gives wonderful lessons to success
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  • Profile picture of the author sniperdomi
    I believe that a person who fail is the one That know what to do if he succeed!
    a successful person is the one that know what to do if he fail!

    the meaning of that is, you should have a backup if thing goes wrong. That way you don't get depress and you can start another thing strait up after.
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  • Profile picture of the author hayfj2
    Look for the lessons.
    Apply the learning.
    Take responsibility for your own failings.
    Stop blaming, accusing or being in denial.
    Set new goals based on your recent experience.
    Think what you can offer others, and see them out.
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  • Profile picture of the author kellyyarnsbro
    A cup of coffee will do and a handful of peanuts. That's how i do to try and overcome failure.
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  • Profile picture of the author sirtiman
    Star a new project after cooling down for refresh and charge my energy.
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  • Profile picture of the author rmolina88
    Time heals all wounds.
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    • Profile picture of the author chandan94
      "Failure is the stepping stone to success".
      If you don't experience a failure then you can not
      realize the charm of success.
      I failed in my first WSO in Sept. I was having very little knowledge
      about marketing. I am a good IM product developer. But lack of
      my own list,JV relations,affiliate relations shown me the path of failure.

      Everybody fails in the life. It is the fact of universe.
      I took Coaching from KenSter and came to know A-Z
      of IM and Success. I am confident of achieving success
      in my next WSO.
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      • Profile picture of the author joefizz
        I make sure I learn the lessons given to me by the Universe.



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      • Profile picture of the author Kenster
        Originally Posted by chandan94 View Post

        "Failure is the stepping stone to success".
        If you don't experience a failure then you can not
        realize the charm of success.
        I failed in my first WSO in Sept. I was having very little knowledge
        about marketing. I am a good IM product developer. But lack of
        my own list,JV relations,affiliate relations shown me the path of failure.

        Everybody fails in the life. It is the fact of universe.
        I took Coaching from KenSter and came to know A-Z
        of IM and Success. I am confident of achieving success
        in my next WSO.

        Thanks for the shoutout!!

        I don't personally believe anybody should ever FAIL. Sure, they can do things that don't work out or that lose money, but if you try your hardest and let it be a learning experience, than it wasn't a failure at all.

        The only time you fail is if you don't put full effort into what you're doing.

        My two cents
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  • Profile picture of the author CharlieDewitte
    I've learned to embrace them to be honest! I'm so glad I've failed hundreds of times in life already, just to get up again and improving myself and my business.
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  • I am a very positive person, I always look on the brighter side even when things didn't work as what I have expected.
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    • Profile picture of the author heavysm
      I really had to work at it to get everything going for me. There was no luck when something just happened to click. Everything that I did worked because I examined everything extremely methodically. So everything that succeeded did so not out of coincidence, but out of tedious planning and preparation.

      Life is a huge split test. If you keep doing stuff that doesn't work, you're just not learning from yourself. My current business works because I am obsessed with finding out what works. I don't often get emotional about when things don't work out or even get attached to projects when thing do go right. Controlling your emotions is also a big part of the game.
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  • Profile picture of the author KevinDahlberg
    Learn from my mistakes and move on.

    I never view it as failing, just as an option that didn't work. Very similar to Thomas Edison's 2000 tries.

    Just recently I read an article about Henry Ford, who failed a couple times before finally having success. Not only is that a great motivator, but it made me realize that if I happen to fail at what I am doing now (which is taking a ton of work, time, and sacrifices), the next time might be the time when I finally get it right.
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  • Failure is the funniest thing to happen for us to learn. So I just laugh at it.
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  • Profile picture of the author markmatthews
    This is what I always think of and put into mind.

    "Our mistakes and failures doesn't define us. It is when we stand up and do the right thing that makes us successful"
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  • Profile picture of the author YasirYar
    Originally Posted by Mousumi View Post

    There is a saying, "Uninterrupted success is less satisfying than success intertwined with failure." We all have failed once, twice and more...How did you get over them?
    Who did you think about and what did you do?

    Share your story, life experiences and tips with us all.
    Thanks!
    If at first you don't succeed, brush it all off, and TRY again! ~
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  • Profile picture of the author larryvirstic
    I always love to fail, this way i learn.
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  • Profile picture of the author aliveder
    Everybody has to fail a few times in their life. You have to become a bit hardened, so when trouble does strike, you know what to do, and not panic.

    I have failed quite a few times in my life. That is why I always keep a notebook and pens around me- to document what went wrong!

    When I do succeed, memory of those failures disappear.

    Everybody, especially in business needs to have a positive outlook on everything.
    It is all about the mindset of an individual- that will lead to their success or failure.
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  • Profile picture of the author Michael Ten
    I try to learn from failure, evolve my strategy accordingly and then take more action.
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  • Profile picture of the author travlinguy
    There's an old (or new, for all I know) saying. There is no failure, only feedback.

    That does it for me.
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  • Profile picture of the author Vicky K
    As long as you don't give up, it's not failure, it's learning.

    How do you get over it when you did fail? Just get over it lol. It's simple as that
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  • Profile picture of the author gerrygrillers
    I'll make sure not to do it again, and of course learn from it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Sarevok
    Have you ever watched MMA?

    One of my favorite fighers was Fedor. He fought for years in Japan, and was undefeated.

    Eventually, he lost; he said "He who doesn't fall doesn't stand up".

    You know what Fedor knew? He knew that winning was easy; it doesn't really prove anything.

    The thing that proves something, that really makes something of you is your failure.

    Why do you fail? Why continue going? What's the point if you just suck?

    Well, you fail, and continue, to realize what it will make of you.

    Sure, you can get lucky and win, but what does "luck" really make of you? Nothing much.

    But, let me ask you this; if you've failed several times, and then you win after much dedication, hard work, and study; what would that make of you?

    Food for thought.
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  • Profile picture of the author Coach Anna
    Failure will always be a part of life. As we strive for excellence either in our career, family or even in our personal life the key there will always be about being decisive. Even the fact that you don't decide is still a decision to make. Mistakes we have made are not bad decisions but rather wrong results of the decisions we chose to make.

    I for one have been into different situations in life. And to start all over again from failures to failures is still a decision for you and me to make either to stand up and be back on track or to stay where you have failed and dwell in there forever.
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  • Profile picture of the author jojo1000
    Sleep. Wake up. Start a new day, start fresh. You'd hardly make any more mistakes and your mind would be ready to accept newer challenges.
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  • Profile picture of the author andyredsox
    This is a great thread!

    It's good to know that we are not alone in our struggles in life (career/ personal wise)!

    Life is always a battle and that makes it a good place to stay.

    There is no absolute success without being able to overcome a failure. Some may be easy but some are sometimes unbearable. The only thing that makes us all going is knowing what lies ahead. You must have your eyes on the goal!

    That keeps me going!
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