And on this journey, we met a Frenchmen who seemed in search of something. He was traveling alone, wasn't happy with his career or his romantic prospects.
But he did have big goals. He had a website (and a business card, which I politely took) and he clearly saw his life getting better... someday.
He thought I could benefit from some optimistic goal setting, and he told me in his best English, "You have to know what you want."
Thing is, I did know what I wanted. And I was living it.
I'll say as humbly as I can: I had my new wife, amazing friends and family who had just celebrated our union, and my 9th year as a copywriter was turning out to be the best one yet - and validating my decision years ago to forego traditional paths for one that suited me better.
But still, he was giving me advice about figuring out "what I want" and setting a goal.
It reminded me that goal setting is typically a habit of procrastinators and low-achievers - a group I revere, being one of them for many years. And it reminded me why I don't set goals...
Because goal setting almost always leads to delaying action.
A better habit is simply doing, not goal setting.
If you want to lose weight, do it now. Do today, what it takes to lose weight. BE LOSING WEIGHT right this second.
Don't say you want to lose 5 pounds in 30 days. That gives you 25 days to procrastinate, and 5 days to crash diet - which isn't real weight loss anyway.
Don't say your New Years Resolution for 2013 is to be earning $10,000 a month online... you'll waste months not moving any closer to your "goal."
Instead, just do it. Do what it takes today, and everyday, to grow a successful business online. Do it this way, and you're much more likely to hit your $10,000 a month goal. Maybe even in March, rather than on December 31st, 2013 or even not at all.
Stop setting goals and start taking action.
That's my take.