Broken New Year Resolutions

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Fact : Over 90% of all New Year Resolutions are given up on by the end of February. Now Is that because of lack of willpower or lack of drive ????
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  • Profile picture of the author Paul Gram
    It's because they don't want it bad enough, pure and simple.

    As Anthony Robbins says, most people have "shoulds" that need to be "musts". Most people "should" all over themselves.
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      • Profile picture of the author chukster
        Originally Posted by Mike85 View Post

        Agreed! I also agree with Tony Robbins on the fact that it's never a matter of having the resources, but rather your resourcefulness. Even if you are presented with hurdles that are standing between you and your goals, if you want it bad enough and get resourceful, there is always a way to get what you want and more.

        Defiantly I agree just like wanting a job learning to walk if you want it bad enough you will find one way or another to get it


        If you fail to plan then you plan to fail in my opinion
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  • Profile picture of the author John Atkins
    I would say the main reason for broken resolutions is ignorance. People
    simply do not want to get better even though they might wish for it.
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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      I think it's because make their biggest, most ambitious resolutions to begin on Jan 1....which is when many have the biggest hangover of the year.
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      • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
        I am proud to announce that I won't break mine, guaranteed!

        What is it you ask?

        Never to make another New Year's Resolution!

        Terra
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        • Profile picture of the author KevinDahlberg
          Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

          I am proud to announce that I won't break mine, guaranteed!

          What is it you ask?

          Never to make another New Year's Resolution!

          Terra
          I'm the same way.

          My "New Year's Resolution" was to party hard (mission accomplished)

          I have things that I am working on and will continue working on. Some arbitrary day on a calendar isn't going to decide when I start or stop something.
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          • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
            Originally Posted by KevinDahlberg View Post

            I'm the same way.

            My "New Year's Resolution" was to party hard (mission accomplished)

            I have things that I am working on and will continue working on. Some arbitrary day on a calendar isn't going to decide when I start or stop something.
            Exactly!

            As I encounter things that need to be addressed in my life, I tackle them head-on then and there. To put it off until that arbitrary day on the calendar is an indication that I really don't have the drive nor the wisdom to accomplish the necessary.

            Perhaps people don't follow through with their New Year Resolution because they merely make them by rote and don't have the wherewithal to accomplish it in the first place.

            Terra
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      • Profile picture of the author NestZone
        Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

        I think it's because make their biggest, most ambitious resolutions to begin on Jan 1....which is when many have the biggest hangover of the year.
        Imagine trying to set new resolutions when you have a lot of unfinished works.

        Its like moving from one class to the other without taking exams.
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  • Profile picture of the author kayfrank
    You need a strong desire to fulfil your new years resolution. Distraction kicks in and you find 'other' more important things to do. Make a plan - get into a habit of fulfilling your new years resolution!
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  • Profile picture of the author Happyeagle
    Could be because most don't have a strategy and a backup plan to achieve their resolutions. Most don't break down their resolution into reasonable chunks that they can tackle. Also the people they hang around is important.

    I had a resolution to significantly cut back on my drinking during 2012. I achieved this simply by spending less time with people who drink and hanging out with them during times when drinking was inappropriate. I also made friends and I'm around people who don't drink.

    I had a resolution to gain significant muscle mass during 2012, and I hanged around people who had no interest in gaining muscle, they would just go to the gym and wonder around, do one set and look at themselves in the mirror... I'm still the same weight that I was last year, in fact I look like them!

    People want to loose weight but they hang around people who have major weight issues... it aint going to happen. People want to make $10,000 a month in their online business but mostly hang around 9-5ers who are making $3000 a month... it's not happening.

    In my experience it seems that its less about willpower, more about self image and making it really easy for yourself by having a plan and being in the right environment.
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  • Profile picture of the author qadar
    People don't have strong desire to follow their resolution. Most reason because people are satisfied with their current life. If they really want to change, they will follow the resolution they made.
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    • Profile picture of the author Jarmila
      Originally Posted by qadar View Post

      People don't have strong desire to follow their resolution. Most reason because people are satisfied with their current life. If they really want to change, they will follow the resolution they made.
      Well said! Broken resolutions are nothing more than symptoms of not wanting something badly enough. Especially when it involves change and work.
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      • Profile picture of the author Stephen Dean
        Originally Posted by Jarmila View Post

        Well said! Broken resolutions are nothing more than symptoms of not wanting something badly enough. Especially when it involves change and work.
        You might be right. I've thought the same before, and I may have been right then, but I think some people can want something badly and still not have the internal tools to get there.

        If they want it bad enough, maybe they'll keep looking to find the tools and master them. But it might take more than a year.

        Knowing how to master yourself takes time!

        Cheers,
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  • Profile picture of the author Stephen Dean
    Because they set resolutions instead of just doing it.

    Some people are good at meeting "goals" and resolutions, but 90% are not (or more). For the 90%, setting goals actually makes it less likely that you'll achieve it. Instead, just commit to doing it.

    For example, if you want to make $10,000 per month, setting a goal to do it by some time in the future will just give you time to procrastinate.

    If instead of writing down a resolution, you wrote down what a person who makes $10,000 a month should be doing each day... and concentrate on doing it each day, you'll get there much faster.

    Focus on the action, not the goal.

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    • Profile picture of the author Tessa Holmes
      Originally Posted by Happyeagle View Post

      Could be because most don't have a strategy and a backup plan to achieve their resolutions. Most don't break down their resolution into reasonable chunks that they can tackle. Also the people they hang around is important.
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      In my experience it seems that its less about willpower, more about self image and making it really easy for yourself by having a plan and being in the right environment.
      Very useful, I am taking notes...

      Originally Posted by Stephen Dean View Post

      Because they set resolutions instead of just doing it.

      For example, if you want to make $10,000 per month, setting a goal to do it by some time in the future will just give you time to procrastinate.

      If instead of writing down a resolution, you wrote down what a person who makes $10,000 a month should be doing each day... and concentrate on doing it each day, you'll get there much faster.

      Focus on the action, not the goal.

      Cheers,
      Stephen Dean
      Very good post. It changed my plans for today. And Tomorrow. Great comment indeed.
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      • Profile picture of the author Stephen Dean
        Originally Posted by Tessa Holmes View Post

        Very good post. It changed my plans for today. And Tomorrow. Great comment indeed.
        Now that's taking action! Thanks.

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  • Profile picture of the author Angellos
    I am currently reading psycho cybernetics by maxwell maltz, and i can't help thinking that the lack of follow through on new year resolutions could be related to the self image the person holds.
    Yes, you have to want it bad enough but if you don't have the self image to follow through with a goal you just will not accomplish it.
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  • Profile picture of the author Joe Mobley
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    Originally Posted by Chris Donne View Post

    Fact : Over 90% of all New Year Resolutions are given up on by the end of February. Now Is that because of lack of willpower or lack of drive ????
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  • Profile picture of the author Kathy Bell
    I don't make resolutions per se as I have ongoing goals that evolve during the year anyway. I think goal setting is important because there needs to be a destination in mind when taking action.

    People who don't meet their New Year's resolutions fall short because they don't want it badly enough. If your why is important, you'll find a way to make it happen.
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  • Profile picture of the author Paul Langham
    Originally Posted by Chris Donne View Post

    Fact : Over 90% of all New Year Resolutions are given up on by the end of February. Now Is that because of lack of willpower or lack of drive ????
    Hi Chris,

    Many people set themselves crazy targets with no plan on how they are going to get there. For example, they say they will loose 60 pounds, but by when, how, doing what?

    If you need to lose weight set a goal which is obtainable - a few pounds at a time for example - and research how you are going to achieve your target.

    If you are looking to make money online, then start with aiming to make a dollar, then 10, then 50, then 100, then 1000 etc etc.

    Small chuncks in a controlled manner is the way to go.
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  • Profile picture of the author Aaron Doud
    If you wait to start moving forward till the new year that forward motion isn't something you truly want to do.
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  • Profile picture of the author Sarevok
    New years resolutions are superficial.

    If you need like "a time of year" to make a commitment, then you're not really serious about change.

    The better thing to do, is make change when you want. Not because of some fad.

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