What holds you back?

From the thousand+ students I have coached, here are some common things I have found initially hold them back...

-Fear of the unknown

-Perfectionism

-Procrastination

-Information Overload

-Self Doubt

-Distraction

-Self Doubt


This is MUCH more important to overcome than the technical/strategic side of business!

It's the persistent competitors that keeps holding me back. But anyway it's part of the competition so just let them pull me back, it only means one thing, i am ahead of them.

Right now, lack of direction and focus. Well, I just haven't found my niche yet. I would like to find a niche that I am passionate about and that can also be profitable - I guess I am scared that I will fail.

For me it always boils to down to self. Whether or not I believe I can create something in my life (work or other) determines my output and my perfectionistic tendencies. If I believe I am worthy of whatever it is I seek then I will do all I can to make it happen.

And one of the best things I've ever done for myself is to have an accountability partner! Someone I check in with every day (5 days a week) and share where I'm at. My friend listens and guides me and I do the same for him. It's been a terrific partnership for both of us.

ATM what holds me back are these two - focus and fear of loosing the battle. I am always afraid of loosing the competition, I guess everybody does too.

Hey Jason,

Great introspective question, Bro!!

9 times out of 10, in general, the most powerful thing that holds anyone back from "Success" (however one defines "success"),...is your own mind.....your internal brain chatter,....that feeds and replays over and over in the subconscious mind.

What's scary, is that most folks go through life not even aware of this internal processing, that directly affects his/her external actions & decision, which results in his/her external conditions.

Solution? Take active control of your mind,....your conscious thinking. Immersion into positive affirmations, daily introspective peaceful meditations.

...Staying vigilant of your thoughts constantly,..and "correcting" all thoughts towards only the positive expectations and results that you want.

(I know! This is easier said than done,...but it's amazing how quick one's persistence & consistency of positive, forward-moving action, propels you out of obstacles and challenges!

The rewards are freakin' SWEET!

Hope this helps!

....The Best is Yet to Come...

Go Kick Azz!
-A.D. Christian

Great question to ponder Jason. What has held me back are those limiting beliefs that I am working on to overcome. Although you want to remain conscious at all time in everything you do, like in the thoughts you have and the daily activities you undertake, there are a lot of things you do that are unconscious. So the challenge is to bring them to light and work on them to the best of your abilities.

Hi Jason,
I gotta admit, for me its the negative self-talk. You know, that little chattering voice in your head that says: Why would anyone listen to you, buy from you, think positively about you? I know I have to think positive, but that little mite in my head creeps in at the most inopportune times!

JR

What holds me back personally?

1. Relative Success: I have a great job which pays me well but I am not at my full potential.

I think more people who stopped and thought about it would realize what holds them back is the fact they are "ok" with where they are. It is there Relative Success that holds them back from their potential. Success is the enemy of reaching your potential not failure. Failure is an event that happens on the road to reaching your full potential.

2. Fear: Reaching your full potential often means taking chances and you might take 3 steps back to gain ten. That fear holds me back and I know it holds back many others.

Fear has a lot of names like self doubt but they all boil down to fear. Fear is the mind killer. Fear is the dream killer.

3. Time: This one I am sure a lot of others have as well. To be reach your potential you have to trade free time in. Now in the long run you can build a life where you work less in the begining you will work more. This is one of the hardest things for me. I value time above nearly everything else.

The biggest thing that hold anyone back is FEAR.

For me is distraction. I get easily distracted from many kinds of entertainment.

I mostly get held back by laziness. I know what I need to do, but I just don't do it. Or I just keep reading other methods and coming up with different ideas.

I need to just pick one idea and stick with it!

Not knowing how to do things. I do love to learn but when things confuse me, I often get frustrated, and that holds me back.

Distractions everywhere. And a bad habit of playing video games.

The biggest thing that holds me back is building different parts of websites because I have such a clear vision of what I want normally but don't know anything about writing code or graphics so I have to outsource everything... by far the biggest thing holding me back because I would much rather pull a couple all-nighters and have what I want but not really an option unless I learn how to write code...

Self doubt

Self doubt

Self doubt

Here I was thinking of posting a thread titled; "Failure - Is It Self-Inflicted" but stumbled upon your thread.

In my experience, the ability to acknowledge the problem areas are always the easy part. Such as being a perfectionist, and one who feels its essential to master all aspects of the business or prior businesses I have owned.

Half the problem is acknowledging there is one. My biggest handicap is finding myself in the wrong company. I am constantly surrounded by people who refuse to see the problem. When they do, many refuse to stand accountable, take action, and be of any benefit to themselves or the whole.

For years, I have run on the notion if I could find just a few people to share a business mindset with, and work toward a unified goal... we could all prosper.

To date, everyone I meet refuses to acknowledge, accept, and stand accountable for the responsibilities associated to success, and prefer to talk sh!t, do nothing, and blame others for their hardships.

Not me... I inflict massive amounts of discipline upon myself. I hate failure, and find it everywhere. I can see problems in business models, people, relationships, financial, and psychological... and often feel I can fix everyone else's problem(s) but not my own.

I have major issues with trusting anyone as Ive witnessed the damage people can inflict upon each other, and more importantly the ones they love. Many are slaves to their past failures and seem to want everyone else around them to experience their hardship, pain, or failures.

I stand accountable for my choices and the actions that follow, and do so unbiased toward the results. Often I set my goal so high, I question myself; why?

Perhaps, I do so knowing failure has been a silent motivator in my life. The fear of failure never rests easy. Thus, I believe to have subconsciously accepted failure as a way to punish myself not to fail again.

While I could easily write 1000 page answer defining what I believe holds people back... My short answer is PEOPLE!!!!

I know we cannot change anyone. They must want change themselves. In my surroundings, I see too many who have the makings for success, but choose to reflect on past failures, placing blame, playing games, and rather than unite...stand divided.

It's sad really. Makes me wonder why I even bother sharing my knowledge when at times it makes me feel ignorant, as if I am writing for blinded eyes...or...screaming words of wisdom upon deafened ears!

Hence, my problem... most whom I encounter are willfully ignorant, and it pisses me off!

Anger... deriving from the inability to teach the willfully ignorant. My #1 problem. You can't fix stupid as I always say. And yet, I wake up everyday believing the angel on my right; telling me not to give up on people...knowing I may inspire one person to see the benefits in being honest, disciplined, responsible for their decisions and the action & results that follow. I stand accountable knowing I will fail and still press on.

Rather ironic really when you think about it. So I guess putting others before myself is a good way to fail...I'm proof of that, for sure!

Great question and its based on being conscious with yourself. Iv learn and I don't believe anyone is a victem other than themselvs thinking they are. With that being said one of my most challenges is playing the role of the leader and following what other successful people are doing and trying to reflect the positness and successful mindset in others. Teach people including myself how to use our brains. Our brain is a awesome tool and learning how to use it to it's full potential

What I allow to hold me back sometimes is negative attention from others. It's like I want to listen to myself and my own inner guidance/feeling but then I listen to them and take their "advice" and it turns out bad because they have no idea where I am, where I'm going and what's lined up for me so how could they give any accurate guidance?
So I believe this is a major problem in my world, how I am often times seeking acceptance from others and letting them influence my behavior and thus being at effect and not at cause.

And if you are at effect in business you have already lost...

Would the mechanism I described be considered self-doubt?
I guess it can but I'd put it in the category of "approval seeking" and not giving myself permission.

I see a lot of answers on here stating fear is what is holding them back, or procrastination, or <fill in the blank> is holding them back.

I can speak from personal experience that you can't get rid of fear or procrastination or whatever else until you have a reason to. A real reason!

Like a "your bottom is puckered up, you wake up in the middle of the night, things are about to get real intense real fast" kind of reason...

You will never succeed with your intellect alone. I decided 100 times that I wasn't going to procrastinate or let fear hold me back EVER AGAIN! And guess what? It always did... You need a lot of emotion for your success goals to reach your subconscious mind and affect you to the point where you will take consistant action.

When you have enough emotion towards becoming successful, you won't have to ask yourself "What's holding me back?"... Because there ain't sh!t holding you back any longer, and that's the truth! All humans are amazing when we need to be. So maybe the answer is for you to put yourself in a situation where you need to be amazing?

(My personal story is I quit a comfy $100K+ engineering job that I was completely unfulfilled in to become an entrepreneur and I haven't looked back yet! It only took me 10 years after my Air Force career to realize I hated the Corporate world so much!)

cool dude

Internal self doubt...I have great ideas but after the original ah-ha wears off, my ideas don't seem so great anymore.