Your Mind Thinks You're In Danger, even when you're not

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Your "fight or flight" response is out of whack - and unless you correct it, you will be controlled by it.

Modern man doesn't face anything nearly as dangerous as our primitive ancestors had to face.

There are no bears to run and hide from, but your mind still tries to protect you from uncomfortable situations regardless.

Every time you venture into the unknown, your mind still thinks your in danger. So it does what it has been biologically programmed to do. It steers you away from the uncomfortable, and back into your comfort zone.

The problem is that your mind cannot tell what's dangerous, and what isn't. Whether it's a job interview, or asking a girl to the dance, your mind still uses the outdated biologically programmed "fight or flight" response it has always used.

So the blood rushes into your arms and legs so you can retreat as quick as possible. But you don't need adrenaline to ask a girl to the dance. You don't need adrenaline to push through uncomfortable situations. You just need to do them.

Nothing inside any book can teach your mind how to act in these uncomfortable situations. Your mind needs to see "firsthand" that the situation is not dangerous. And the only real way to train your mind to know this, is to actually face your fears.

Your "bears" are any uncomfortable situation you repeatedly run from. Your bears are the the change in the status quo.

This is why the personal development industry is so massive. People keep reading book after book on how to overcome their fears, but it won't help them. This information MUST come from real "visceral" experiences - and NOT second hand knowledge passed down from others.

Your mind learns best from experiences. You need to teach your mind uncomfortable situations are NOT dangerous. No amount of reading can do this.

Sure, reading positive material can get you in the right frame of mind to tackle difficult situations, but unless you actually face them, your mind will treat them as dangerous.


A great example of this is an experiment I took on 5 months ago.

I decided to take a cold shower for 30 days. The first cold shower was torture. My mind "as expected" thought I was in danger. So, it did everything in its power to get me out of the shower. I didn't. I stead the course.

It wasn't nice that's for sure. But I made a commitment to stick it out for 30 days.


What I noticed really opened my eyes. A lot!!

You see. I've now taken 137 cold showers. Every cold shower feels just as cold as when I first took one.


Here's the important part...

The cold showers still feel just as cold as the first one I took. Just this morning, my body was feeling numb because the water was so fricking cold. But my mind doesn't react anymore.

It's actually kinda weird. I can feel how cold the water is, but at the same time I'm not bothered in the slightest by it. Imagine someone sticking a sharp object into your body. You can feel the pain, but it doesn't bother you at all. Something like that anyway


Think about this:

If person "A' takes a cold shower for the first time. His or her mind will do whatever it takes to get them out of the shower. Their body will tense up. Their breathing will escalate. Their mind will be in a state of panic.

If person "B" takes a cold shower for 30 days. His or her mind will NOT react at all, even though the water is just as cold. The body will feel the cold, but the mind won't have any reaction. Body temperature stays the same. Breathing is relaxed, and the mind is completely calm.

My point for this post is to help you realize that unless you face your fears, your mind will trick you at every turn, and will do whatever it takes to get you away from danger...even if there's no danger in sight.

People wonder why they don't pursue their dreams. I'm saying it's because their mind won't let them. Their mind is controlling how they feel. What they perceive. It's creating stories "in the shadows" to keep you safe. It does this without you even knowing it.

Listen. There are no great tragedies going to happen if you face your fears. Nothing bad happens once you pass through those uncomfortable situations. But unless you do, your mind will regard every uncomfortable situation as being dangerous...and put you straight back into your box.

Most adults have been listening to their doubtful minds all their lives. They avoid uncomfortable situations, and as a result, their lives are unexceptional.

Take a cold shower for 30 days. And if you decide it's pointless, and can serve no purpose, ask yourself WHO MADE THAT DECISION. You, or your mind? I can tell you right now, that it's your mind stopping you, because there are NO consequences for taking on this challenge. If you don't do it, it's because your mind is in control of YOU.

Start to go against the grain.

Start taking on challenges.

Don't be afraid to challenge yourself.

You need to feel the fear...and do it anyway.

Soon, you'll wonder what all the fuss was about.

Have a good one.
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  • Profile picture of the author Make Money Ninja
    Very cool post. That was something i definitely intuitively new, but never took the time to think about.

    On a side note, did you start cold showers to activate "brown fat"? I cant remember the science of it, but cold showers help you lose weight.
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  • Profile picture of the author taxpayment1
    Wowww. That was great.. I really enjoyed reading that. I am very big into listening and reading personal development. I am a very big fan of Tony Robbins, and love having a positive attitude. The only way to progress is to have a very strong mentality. Thanks for sharing.
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  • Profile picture of the author sweethomeliving
    Very good post! But I would have to have some incredible motivation to ever take a cold shower. Did I notice some Psycho-Cybernetics in your post?
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    • Profile picture of the author retsced
      Originally Posted by Make Money Ninja View Post

      Very cool post. That was something i definitely intuitively new, but never took the time to think about.

      On a side note, did you start cold showers to activate "brown fat"? I cant remember the science of it, but cold showers help you lose weight.
      Fat loss is one of the physical benefits of having a cold shower. Personally though, I started taking cold showers for the psychological benefits. It's a way to train your mind. Taking cold showers is a way for me to ignore the excuses my mind gives me to not do something. After a short while, it just stops with the excuses, and lets you get on with it

      Originally Posted by taxpayment1 View Post

      Wowww. That was great.. I really enjoyed reading that. I am very big into listening and reading personal development. I am a very big fan of Tony Robbins, and love having a positive attitude. The only way to progress is to have a very strong mentality. Thanks for sharing.
      Very true. Just make sure you're using what you learn. Personal development is not unlike Internet marketing. You can easily get caught up in paralysis by analysis.

      Originally Posted by sweethomeliving View Post

      Very good post! But I would have to have some incredible motivation to ever take a cold shower. Did I notice some Psycho-Cybernetics in your post?
      I really like Psycho-Cybernetics, and I believe a lot of what we know today about mindset and self image, derives from it. However, this post wasn't written with P-C in mind.

      As for motivation for taking a cold shower. I don't think motivtion has much to do with it. It's smply about ignoring the excuses your mind makes up for you not to do it. There are no negative consqequences and it doesn't hurt you to take cold showers, therefore, you're training your mind to stop treating uncomfortable things as dangerous.

      If you can't ignore your mind, and take a cold shower, then you can bet your bottom dollar your mind is also stopping you from doing other things that make you feel uncomfortable. And quite honestly, if you're not feeling uncomfortable, you're not challenging yourself. If you're not challenging yourself, you won't tap into your true potential.
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      Originally Posted by sweethomeliving View Post

      Very good post! But I would have to have some incredible motivation to ever take a cold shower. Did I notice some Psycho-Cybernetics in your post?
      I was thinking Haanel's Master Key.
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  • Profile picture of the author Chris Douglas
    Great post. Another way to say "It's all in your mind". With all of this being said, Are you challenging Darwin's theory of evolution? It sounds to me like you are since, according to you, the mind hasn't evolved even when the underlying cause has been removed that caused this reaction in the first place.

    Could it be that Darwin's theory of evolution is all lies? ........ *Waits for debate about God to start*
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      Originally Posted by Chris Douglas View Post

      Great post. Another way to say "It's all in your mind". With all of this being said, Are you challenging Darwin's theory of evolution? It sounds to me like you are since, according to you, the mind hasn't evolved even when the underlying cause has been removed that caused this reaction in the first place.

      The mind has evolved wonderfully. Once the underlying cause has been determined to be a non-threatening, the mind reacts accordingly.

      Could it be that Darwin's theory of evolution is all lies?

      Nope. Currently, evolution is the best explanation for development of life on the blue marble. ........

      *Waits for debate about God to start*

      Nope, not as long as we stay within the realm of facts, evidence, logic, reason, etc.
      The mind "thinking you are in danger" even when you are not is a evolutionary survival mechanism. These type 1 and type 2 errors are covered nicely by Michael Shermer in the TED video.


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    • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
      Originally Posted by Chris Douglas View Post

      Great post. Another way to say "It's all in your mind". With all of this being said, Are you challenging Darwin's theory of evolution?

      Animals that thought every sudden sound, or swaying of the grass was a predator...survived longer to produce more offspring than their "nothing scares me" brothers.

      You can still see it when the small animals in your back yard scurry, even when you just tap on a window pane. Animals (including us) are genetically predisposed to be afraid of certain signals as a way to survive longer. It's also why we see faces in toast, elephants in clouds, and monsters in the dark corners of our bedrooms. It's called "Agency", to anthropologists. We see predators where there are none, and create patterns when none exist.

      The OP gave a great example of numbing our response to stimulus. Have you ever tamed a squirrel,or other wild animal? Same thing. You are overriding their genetic predisposition to see you as a real threat.

      On the Galapagos islands, there are animals that have never had a predator.
      And eventually, their ingrained inherited fear becomes recessive, and breeds out. So we can walk along these animals and they don't fear us. It's why dogs are easier to domesticate than wolves. We made dogs, all breeds. We forced their evolution along certain paths. How long do you think a dachshund would last in the wild?

      Anyway, the OP's post perfectly matches the process of evolution. As does all anthropology, archaeology, or any of the animal sciences.

      How do I know all this? I just paid attention in high school science class.
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    Good advice indeed.
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    Great post… I know I have some issues to get past. I do not know if I could take the cold showers though.

    I am training my brain. Sometimes the process is hard.

    For many the negative self talk can be overwhelming.
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  • I might want to address you as "the good stuff man".

    Very useful post. Very clearly and cleverly put together thread that was.

    It would be useless to try to add to the common sense presented in this marvelous thread.

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  • I've been taking cold showers for several years now. You're right, it's not that big of a deal once you get used to it.

    But sometimes, when the weather is really cold, I do get scared.

    That's when I tell myself to just get over it and shower already. The sooner I do it the sooner it gets done.
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    its like the two voices inside your head. Some refer to sub-conscience, others, the little voice of reason. or the devil and the angel. if you know you have been bad, lazy and you could have done more then that's the reason you haven't succeeded today. Easier said than done i know but many successful people use it as a trigger point. To snap back into themselves. OH now were are going into the darker side of it. i.e Mk ultra..
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