Change Your Perspective

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Here's something that I sent to my list a few broadcasts back. I thought it might be useful for someone here as well. ^_^
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Perspective is an amazing thing. It can cause you to be seen as a leader, improve your quality of life, and allow you to get what you want from others. It's essential for starting and running a business, for communicating with employees and outsourcers, and for maintaining your motivation through tough times. And yet, most people don't even know that it exists.

But the best thing about perspective is that everyone has it, and with some conscious effort, you can control it.

How?

Here are a few every-day things that you can try.

Personal Wealth and Well-being


No matter what, a change in mindset has to start with you.

For example, did something bad happen to you today? If so, did you get upset about it?

Being angry or sad about bad things won't change that they've happened, and will only make their effect(s) on you stronger. Instead, think about them this way:
  • Maybe every bad thing that happens to you is payment for good that will soon come. The worse this situation is, the better the good thing will probably be (more payment = more reward)!
  • Or perhaps something is bad now so that something else will seem even better later!
  • And who knows; maybe this bad thing can be turned around and used to your advantage as a funny story, or a way to bond with your clients and/or lists.
With every bad thing comes good; you just have to look for it.

Likewise, when things annoy you or frustrate you, changing your perspective can help. Perhaps there is someone doing something dangerous on the road while you're driving.

Instead of being frustrated with them, try to think of logical reasons for that behavior.
  • Maybe they're a new driver, or driving a new car for the first time.
  • Maybe they aren't driving straight, because they just got off of a really long work shift and are dead tired.
  • Maybe they're being slow, because they're lost, and are looking for something/somewhere.
  • Or maybe they're speeding, because they have to get a loved one to a hospital, or they're going to be late for their train.
Whatever the behavior, there can be a logical explanation, and I can guarantee you that every driver has been in at least one of these situations themselves. Just think about how you felt when it happened to you, and it won't bother you so much when someone else does it.

Changing negative situations into positive ones will improve your mood instantly, and with some effort, you can train yourself to automatically think like this, saving you from a lot of frustration in day-to-day life. You'll be happier, which will make others happier to be around you, which will open more opportunities for you, which will further improve your life!

Starting a Business

Have you tried to make money online and had trouble with it?
Have you ever failed at something and become demotivated?
Have you ever wondered how people manage to push ahead through failure after failure long enough to find success?

The answer is simple; change your perspective.

I'm sure that you've heard the saying, "A failure is only a failure if you don't learn from it," and it is 100% true! There are no failures, only experiences.

Negative experiences teach you what you should and shouldn't be doing. They provide boundaries so that you know how far to go in any one direction, and every time you come across one, you better your chances of finding success within those boundaries.

Here's another way to look at it: there are a finite (although possibly large) number of possibilities with any given action. Every time you "fail". you are simply checking off one of the possibilities. If you don't repeat the mistake, you are 1 step closer to success. ^_^

Or perhaps your goal isn't to alter your perspective, but to alter the perspective of those around you.
  • If you want to seem more professional, you can dress well and be punctual.
  • If you want your company to seem more professional, you can use consistent messaging and images in your branding.
  • If you want your customers to buy your food products, you can use a lot of yellows and reds in your marketing (those colors make people hungry).
Changing your perspective to think about how other people will perceive you, your company, and your products will help you to get more customers, make more sales, and come up with new product ideas time and time again.

Outsourcing and Employee Communication

The single largest mistake that most business owners make is that they treat their workers/outsourcers like tools. They think, "I pay you to do it, so you should do it, and if you don't, I'll fire you."

This perspective is harmful for 2 reasons.
  1. As a boss/manager, it is not the employee's job to help you. It is YOUR JOB to help and guide THEM. If you are not giving them what they need, they can not work properly, so their "failing" is actually YOUR "failure".
  2. Every single person has worries and fears, outside influences, and various day-to-day situations that affect their productivity in the workplace. One can't assume that the workplace is an isolated space.
Or in other words, change your perspective.

Is your employee's work slipping? If so, don't just fire them; find out what the problem is.
  • Maybe they just lost a loved one and are depressed.
  • Maybe they're confused about how to proceed with their work, and need guidance.
  • Maybe the software provided to them is out-of-date and impossible to use.
  • Maybe they're working too hard or have food allergies that won't allow them to eat the food offered by your company, causing them to not eat enough, and that's finally starting to take its toll on them.
There are thousands of reasons for an employee to not produce the results that you would like them to, and a lot of those reasons have nothing to do with the person's ability to do their job.

In short, if something seems to be bad/wrong/out of place, look at it from a new angle.
  • Was there something that YOU did to cause it (hopefully something that you can learn from)?
  • If not, what reasons could there be for that thing to have happened?
  • Can you think of a way to turn this bad thing into a good thing and/or use it to your advantage?
The way that you view life is entirely dependent on how YOU CHOOSE to look at it. So, if it's your choice, why not make your world a better place? ^_^

How have you had to change your perspective to gain success (large or small) in life, and what has it done for you? ^_^
#change #gain #gaining #happiness #perspective
  • Profile picture of the author Adam Short
    Thanks for this awesome post.

    Perspective is something I work on continually and though it hasn't always been easy, it does get easier the more you practice it.

    It's amazing how a simple thought shift can turn your emotional state around. For me, understanding that there are many different perspectives than mine was the first step to grasping this concept. Then, when uncomfortable situations happened, I would try to focus on how they could turn into positive outcomes. It was difficult in the beginning because your thoughts happen almost without control and unless you are aware that you can have a different perspective, you may not look beyond your own thoughts to see the silver lining or what someone else may be going through.

    Awareness is key, and then thought changes can happen with more ease.

    Thanks for the reminder on this. It's easy to forget that there are other people and perspectives in the world besides your own.

    Adam
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  • Profile picture of the author rhodester
    Hello again. What I have tried to do over the years is "mind over matter". Bad things happen to good people, and we must always remember who "we are" at all times. It is difficult with the "seams" of our life coming apart from time to time.
    I pay particular attention,during the rough times, of who I am and what I am trying to become, and pretend momentarily that everything is just as it should be, and play my "mind over matter" attitude. Eventually,things settle down and I no longer need to pretend.
    This strategy has helped me thru many tough days where I did not need to "kick the cat". People will respect and trust you much more if you are consistently level headed and remain positive about them and about life. Have a great day.
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    • Profile picture of the author cajtrixie
      Originally Posted by Adam Short View Post

      Then, when uncomfortable situations happened, I would try to focus on how they could turn into positive outcomes. It was difficult in the beginning because your thoughts happen almost without control and unless you are aware that you can have a different perspective, you may not look beyond your own thoughts to see the silver lining or what someone else may be going through.

      Awareness is key, and then thought changes can happen with more ease.
      It is really hard to shift your mindset at first. Even if you realize that you're thinking in a way that you don't like, you realize it after you've already done it! But, as you said, eventually it becomes easier, and then one day it just becomes natural.

      Thank you so much for such a thoughtful comment!


      Originally Posted by rhodester View Post

      I pay particular attention,during the rough times, of who I am and what I am trying to become, and pretend momentarily that everything is just as it should be, and play my "mind over matter" attitude. Eventually,things settle down and I no longer need to pretend.
      This strategy has helped me thru many tough days where I did not need to "kick the cat". People will respect and trust you much more if you are consistently level headed and remain positive about them and about life. Have a great day.
      Hi rhodester!

      That is so true! Always trying to do your best and be your best is a very commendable thing, especially when it's at its most difficult.

      Personally, I like to think that for every bad, there is an equal or greater good. That way, if I have a particularly bad day, I have something even better to look forward to (and to work towards)!

      Thank you so much for your comment! ^-^
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    Great content. Thank you for sharing
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    • Profile picture of the author cajtrixie
      Originally Posted by nipon View Post


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      Very true! A change of scenery will do wonders for a person's perspective, especially when it comes to people and situations that you might interact with every day. ^_^
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      • Profile picture of the author FeelGoodIQ
        Changing one's perspective isn't easy, but if you don't even try, you're destined to wake up each day wondering why time has passed so quickly and you chose to not change your situation.
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    Everyone needs to understand that there is more than enough wealth to go around for everyone
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  • Profile picture of the author abdovic
    Mhmm, something that changed me was def. Shugo Chara
    although it can be a bit baby-ish at times, it really makes you think if how you act is really who you wanna be. It definitely changed the way I think about others' dreams, and my own.
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  • Profile picture of the author tobyjensen
    Holy crap! The heart and soul of the whole missing piece of psychology and personal development. What is the one method for being able to change false core beliefs. It is what everyone is seeking. Everyone claims it - no one consistently delivers. Everybody claims it.

    Core beliefs are designed to be difficult to change - so you don't walk into a lamp post and suddenly go wonkers. The more powerful the emotion (positive or negative) we have tied to a belief the more powerful it is. Women really know what this is about - emotion is incredibly powerful. Because of this power many people have simply lost the ability to change. It is why we hear things like - people don't change, you can't motivate people, a person has to decide to change before they can. So unfortunate because it's not quite true.

    In the meantime coping skills are it. NLP, life coach, therapy, psychology, hypnosis, goal setting, positive thinking, motivation, plenty to wade through. I've been through or studied just about all of it at one point or another.

    What works? Is what I've asked myself.
    Why does it work?
    Does it work only for me?
    Can I depend on this no matter what?

    I will offer this one thing up. The placebo effect has a 60% to 70% success rate and is actually increasing in effectiveness. Prozac wouldn't be approved today because of this.

    Another great question is if you aren't passionate about something what is painful enough to get you going?


    Is there enough wealth for everyone? is such an interesting question as well . . . .
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  • Profile picture of the author judymac
    This is very interesting to read this string right now. I am in the midst of a significant product creation that speaks to what you are all talking about. It is definitely time to slow our thinking down a bit to increase our success.
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