Suffering And Turmoil

hello ,

as i have walked this path and learned how deep the problem of attachment is ..

many people get so attached to the immagined feeling of what they want ..it become proffered to leave it in their imaginations than to make the effort to make it a reality and risk the reality falling far short .

so we suffer because we walk around with our imagines full of better thing we never try to make a reality ..and it make the reality much harder to deal with ..so then one must meditate to touch the higher self ..or clear the frustration.

put a zen master through an advanced driving course .. and put him/her in any fast car they like ..and they will drive it and have as much fun as any one ..but when they are done driving . they file the experience and go on to the next experience .

no need to own the car .. no need to have built up expectation in order to drive the car .. no need to have any negative feeling because they may never drive that car again .

the world we live in is packed with potential to have an endless string of great experiences ..but we are so attached to the suffering we go through every day..and invested in dreams we are not trying to make real .. we lock ourselves in .

there is a reason nearly every grate sage buddah jesus and probably every one whos writing you read today..had to leave where the grew up and get away from their families and where they grew up .

because the people around you have their own attached ideas who who you are ..that it is nearly impossible to change

The less attached we are the more create and flexible we can be with life. When some is overly attached they can be narrow minded and not open to new and better ways. Thus the suffering IMO.

Also IMO we can't be "free" of ego, we need it to interface with people and the world, What I think we can do is realize the tool ego is and that it is not the real us, the whole gateless gate thing. When we know this then we can make the ego into any tool we choose...But what chooses

when the ego..as it normally work.. is trying to get you to keep up a false image projected to the rest of the world..in an attempt to make people believe you are important or what ever ..

it eventually wears you out .

my ego has been retrained to only care about how people value what i do.. and how they return that value .

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Dear Jonathan,

Alas, what you are experiencing is but a budding towards the road of enlightenment. Enlightenment is not a fruit to be obtained - it cannot be compartmentalized as a concept - but it is immediately evident.

Firstly, rid yourself of the word "Self".

The Buddha says that we must adopt Right View. Having a sense of Self, a sense of No Self, a sense of existence of the sense of Self, a sense of the non-existence of the sense of Self is truly erroneous.

All of that does not matter. What matters is you understand the meaning of dependent origination. Everything arises from conditions. Everything is a chain of cause and effect. Many things lead to many things.

As such, your identity - or even the concept of a Higher self - is yet another illusion. Another impermanence.

There is no removal of a Self - because it was a contradiction from the first place. If it did not exist and is an illusion, how can one remove it? If it is not Truth, how can one perceive it without hallucinating?

There is no annihilation. There is no striving. That is Right Effort.

I highly recommend a very good book for you: Buddhism Plain and Simple: Steve Hagen:...
This is one of the most concise and accurate books I have ever seen on the topic of Buddhism. Buddhism, on the mundane level, appears to be what is "moral" - but you need to be able to understand, to reach the level of Seeing, in order to know what constitutes after. That is where you reach the Supermundane, on top of the mundane.

There are many people who have falsely interpreted the meanings of the discourses by placing their own fabrications into the discourses. Speech is but filtered consciousness. One can only experience Truth by experiencing it. A master can only show you the water, but only an awakened one will scoop the water from the river to drink.

You might also want to Google the first 4 verses of discourses of what the Buddha really said. From there, you need to understand Dependent Origination. Then each meaning of the Eightfold Path and 4 Noble Truths will mean more to you.

Hope it helps you.

With compassion,
Reckoned.


PS. In order to remove the concept of a "Self" from your mind, meditate on the thought:

A body was a sex cell.
A body was a blastocyst.
A body was a fetus.
A body was a child.
A body was an adolescent.
A body was a teenager.
A body will be just an adult.
A body will grow of old age.
A body will die.
A body will decompose.

At every single instance, there was a sense of "Self". But if the Self of you now, and the Self of you when you were younger is not the same... How can it be called "you"? It has arisen from conditions. It is impermanent.

What is only constant and unchanged is the ability to watch.