Are parents and teachers holding back children's growth?

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This school and other schools shows they are.

Now this is a public school.

Schools have rules what kids can and cant do in their play time.

They have teachers monitoring them to keep the rules
and so they won't hurt themselves.

This public school threw the rulebook out and achieved remarkable changes.

There's no bullying.
Kids are happier and more attentive in classes
Less teachers are required to monitor them on their breaks
No expensive play equipment required to keep them occupied

Here's the story...Auckland school ditches playtime rules and loses... | Stuff.co.nz

Seems parents desire to protect their children
is actually holding their growth.

Children want to test their boundaries and experience the consequences.

Otherwise they become timid sheep that don't add as much
value to society as adults.

They become like the circus elephant.

As a youngster they are tied to a peg in the ground.

As an adult they have the same peg in the ground tethering them
yet their strength will easily pull it out of the ground.

In the name of protection, children are being held back from reaching their full potential.

Here's the social experiment again...Auckland school ditches playtime rules and loses... | Stuff.co.nz

Best,
Ewen
#back #children #growth #holding #parents #teachers
  • Profile picture of the author rhodester
    It is important not to smother a child but when they are young and immature it is very important for parents to monitor their children and give encouragement and guidance where needed. A child without adult supervision consistently is an accident waiting to happen. Have a great day.
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    • Profile picture of the author talfighel
      Originally Posted by rhodester View Post

      monitor their children and give encouragement and guidance where needed.
      The sad part is that most parents don't do this.

      They tell their kids that they are stupid and no good. That is the real fact.
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      • Profile picture of the author melvinsh
        Originally Posted by talfighel View Post

        The sad part is that most parents don't do this.

        They tell their kids that they are stupid and no good. That is the real fact.
        Kids are starting to evolve and will be less likely to be influenced negatively by elders. I believe in spiritual evolution and I believe kids will start teaching their parents soon.
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      • Profile picture of the author YHmuWong
        Originally Posted by talfighel View Post

        The sad part is that most parents don't do this.

        They tell their kids that they are stupid and no good. That is the real fact.
        Most are like that? Maybe nobody knows that financial knowledge is important.
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  • Profile picture of the author Xiqual
    Originally Posted by rhodester

    It is important not to smother a child but (...) child without adult supervision consistently is an accident waiting to happen(...)
    Mostly accurated!
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  • Profile picture of the author Xiqual
    Nice question, Ewen. First rate brain food

    Children are always testing boundaries, not only theirs; they always want to be "grown-ups", if you ask 'em.

    Overprotecting children always delivers insecure adults...
    And even more, let's illustrate with an example:

    Parent yelling to children who take a handful of the sandbox and put it straight into mouth.
    Some doctors say: "Well done, parent."
    Some other ones: "It serves better to digestive defenses of children to having sometimes a handful of sand... and perhaps half a sandworm!"

    Remember what education gave vikings to their children: "If they survive, they will be recognised as adults."
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  • Profile picture of the author Statcode
    Don't let school get in the way of an education.
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  • Profile picture of the author Cray
    Parents I don't think so. Teachers (School) can be a little bit contolling at times.
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  • Profile picture of the author hardraysnight
    sounds like my old school at playtime, but no horses on the rugby field
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  • ewen, . . . nice post and elegant article. My wife was a teacher of elementary grad children for fifteen years with the play ground thing and all. I found the article enlightening and have shared it with my one and only.

    Thank you,

    LLS
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  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    Ewen,

    Super. I like thinking school districts. Like, districts where people think through campaigns to promote kid's growth.

    I received OK teaching, in terms of life lessons. Great school lessons but the nuns and lay people programmed me with limiting beliefs which took me years to release.

    I thought rich people were crooks, that it was good and noble to be poor and that you should play it safe through life, to avoid unpleasant situations. Hey, I do not blame the nuns; it was what it was.

    Meditation should be taught in the first grade, along with a personal development themed course in each grade, through grade 12.

    Doing so would make this a happier, healthier and wealthier world because kids would be programmed to succeed and prosper instead of living average, dull lives, following the herd.
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    • Profile picture of the author YHmuWong
      Originally Posted by ryanbiddulph View Post


      I thought rich people were crooks, that it was good and noble to be poor and that you should play it safe through life, to avoid unpleasant situations. Hey, I do not blame the nuns; it was what it was.

      Meditation should be taught in the first grade, along with a personal development themed course in each grade, through grade 12.
      Well,it is not good or noble to be poor.You are right,it was what it was.

      Thanks for telling me about meditation and self-development.Just that certain justification in this era is more important.
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  • Profile picture of the author Joe Ray
    Home schooling is the answer! The education system is definitely not a good idea for most kids, it only works for the very few kids who have absolutely no imagination or creativity.

    If your kids are, like most kids, creative with original thoughts, lots of imagination and a profound desire to learn, don't send them to school.
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  • Profile picture of the author Rory Singh
    Yes I believe that parents and teachers do hold children back. Most parents were brought up following rules that society has embedded in us for centuries.

    Children come into this world as little geniuses. We as parents like to tell them what their 'limits' are.

    How do we know what they really can and can't do.

    Sure we can not let them jump off building and expect to fly. They will hit the ground.

    The children are here to teach us not the other way around. Everything that we do on this planet is backwards.

    The school only seems to know how to teach one type of personality and everytime they encounter a child with genius like abilities that they don't yet understand, they give that child a label.
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  • parents and teachers can often hold back childrens growth, whether deliberately or otherwise.
    On the other hand it's worth remembering that parents and children can be the drive *behind* childrens growth too!
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    Gordon
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  • Profile picture of the author Temorrow
    We aren't raising children, we are raising adults. I think when that is kept in mind, along with promoting creativity and expecting children to think for themselves before jumping in to solve their problems, you have a winning combination. My children are in their early 20s and are independent, well adjusted, and successful in their pursuits, so it seems that worked out well in our case. Oh, and when they played sports, they either won or they lost, not this "everyone is a winner" idea. This helped them learn how to compete better in the real world.
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    • Profile picture of the author changetracks
      I wouldn't blame the schools entirely. Its the system which limits our mental growth & imagination. People who think differently, ones who come up with unconventional solutions are often laughed at for example Galileo, Newton, Edison etc. This thing , infact , starts from the schools days where children are not taught to come up with the "best solution" ...but they are merely taught to learn , recall & reproduce "The Solution" which was taught in the class. I guess, this is where we humans start restricting our thinking & imaginative powers.
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  • Profile picture of the author SandraLarkin
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    Teachers unwittingly.


    They really just follow what they are given in curriculum and write it down. Few teachers nowadays actually teach from their should or nurture children. They follow a script, a very bad script to integrate everyone into one big blob.


    Parents unwttiingly hold their children back when they side with the teacher on all things.
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  • Profile picture of the author hag66
    I would say it is an individual thing.

    Yes, there are teachers and parents who hold their children back.

    I have experienced it myself. My mother is horrible in this way. Anytime I see her all I get is negative feedback, a lot of it. "You are too this, you are too that"....mind you I'm 27 years old. So I try to avoid that woman as much as possible.

    I have also had teachers who have actively tried to hold me back. Most of them had emotional issues.

    It's important to get rid of or ignore these people as much as possible by taking a pro-active approach towards your own goals, even if you are related to them or you are forced to. AVOID THEM!!!
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