Why on earth do I keep sabotaging myself!?!?

Unconscious belief(s)?

Something I did several years ago that was helpful was to write down on a piece of paper the heading: "Why I Don't Want To Be Successful." Then I kept writing and writing. Coming up with answers like: "I may change, and I don't want to change."

Some of them I had never consciously thought of at all.

So, maybe, if you think it will be helpful, do the same with a heading that makes sense to you.

How do you sabotage yourself?

I suggest you stop moving from one strategy to the other, from one guru to the other - and start WORKING on things you learned so far. Don't make another half-product, instead try to complete existing one.

Hey Olavlind,

I was once in your position and it is very normal when you start building your online business. One of the key things to keep in mind is 'What is my why?' - are you doing this so you can travel, to pay a house in cash or pay your daughter's college without having to work 2 - 3 jobs? Keeping your why in mind will help you move on even when you fail because your long term vision is so clear you just want to keep going!

Also, you need to keep yourself focused by watching successful mindset training videos to keep you focused; these videos produced by entrepreneurs such as Les Brown feed your brain energy and keep you focused. Also you said you have tried different coaches but did you find the one person that is willing to take you by the hand and show you EXACTLY what you need to do? Is your coach accessible?

I wish you the best of luck and believe you can make it!

you are not sabotaging yourself ..

why would you rather make money online than offline..and sense you have not starved to death in the last 16 years ..you have to be making some money ..from somewhere .

is there a way to use the large amount of information about how to make money online and adapt it to make more money from what you do offline .

i realized about 5 years ago ..we longer than that that i wasn't into the fully online type of business ..and i have been searching and building skills to run something offline ..at this point i am getting or tryinh to get funds together to start and urban farming operation ..and use what i have learned about online marketing to build anet based customer managemant system .

I personally ignore all this crap about unconscious beliefs sabotaging our success. Or that we have limiting beliefs etc.

If you are not where you want to be. It's either that you don't want it bad enough or you don't truly believe that you can achieve it.

Cheers,

C.G.

Very timely thread. Interesting answers.

Would love to see more responses from the people who made it from similar situations.

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Most projects or business ideas will start with a spark of enthusiasm.

You have several projects laying around that are not complete. Do you think they were put aside when you enthusiasm died down for them?

Maybe, it could be an idea to go over your projects, pick your favorite, and work with it. It seems you keep putting a lot of effort into things but don't stick with it.. This would be sabotage to any motivation you would have.

You are in the right place though. A lot of people will help you out on here

Just as everyone else mentioned here ...

beliefs

Better said ... identity related beliefs. Who you are. What do you think about you.

You know that cliche with "if you don't love yourself, no one else will?"

It is kind of true. Way too few people actually love themselves. And you can't make a positive out of a negative.

If you yell at someone "you idiot", you won't make that person a genius. If you yell at yourself "I suck", you won't motivate yourself to build something constructive.

The top resources I suggest you read on this are:
1. Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz.
2. The Now Habit - Neil Fiore.
3. Release Your Brakes - James Newman.

All three deal with about the same thing - how our beliefs and identity determines what we can or can not do.

If all else fails ... as psychologists put it, it is about your childhood.

Make peace with it.

Yell, break, forgive, forget, love whoever harmed you when you were a kid.

A situation I can relate to, and I am going to guess that so many of us have felt at 1 stage or another. There was 2 "Penny Drop" moments I had, that helped me moved forward.

1) The pursuit of the "Perfect" product/service. You will never find/create the Perfect product without putting it out there. There is learning that you will only get from putting the information out there and getting feedback from people using it. If you put a product out there that was only 80% perfect, would there still be people who would gain tremendous value from it???

2) The thought of what other people will think if you put it out there, and it isn't right. What impact may that have on my sense of worth, or value?? The answer is, that your sense of worth and value come from within you, not from outside, so they are already available to you, and can't be impacted by outside influences. These influences may affect your thinking if you let it, but you don't have to allow it in. When you realize your sense of self acceptance comes from within you, and not dependent on people out there, you will find a new sense of energy to go forward with all your projects.


Just my insights on your situation. Hope they resonate with you on some level, and help you take that next step in product creation.

Cheers

Josh
Authentic Self

Smart people who like to analyze and overthink stuff might be better of asking the question: What is the simplest solution here?

For example. Lets say you want to get into fitness. If you are an analyzer, you will go search for the best program. Go in that rabit hole, and somewhere somebody with a shitty program is getting way ahead of you simply because you are still deciding if you should do 5/3/1, starting strength, never gymless or a bodybuild program from t-nation. You then decide to get into bodybuilding. You check out T-nation and before you know it... you are months further without even touching the weights.

Simplest solution: Set a goal. Hit the gym, pull down and push away some weights. Once you come across a problem, then go look for the simplest solution again. You might find it in a book, you might find it with somebody you see a lot in the gym. Rinse, repeat.

You need to pivot more. Just do stuff. Read, learn, and do stuff.

You can analyze the shit out of self-help but in the end it comes down to: Take action, and while you do, believe in yourself and improve on a daily basis.

Maybe you also need a reality check that you might not be as smart to come on conclusions on your own. What I am saying is, you might not find the solutions in your head.