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Don't Listen To Them

by Jonathan 2.0 Banned
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Sometimes people will try and “persuade” you against pursuing your dreams.

Maybe out of fear. Maybe out of jealousy. Whatever the reason, don't let these people get to you—every successful Entrepreneur has experienced it to some extent or another.

It's all part of the process of becoming successful. In fact if you don't have any “haters/discouragers” you're probably doing something wrong. ;-)

If anything, use these people's negative opinions as motivation to keep going and prove them wrong. If it wasn't for people telling me that I couldn't do this and that I probably wouldn't have evolved into an “independent thinker” and something of a leader. I should thank all the people that tried to discourage me.

Here are some of my favourite examples of people succeeding in spite of what other people think:

1. "We don't like their sound, and guitar music is on the way out."—Decca Recording Co. rejecting the Beatles, 1962

2. In 1998 Google founders Sergery Brin and Larry Page approached Yahoo! and suggested a merger. Yahoo! could have snapped up the company for a handful of stock, but instead they suggested that the young Googlers keep working on their little school project and come back when they had grown up. Within 5 years Google had an estimated market capitalization of $20 billion

3. "There is no reason anyone would want a computer in their home."—Ken Olson, president, chairman and founder of Digital Equipment Corp. (DEC), maker of big business mainframe computers, arguing against the PC in 1977.
Remember, it doesn't matter what people say, because where there's a will, there's a way.
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    the ken olsen comment when computers took up a rather larger area ..

    listen to their motives for telling you what they tell you ..

    wood google have stayed google if it became part of yahoo..most likely not ..

    a big problem in the Us the last 40 years is a general failur in investing in the future ..and for the long term ..politician make choice based on the current polls and the desire to get elected again.. ceo's thin year to year or quarter to quarter ..and most people think from paycheck to paycheck ..

    and most people are walking backwards into the future ..waiting for things to return to the way they use to be .

    you can listen to them ..but you do not have to follow what they say .and be clear about the motive behind what they say .
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    • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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      Great additions everyone. Cheers.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dain Supero
    Great post, and awesome examples.

    I find that the point of resistance from others is usually greatest at the start, not because the whole world is against you but simply because they cannot yet fully imagine what you have imagined and what has so far inspired this. I feel this is an important realization because without it one gets inclined to assume a rather negative view of "others and their view of him."

    They just don't understand yet. Forgive them and keep going. Don't waste your time and energy on what they think. Spend it instead on how you can show them the amazing plan you have in your mind.

    As a side note I also think we all have an innate desire to make people believe in our vision, because we feel safety in numbers and it helps fear of failure to an extent. But it also makes you dependant on external sources for validation of your vision. Nobody wants to feel they are alone in anything, but this is exactly the feeling you will sometimes have to embrace and overcome if you are to realize worthwhile success.

    So, in short, don't worry about making them believe. Believe in yourself and their belief will follow.
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    • Profile picture of the author Ryan Lindner
      Most people will react negatively for two reasons:

      1. They are conditioned that life will go in a certain, often mediocre, and familiar way (go to school, get 9-5 job with benefits, marry/kids, work till you are old and gray, retire), or something similar, and anything different is crazy and too risky.

      2. They are jealous. This is particularly true if you have success. Before you enjoy success you are plain crazy (and they'll be quick to "educate" you about this), and then once you have it you end up evoking pain in them because they see you as having what they wish they could have for themselves (they still can!). This creates pain.

      Those who are mediocre will always drive others to be mediocre. Leaders have something in them that allows them to believe in themselves enough to keep going.
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    ryan i think we are on the same page on this.

    at the same time in the past few years there has been a sort of death of the average because there is no force dictating what that is anymore .

    so it doesn't do anyone any good to be average anymore where for a long time it worked
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  • Profile picture of the author Mr Bill
    Sometimes they just don't want to lose you as a friend because they know that once you're successful and building a better life you'll move on and they won't have their close friend anymore.

    At first (when suggested by Tony Robbins) I thought it sounded odd but I've seen it happen too many times now that I recognise it. I even tried to approach it head on one day when someone was laughing at my desire for freedom but I re-assured them I wouldn't leave them behind and if I ever became rich they could "come too". That seemed to change the tone of the conversation so maybe 'Robbo' has a point.
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    • Profile picture of the author C G
      Originally Posted by Mr Bill View Post

      Sometimes they just don't want to lose you as a friend because they know that once you're successful and building a better life you'll move on and they won't have their close friend anymore.

      At first (when suggested by Tony Robbins) I thought it sounded odd but I've seen it happen too many times now that I recognise it. I even tried to approach it head on one day when someone was laughing at my desire for freedom but I re-assured them I wouldn't leave them behind and if I ever became rich they could "come too". That seemed to change the tone of the conversation so maybe 'Robbo' has a point.
      Really good point Bill.. I experience the same thing many times in the past and still do... It's not that people are jealous of your success is just that they don't want to lose you.

      Cheers,

      C.G.
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  • Profile picture of the author Trey Morgan
    It's not an easy thing to do, but try to turn that anger or negative energy that arises when someone puts you down, into motivation and positive energy to work hard at reaching your goals and taking action towards living your dreams.
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  • Profile picture of the author Marco Moeschter
    There will be always hater that's for sure. Those people are jealous that other people are more successful or that they follow their dreams what haters don't do. If people try to bring negativity in your life that's means you are probably on the right track to success.
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  • Profile picture of the author himanuzo
    Yes, don't listen people who discourage and fight against you in pursuing your dreams.

    So looking for people who encourage you to pursue your dreams...!
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