Courage to make a decision

I finally figured out how to cure fear. Raw fear, pure unadulterated fear itself. It took me twenty-five years to find out how. Faith cures fear. That is it.

Faith goes by many different names so it is not necessarily a religious or moral term.
trust, hope, believe, allegiance, devoted, assurance, confidence from somewhere else besides you?, accepting it will work out, certainty, surety, reliance, specific surrender to it working out, expect it to work out – are all excellent ways to describe this feeling. It is only a feeling.

Now, here is the trick. Just knowing this is hardly going to do anything for you. Yeah, forgiveness cures anger - so what? If you do not forgive the one who made you angry then, so what? Nothing changes. You are still angry. And that anger is tearing your priorities and effectiveness apart. You have to actually forgive them to stop being angry.

This applies to fear a little differently. It is more of an outflow of forgiveness. With fear you have to let it in. Fear only needs one specific emotion to cure it. In fact, every negative emotion: anger, depression, anxiety, fear, shame, overwhelm, repressed, jealousy, confusion, hate, disgust, grief, conflicted, obsession, greed, gluttony, lust, ego, pride, adversity, pessimism, condescending, rejection, hurt, physical pain, stress, trauma (shock), lazy, bored, lonely, abandonment, worry

Each negative emotion only needs the “right” positive emotion to cure it. It is the feeling that cures it not the word. The idea of the emotion means very little. The concept is only needed to guide us into the experience. It is the feeling that does it. We do not have too. We do not change the negative emotion – the feeling does. Do we heal our own anger? Not really. We turn to forgiveness which heals it for us. Maybe I am just splitting hairs here but it is an important point.

So, fear. What needs to happen?

Let the feeling of faith (trust, hope, assurance, etc.) flow into your fear to change it. That is it. It works for every single negative emotion. Twenty-five years of research and develop with a patent filing on this process to get it all down.

If you do not let the feeling of faith, hope, trust flow into your fear it will not work. If you do – it does. Just like forgiveness and anger.

There you go!

100% agree with you.
People who cannot make decisions will always be in struggling positions.
Decision making is very essential skill we need to have.

Hi Marco,

Own your power of choice. Freedom lies on the other side of this decision. Be empowered, by being in power, by choosing your life. Move forward. Move on despite being fearful, or worried, or anxious, and amazing doors will open for you.

RB

You can have a good idea in your head but the problem is that most people want to take action but always fear on "What if it doesn't work out?" "What if I lose money"?

We only have one life to live and we don't live forever.

Agreed. But as a people, most will always gravitate towards familiarity.

Few have a stomach for risk. "I'll wait for tomorrow," many will say, but tomorrow never comes.

Life is about courage. All those who are successful will always take a risk at some point or another.

Remember, the average millionaire has failed 17 times. Risk obviously did not deter them! They pressed on! It takes a special type of person!

I believe that confidence comes from competence and faith, not faith alone. Nothing can take us to perfection but practice can take us close. Without practice, would you expect a person to successfully climb a mountain regardless of how much faith he has? I believe not.

So as Marco stated, step up to the plate and go at it. Work your ass off until whatever you are attempting becomes second nature, like breathing. Then you cannot.fear it even if you try. Try to become afraid of breathing.

Wow, great thoughts. I agree. Sometimes the biggest obstacle that we need to overcome is actually making the decision. Once we follow through on it, it is then that we can really learn and see success. There is no progression without making a proactive decision first!

A decision has two parts - the mental and the physical. Only when both are complete has the full 'decision' been made.

If someone says "I've decided to give up my job and work for myself", what has changed? Absolutely nothing.

Only when they hand in their cards or walk out the door of their former employee for the last time has a 'decision' really been made.

Practicing courage is the best thing you can do to improve your life for the better. Making tough decisions can be uncomfortable at first, but if you do it on a regular basis it will become a habit and you will gain a huge boost in self-confidence, which can be very beneficial in helping you reach your goals.

5 frogs were sitting on a log.

4 decided to jump off.

How many are left?

Did you say 1?

The correct answer is still 5.

The reason: there is a difference between deciding and doing.

Great post OP. I totally agree with you 100%.

I like to take a JUST DO IT approach, because the longer you wait to play things over in your mind the more you feed fear.

Time is like food to fear. Just do what you need to do and the fear starves.

most people decide to do as close to the same thing as possible ..

the make cook something but they will use the same recipe their mother used..or look online for the best recipe.

they will quit a horrible job then look for the same kind of job .

if we want things to be different.. we need to change the choices we make that give us the same things we have every day .

i have yet to decide to lose weight .. what i have done was get what i eat under control so i stopped gaining weight and restored my health .

we have to focus on what we want and make the choices that get us their ..

sometime though it is best to get out of the bad marriage before you get a new lover .

“Successful people make their decisions quickly and change their minds slowly. Failures make their decisions slowly and change their minds quickly.” - Andy Andrews

Managed risk.

High risk = great rewards for a very few select amount of people.

The rest of us come up with a plan that has a reasonable chance of success that we are actually capable of doing. Fear tells us something. It tells us to be prepared to have a reasonable chance of success. It also helps us to remember that we are alive and want to stay that way.

Anxiety comes from repressed desire. We want to take action but don’t. Shoving it down only compounds the desire which produces anxiety. What we need before we can act is some reasonable (whatever that means to you) chance of success or to make it through. Action cures anxiety. We achieve the action through permission and safety.

One of the actions people do not want to take here (and pretty much anywhere else on the internet) is to post something. What is that telling us? That we need to have something (anything) of a certain quality to contribute. AND how to defend it if needed. Once you have that you go on a posting rampage. You want to tell the whole world. And off you go. You are contributing.

Start small. It is a muscle to build just like any other.

I believe that we should write in detail what we want to have and the person we want to be.

Then take all life's decisions (small or large) with that definition in mind.

Cheers,

C.G.

Yes its the decisions that make the man,and your life.
Think a lot and analyse before you take those, some can change you life.


Live your dreams,
Ean Stark