Avoiding Does More Harm - Think Deeper

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Similar to another thread topic I have written - Don't Do Not

Brain development can be very sensitive. We should respect the life we have and the brain power we have been given.

Many post offering great advise are being made here, and some with respected responses. No doubt with all good intentions, but the process of avoiding something is creating something we do not realize. Something that is very hard to overcome. You can even call it a habit.

What Does Avoiding Something Create?
Setting in your mind that you are going to avoid something is creating a mental habit to monitor any given situation related to this "Scenario" so that you are able to avoid it.
Sounds great but think deeper into the results... When monitoring to avoid scenarios, you are instinctively creating an awareness of all of the scenarios that "Could" happen. In turn, finding ourselves constantly trying to avoid these situations.


What should we do instead of avoiding a bad situation?
It never happened. Forget about it. Move on with your life and place the wisdom in your utility belt.

For something as common as - Avoid Negative People
Instead we should be thinking - Identify and converse with positive people

This small variance is the difference between a negative mindset and a positive mindset.

By doing this, don't you think that negative people will eventually be irrelevant to your life? Maybe you will be too busy with other people they will phase out of your life without realization. With this, you spend more time thinking about thoughts that would prove more productive long term.
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  • Profile picture of the author Dain Supero
    When you avoid one situation, you by definition create another.

    Either handle situations like a man or say you give up, like a man. Don't dodge.

    Good post, sir!
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    • Profile picture of the author McKattry
      Too true! And often a situation will come back to haunt you, and you will have a harder time facing it.
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    If it can be done today why wait until tomorrow?
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  • Profile picture of the author ryanbiddulph
    Hi Damien,

    Neat post. Sometimes avoiding low energies hurts us, but sometimes, avoiding them helps. Example; if a desperate, or angry, or unclear person bugs you, you're best to ignore them. Feeding the lower energies creates stress in your life.

    However, other energies need to be faced, embraced and released, to be free of them.

    Thanks!
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    • Profile picture of the author damiensuccess
      Originally Posted by ryanbiddulph View Post

      Hi Damien,

      Neat post. Sometimes avoiding low energies hurts us, but sometimes, avoiding them helps. Example; if a desperate, or angry, or unclear person bugs you, you're best to ignore them. Feeding the lower energies creates stress in your life.

      However, other energies need to be faced, embraced and released, to be free of them.

      Thanks!
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      Indeed in the given situations when they arise, avoiding can be a great thing, but lets not misunderstand the message I'm sending.

      Let's separate Avoidance in 2 different mentalities.

      The Now Mentality: When we face every day events that are unfavorable then it is our responsibility to react to the situation the best we can. Debates that lead to arguments, and those that escalate to a possible fight for example. Someone who thought out the situation well can avoid escalating to a fight. Great job in Avoidance.

      Long Term Mentality: After the same event is over "A escalating heated debate". Some people tend to dwell on what happened. If a similar event occurs, those dwelling on the last event may completely avoid a situation from happening. A brave hero will dive into fearful territory. Get into a debate, heat it up, and use your experience to control the situation.

      Avoiding things we fear can close doors right in front of our face. Opportunities you could have discovered if you stopped avoiding, and utilize your skills. A prime example here with my response to your post. A person can avoid embarrassment by not responding because they were proven wrong before. Responding can begin a debate that he is scared to take on. I decided to take that challenge on. :p
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  • Profile picture of the author C G
    You will have to do it one day. So why not do it now?

    Cheers,

    C.G.
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  • Profile picture of the author clpride
    Well said. I struggle with this quite a bit. However, I always get what I need to done, but I always put the things I hate to back of the line... I need to cut it out as it causes too much unnecessary stress.
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