I've always had a close relationship with it.
I learned at 9 years old, fear is actually just resistance... to moving forward; to letting go of what's blocking what I really want.
Fear is an indication that I've given away my power to something or someone... real or not.
So whenever I feel fear, I immediately want to know what's on the other side of it.
Meaning, fear is like this dense fog. It's stopping you from seeing clearly.
Here's the thing...
Fear doesn't exist - without my participation.
I create it.
Fear doesn't happen to me. It demands my attention and reaction to gather its power.
It can only get riled up - if there's a story, belief or judgment... living inside of me... being pushed against... from something happening out there.
In other words...
I'm reacting to my circumstances; reacting to the holographic reality that's playing itself out in my mind, like...
...Someone saying something that pissed me off. (You only get pissed - if you're afraid that something might get taken away from you... or someone has power over you.)
...Getting an unexpected bill. ("What?!?! There goes my vacation. What's gonna happen next?!?!)
...Feeling insecure about my appearance. ("I look horrible. I'm ugly. Everyone will see how ugly I really am. Who am I - if I don't look good?")
...Imagining someone I love dying. ("Does she know how much I lover her?")
...My body showing signs of disease. ("Oh crap, my past caught up with me. I'm not immortal after all.")
...Wondering what I'll do if everything in my life falls apart. Maybe work will dry up. Maybe I'll lose my creativity. Maybe I'll fail at delivering conversions for a client. Maybe my edgy demeanor will turn everyone off and I'll be alone. Maybe my body will just give out. Maybe. Maybe. Maybe. Maybe. MAYBE!
Mark Twain said...
"I've lived through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened."
Read that Twain quote again.
Why do we insist on feeding fear - worrying about circumstances that don't deserve our powerful attention?
I don't know about you, but if I simply deleted the stuff I imagine happening to me, I'd have a pretty frickin' blissful life.
Just by changing my mind to focus on appreciating what I've created - instead of fearing "what could happen."
So why do we fear?
What's the point?
Again...
Fear is resistance.
It's an indication that your LIMITING beliefs or judgements are being challenged.
That's a good thing.
Acknowledge it.
Because once you realize, "Wow, all of this fear is happening inside of me. Everything's actually okay. I'm okay..."
...everything changes.
Fear is this air raid siren going off saying, "I've given away my power to this guy. Hmmm. Okay, got it. Moving on."
When you acknowledge the fear, there no reason to continue playing into a conversation or circumstance. The dense fog just clears away.
You can just withdraw your participation.
Of course...
If someone's pointing a gun to your head, you might want to say something clever.
That fear is saying, "Oh shit. I'm gonna die."
Totally different.
That's Mr. Francesco to you.
P.S. Fear in marketing is rampant. "If I don't make some sales quickly, I'll have to get a job. A JOB!" The thing about being an entrepreneur is... You're moving mountains to generate money that would have never existed - without your action. So... take INSPIRED action. And learn something new everyday.
David Hunter | Duke of Marketing
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