Be kind, don't be RUDE!

10 years ago

Hey Joe,
It can be frustrating when people do that. Im not totally sure with some people if it's just the way they are and they're not intending on being rude. Take it with a pinch of salt dude and continue to focus on doing what you're doing helping people.

The one thing that does really bug me is when you spend time getting to know someone really well and helping them out with their business and stuff and then you only ever hear from them when they want something. They don't bother with you otherwise. Pretty sure it says more about them than you bro.

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Joe Crosbie

10 years ago

Originally Posted by 8485marketing

Hey Joe,
It can be frustrating when people do that. Im not totally sure with some people if it's just the way they are and they're not intending on being rude. Take it with a pinch of salt dude and continue to focus on doing what you're doing helping people.

The one thing that does really bug me is when you spend time getting to know someone really well and helping them out with their business and stuff and then you only ever hear from them when they want something. They don't bother with you otherwise. Pretty sure it says more about them than you bro.

Tell me about it haha! See part of me agrees with you there, but the other half of me thinks "Well, I'm sorry. Being polite costs NOTHING. Everybody knows that, so why not apply it?" - Oh, I definitely don't take it personally. I was just interested n knowing what other Warriors thought about this.

I know right. Very true, but I try not to judge people too hard. I mean, everyone goes through stuff, and some get it worse than others. It's certainly a tricky one.

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Jonathan 2.0

Banned 10 years ago

Originally Posted by Joe Crosbie

What are your thoughts on this Warriors? Do you feel that people like this deserve any help, when they can't be bothered to even be polite?

Nah. But I'd probably try to help them anyway.

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Joe Crosbie 10 years ago

Originally Posted by Jonathan 2.0

Nah. But I'd probably try to help them anyway.

Hey Jonathan,

I respect you for that! It shows you're an awesome person

It's a very tricky one for me, I mean when people are being downright rude, I never feel compelled to help.

I do usually try to figure out if they're going through some stuff which is hard, because everyone has a bad day right? And sometime, we snap.

But some people man, they're just downright rude for the sake of being that way.

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- Jonathan 2.0 Banned 10 years ago
  
  Those kind of people annoy me too. However I once read something to the effect that they're the ones who need kindness/help/etc. the most.
  
  Like you said though, it's a tricky one and I wouldn't blame you for not wanting to help them. I'd probably feel the same way.
  
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  Cassie416 10 years ago
  
  Those kind of people are absolutely dreadful.
  
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RogozRazvan

10 years ago

You are taking things way too seriously ...

Look, people are not made equal. Some are amazing to have around, others not.

There are people with which I could spend one minute ...

... or one hour ...

... or one day ...

... or even one week ...

In the same room.

For the above example, simply click the ignore button. You are not likely to lose anything.

Because in the end, you have to ask yourself ...

"What's in it for me?"

A mentor? A new contact? A friend?

If that guy is rude and stupid, why are you even bothering?

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Kay King 10 years ago

I think it's rude to pass judgment on people if they don't meet YOUR criteria for social interaction.

Not everyone wants to "chit chat" and how you "feel" is not always on the agenda if someone is focused on business.
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Clyde Dennis

10 years ago

Every product is not for me. Everyone is not my customer. Be picky both ways.

Don't judge, assume nothing, and keep moving.

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Joe Crosbie

10 years ago

Originally Posted by Cassie416

Those kind of people are absolutely dreadful.

I don't see the need to be rude.

Originally Posted by RogozRazvan

You are taking things way too seriously ...

Look, people are not made equal. Some are amazing to have around, others not.

There are people with which I could spend one minute ...

... or one hour ...

... or one day ...

... or even one week ...

In the same room.

For the above example, simply click the ignore button. You are not likely to lose anything.

Because in the end, you have to ask yourself ...

"What's in it for me?"

A mentor? A new contact? A friend?

If that guy is rude and stupid, why are you even bothering?

It doesn't bother me, nor have I taken any time to worry and pass judgement on the people who behave this way.

I just don't see the need to be rude, when being polite takes very little extra effort. Understood, everyone is made differently. But, I don't see that as a reason for certain people to be complete jerks.

Originally Posted by Kay King

I think it's rude to pass judgment on people if they don't meet YOUR criteria for social interaction.

Not everyone wants to "chit chat" and how you "feel" is not always on the agenda if someone is focused on business.

My social expectations of a person is simple, be polite. I don't expect anything else from anyone.

And, this wasn't business. The dude wanted my time, for free, and couldn't be bothered to show any respect whatsoever.

Originally Posted by Clyde Dennis

Every product is not for me. Everyone is not my customer. Be picky both ways.

Don't judge, assume nothing, and keep moving.

Very good remarks, I see where you're coming from.

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Don't get me wrong Warriors, I know everyone is different, and I know some people are going through more things than other, and I know some people don't like small "chit chat".

But ask yourself seriously, is that a reason to be rude? Could you imagine if everyone acted this way? You wouldn't be able to walk out your front door without facing a negative social experience.

Thanks to everyone for submitting your thoughts, it's very much appreciated

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RogozRazvan

10 years ago

I've dealt with clients from all over the world ...

What polite means in Australia is different from the US or India.

One of my clients, a great Indian entrepreneur even told me ...

"Look, we Indians are very direct and to the point and we don't follow the same etiquette as you may have been used with. Don't take this as a offence, it is just how we are used to doing things"

Aussies are friendly ...

Americans are busy ...

Europeans are ... European (Me)

In some parts of the world and in some circles it is required manners to text someone after leaving a meeting thanking that person for his time. In other parts of the world, people don't even say hello when they call.

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MrTwoFister

10 years ago

I am glad to see that you are interested in being treated like another human. That is often overlooked. I say, keep trying to make that connection. Don't hate the rude person, they lack something that you have.

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Imfactsandsecrets

Banned 10 years ago

Some folks are just unmannerly and do not care so you just have to keep doing what you do best be who you are and forget them!

You know what if you let negative people get to your heart, you will end up having a bad day and that's just letting them win. Don't let them win.

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EuropeGiant

10 years ago

Originally Posted by Imfactsandsecrets

Some folks are just unmannerly and do not care so you just have to keep doing what you do best be who you are and forget them!

You know what if you let negative people get to your heart, you will end up having a bad day and that's just letting them win. Don't let them win.

I sympathize with you. There are a lot of RUDE people on this forum seriously. I feel like some of them need mental help or something

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JPBailey

10 years ago

People are basically self-centered. Some are more pushy and aggressive than others.

I created a link for a paid consult call and I give them that.

I'm not a volunteer. I do co-op and JV with people I want to work with.

First 5-10 minutes I may answer a question on the spot and help them out... but if they want more, I give them the link. Unless they are offering a JV situation. Some have, some have volunteered to help me with something I'm struggling with (like techy stuff), and that's cool. But those types are usually very polite and generous and nice in general... not pushy and expecting something for nothing. I feel basic respect from them.

It comes down to this: It's your business. Mind it.

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dannyisonline

10 years ago

Rude people are frustrating. They don't care about you, they'll just get what they need and they're gonna leave you without even saying thanks sincerely, without even asking if it's okay to bother you with their problems. How rude! Maybe you could just stay away from these people and don't mind them. If they can't show some respect, get rid of them. You might now want to lose your patience and make things worse by trying to please them.

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Rick Rodd

10 years ago

Originally Posted by dannyisonline

Rude people are frustrating. They don't care about you, they'll just get what they need and they're gonna leave you without even saying thanks sincerely, without even asking if it's okay to bother you with their problems. How rude! Maybe you could just stay away from these people and don't mind them. If they can't show some respect, get rid of them. You might now want to lose your patience and make things worse by trying to please them.

That is the reason people get sarcastic. It's a vicious cycle. Nice people have their limits and if by coping with rude people means having to use sarcasm, so be it. You can't just get rid of them, but you can go at par with them. With a smile.

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jakeking

10 years ago

I've always just subscribed to the fact that I want to treat people like I want to be treated. And to also not do anything rash like lash out on a bad day.

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sbucciarel

Banned 10 years ago

I mean seriously, are you not able to ask how I'm doing

I saw nothing rude at all about that conversation. He approached you because he wanted your advice, not to tell you his life story or listen to yours.

When someone (a stranger) asks me how I'm doing, I say fine. Every time. It's not anywhere close to the truth. I could spend hours telling them every detail of my life, but ... who does that?

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C G

10 years ago

Originally Posted by sbucciarel

I saw nothing rude at all about that conversation. He approached you because he wanted your advice, not to tell you his life story or listen to yours.

When someone (a stranger) asks me how I'm doing, I say fine. Every time. It's not anywhere close to the truth. I could spend hours telling them every detail of my life, but ... who does that?

Don't agree..

It's like going to a store to buy something and you do just that. No good morning, no greetings, no thank you, no have a nice day.

It's called having good manners.

Easy to do and people are friendlier with you. Who doesn't want that!

Cheers,

C.G.

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sbucciarel

Banned 10 years ago

Originally Posted by C G

Don't agree..

It's like going to a store to buy something and you do just that. No good morning, no greetings, no thank you, no have a nice day.

It's called having good manners.

Easy to do and people are friendlier with you. Who doesn't want that!

Cheers,

C.G.

there's a big difference between a quick Good morning and thank you as opposed to How Are You when you really don't want to know how every stranger you meet is. I know I don't.

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C G

10 years ago

Originally Posted by sbucciarel

there's a big difference between a quick Good morning and thank you as opposed to How Are You when you really don't want to know how every stranger you meet is. I know I don't.

Yes but in the OP's example it was just a quick "how are you doing?" it's not like he was asking him to give his life story. The guy even replied "good". Good manners dictates that you should at least reciprocate.

But i get your point. It does bother me to listen to people... That's the reason why i can't agree with you on this one

Cheers,

C.G.

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