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Formula for relationship success

by Vikram Anand
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Next to wealth, the second most important sought after thing in life is relationship success.

Every one wishes to have a great relationship with their family members, friends, colleagues, clients etc.Yet we observe that with majority of people, there are relationship issues. It seems everyone is running on different tracks.

Now the question arises, why the differences and disputes invariably crop up resulting in relationship failures?

On analysis, we understand that the wall of any relationship is built with small bricks of mutual trust. Where there is trust, there is love and understanding. Once there is bridge of understanding between two individuals then all the differences of opinions and disputes get sorted out.

Most people are under the misunderstanding that first comes love, then trust and understanding. That's where the whole train derails from the track.

From my experience, I believe that if you really wish to forge a good relationship, then you need to first work on building the trust factor. Only then love can help to further strengthen the bond.

This is the success formula for enjoying great relationships!!
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  • Profile picture of the author C G
    For me it's treating my GF like a queen

    Cheers,

    C.G.
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  • Profile picture of the author Becky Fourtion
    My husband and I treat each other with the utmost respect.
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  • Profile picture of the author avenueactiv
    Have you heard of the 3 G's - get. grow. give.

    Becoming a good partner is first and foremost about improving yourself. Make a decision to become a life-long learner. Learn yourself then learn others. Get all the knowledge that you can get!

    Most people will remain stagnant in critical areas of their lives until they decide to grow. Think of any bad habit that you have struggled to overcome.

    If you are honest, most of your stagnation is a result of a lack of growth. The single most important thing that you can do for any relationship is give. The only reason that you “get it to grow it” is to “give it.”

    Success in life is snuffed out when all you do is get things to grow things. Every experience, every interaction, every failure or obstacle passed is an opportunity for future giving.

    The way I see it…I stand on the shoulders of those who gave so that I can become the launching pad for someone to receive what I have to give.

    You are no different. You are tasked with the privilege of living life on purpose for the sole purpose of giving.
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    • Profile picture of the author Vikram Anand
      Originally Posted by avenueactiv View Post

      Have you heard of the 3 G's - get. grow. give.

      Becoming a good partner is first and foremost about improving yourself. Make a decision to become a life-long learner. Learn yourself then learn others. Get all the knowledge that you can get!

      Most people will remain stagnant in critical areas of their lives until they decide to grow. Think of any bad habit that you have struggled to overcome.

      If you are honest, most of your stagnation is a result of a lack of growth. The single most important thing that you can do for any relationship is give. The only reason that you "get it to grow it" is to "give it."

      Success in life is snuffed out when all you do is get things to grow things. Every experience, every interaction, every failure or obstacle passed is an opportunity for future giving.

      The way I see it...I stand on the shoulders of those who gave so that I can become the launching pad for someone to receive what I have to give.

      You are no different. You are tasked with the privilege of living life on purpose for the sole purpose of giving.
      I must say that your thoughts are truly beautiful!
      It gives us the deeper understanding of how to deal with relationships. Many Thanks for sharing!
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  • Profile picture of the author Dain Supero
    I agree and that's theoretically true. Trust should absolutely be the first step in any relationship, romantic or otherwise.

    Unfortunately, the majority of our decisions (especially social decisions) are heavily influenced by society itself, which includes the media, popular culture of the time, and so forth.

    Our current society says attraction and status first, trust and whatever later. Of course there are exceptions but that's the rule. I don't agree with it. Just calling a spade a spade.
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    • Profile picture of the author RichBeck
      Originally Posted by Dain Supero View Post

      I agree and that's theoretically true. Trust should absolutely be the first step in any relationship, romantic or otherwise.

      Unfortunately, the majority of our decisions (especially social decisions) are heavily influenced by society itself, which includes the media, popular culture of the time, and so forth.

      Our current society says attraction and status first, trust and whatever later. Of course there are exceptions but that's the rule. I don't agree with it. Just calling a spade a spade.
      Dain,

      From my personal experience, it goes in the following order....

      1. Attraction
      2. Money
      3. Status
      4. Trust

      #1 is by far the most important in my personal experience.....

      If you have the first three, many people will simply choose to overlook #4..... They think they will be "the one" who "changes" you....

      All The Best,

      Rich Beck BCIP, MCSD, MCIS
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      • Profile picture of the author Dain Supero
        Originally Posted by RichBeck View Post

        Dain,

        From my personal experience, it goes in the following order....

        1. Attraction
        2. Money
        3. Status
        4. Trust

        #1 is by far the most important in my personal experience.....

        If you have the first three, many people will simply choose to overlook #4..... They think they will be "the one" who "changes" you....

        All The Best,

        Rich Beck BCIP, MCSD, MCIS
        Well said, sir.

        In an ideal world #4 would rank much higher. Unfortunately we are here in the real world, which I call The Great Game. Think hard and you will find endless similarities between our existing system and way of life and video games.
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    • Profile picture of the author Vikram Anand
      Originally Posted by Dain Supero View Post

      I agree and that's theoretically true. Trust should absolutely be the first step in any relationship, romantic or otherwise.

      Unfortunately, the majority of our decisions (especially social decisions) are heavily influenced by society itself, which includes the media, popular culture of the time, and so forth.

      Our current society says attraction and status first, trust and whatever later. Of course there are exceptions but that's the rule. I don't agree with it. Just calling a spade a spade.
      I believe, there are two ways of looking at relationships. One way is the personal outlook and other is the social one.
      Building trust plays the most important role in foundation of any relationship whether in personal life, building a brand, business relationship, social status etc.

      Attraction is temporary, trust is ever lasting!!
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  • Profile picture of the author osamaye360
    is there really any formula? i think the best is to ensure you have an understanding heart. secondly, do not try to change your partner. trying to change someone else is like saying am better than you.
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  • Profile picture of the author MrTwoFister
    There is no formula. A formula puts relationships in a box. But you can't box it, because every individual is unique. The five love languages was life changing for me in understanding relationships.

    Also, understanding ourselves and being mindful is very important.
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  • Profile picture of the author Odahh
    it really depends how honest you are about why you are in or getting in a relationship .

    i am no expert on relationships .. but is more about an equal exchange of value ..if the relationship is to be a good one ..

    as far as trust goes it does have to be there ..and in many cases there is no getting it back when it has been lost ..

    the problem with most relations..is they are not started from intent to have a certain kind of person ..they are started by grabbing the first warm and willing body and convincing ourselves they are what we want .

    i just met the woman who will most likley be my wife in the next few months..and we have talked for nearly two years ..and i did everything to drive her away lol ..

    anyway i had a long list of traits of the woman i wanted to be with..main to stay out of relationships..i did not want to wake up next to the woman i had to settle for ..and this woman has things i contemplated putting on the list but felt it would be too much.

    at the same time i am with the woman i want i am finally feeling like the person i want to be .

    if you are misserable with yourself ..other people will not solve that for long ..you will end up in relationship ping pong
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  • Profile picture of the author Larbi Rahmani
    trust comes with love, because to unconditional love trust is obvious
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    Learning to compromise is also an ingredient in a relationship.
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