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Should you let go of the outcome?

by Maxine Schiffmann
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Hey everyone,


I recently did an interview with a super inspiring entrepreneur and she said that her fears and concerns disappeared once she emotionally detached herself from how things will turn out.

Deepak Chopra is also a big advocate in letting go of the outcome and emotionally detaching yourself from it. He once said:

"The truth is that detachment brings deeper fulfillment than attachment."


What are your views & experiences on the subject?


Here is the interview if you want to listen to what she says: How to Overcome Your Inner Obstacles with Alex Beadon | The Leader of TomorrowThe Leader of Tomorrow
#deepak chopra #fulfillment #outcome
  • Profile picture of the author RogozRazvan
    "Where do you want to go Alice?

    I don't know. Anywhere. What road should I take?

    If you are going anywhere, it doesn't matter what road you take"

    -- Alice in Wonderland (kinda, it is from memory).

    I am one of those people who believe that goals are important and the purpose of action is to determine an outcome. However, yes, if you do something for the sake of doing it, the process itself, you can let go of it.
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    • Profile picture of the author heavysm
      I take a two fold approach when focusing on my finance goals...

      The first goal is the big picture goal based upon how much i want to make.

      The second part of that goal is what it takes to create that goal in the most ethical and fulfilling way possible.

      I think of this as a metaphor called pulling the donkey.

      You're in the desert but you know relatively the direction you need to go to get to your destination. But the desert is so huge you can't see it from where you are. Holding your essentials is a donkey which you are guiding along your way.

      Sometimes the donkey becomes stubborn or tired in which case he pulled back and refuses to move. In these cases you cannot try to force the issue by pulling the donkey; you must be gentle with him calmly asserting yourself whilst treating the donkey well. This way when you go to guide the donkey he follows willing and you can make it eventually to your destination safety with your donkey safe.

      This is no different than having a financial goal whilst keeping your smaller essential goals in line; those goals in which your big picture goals get fulfilled by.

      You also mention Deepak Chopra and funnily enough i made this analogy after having read his "Seven Spiritual Laws of Success".

      Everyone will have their own distinct path in which they manifest their wealth but some paths align far more with internal love and congruence with our goals than do another paths (the psychopath whose internal world is numb so he can screw over as many people as it takes while still feeling good about his goals = no congruence with his internal and external worlds because he has removed his internal emotions/ethics).

      As long as the individual steps you take are in congruence with your personal morality and those things which fulfill you (let you sleep at night) you should be fine with your financial goals because there is no conflict between your external and internal realities.
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      • Profile picture of the author Maxine Schiffmann
        Originally Posted by heavysm View Post

        I take a two fold approach when focusing on my finance goals...

        The first goal is the big picture goal based upon how much i want to make.

        The second part of that goal is what it takes to create that goal in the most ethical and fulfilling way possible.

        I think of this as a metaphor called pulling the donkey.

        You're in the desert but you know relatively the direction you need to go to get to your destination. But the desert is so huge you can't see it from where you are. Holding your essentials is a donkey which you are guiding along your way.

        Sometimes the donkey becomes stubborn or tired in which case he pulled back and refuses to move. In these cases you cannot try to force the issue by pulling the donkey; you must be gentle with him calmly asserting yourself whilst treating the donkey well. This way when you go to guide the donkey he follows willing and you can make it eventually to your destination safety with your donkey safe.

        This is no different than having a financial goal whilst keeping your smaller essential goals in line; those goals in which your big picture goals get fulfilled by.

        You also mention Deepak Chopra and funnily enough i made this analogy after having read his "Seven Spiritual Laws of Success".

        Everyone will have their own distinct path in which they manifest their wealth but some paths align far more with internal love and congruence with our goals than do another paths (the psychopath whose internal world is numb so he can screw over as many people as it takes while still feeling good about his goals = no congruence with his internal and external worlds because he has removed his internal emotions/ethics).

        As long as the individual steps you take are in congruence with your personal morality and those things which fulfill you (let you sleep at night) you should be fine with your financial goals because there is no conflict between your external and internal realities.
        I love that analogy. It also perfectly illustrates the importance of self-compassion (treating the donkey gently)

        I totally agree with you!

        Thanks for sharing
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    Are you familiar with mindfullness? Professionals who are able to adopt this as a lifestyle, are able to experience true joy. With this, comes peace. Truly, success starts inside of you.
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    • Profile picture of the author Maxine Schiffmann
      Originally Posted by MrTwoFister View Post

      Are you familiar with mindfullness? Professionals who are able to adopt this as a lifestyle, are able to experience true joy. With this, comes peace. Truly, success starts inside of you.
      Yes, I recently came across ACT which is based mindfulness and the ideas it's based on really fascinate me! I also read that mindfulness or more concrete task-focused attention is one of the key factors for high performance.

      John Eliot also talks about it in his "Overachievement". He says the top performers are focused "on anything but the target of that particular moment" – something he called trusting mindset.

      Fascinating stuff!
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  • Profile picture of the author Dain Supero
    Outcome dependence, rational or emotional, is a step toward disappointment and failure (in the sense that if you are outcome dependent you will likely view your failures as failures and not opportunities to improve).
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