"You'll never amount to anything"

My personal opinion is that any person that says that kind of thing is a piece of shit and deserves no respect.period.

How can you respect a person that says that to you, even if they are successful? It makes no sense. They are insulting you. I would be pissed and would seize the moment to tell them what a waste of human skin they are. Call it harsh but that's what I would do and probably many others.

So tell us more. Was this some duchebag at your workplace or someone from school who got lucky in life?

I'm trying to wrap my head around how you reached those conclusions from that insult. I'm quite curious to what your reaction was there in the moment. That to me signals really how far you've come in terms of self-development.

If someone said that to me I would have smiled and said "Never is a long time" and continued striving to improve myself.

I call it the "Justin Bieber" effect. The kid gets a lot of flack for what he does and to a degree I can understand why. But even with all those negative comments, he's still famous as ever. It's cumulatively because of those negative comments, not in spite of them.

So the best thing you can do is to be sure of yourself and ignore negative parts of your world, not fight against them.

Ok, so you slapped him to the ground, sunk a few boots to the face...and then what happened? Is he out of hospital yet?

Seriously though. The WORST thing you can do is ignore these people. If they want to spray poison on your plans, dreams or hopes you can't just be a pussy and let them get away with it. You MUST challenge them, strongly, immediately and hopefully publicly. If you let these morons get away with it you have internalised it and (as anyone who knows anything about NLP will tell you) if you do that you'll absorb some of their message despite how much you might disagree with it.

I take great pleasure in laughing loudly at their absurdity and calling them on it every single time. These people must be taken down. To let them escape without punishing them in some way (embarrassment is usually my preferred method) makes the world a worse place and now it's your fault because you could have done something to stop it but you didn't. You can't ignore a piece of rubbish on the ground or in society (especially if it got in your way and tripped you up) and hope it goes away. You must sweep it into the rubbish where it belongs or it will keep getting in the way of everyone. To ignore people who want to bring everyone down is a selfish act.

well it depends who said it ,

where you at the moment this was said ..blaming others for what ever negative state you are in .

it is completly up to us to be something that matters to us .. maybe you have been trying to be something that would be recognized by those who have been around you your entire life .

i was in that situation the problem is because people around you belive this about you they will block you from taking actions or take certain effort to downplay and refuse to recognize any progress you make

Mr Bill, You reminded me of that scene in Rocky 3. Critics were doubting if Rocky could come back and beat Clubber Lang after losing the title to him.

Paulie: Don't listen to it, Rocky.

Apollo Creed: No, do listen to it Rock. Because when it's over, everybody's gonna owe you an engraved apology.

Don't be affected to that kind of statement if you say you can then that's the end of the story period.

Loved the way you handled that Milhouse.
: )

Cheers.

It really only matters what you think, what others think should not effect you.

This actually reminds me of two silly / childish sayings (yet true) I learned as a child -

"Sticks and stones may break my bones but names sahall never hurt me."

"I am rubber and you're glue, everything you say bounces off me and sticks to you."

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.” ― Henry Ford

Success is the sweetest revenge. "Well played" indeed.

We've all heard it at some point in our lives.

Parents, teacher, friends, relatives, people who hate us, people who should love us, etc.

The best solution?

Prove him wrong by your deeds.

The skinny guy who got picked on at school went to the gym and became almost as big as Hulk.
That guy who was always made fun of because of his poor clothing became an entrepreneur and now drives a Porsche.
The shy, nerdy guy who was too timid to even talk to his classmates now carries speeches in front of thousands of people and controls teams the size of a small city.

Prove him wrong. I know it hurts. Get over it. Not in a mean way but in the sense that some people do this.

The irony of all of this is that these kind of things can either make you or break you.

There are folks who will say "yes, he's right" and resort to drinking, drugs or simply non-productive behaviors ...

And there are folks who will say ..."we'll see" and go "Count of Monte Cristo" on his ass.

Oh ... and yes.

Watch "The Count of Monte Cristo".
Watch "The Pursuit of Happyness" (it is not a typo)
Watch "Limitless"

You'll learn the same lesson presented here.

..despite the deep responses ,

millhouse , are you currently at a point you have not much to show and you are lashing out at those around you ..you seem young so it happens always time to turn it around .

a core theme of success .. is that it is built from long term behaviors .. if somone has seen you actions over the long term and ..those actions tend to lead to little accomplishment .. then the person may not be out of place saying it .

so do you have a vision for your own success ..or are you currently in a state that looks like failure and mad at everyone around you .

of course we are on the same page if you got those two things from it .

right now it may be true ..and the truth can be quite offensive..but if you realize if you are responsible for the way things are you can change them ..

now what you might be doing and what i did ..is trying to change but lashing out at those trying to push you back into the ways you are getting away from . but each time you regress into old behaviours you blame those who pushed you back into them .

my only option over time was to set away from everyone ..i just did it so i can't tell you how it has worked out yet .

if you are at the point you will not replace the people you leave behind with the same type..it may be the best for your path if you find a way to move away .

Maybe I missed something, or everything, but I don't think he was lashing out at anyone.

The only person who can ever know if you'll ever amount to anything will be yourself. You are your greatest competition and critic and it is up to you, to amount to something. All you have to do is want to amount to something and do something about it. You shouldn't listen to them instead use those kind of people (those who look down on you) to fuel yourself to be better so in the future, you can show them that they were wrong.

Use those negative comments as motivation to become a Great Success.

I'm glad you can take a positive out of such a negative. No one has the right to say such things to others. The only thing I would add is, people should always respect others, regardless of their success level. Even the biggest failures in business deserve respect,simply because they are human beings. And oftentimes, those who never succeed in business are still extremely hardworking, dedicated and smart. Just because their business did not work out does not mean otherwise.

I wonder what exactly you need to do to amount to something?

The fact that you are here alive and well and communicating on a forum is quite impressive if you ask me.

Words don't have any meaning, nor the power to hurt you in my opinion.
And I think the person that said that comment, isn't any successful himself.
In fact, I believe you achieved more success then that person.

Do you know the reason why he made that comment?

I'll give it a shot;
People who ''hate'' other people, are most likely jealous.
They didn't achieve something, but you did, or, you got something, what they want.


In other words, do you thing and ignore your haters (aka fans).