What do you do when you overcome your fear of failure, only to fail when you take action?

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The title pretty much says it all. But, what do you do when you overcome your fear of failure and take action, only to fail?

How would you overcome such a thing, without shutting down?
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  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    My experience is that you pick yourself up off the ground, dust off your butt, hike up your pants and say "Well, that didn't work too well....next".

    A project that fails can be a stopping point or a stepping stone - you decide

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  • Profile picture of the author newby31
    I agree with Kay. It all depends on how you look at things. We can learn so much when things don't work out. Not just about something we need to change or do different the next time but all so about ourself and how we handled the situation. How we think about something is how we will feel about it .
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  • Profile picture of the author ina696
    Charles, think about the fact that action (doing something) is better than lethargy (doing nothing). Maybe the action did not bring about the desired outcome. If you review the process you took to get where you ended up, just look for ways to get a different outcome next time. Don't be afraid to "fail" if with each little disappointment you're getting closer to where you want to be. It also helps to surround yourself with support (read, look at IM videos and lurk on the Warriors Forum).

    Don't give up.
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  • Profile picture of the author John M Kane
    Failure in an attempt to achieve 'something' is one thing.

    Being totally broke and ill with little hope is quite different.

    Hope you are taking about the first one.

    Good luck.
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    • Originally Posted by John M Kane View Post

      Failure in an attempt to achieve 'something' is one thing.

      Being totally broke and ill with little hope is quite different.

      Hope you are taking about the first one.

      Good luck.
      I am talking about the first thing I'm not even sure what you're talking about with the second.
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      • Profile picture of the author John M Kane
        Originally Posted by Charles Montgomery View Post

        I am talking about the first thing I'm not even sure what you're talking about with the second.
        I was intentionally trying to imply instead of stating directly that a small failure is not a earth shaking crisis when you compare to the second scenario.

        GL
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  • Profile picture of the author Spark
    Ok,

    then how and where to learn to know that the 1st project you are doing is fail? How can we stop it and say 'Hey, this can't work.' instead of 'i might use another method to get more traffic, etc' which i believe many people are trap in this mindset. anyone care to help on this?
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    • Profile picture of the author jonbeebe
      Hi Charles,

      It sounds like you should start viewing these "failures"as not something negative, but in your mind, as hard as it may be at times, look at the situations for the good in them.

      There are two sides to every coin, and likewise, there are two sides to every situation: good and bad. While the bad side might be up and very apparent, with a little will power you can flip your situation around and see the good in it.

      The best thing to do is to view these failures as necessary "stepping stones" to what you're ultimately trying to achieve.

      Let's take a computer programmer for example. Let's say he writes thousands of lines of code that takes him an entire week of intense focus to complete. At the end of the week, the program is working, but he's still not satisfied. He takes a break for a day to get away from it all and decides he'll re-look at all his code after his one-day break.

      That day comes and goes, and before he re-looks at his code he finds on the internet that there was a much simpler, more efficient way to do the task which only took about 15 minutes of writing code to accomplish the same thing which took him the entire last week (plus tons of coffee, frustrations, headaches, etc.)

      So he has two choices here, he can whine and complain about all the time he "wasted" the previous week, and consider his entire last week a "failure", or he can look at it for the good in the situation:

      - He undoubtedly learned A LOT from all the time and extra experience from the previous week.

      - After doing things his way (long way) and seeing the newer, more efficient way of doing things, he has now learned everything there is to know about what he was trying to accomplish, and THAT can undoubtedly be applied to other projects that use the same type of knowledge, etc.

      - Bottom line: his task is complete and he now has code that not only runs quickly, but does what he intended to do.

      And while not all of the so called failures you experience will have such apparent benefits, and obviously not all will land you at your desired final outcome as in the example above, I challenge you to:

      1) First ACCEPT what IS. Say for instance your failure involves the goal of getting from one city to the next, and along the way your car breaks down. Instead of embracing all the negativity that goes along with "why in the world did this have to happen?!" --- instead, accept what happened and immediately move on.

      2) Find the good in the situation. It's tough, I know, we've all been there, but there is always some kind of good that comes out of every situation. It may be like finding a needle in a haystack, but rest assured, the needle is there.

      3) Find it in yourself to let go of the bad in the situation, see the good, and TRULY be grateful for the good in the situation.

      So everytime you fail, try your best not to see it as a failure, see it as a small success in the form of a step closer to your end-goal.

      Whatever it is you're trying to succeed in, won't be achieved until just the right amount of failures occur FIRST--so therefore the "failures" aren't failures at all, they are stepping stones.

      Just my two cents, good luck Charles!

      -Jonathan
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  • Profile picture of the author sherisaid
    If we never fail, we never learn what doesn't work. Everyone fails. Success stories just learn from their mistakes and keep trying new things.
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  • Profile picture of the author KenThompson
    Ez. Take more action. If you do not succeed, again. Take more action, again.
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  • If you gave up the first time you failed, you wouldn't even know how to crawl.
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    • Profile picture of the author michellegreen
      I've made a career out of failure, some of them real biggies, but not once have I wavered my focus from my goal, and on Friday I finally achieved one of my biggest goals yet - to quit my full time job to work for myself!

      Over the years, I have spent and lost a LOT of money, but I always believed that success was on its way and that my failures happened to teach me something - probably strength!

      So I think the key to success is focus, commitment and belief you will succeed.

      How many millionaires are there out there who made it big the first time??
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