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For not popping in and letting you know I was Okay.

Where to start? Umm, my life has consisted of working, getting home and leaving to go look at houses, becoming so angry at hubby because he kept finding some teeny tiny thing wrong with the ones I loved and finding within a week, they had been sold. I have never wanted to hurt hubby before until then.

I got so angry that I told him I thought it would be easier to find a new man with a nice house than to find a nice house with him!

His face got so red, and his nostrils started to flare like a bull about to attack that I knew I had better back off. On voicing my thoughts anyway, haha!

But then, while he was thoroughly checking out a house we both agreed upon, wriggling around in a tight spot, he injured himself. He pulled both of his trapes which spasmed so tight, it threw out ribs on both sides.

Then my days consisted of getting home from work and helping hubby with massages and stretches, etc.

Then, this past Friday, took my grama to her check up and was told she was doing great and would probably live another 5 to 7 years, but she fell Sunday night and fractured her skull givng herself a closed head injury and paralyzing her whole left side. The doctors told us we had to make a decision now as to whether they should go in for surgery but said if she made it through, she would most likely be a vegetable so we decided against that and to let her go. The doctors told us to get everyone there asap as she would be gone in 2 hours. That was at 7 pm Sunday night. She, with me at her side, breathed her last breath 4 pm Tuesday.

I'm devastated and a wreck having two major meltdowns so far. I can't eat, can barely sleep, and have just finished for the evening getting her memory boards done for her service on Sunday. They aren't finished yet, but my sister, niece, and daughters and myself will finish them tomorrow. We aren't just slapping photos on a white poster board, we're doing scrap-booking quality boards. When you live as long as Grama, you need lots of them.

After all of this, somehow, finding a new house just doesn't seem so urgent anymore even though my allergy induced asthmatic bronchitis is trying to overtake me again. I'm doing the best I can. Okay, I have to stop soon because the tears are making me see blurry.

Anyway, I haven't forgotten about you all and wanted to let you know, I'm okay, or not, but still alive anyway.

I'll try and get back on when I get my normal mind back and my life back in control, sort of...

Terra
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    Terra, I'm so sorry for your loss, and all the other things that have been making life quite challenging. I wish I had some super awesome comforting words of wisdom to make the tears go away....

    So, I'm sending lots of hugs your way and keeping you in my thoughts!!

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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      Originally Posted by Cali16 View Post

      Terra, I'm so sorry for your loss, and all the other things that have been making life quite challenging. I wish I had some super awesome comforting words of wisdom to make the tears go away....

      So, I'm sending lots of hugs your way and keeping you in my thoughts!!

      Thanks so much!

      Hugs and good thoughts are highly needed right now. Well sleep too, but two out of three ain't bad, right? Haha!

      See, I'm trying to keep my sense of humor, anyway, lol!


      Terra
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  • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
    I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, Terra. What a tragic turn of events that was. And the other stuff is stressful too. Sometimes life sucks!

    Comforting words aren't easy to come by at times like this, but perhaps knowing that I'll be sending good thoughts your way will bring a small amount of relief. Every little bit helps, right?

    Take care of you and do what you have to do, and we'll see you here whenever you can make it back. Stay strong, girl. I know you can.
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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      Originally Posted by Dennis Gaskill View Post

      I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, Terra. What a tragic turn of events that was. And the other stuff is stressful too. Sometimes life sucks!

      Comforting words aren't easy to come by at times like this, but perhaps knowing that I'll be sending good thoughts your way will bring a small amount of relief. Every little bit helps, right?

      Take care of you and do what you have to do, and we'll see you here whenever you can make it back. Stay strong, girl. I know you can.
      Thank you Dennis!

      Yes, it helps in a major way and means the world to me. I find I don't want to talk to anyone at all, just be left alone, except for with my friends here. Weird, I know, but it is what it is.

      Anyway, I'll be sticking around until I think I might be able to get a little sleep.

      My daughter and I interviewed my Grama one year ago, October 20th of last year about her life in Czechoslovakia and her trip to the US on the Normandy when she was very young to escape Hitler and the German invasion and her life here so we could have it recorded in her voice with her accent and her animated way of talking. Nobody could tell her stories like she does.

      I got it out and tried to listen to it to help me, but I found it just made me cry more. I know it won't in time and I'll cherish it, but for now, I'm just burning copies for everyone in the family to have one.

      Thanks for listening, er, reading.


      Terra
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      • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
        Terra,

        Sadness is okay. Never forget that. It's a genuine honor to her memory. It's how you remember how important she really was to you, and the difference she made in your life.

        That's something to be treasured.

        The fact that you spent that time to record her story while she was well and stayed with her when she wasn't is a testament to your own character. I doubt anyone here will be surprised to hear you did that...

        You're a class act, Ms Kern. We'll all be keeping a good thought for you.


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        • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
          Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

          Terra,

          Sadness is okay. Never forget that. It's a genuine honor to her memory. It's how you remember how important she really was to you, and the difference she made in your life.

          That's something to be treasured.

          The fact that you spent that time to record her story while she was well and stayed with her when she wasn't is a testament to your own character. I doubt anyone here will be surprised to hear you did that...

          You're a class act, Ms Kern. We'll all be keeping a good thought for you.


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          Thank you so much, Paul. You are so very kind and very wise.

          I'd tell you that what you just said brought a tear to my eye, but well, they were already there. So I'll say your words warmed my heart and added a happy tear to my tears of sorrow.

          Thank you for being so, so, well, thank you for being you!


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        • Profile picture of the author Paul Myers
          Terra,
          thank you for being you!
          Had no choice, ma'am. Everyone else was taken. (Dammit!)

          I promise, I'll go back to waving bad jokes in your general direction after things settle down. In the mean time, a happy tear is a good thing.

          She sounds like a woman who earned some happy tears.


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          • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
            Wow, and I thought our nice newish Prius being catapulted backwards though a malfunctioning carwash and having its hatch smashed up today was the ultimate bad news.

            There are no words.Terra. It seems that quite often in life you get several bad things happen one after the other. Condolences on your loss and hope your husband recovers quickly.
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          • Profile picture of the author Richard Van
            Hi Terra,

            So sorry to here about this, especially your loss like that in those circumstances. Frankly, after that happened and the fact you opened a thread here to apologise just goes to show what a very special person you are.

            Good luck with getting everything sorted and I hope she has a lovely send off. I hope all the other bits get sorted out too but life has it's often very hard challenges and they most often arrive when you least expect them. That, sadly, is all part of life's rich tapestry.

            It'll change though, you'll get through it stronger in the end and you'll get all the support you need in the meantime from loving friends. The reason for the later was touched upon when I mentioned what a special person you are.

            Chin up old fruit, onwards and upwards.
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    We are sorry to hear that
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  • Profile picture of the author thunderbird
    My condolences. Wishing you all the best, Terra.
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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      Thank you so much guys! I appreciate your words and thoughts.

      Hubby just got up and asked me to come to bed. He said I didn't have to sleep, but he would hold me until I said let go.

      So I'm signing off for now.

      Thanks again for all of your support!

      Terra
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      • Profile picture of the author Tom B
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        Oh boy, this is terrible news Terra. My condolences to you and your family.

        I was very close to my grandparents. They were like a second set of parents to me. As a kid, I always loved staying over night at their house. I think I was the only grand child that did stay over.

        My grandmother was really sick with Alzheimer and she just stopped eating. I knew the day I left her would be the last day I would ever see her again. I was very thankful I was able to say goodbye.

        Unfortunately, I wasn't able to say goodbye to by grandfather being overseas when he passed on. I woke up in tears and just knew he had passed before I even got news from my family. It was surreal. The bond between us was deep so it really shouldn't have been so surprising that I felt when he left us even though I was on a different continent.

        I'm happy to hear you are surrounded with people who love you. It will help immensely.

        Sending you hugs.
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        • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
          Originally Posted by Thomas Belknap View Post

          Oh boy, this is terrible news Terra. My condolences to you and your family.

          I was very close to my grandparents. They were like a second set of parents to me. As a kid, I always loved staying over night at their house. I think I was the only grand child that did stay over.

          My grandmother was really sick with Alzheimer and she just stopped eating. I knew the day I left her would be the last day I would ever see her again. I was very thankful I was able to say goodbye.

          Unfortunately, I wasn't able to say goodbye to by grandfather being overseas when he passed on. I woke up in tears and just knew he had passed before I even got news from my family. It was surreal. The bond between us was deep so it really shouldn't have been so surprising that I felt when he left us even though I was on a different continent.

          I'm happy to hear you are surrounded with people who love you. It will help immensely.

          Sending you hugs.
          Aww, thank you so much Thomas, you understand!

          My Grama was my mom after my mom was killed in a car accident when I was 19. I sat straight up in bed when she was killed, I felt the bond break. I get it. I also knew when Grama was leaving, which is why I moved over to her bed and got beside her. And as I said, watched that last intake of a shallow breath that was never released.

          Originally Posted by HeySal View Post

          Ah gee, Terra. I tried to call a day or two ago and figured the phone recorded my # so didn't leave a message. Now I wish I'd tried again later.

          I know how close you were to your grandmother and am so sorry to hear this news. The hardest part of aging is watching those we love go on ahead of us. I trust your knowledge that your separation from her is temporary will give you strength and peace.

          Terra - take the time to do what you need to honor her - say goodbye. Then let yourself rest. Melt down and let someone else be strong for you for a few days. You have a whole family with you that will be more than happy to take the lead for you for a little while. Cherish that gift and use it to replenish yourself.

          I don't know what to say in these circumstances - at least nothing that will lessen the pain. I am glad that you had the joy of having such a wonderful person in your life. The memories that cause you tears right now will one day bring you warmth and happiness. I hope that day comes soon for you.
          Thank you so much, girlfriend! Sorry I missed your call.

          And yes, understanding that Mom and Grama are reunited again helps ease the pain enormously!

          We will talk soon, but I have to go right now as I have a million things to do and not much time in which to do them in.

          Oh, I did get 2 hours of sleep last night/this morning and it helped me.


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          • Profile picture of the author Steven Wagenheim
            Terra, I can't even begin to tell you how horrible I feel over all this. You've been such a good friend to me. There are no words that I can say right now that will make any of this any better. Just know that I am here for you as are all your friends at the WF.

            My prayers are with you.

            Hang in there...It'll get better.
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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    Ah gee, Terra. I tried to call a day or two ago and figured the phone recorded my # so didn't leave a message. Now I wish I'd tried again later.

    I know how close you were to your grandmother and am so sorry to hear this news. The hardest part of aging is watching those we love go on ahead of us. I trust your knowledge that your separation from her is temporary will give you strength and peace.

    Terra - take the time to do what you need to honor her - say goodbye. Then let yourself rest. Melt down and let someone else be strong for you for a few days. You have a whole family with you that will be more than happy to take the lead for you for a little while. Cherish that gift and use it to replenish yourself.

    I don't know what to say in these circumstances - at least nothing that will lessen the pain. I am glad that you had the joy of having such a wonderful person in your life. The memories that cause you tears right now will one day bring you warmth and happiness. I hope that day comes soon for you.
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  • Profile picture of the author sbucciarel
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    Ah Terra. So sorry to hear the news about your grandmother. Condolences to your family. Hard to conjure up more words to make someone feel better when something like this happens.
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  • Profile picture of the author whateverpedia
    Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

    Anyway, I haven't forgotten about you all
    We haven't forgotten about you either. Take as much time as you need to get things back on an even keel. We'll still be here when you get back.
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    • Profile picture of the author AprilCT
      Hugs and prayers, Terra. Sounds like you are really having a very tough time of it. I just lost my mother last year and there is no way out of the grief except to walk through the fire... I'm so sorry you are having so many problems. Since I didn't see you, I just thought you were probably moving and didn't have a free minute.
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      • Profile picture of the author Alexa Smith
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        I'm dismayed to hear you're having such a terrible time, but thank you for posting and for being here, anyway.

        Very sorry for your sad loss, and sending you warm greetings and a pink hug from across the pond.

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  • Profile picture of the author bizgrower
    I'd steal Cali's hug emoticon and send it your way, but then her file on me would get even bigger.
    SO, I'll just send the thought. It's the thought that counts anyway, right?

    I am sorry for what you're going through and I did miss you. Even asked Sal about you in an
    unrelated PM.

    For about 30 seconds I thought maybe I scared you away 'cause you disappeared about this time:
    http://www.warriorforum.com/off-topi...nightmare.html

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    • Profile picture of the author Dennis Gaskill
      Originally Posted by bizgrower View Post

      I am sorry for what you're going through and I did miss you. Even asked Sal about you in an
      unrelated PM.

      For about 30 seconds I thought maybe I scared you away 'cause you disappeared about this time:
      http://www.warriorforum.com/off-topi...nightmare.html
      And I asked about her in that thread. So see Terra, you were missed.
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    • Profile picture of the author HeySal
      Originally Posted by bizgrower View Post

      I'd steal Cali's hug emoticon and send it your way, but then her file on me would get even bigger.
      SO, I'll just send the thought. It's the thought that counts anyway, right?

      I am sorry for what you're going through and I did miss you. Even asked Sal about you in an
      unrelated PM.

      For about 30 seconds I thought maybe I scared you away 'cause you disappeared about this time:
      http://www.warriorforum.com/off-topi...nightmare.html

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      He did, Terra. In fact, I told him if I didn't hear from ya in a week or so I'd give you a call. I know how busy you get sometimes. Something was eating me after that, so I made the call the next day anyway. I'm really glad you stopped by to let us know you are okay even though you're having difficult times. I'm only sorry that I'm not there to check in on you in person. I wish I could be. I hope knowing that you were missed gives at least a little solace.
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      • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
        Bummer! I just ran out of thanks!!

        Anyway, I thank all of you so much. There are really no words to express my deep felt gratitude to you all.

        I did want to let you all know that I am doing better today. I had a day of wonderful surprises. I went with my Cousin Dan (grama's sister, Aunt Kay's only son/child) and my brother who arrived from Missouri, to Grama's house to help load up some of my brother's things he had stored in her basement and found a scrap book she had been keeping since she arrived here that nobody had ever seen before. I know this sounds crazy, but I kept looking behind my shoulder because I was sure I sensed Grama there.

        Anyway, I got some more wonderful old photo's of her when she was young, before Grampa, and before Mom. So I went and got some more boards and made two more, all of her younger days which was a segment unaccounted for in her memory boards.

        After my sister and I finished those up, I had an idea. We have been searching for years to find any information regarding Grama and Aunt Kay's voyage here and could find absolutely nothing. Not even when they arrived at Ellis Island...

        Well, today, I decided to log on to My Heritage and Ancesestry websites and search again and I couldn't believe it! There on my Heritage was the manifest of the alien passengers on the S.S. Normandy sailing from France to Ellis Island and there was listed Marinka and Katrinka Vrabelova! No way! But Yes! They were given new names. Mary and Katherine Vrabel at Ellis Island.

        So I downloaded the manifest and printed it out. Then I got another board, found nautical backgrounds from our scrap-booking supplies along with an old map of Europe for the background. I did a search for the S.S. Normandy and found a couple pictures of the ship and printed those out too. I found another photo of random alien passengers and printed that out also. I then took her passport we found in the scrapbook and assembled it all together.

        Her life memory boards are now complete! I'm so happy and relieved and more settled now, well, except I still can't sleep again and can't eat. My tummy won't allow it. But I suppose that will come in time.

        Thank you all so much for your kind words and support. You'll never quite know exactly how much they are helping me.

        Terra
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        • Profile picture of the author bizgrower
          Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

          Bummer! I just ran out of thanks!!

          Anyway, I thank all of you so much. There are really no words to express my deep felt gratitude to you all.

          I did want to let you all know that I am doing better today. I had a day of wonderful surprises. I went with my Cousin Dan (grama's sister, Aunt Kay's only son/child) and my brother who arrived from Missouri, to Grama's house to help load up some of my brother's things he had stored in her basement and found a scrap book she had been keeping since she arrived here that nobody had ever seen before. I know this sounds crazy, but I kept looking behind my shoulder because I was sure I sensed Grama there.

          Anyway, I got some more wonderful old photo's of her when she was young, before Grampa, and before Mom. So I went and got some more boards and made two more, all of her younger days which was a segment unaccounted for in her memory boards.

          After my sister and I finished those up, I had an idea. We have been searching for years to find any information regarding Grama and Aunt Kay's voyage here and could find absolutely nothing. Not even when they arrived at Ellis Island...

          Well, today, I decided to log on to My Heritage and Ancesestry websites and search again and I couldn't believe it! There on my Heritage was the manifest of the alien passengers on the S.S. Normandy sailing from France to Ellis Island and there was listed Marinka and Katrinka Vrabelova! No way! But Yes! They were given new names. Mary and Katherine Vrabel at Ellis Island.

          So I downloaded the manifest and printed it out. Then I got another board, found nautical backgrounds from our scrap-booking supplies along with an old map of Europe for the background. I did a search for the S.S. Normandy and found a couple pictures of the ship and printed those out too. I found another photo of random alien passengers and printed that out also. I then took her passport we found in the scrapbook and assembled it all together.

          Her life memory boards are now complete! I'm so happy and relieved and more settled now, well, except I still can't sleep again and can't eat. My tummy won't allow it. But I suppose that will come in time.

          Thank you all so much for your kind words and support. You'll never quite know exactly how much they are helping me.

          Terra
          I had a desk clerk who was originally from Sevastopol, Ukraine. Her name was Marina. While fairly easy to understand her accent, her command of the English language was not 100%. Anyway, it was common for her to be called Marinka. In her words, "It was the cute way of saying her name". So maybe,their given names were actually Marina and Katrina, but their parents used the affectionate versions - Marinka and Katrinka.

          Here are Google images of Sevastopol:
          (If you have not already, it might be kinda cool to look at G images of where Grama was from.)

          https://www.google.com/search?tbm=is...w=1280&bih=869

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          • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
            Originally Posted by bizgrower View Post

            I had a desk clerk who was originally from Sevastopol, Ukraine. Her name was Marina. While fairly easy to understand her accent, her command of the English language was not 100%. Anyway, it was common for her to be called Marinka. In her words, "It was the cute way of saying her name". So maybe,their given names were actually Marina and Katrina, but their parents used the affectionate versions - Marinka and Katrinka.

            Here are Google images of Sevastopol:
            (If you have not already, it might be kinda cool to look at G images of where Grama was from.)

            https://www.google.com/search?tbm=is...w=1280&bih=869

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            Funny you should mention that, Dan.

            In the interview of Grama, she explained to us that when you're little, you are Marinka and Katrinka, when you grow up you are Marina and Katrina sort of like in Spanish with Senorita and Senora.

            On the ship's manifest they are listed as school girls under occupation so I guess they never got to the Marina and Katrina part in Czechoslovakia.

            What a wonderful idea. When things settle down, I'll search that out on G. She said they were from La Vorche (sp?)

            I have to run, I've got to get the boards to the funeral home and I first need to take a shower. I slept quite a bit last night/this morning.


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            • Profile picture of the author bizgrower
              Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

              Funny you should mention that, Dan.

              In the interview of Grama, she explained to us that when you're little, you are Marinka and Katrinka, when you grow up you are Marina and Katrina sort of like in Spanish with Senorita and Senora.

              On the ship's manifest they are listed as school girls under occupation so I guess they never got to the Marrina and Katrina part in Czechoslovakia.

              What a wonderful idea. When things settle down, I'll search that out on G. She said they were from La Vorche (sp?)

              I have to run, I've got to get the boards to the funeral home and I first need to take a shower. I slept quite a bit last night/this morning.


              Terra
              Could not find La Vorche. (I got curious because between the Czech restaurant next door (on vacation) and my Marina, that name did not sound like something from that part of the world.) (I can do parens within and after parens because it's the OT.)

              List of municipalities in the Czech Republic: J
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              • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
                Originally Posted by bizgrower View Post

                Could not find La Vorche. (I got curious because between the Czech restaurant next door (on vacation) and my Marina, that name did not sound like something from that part of the world.) (I can do parens within and after parens because it's the OT.)

                List of municipalities in the Czech Republic: J
                Thank you so much for trying, Dan. That was so sweet!

                I re-listened to Grama's interview and it sounds more like Levorcha.

                Also, way back when Grama and Aunt Kay were there, Czechoslovakia was one whole country which has since been divided into 2 countries. The Czech Republic and the Republic of Slovakia. They came from the Slovakian part as she said they bordered Hungary and Poland.

                I did a quick search for the name and found this:

                Levoča

                That must be it. Grama talked of the valley, the village, and the city. She lived in the valley. They boarded the S.S. Normandy in Paris, in October of 1935. = )


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                • Profile picture of the author Karen Blundell
                  Terra, though this message comes a little late - I'm so sorry for your loss - I will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers -
                  take care of yourself - life is so precious.
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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      Originally Posted by bizgrower View Post

      I'd steal Cali's hug emoticon and send it your way, but then her file on me would get even bigger.
      SO, I'll just send the thought. It's the thought that counts anyway, right?

      I am sorry for what you're going through and I did miss you. Even asked Sal about you in an
      unrelated PM.

      For about 30 seconds I thought maybe I scared you away 'cause you disappeared about this time:
      http://www.warriorforum.com/off-topi...nightmare.html

      Welcome back to your favorite bar.

      Dan
      I tried your link and didn't find the spider story and must tell you, I'm not that upset about it, lol!

      But Kurt's post really creeped me out!!

      Thanks for the smiles guys, I really need them. You guys are awesome.

      Especially you, Sal. I so appreciate you.

      Oh Crap! I just noticed the date and it's hubby's birthday today, the 25th, and I haven't planned anything for him.

      Oh, boy...

      Terra
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      • Profile picture of the author Frank Donovan
        Terra, so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you.

        Take care,

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  • Profile picture of the author Khemosabi
    Terra,
    It's been said, but there really are no words to express how sorry we all are for your loss.

    I'm glad you checked in. I know I'm not alone in saying that we were wondering where you were. Now....

    Go take care of your Grama. Take care of your family and hubby, then do us all a favor, take a moment out and take care of yourself. Get some much needed rest. It won't come easy, we know, but if you just imagine that all of us have our arms wrapped around your troubles and that we will hold them at bay until you feel better, then maybe, just maybe, you'll sleep.

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  • Profile picture of the author laurencewins
    I am so sorry for your loss, Terra. You obviously know you have lots of friends and love in here or you would not have come and offered an unnecessary apology for not being here.
    YOU come first, now and always.

    You will go through a grieving period but know we are here if you ever need a shoulder or 10, and considering we come from all different countries, there is likely that somebody will be here at anytime you should need to chat.

    Take care.
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    So sorry to hear this, Terra. You're in my prayers.
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  • Profile picture of the author ProServices
    Hi Terra,

    I'm really sorry to hear about your loss and the other problems your facing. I've always read all your posts with interest and your a great contributor on the Forum. I sincerely hope things change for the better as it is heart breaking seeing a wonderful lady who helps so many people in here go through these difficult times.

    I often wonder what is life all about. When we are born, our parents are with us then one day both of them leave us to go to Heaven, followed by other family members experiencing health issues or other problems in life. We have good days and bad ones. We hear about wars and violence all the time. So I am still in search of the meaning of life.

    My sincere prayers are with you so that you can live a peaceful and happy life.
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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      Originally Posted by ProServices View Post

      Hi Terra,

      I'm really sorry to hear about your loss and the other problems your facing. I've always read all your posts with interest and your a great contributor on the Forum. I sincerely hope things change for the better as it is heart breaking seeing a wonderful lady who helps so many people in here go through these difficult times.

      I often wonder what is life all about. When we are born, our parents are with us then one day both of them leave us to go to Heaven, followed by other family members experiencing health issues or other problems in life. We have good days and bad ones. We hear about wars and violence all the time. So I am still in search of the meaning of life.

      My sincere prayers are with you so that you can live a peaceful and happy life.
      Thank you so much! What a sweet thing to say!

      You have just lifted my spirits another notch!

      I hope you find the answer you're searching for. I do get comfort from believing I know my answer to that question. =)


      Terra
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll keep you in my prayers, Terra.
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    • Profile picture of the author ExRat
      Hi MissTerraK,

      Hugs, positive thoughts and best wishes from across the pond to you and your family.


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      Thank you for being so, so, well, thank you for being you!

      Originally Posted by Paul Myers View Post

      Terra,Had no choice, ma'am. Everyone else was taken. (Dammit!)
      Splorf!
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  • Profile picture of the author Rick Rodd
    Stay strong, Terra. I may not know you well enough... but my heart reaches out to all.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jonathan 2.0
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    Sorry to hear about your loss Terra. : (

    (However it's wonderful to see you back.) If I haven't told you before, you have the voice of an angel. : )
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    • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
      Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

      Wow, and I thought our nice newish Prius being catapulted backwards though a malfunctioning carwash and having its hatch smashed up today was the ultimate bad news.
      Yes, l thought that having a tooth that is falling apart, was bad, and unfortunately cancelling my first appointment today to have it removed, then realising later on that the tooth was to far gone for a root canal! Will book in again tomorrow!

      My condolences. Wishing you all the best, Terra!


      Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

      My Grama was my mom after my mom was killed in a car accident when I was 19. I sat straight up in bed when she was killed, I felt the bond break. I get it. I also knew when Grama was leaving, which is why I moved over to her bed and got beside her. And as I said, watched that last intake of a shallow breath that was never released.Terra

      Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

      I did want to let you all know that I am doing better today. I had a day of wonderful surprises. I went with my Cousin Dan (grama's sister, Aunt Kay's only son/child) and my brother who arrived from Missouri, to Grama's house to help load up some of my brother's things he had stored in her basement and found a scrap book she had been keeping since she arrived here that nobody had ever seen before. I know this sounds crazy, but I kept looking behind my shoulder because I was sure I sensed Grama there.

      Thank you all so much for your kind words and support. You'll never quite know exactly how much they are helping me.

      Terra
      No, it's not crazy at all, all of my grandparents have passed away, including my Father, he died of Cortozone complications when l was a teenager, and my Mother was left with the farm and stock feed store.

      My Mother has said for years that her lighting flickered now and them, and she suspected that someone was paying her a visit!

      I couldn't say either way whether that was true, or not, but from what l have experienced, certainly possible!


      Then when l woke up and got breakfast after staying at my Mothers house, for the night,...the fluorescent light flickered again.

      So, l thought what the hell, l would see if l could sense any presence in the room, and l did feel something, but thought that was it.

      Then my Grandmother appeared a few metres from me, and to make a long story short, had a quick look outside, (she was into plants, as my Mother is, had an impressed look on her face and vanished, like a soap bubble.

      So, no if you sometimes sense her, then she is probably there!

      Others will possibly argue with my perceptions, but l think we know what is true and what isn't!

      Your Grandmother is in good hands, and heaven literally is heaven.


      Sorry l didn't reply this this thread sooner, l didn't realize that you posted this, and l did think of contacting you, but thought that things were going well for you, so you didn't have enough time to pop in?

      Take care of yourself, and come back often!



      PS, if you need any help with your photos, left me know? I can clean some of them up so they look as good as new, (well almost). I did that for my Mother, with a color photo from the 70's that was deteriorated and a little pixulated.

      Anyway if you have a favourite photo, (or her) and want it cleaned, pm, me l would be happy to help!

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  • Profile picture of the author Patrician
    Deepest sympathy, Terra.

    I know you know that you will see your grandmother again someday.

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  • Profile picture of the author Jacqueline Smith
    I'm so sorry Terra!

    Sending you lots of hugs!

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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      Thank you so much guys. Love the hugs, thoughts and well wishes.

      Jonathan, how very sweet of you to say! The voice of an angel is good, very, very good! =)

      Pat, you know, I know girl! And LOVE the pink flower, thanks so much. Tony said to tell you, hi.

      Shane, thank you soo much for the offer but the one I would really like restored is pretty rough. I'm not sure it can be done. Oh, and I had a very other world experience I won't share right now as I don't want people think I'm a little loco, lol!

      As for me, I went back to work Monday and I have to tell you it was pretty rough. But I finally was able to eat a little dinner last night and am sleeping making up for lost time, I guess. If I just slow down for an instant, I fall asleep sitting up, haha!

      I have the next four days off and will be considering whether I want to go back at all...


      Terra
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      • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
        Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

        Thank you so much guys. Love the hugs, thoughts and well wishes.

        Jonathan, how very sweet of you to say! The voice of angel is good, very, very good! =)

        Pat, you know, I know girl! And LOVE the pink flower, thanks so much. Tony said to tell you, hi.

        Shane, thank you soo much for the offer but the one I would really like restored is pretty rough. I'm not sure it can be done. Oh, and I had a very other world experience I won't share right now as I don't want people think I'm a little loco, lol!

        As for me, I went back to work Monday and I have to tell you it was pretty rough. But I finally was able to eat a little dinner last night and am sleeping making up for lost time, I guess. If I just slow down for an instant, I fall asleep sitting up, haha!

        I have the next four days off and will be considering whether I want to go back at all...


        Terra
        Welcome Terra, send it over l will take a look, and l will keep an eye out here and elsewhere for your new age type post!

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        • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
          Originally Posted by tagiscom View Post

          Welcome Terra, send it over l will take a look, and l will keep an eye out here and elsewhere for your new age type post!

          You mean scan it and email it to you?


          Terra
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          • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
            Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

            You mean scan it and email it to you?


            Terra
            Yep, and let me know whether you want it at actual size or smaller or bigger?

            But the bigger the res, the better!

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            • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
              Originally Posted by tagiscom View Post

              Yep, and let me know whether you want it at actual size or smaller or bigger?

              But the bigger the res, the better!

              It's an 8x10 in black and white. Her wedding photo. What format should I make it?


              Terra
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              • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
                Okay Shane.

                Scanned and sent as a jpeg.

                I hope you can work your magic on it.

                Thank you so much for trying.

                As for my "experience", maybe with time. I don't quite understand it.


                Terra
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                • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
                  Ok, Terra got it, and as you have said, it is in nasty shape!


                  But nothing l can't handle,...it will take a while thought!

                  I will keep in touch!
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                  • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
                    Originally Posted by tagiscom View Post

                    Ok, Terra got it, and as you have said, it is in nasty shape!


                    But nothing l can't handle,...it will take a while thought!

                    I will keep in touch!
                    OMG! Shane! Just OMG!

                    You are such a kind, caring, generous sweetheart of a man!

                    How can I ever thank you??

                    Ha! I got it! Hold on!


                    Terra
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                    • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
                      Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

                      OMG! Shane! Just OMG!

                      You are such a kind, caring, generous sweetheart of a man!

                      How can I ever thank you??

                      Ha! I got it! Hold on!


                      Terra
                      LOL, glad you liked it, l was impressed in how good l got it to look, but Photoshop is a pretty impressive tool if you understand how to use it!

                      How can you thank me,...well you did help me out financially a while ago, so it is the least l could do.

                      And next time Claude and Dan go for my jugular, it will be good to have you on my side! LOL!

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                      • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
                        Originally Posted by tagiscom View Post

                        LOL, glad you liked it, l was impressed in how good l got it to look, but Photoshop is a pretty impressive tool if you understand how to use it!

                        How can you thank me,...well you did help me out financially a while ago, so it is the least l could do.

                        And next time Claude and Dan go for my jugular, it will be good to have you on my side! LOL!

                        You got it!

                        Oh, and Shane, look here.


                        Terra
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        Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

        Thank you so much guys. Love the hugs, thoughts and well wishes.

        Jonathan, how very sweet of you to say! The voice of angel is good, very, very good! =)

        Pat, you know, I know girl! And LOVE the pink flower, thanks so much. Tony said to tell you, hi.

        Shane, thank you soo much for the offer but the one I would really like restored is pretty rough. I'm not sure it can be done. Oh, and I had a very other world experience I won't share right now as I don't want people think I'm a little loco, lol!

        As for me, I went back to work Monday and I have to tell you it was pretty rough. But I finally was able to eat a little dinner last night and am sleeping making up for lost time, I guess. If I just slow down for an instant, I fall asleep sitting up, haha!

        I have the next four days off and will be considering whether I want to go back at all...


        Terra
        Speaking of other worldly, I have an amusing story. I used to be a courier and often
        deliver medicine to a state subsidized nursing home. Every resident had a device on
        them that would lock the exit doors when they got close. (Can't have people who need
        care out on the streets.)

        Several different staff members independently told me about this one guy that
        would playfully lock staff members outside and flip them off. He died in the facility.
        After he died, they have had continual problems with their doors locking themselves.

        Dan
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