Guy Live Blogs His Wife's Affair On Reddit And It's Better Than A Soap Opera

by Joe Mobley

Posted: 9 years ago 23 replies

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A married man had Reddit captivated this weekend as he live-blogged his discovery that his wife was cheating on him. (We should have seen this one coming after that guy live-tweeted a breakup.)

Guy Live Blogs His Wife's Affair On Reddit And It's Better Than A Soap Opera

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Cali16

9 years ago

Call me old-fashioned, but there are some things in life that really should remain private; infidelity in a marriage definitely being one of them. If I just discovered my husband was cheating on me, the last thing I'd want is for the whole world to know about it.

It's a rather curious and sad phenomenon of this day and age that practically everyone (well, at least everyone under the age of 35) seems to think their lives are so absolutely fascinating that they need to share every detail online.

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Richard Van

9 years ago

Originally Posted by Cali16

There is a girl I know on FB that tells people the most inane and boring things. For example if it snows, she has to tell people it's snowing, I guess in case no one looks out of windows anymore. She has even done one of those status updates to let people know she was at the car wash. I know whenever she's going for a meal beforehand, what she has to eat as she'll post a picture during the meal then I'll get to hear all about it after as she thanks the people involved publicly on FB as her text message or phone facility is no longer useful, best let everyone know you're thankful.

Last week she got condensation and that has been the focus this week.

She's 45 too.

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seasoned

9 years ago

Originally Posted by Richard Van

WOW! You seem interested.

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sbucciarel

Banned 9 years ago

Originally Posted by Richard Van

There is a girl I know on FB that tells people the most inane and boring things.

I remember when I first signed up for a Twitter account and then started just randomly adding "friends." lol. I couldn't believe the crap people tweeted and thought other people would be interested in knowing.

Not long after, I deleted all those friends and started over with comedians, news organizations, famous bloggers that I like, etc. and my Twitter feed became something I enjoy reading now.

Someone's affair is not something I'm interested in knowing about.

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Richard Van

9 years ago

Originally Posted by seasoned

WOW! You seem interested.

Steve

Originally Posted by sbucciarel

Me neither. I think for some people it's becoming an addiction. A guy I work with is forever checking his various social media accounts and posting nonsense. It actually takes him about 10-15 minutes every hour to sort through stuff so he can put his phone back down.

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agc 9 years ago

Originally Posted by sbucciarel

Someone's affair is not something I'm interested in knowing about.

And yet you thanked ol' Joe for bringing it to your attention.
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- Joe Mobley 9 years ago
  
  Originally Posted by sbucciarel
  
  Someone's affair is not something I'm interested in knowing about.
  
  Originally Posted by agc
  
  And yet you thanked ol' Joe for bringing it to your attention.
  
  And ol' Joe appreciates it.
  
  As an aside, I have noticed that "Thanks" seem to be at a premium of late.
  
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Joe Mobley

9 years ago

Though simple, this pays huge dividends.

Originally Posted by sbucciarel

A little tweaking of who you follow will make your Twitter Time fun and thought provoking.

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thunderbird 9 years ago

Originally Posted by Richard Van

There is a girl I know on FB<snip>

Aw!!! It sounded like the beginning of a limerick! But I'm not good at writing limericks.

"There is a girl I know on FB..."
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- Tom B Banned 9 years ago
  
  I read this a week or so ago. Hard to remember these days. haha
  
  It screams fake to me but who knows. I pray for it to be fake or my faith in the human species is lost.
  
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RichBeck

9 years ago

If he wants to "share" it with the world, that is fine...... That is his choice.

Call me old-fashioned... In my book, the "cheater" should be ashamed... NOT the spouse.

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Cali16

9 years ago

Originally Posted by RichBeck

In my book, the "cheater" should be ashamed... NOT the spouse.

Easy to be so quick to judge when you don't know the whole story.

I can tell you from years of experience with therapy clients, that in many - if not most - cases of infidelity, the non-cheating spouse is far from blameless. People are always so quick to villainize the cheating spouse, when there's almost always a lot more going on behind the scenes (with both partners) that led up to the infidelity.

Don't get me wrong; I'm not condoning cheating. But I am saying that, in many cases, the person who ends up cheating did so because his/her spouse was seriously neglecting the marriage. Most affairs aren't about sex; they're about unmet emotional needs.

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RichBeck

9 years ago

Originally Posted by Cali16

Cali16,

I never judged if the woman or the man was "right or wrong".... I simply wrote:

Originally Posted by RichBeck

If he wants to "share" it with the world, that is fine...... That is his choice.

Call me old-fashioned... In my book, the "cheater" should be ashamed... NOT the spouse.

As for blame, one can blame his/her spouse for a myriad of things.... Then, go off and cheat on their spouse. I've seen it time and time again. It is merely a convenient excuse for infidelity.

Following this line of reason, just about every married person on Earth has a "good reason" for cheating.... Wives.... don't get love, understanding or emotional connection... Husbands don't get sex or respect. There are dozens of other "good reasons" for cheating using this flawed logic....

The big problem is... They erroneously expect their spouse to "make them happy." You need to make yourself happy. No one else can do that.

To quote Joyce Meyer, they need to put on their "big girl" ( or "big boy") pants and deal with it.... They took a vow...

That is what separates the boys from the men and the little girls from the women... They face their problems head on.... They don't make excuses or blame someone else.

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Kay King 9 years ago

Last week she got condensation and that has been the focus this week.

The only question I have is why YOU would follow this person's activities for more than one update of "it's snowing"?

Are you hoping she'll break out of her shell? Or do you enjoy the restfulness of the inane comments?

I'm not a social media person - too private for that. I'm surprised at how much personal information people think other people want to know - and how many people find interest in details of a stranger's life.
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agc 9 years ago

Originally Posted by RichBeck

I never judged if the woman or the man was "right or wrong".... I simply wrote:

In my book, the "cheater" should be ashamed... NOT the spouse.

So they should "be ashamed" for doing the right thing? Wha?
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- Tom B Banned 9 years ago
  
  Originally Posted by agc
  
  So they should "be ashamed" for doing the right thing? Wha?
  
  Cheating is the right thing now?
  
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  Cheating is the right thing now?
  
  No, I was pointing out that the judgement was built into the opinion that someone should be ashamed and to later attempt to pretend there was no judgement is... well... not honest.
  
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agc

9 years ago

Originally Posted by Cali16

But that would require not only a double digit IQ (hint, 100 = average) , but also a genuine interest in understanding a nuanced world. Clearly, yet sadly, that's not the general public. For the overwhelming majority of the general public, facts are only relevant when they reinforce already formed opinions.

Sadly the argument between different flavors of that overwhelming majority almost always drowns out any reasonable voices.

Independent thinkers who at least attempt to defer judgement pending acquisition of facts are universally thought of in the same terms by everyone: "against us"

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RichBeck

9 years ago

Originally Posted by agc

What I've personally seen is not used to "reinforce already formed opinions." But, to meet the situation at hand....

For example...

A woman hears her girlfriend Mary is "lonely and unappreciated." She runs off and has an affair.... She thinks Mary is "justified" because of the way she feels.

Kelli, another girlfriend, comes crying that her husband is having an affair with his 20 year old Assistant..... She flies off the handle.... Tells her she'd like to string Kelli's husband up by his private parts.

Both people are having affairs... and both are clearly cheaters.....

BUT, one person gets a "pass" while the other is vilified.

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agc

9 years ago

Originally Posted by RichBeck

Either is an application of the ethics of convenience. Same basic difference to me. Both are examples of "someone who's opinion is of no interest to me"

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tagiscom

9 years ago

Originally Posted by Richard Van

Yes, just set up Twitter, Facebook and Pinterest, as well as Deviant Art, for promotional purposes, and couldn't agree more.

Well, l read in the social media section that l would need to post crap a few times a day on FB, to get some decent traffic from it, (sc.... that).

It is more likely that l will work on creating new stuff and posting that on those platforms, l don't see the point in posting daily about crap, l would rather be working!

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thunderbird 9 years ago

Where's the limerick? I was anticipating it, but no joy yet.
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bizgrower 9 years ago

I think it's a shameful way to handle personal problems.
Maybe an indication of what he does to trigger things?

I also think it will eliminate any chance of reconciliation.

At least two sides to every story. I know a woman who claims
to be constantly abused. I saw possible evidence and encouraged
her to get in the system and do all she can to get away....
She told me she would think about but was reluctant to turn him
over to the police....

I had the local police do a welfare check after the last time I saw her.
Since I'm involved now, one talked to me and said they have been over there
numerous times and never find any evidence.

The guy now has a restraining order against her.

I have caught her in lies before and know she has a problem with alcohol and
prescription pills. Possibly meth.

So it goes. Sometimes I wish there was a hidden camera with audio.

Dan
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