Insult or Compliment? Offensive or Funny? You be the judge

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People are funny sometimes (myself included)

I would like to share a quick "incident" that just happened to me that may seem strange to you...

Or maybe just me and I am over-reacting... if you can say that.

Keep in mind this is by NO means the first time this has happened to me... and I can guarantee it wont be the last....*sigh*

Sisi and I (my wife to the left in my profile pic) have a membership to the ONsen Spa and Resort inside of MontBleu casino. It has a full gym, steam room, sauna, hot tub, indoor heated pool, relaxation room.... THE WORKS!

We have been going ALMOST every day for the past few months. Not bragging on my gym commitment.. which is now the norm (thank you Facebook), because if you see my pictures you can tell I CLEARLY just go for the steam room and hot tub :-)

Anywhooooo

For whatever reason... Sisi and I ALWAYS make friends. People remember us everywhere we go.

It is strange. And we always get recognized when we are out. I guess we just look really approachable. (or maybe if you believe in the law of attraction... we are people people and love intertacting.. so maybe we are drawn to them, or vice versa)

2nd anywhooooo.....

One of the other regulars... we shall just call him Rudity, always finds me and comes and talks to me.

On this occasion, as he sits next to me totally comfortable nude (I guess we are close like that) letting his delicates sway to and fro... He starts telling me about how the people at his work are touchy and a bit mean.

Says since the snow season was so bad, everything is slow and hours are getting cut, etc. So everyone is on edge and being a bit mean lately.

I say "I would fit right in. I am kind of a jerk too". I say that because sometimes I have sort of a ... "trash talking" kind of sense of humor. Anyone who has spoken with me before will know what I am talking about. I think it is tasteful... but of course I am my own biggest fan lol

3rd anywhoooo....

(and here is where it gets interesting)

Rudity replies:

"No, not at all! I like you. You are a really cool guy. You are the whitest black person I have ever met"

o_0

To which I reply... "Thaaaank..................... you?????? Maybe?"

And we laughed, his junk bounced a lil... and we moved on.

Good times at the gym I tells ya.

My question: Have you ever used or heard this phrase? And what exactly does it mean.

Because the more I think about it... my mind goes to a crazy dark place and makes me want to say dumb things lol. So I choose to ignore the voices. So far this main voice has kept me out of trouble so I keep listening.

What's your take? Funny? Rude? Insulting? Meaningless?

hmmmmmmm

P. James "albino" Holland
Coach Comeback
#off topic forum #going to the gym #making friends #montbleu casino #naked junk #south lake tahoe
  • Pretty meaningless. He meant it as a compliment. some white people don't know what to say around black people. But believe me, to him...it was a compliment.


    A couple decades ago, I was talking to a black woman in a bar, and we were having a good time. She said "You're funny. You're black funny". I took it as a compliment.
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    • Claude is the whitest creepy old white guy there is...


      I took it as she was really, really drunk.
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  • yeah he is a funny guy. And as I mentioned, I say some pretty outrageous stuff myself, so I welcome this type of banter most times lol.

    We laughed about it... because the idea trying to explain why I was tussling with a grown naked man in the locker room to my wife did NOT sound fun. She already has her suspicions..

    At any rate, I just got a new book to make sure stuff like this never happens again

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    • See now? that right there has you pegged. Your hypnotizing (apparently to you) Hawaiian junk bouncer friend has got it right. Only a white person or a white black person thinks you can learn that from a book. When Chapelle has his next draft I know who they are going to pick...lol

      Seriously though.....sounded tame..no offense to be taken. Might have grown up in the south and you don't sound "Black" to him. One of my best friends sounds like an Englishman. Tease him about it all the time.
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  • I can't comment on the meaning of the phase, but I did enjoy the story. You can never have enough "anywhooos" in my experience
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  • James, don't take this the wrong way, but you must be the most female male person I've ever seen.


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    • Funny story. This line actually made me lol for real: "And we laughed, his junk bounced a lil... and we moved on."

      Added later: To answer your question though, I would say of the four choices it is funny and that is because of the relationship ( apparently pretty close with the junk and all ) you have with this guy and you being a self described trash talker "jerk" type yourself.
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  • hahhahaha now I am a white female (well.. hispanic). I meant... MY RIGHT. Obviously.

    I am editing it now so no one will every know lol

  • I've never heard that phrase before, but I can relate to you.

    I experienced something somewhat similar my sophomore year in high school.

    We had a black family move into town and Danny Lee was in my grade. I found him to be sweet, polite and have a great sense of humor. He made me laugh all of the time.

    I was quite surprised when he asked me to the upcoming dance but I accepted his invitation. During the first slow dance of the night, he dropped his hands to the small of my back then moved them just a little lower. After doing so, he said, "Terra, you've got a nigga bootie!"

    I was taken aback for a second, then replied, "Danny Lee, coming from you, I don't know whether to take that as a compliment or an insult."

    He said, "T'aint neither Miss, it's just a fact!"

    LOL!

    I still to this day don't know how I feel about that. Whenever the memory arises, I do laugh though.


    Terra
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    • Terra; Do you honestly think you are the only one here that has been told that? I've been told the exact same thing twice! And why they thought my name was Terra, I have no idea.

      Man, O Man, O Man! I would have paid you twenty bucks for that line, so I could say it to Kurt.

      Genius.
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  • Terra. That DEFINITELY sounds like a compliment to me! But there is really only one way to find out.

    You obviously have to post a picture and let Claude be the final judge. That is a given for this section of the forum

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  • Have you been taking writing lessons from Steve?

    Cute . . . for a white guy.

    As for your "complement or insult" question - definitely a compliment considering the context, IMO.

    You're just saying that because he kept looking at the other guy's junk.

    Man, I'd never have admitted that in front of this crowd.

    Well, that's enough winking for one post. I'm outta here.
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  • It wasn't so much that I was LOOKING at his junk... per se....

    It was more how could you NOT look at the junk. In the gym we are not supposed to talk about the junk... but there the bloody junk. Staring you right in the face (depending on how much I drink). Makes me think of the "mole" scene...

    Austin Powers - THE BLOODY MOLEEE! - YouTube

  • From a brother to a brother,

    You are a heterosexual male (...allegedly) watching junk bounce around on a regular basis

    You have more serious issues to worry about.

    uh huh

    what an unfortunate way to put it. At least for Sisi's sake I hope it was. Remove your fingers from the keyboard and move away.
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  • Like you, I have NO idea! Frankly, I wouldn't say such a thing. But if he is white, TAKE IT AS A COMPLIMENT! I mean if a black said I was the blackest white, I may be taken aback, but I would take it as a compliment. Why would he say it as an insult?

    He COULD mean that you don't sound black like some do, or you are more friendly to him, or who knows what. But it would be dumb if he meant it as an insult.

    I have heard the phrase when it spoke about the persons haircut/clothes being like any European, or the language being proper, with relatively little "street slang", or just acting like a normal person, and not having a chip on your shoulder.

    As for the statement above where someone said YOU have "ahem" problems. I think it is more likely that THE OTHER guy, that you are talking about and sat right up to you does. He sounds a bit TOO chummy! I'm NOT talking about your respective races, and I will leave it at that. As for ME? I like to keep a comfortable distance, from ALL, except close girlfriends and the like, of course.

    Steve
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  • This thread is fun. It's enthralling to watch everybody gingerly walk up to "the line," look around warily, touch it, and then run back as fast as they can.




    Oh, and James, when in any environment where men are naked, always look everyone directly in the eyes. Nowhere else. Directly. In. The. Eyes. If you're watching something bounce, you've already lost.
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    • Just follow the bouncing ball.
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  • obviously I would just fake it. Industry standard!
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    • See now you sounding like a brother. No charge just happy to help you get your swag back. MA - saving marriages is what I do. After all a girl don't go with chocolate if she wanted vanilla
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  • Sorry if this is ignorant . . . But what is the "C" word or AA????
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    • I take it

      C=Colored
      AA= African American

      Dang boy you still are going to need help with that WSO. Whats the NAACP??

      And NO!!! It has nothing to do with basketball!
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    • The "C" word is Claude and The "AA" is where he goes to sort out his drink problem.
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  • If, as some theorize, mankind originated in Africa, I guess we are all African something...
    I never really thought about the origination theory as a reminder to end racism.
    I know a lot of people who have so many different races and nationalities in their
    ancestry that, again, racism does not make sense.

    >>

    I am in Colorado and, Denver or rural, I would not refer to a black person as boy.
    Maybe 'cause I'm older than Riffle thought, and the awareness is still within me.
    Anyway, I don't know that the negative connotation has faded.

    >>

    While in my twenties, I worked with some black kids in the District Attorney's
    juvenile diversion program. Their parents affectionately called me the n word
    sometimes - "N, you have to try this food... LOL Still brings a smile. Both sides
    of my ancestry are Russian and Jewish, and immigrated to the US around 1900.

    PS - as for the OP, I don't think his intention was to insult, so I would not take it so.
    Actually, I think he is saying you two have a good enough relationship that you can
    make fun of, josh around with stereotypes and sayings and the colors of each
    others' skin.

    (I use the word black because it's never had a negative connotation in my experience
    and use/intention.)
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    • So, if l went up to someone, (who is black) and asked them, are they black, in a spherical, metaphysical terms, l would be considered racist, in a global, socioeconomic, political standpoint?

      Unless l asked what is the opposite of white, which is insinuating bigoted, racism, in a Nazi, l step on you, kind of way, while also gaining in direct terms, a equivocal, benchmark, paraphrase remark?



      Ok!



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