Has your life ever gone to ****?

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Have you ever been there? Where everything you do, somehow goes down in the gutter?

Nothing is going right in your life. Not one win to show. When you think you could use a little bit of luck.

How did you get out of it? Just wondering..

Sumit.
  • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
    I just keep zigging and zagging. Just keep on moving. Persistence and hard work create their own luck.


    Of course, you have to do some reflecting to determine if you're just hitting a bad streak or are deliberately sabotaging yourself.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    Been there - done that...and more than once.

    What you want to do is go off into a corner and scream - throw up your hands - give up - etc

    You accept that you can't always control what happens to you but you can control how you react. It's also a good time to find out what you're made of.

    The only time in my life when I've used a "mantra" was a very long bad period I went through. I told myself "shit is fertilizer - grow out of it". Sounds stupid now - but it worked when I needed it.

    Also helps to remember everyone has bad times - some people live their entire life in crisis. Keeping that in mind makes your problems look a bit more manageable.
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    • Profile picture of the author whateverpedia
      Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

      Been there - done that...and more than once.
      Same here. Frequently down, but never out.
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  • Profile picture of the author Synnuh
    After I went through my divorce, the next year seemed like I couldn't win.

    Every time I'd feel good about something, a curve ball would come in from left field and knock me back down into depression.

    It took a while to get out of it, but like Dan said, keep shucking and jiving and it will work out.

    I likened it to bashing my head against a concrete wall. Even though my head was already bloody from doing it, the wall was still standing, so I kept bashing until it broke down.

    I read something that life is like a bow & arrow. You've gotta be pulled back to be propelled forward.

    </cheese>

    I'm doing better now mentally than I have in the last 30 years, and the financial future looks brighter than I could have dreamed possible.

    Stay at it. One thing that really helped me was making a list of every problem I had in my life. It was a big one. I started knocking out every single issue one by one, systematically.
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    • Profile picture of the author Kay King
      I like the bow/arrow analogy.

      Sometimes, too, you need to be too stubborn to give in. Eventually it gets better.
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      • Profile picture of the author BigFrank
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        Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

        Sometimes, too, you need to be too stubborn to give in.
        That has generally been my technique.

        Cheers. - Frank
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    • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
      Originally Posted by Synnuh View Post

      but like Dan said, keep shucking and jiving and it will work out.


      Get outta my head, man. I actually had those words written but edited to "zigging and zagging."
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    • Profile picture of the author BigFrank
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      Originally Posted by Synnuh View Post

      After I went through my divorce, the next year seemed like I couldn't win.
      But you just did. I'm guessing it took a little time for you to realize it.

      Cheers. - Frank
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      • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
        Originally Posted by BigFrank View Post

        But you just did. I'm guessing it took a little time for you to realize it.

        Cheers. - Frank
        There is one awesome side to divorce: You can finally watch SportsCenter in sweet, blissful silence.
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        • Profile picture of the author BigFrank
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          Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

          There is one awesome side to divorce: You can finally watch SportsCenter in sweet, blissful silence.
          And you can have sex, alone. That sharing crap is for the birds.

          Cheers. - Frank
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          • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
            Originally Posted by BigFrank View Post

            And you can have sex, alone. That sharing crap is for the birds.

            Cheers. - Frank
            Hell, I've been married for 14 years and it still hasn't stopped me from having sex alone.
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  • Profile picture of the author Tom Addams
    Originally Posted by Sumit Menon View Post

    Nothing is going right in your life. Not one win to show. When you think you could use a little bit of luck.
    I often feel this way when I'm playing on the Xbox with my daughter. To add insult to injury - because she knows this fact - she'll often play with one eye closed. Talk about kicking a guy when he's down.

    On a serious note, Sumit:

    "I attribute my success to this: I never gave or took any excuse."

    –Florence Nightingale

    Some other great quotes here that might inspire you:

    http://www.forbes.com/sites/kevinkru...tional-quotes/

    Cheers,

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    • Profile picture of the author Zodiax
      Most of the time the 'shit' that we go through is a projection of what we have manifested through our view of the world.

      Every thought and action is a prayer.
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  • Profile picture of the author discrat
    Originally Posted by Sumit Menon View Post

    Have you ever been there? Where everything you do, somehow goes down in the gutter?

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    I think if you have a pulse and are over 20 yrs.old... YES ,of course
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    • Profile picture of the author hardraysnight
      Originally Posted by discrat View Post

      I think if you have a pulse and are over 20 yrs.old... YES ,of course
      i think my pulse must have stopped when i was 19
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    Originally Posted by Sumit Menon View Post

    Have you ever been there? Where everything you do, somehow goes down in the gutter?

    Nothing is going right in your life. Not one win to show. When you think you could use a little bit of luck.

    How did you get out of it? Just wondering..

    Sumit.
    I really enjoy hearing people's life stories. Not just IMers but most people's stories. One thing I have noticed is that everyone goes through trials and tribulations. I have come to believe that life is always about balances and in order for a person to gain success they must first know failure.

    Something that helped me was a quote by Les Brown. "You have to fail your way to success." Forget what everyone tells you. Forget about the issues glaring you in the face and PUSH ON.

    You will ultimately reach a point where you look back at this moment and laugh. Now, here is a bit of game for you. How can you flip your negative situation into a positive? What little nugget of gold can you take from all of this? There is a positive that can be taken from your situation. Find that and you will have an easier time dealing with your situation.

    Hope this helps
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    • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
      Doesn't everyone's? LOL!

      When I've gone through disappointing streaks in the past, I just thought of myself as an apple tree that needed a good, cold, hard winter in order to bear the sweetest fruit in the spring and summer seasons.

      At other times I thought of myself as a piece of art in progress and realized that strong lasting art sculptures are not created with toothpicks and tweezers, but out of hammers and chisels and determined that I was strong enough to take it and would be a valuable masterpiece when the sculpture was completed.

      Those always have worked for me.


      Terra
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    Has your life ever gone to shit?
    That's never happened to me because I'm awesome.





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  • Profile picture of the author HeySal
    Ah, gee, Sumit - if you only knew. I was just getting stabilized and just got kicked in the face and knocked down............again.

    What I do? I have a screaming hissy fit where I just go somewhere and scream obscenities about everything and anything. Then I take some me time to get away from it. For me that is going out and hunting some great agates or crystals.

    Then I go home, get a good night's sleep, wake up slow and drink a couple of cups of coffee and figure out my next move - then I start working on making that move.
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  • Profile picture of the author Tom Addams
    Originally Posted by Sumit Menon View Post

    Have you ever been there? Where everything you do, somehow goes down in the gutter?

    Nothing is going right in your life. Not one win to show. When you think you could use a little bit of luck.

    How did you get out of it? Just wondering..

    Sumit.
    Sumit,

    If you feel comfortable doing it - tell us a little about why you're currently feeling this way. Trust me, buddy, not a single one of us has it easy all of the time. Often the best way to help yourself is by asking for help from others. It looks like most of the folks above could give you a lot of helpful advice if you want it. Remember this, too - tomorrow is another day. You never know what's around the corner.

    Tom
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  • Profile picture of the author @tjr
    I had a few months a few years ago where I slept behind a dentists office, and my one meal a day was leftover pizza from the nearby Papa Johns dumpster. I guess you for say I've been through some shit lol.
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    • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
      Originally Posted by @tjr View Post

      I had a few months a few years ago where I slept behind a dentists office, and my one meal a day was leftover pizza from the nearby Papa Johns dumpster. I guess you for say I've been through some shit lol.
      I'm surprised you didn't just eat at Disney.
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      • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
        Decades ago, I had a few low points. But it was always my fault. Stupid choices, laziness, moronic use of my time....all my fault.

        Sometimes friends helped me out, sometimes I crawled out of the hole myself.

        Eventually, it dawned on me that I was the one causing my troubles, and I could change what I was doing.


        Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

        Hell, I've been married for 14 years and it still hasn't stopped me from having sex alone.
        Admit it, your wife insists.
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        • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
          Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

          Stupid choices, laziness, moronic use of my time...
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          Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

          Decades ago, I had a few low points. But it was always my fault. Stupid choices, laziness, moronic use of my time....all my fault.

          Sometimes friends helped me out, sometimes I crawled out of the hole myself.

          Eventually, it dawned on me that I was the one causing my troubles, and I could change what I was doing.




          Admit it, your wife insists.
          Careful, that might end up in a forum sig.

          Sometimes I crawled out of the hole myself. - Claude Whitacre
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      • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
        Originally Posted by Dan Riffle View Post

        I'm surprised you didn't just eat at Disney.
        That's a terrible idea. The line to the dumpster at Disney takes hours. And then the sign says, "Dumpster Pizza, $35 a slice".
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    • Profile picture of the author rosario1990
      Originally Posted by @tjr View Post

      I had a few months a few years ago where I slept behind a dentists office, and my one meal a day was leftover pizza from the nearby Papa Johns dumpster. I guess you for say I've been through some shit lol.
      That's was your crucial time. Living with just little bit of food.
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      • Profile picture of the author MissTerraK
        Has your life ever gone to shit?
        Oh yeah, but I've always made it through fertilized, haha!


        So, people, when your life goes to crap, make fertilizer.

        Sorry, I couldn't help myself.


        Terra
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        • Profile picture of the author Zodiax
          Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

          Oh yeah, but I've always made it through fertilized, haha!


          So, people, when your life goes to crap, make fertilizer.

          Sorry, I couldn't help myself.


          Terra

          Add lots of sunshine too!
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        • Profile picture of the author Claude Whitacre
          Originally Posted by MissTerraK View Post

          Oh yeah, but I've always made it through fertilized, haha!


          So, people, when your life goes to crap, make fertilizer.

          Sorry, I couldn't help myself.


          Terra
          Actually, the saying is, "When your life goes to crap, make lemonade".

          And that explains why my lemonade tastes so bad.
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          • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
            Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

            Actually, the saying is, "When your life goes to crap, make lemonade".

            And that explains why my lemonade tastes so bad.
            No, you're both wrong. The saying is, "When life gives you lemons, take a crap." It's a testament to one of the certain things in life: No matter how good or bad things are, you'll always have bowel movements.

            Do you people read at all?
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  • Profile picture of the author Floyd Fisher
    "If you're going through hell, keep going."


    -Winston Churchill
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      Originally Posted by Floyd Fisher View Post

      "If you're going through hell, keep going."


      -Winston Churchill
      Lol, right, don't slow down now.
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      • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
        Originally Posted by Floyd Fisher View Post

        "If you're going through hell, keep going."


        -Winston Churchill
        Originally Posted by yukon View Post

        Lol, right, don't slow down now.
        You guys have the beginnings of a country song.

        Hey, wait a minute:

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        • Profile picture of the author LynnM
          Yes, but it gets better, eventually. Having friends to listen and provide a shoulder helps a lot. I think of life as going along a road - sometimes there are bumps in the road that you have to get over. Sometimes they're mountains, but you just have to keep going until you get to the other side. And you will
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  • Profile picture of the author leilapearse
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    Yes of course! Been there, done that.. but don't ever lose hope, just always believe in yourself
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  • Profile picture of the author trustedmarketer
    I think we have all been there. We are all faced with difficult times but we need to be strong and fight on.
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  • Profile picture of the author Deos
    Trust me, if i even told you what have i been though you wouldn't even believe it, my best advice is:When all of your hope is gone, remember that the darkest hour is just before the dawn.
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  • Profile picture of the author Sumit Menon
    Hey guys,

    Thanks for all the motivation.

    I am better now. Once you accept the reality of things, it gets easier.

    I'll keep coming back to read this thread whenever I feel down.

    Thanks everyone,
    Sumit.
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      Originally Posted by Sumit Menon View Post

      Hey guys,

      Thanks for all the motivation.

      I am better now. Once you accept the reality of things, it gets easier.

      I'll keep coming back to read this thread whenever I feel down.

      Thanks everyone,
      Sumit.
      There you go, you got the forum sig right.

      "When I get sad I stop being sad and be awesome instead." - Barney Stinson
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  • Profile picture of the author bojan92
    Many times my life was bad and i had no wish to go on, but than i remember that there are so many beautiful things around me. That keeps me going every single time.
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