I'm gonna give you a hypothetical to chew on....

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What do you think of this....

hypothetical situation:

Your parents are getting older. You've done well in IM so you decide to help them out. So you buy them a nice RV so that they can go traveling and enjoy their retirement. You think "yes it will be good for them in so many ways. And they enjoy road trips so an RV would be ideal for them."

So you buy them the RV. They love it for the first few years. Then they accidently let their insurance lapse. Following which they get into a bad accident with the RV. The RV is a write off. Meanwhile as a result they've had all kinds of bills that have eaten up what little they had saved.

But you spent so much on the RV and business has slowed down for you, so you can't help your parents anymore anyway.

However, your parents think that because you bought them the RV and because it turned into such a bad scenario for them, they now blame you for it! What you didn't fully realize is that they're couping skills with tragedy are extremely poor. So is their sense of taking personal responsibility. But as a result of their own errors in judgement, and them blaming you for those errors, they almost hate you for involving yourself in their lives, and getting them this RV which nearly ruined their lives.

So they blame you for their problems. Since you bought the RV for them then somehow you should have realized what you were getting them into. And now that they wrote off the RV and blew all their money in the process, it's somehow all your fault!!!

They'll barely speak with you anymore as a result of what happened. So you did a massive favor for your family thinking your doing some good, but it completely blew up in your face!!!

So in this hypothetical situation, how do you coup? What do you do? What can you do? Like it's a total cluster F*** beyond anything you thought was possible! What would you do in this type of challenging situation???
  • Profile picture of the author yukon
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    Parallel parking the Winnebago at the Rusty Years retirement home golf course...





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  • Profile picture of the author Kurt
    I'd threaten to put them in the old folks home and take away their Bingo privileges.
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  • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
    You ain't gonna, give me that, not without medication.

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  • Profile picture of the author George Schwab
    i you give that - without meds - i'll give you the straight low down

    are you ready for it - or are you just messin around?
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  • Profile picture of the author Dan Riffle
    I'd write them off. You don't need that kind of shit in your life.
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  • Profile picture of the author DWaters
    Have them file for chapter 7 bankruptcy. All the bills are eliminated and everyone can live happily ever after.
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    • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
      Originally Posted by DWaters View Post

      Have them file for chapter 7 bankruptcy. All the bills are eliminated and everyone can live happily ever after.
      Gee, here we were talking about total crap, and someone like you promotes their sig,.

      I never promote my sig, or talk about fly.... it just isn't cricket.


      But to get back on topic, l don't think that Claude could take them orally, hide it in a donut perhaps?

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  • Profile picture of the author George Schwab
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    so thats what happened to you?

    i tell you what i did the last time my mom hang up the phone on me:
    I did talk to her in a different language, one she understands, but not
    her mother tongue. Either she apologizes - or we're done. No excuses
    for bad behavior. My dad was a true gentleman, my mom is a true...[fill in the words]
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    • Profile picture of the author Mike Anthony
      Originally Posted by George Schwab View Post

      i tell you what i did the last time my mom hang up the phone on me:
      I did talk to her in a different language, one she understands, but not
      her mother tongue. Either she apologizes - or we're done. No excuses
      for bad behavior. My dad was a true gentleman, my mom is a true...[fill in the words]
      So you have problems with women across the whole board then.
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      • Profile picture of the author yukon
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        Originally Posted by Mike Anthony View Post

        So you have problems with women across the whole board then.
        Apparently you're new here.

        He's been mackin the ladies.
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  • Profile picture of the author BigFrank
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    This is the classic definition of the 'Second Amendment Remedy. First shoot them, and then yourself.

    The world is now a safer place.

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  • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
    No fault whatsoever of the person who bought the RV

    Anyone can buy a car, but the salesman does not teach you to drive and they are not responsible for the tax and insurance etc.

    What this hypothetical person is experiencing is emotional blackmail and an unfair, inappropriate push of blame from the afflicted ones who are now down on their luck.

    Unfortunately, you don't get to chose your family, be it parents, brothers and sisters, whatever. You are stuck with them for a time but at the end of the day they are just people. And sometimes they are not desirable to be around either some or all of the time.

    The hypothetical person should not feel guilty in any way.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mike Anthony
    Sorry but any time I see someone needing the validation of strangers on the internet its a red flag that they aren't telling the whole story. 99.999% of the time you need to be validated online in a family situation its because those who know you and the whole story won't validate you offline precisely because of the details never included online.

    Plus you made a poor decision on your parents behalf. If as you say they have little savings then an RV for them as they age was not a good move. The cost of the RV could have been better used and the mileage those things get just eats out of their ability to save further.
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  • Profile picture of the author DWolfe
    If your Hypothetical parents are like that they are a bunch of A-ho#es. They should be honored their child gave them a gift. The positive memories should far out weighed the negatives, since this is all hypothetical. Just think... they would have created a lot of positive experiences and that type of feel good BS. Also they had no excuse not to pay the Insurance bill. They knew it was time to pay up and just ignored it. Plus they are fools to drive it without Insurance. If they did not have the money for the Insurance they should've sold it

    The person giving the gift should not feel guilty at all, they were not responsible. They have no one to blame but them selves. The gift giver should learn to save responsibility, stop living for instant gratification. Sounds like Shiny Object Syndrome in my Hypothetical opinion.
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  • Profile picture of the author George Schwab
    Re: Yukon: Mike is always 5 steps behind, now he tries to explain to guys that had
    the first spinner software on the market, and sent out press releases when he still
    went to school what the difference between 'spinning and rewriting' is. lol.

    Well he will catch up one day, or the date is off!

    You can have him back Yukon, i cannot date a guy that at least pretends to understand
    what we talk about...imagine to have dinner with someone that says: "hey did you hear
    the latest in SEO, PBNs making a comeback" -> "sure, tell me more about it...."
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  • Profile picture of the author Joe Mobley
    However, your parents think that because you bought them the RV and because it turned into such a bad scenario for them, they now blame you for it!

    I am unconcerned with someone else's faulty reasoning.

    What you didn't fully realize is that they're couping skills with tragedy are extremely poor.

    Non-sequitur.

    So is their sense of taking personal responsibility.

    Currently a world-wide pandemic.

    But as a result of their own errors in judgement, and them blaming you for those errors, they almost hate you for involving yourself in their lives, and getting them this RV which nearly ruined their lives.

    I am not going to make my own errors in judgement by giving this much of my time.






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  • Profile picture of the author theoperator
    well lets just put it this way, it was an invaluable learning experience. Like it wasn't exactly as I described it as I don't want to go into all the details. But if you make a lot of money somehow in life don't go thinking you're gonna go save the world or save your family or anyone else. Like at most maybe buy them a nice vacation, pay off a credit card for them, or take them out for a nice fancy dinner. The moment you get into going overboard it could blow up in your face. Because what if something goes wrong that you didnt' anticipate right? Then what? Like the very thing you think you're doing that could do the most good, could be doing the most wrong, or could come back to haunt you the most.
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  • Profile picture of the author George Schwab
    nah you're overthinking the whole issue, tell you what:

    tomorrow morning its a brand new day: use it and do it - a fresh!

    no rules are made in stone, you break up all rocky screenshots
    that pretend to be your reality by lots of freshly flowing water

    go jump into a pool somewhere - have a swim!

    nothing is what it pretends to be...

    lighten up - and they will also and come around
    we can make this work - but someone has to take
    a sort of action lead [initiative] - they are stuck - you
    should never get stuck. We the boys keep things moving!

    CHEERS!
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  • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
    What is everyone talking about,....sexy models riding about in Combi Vans, and stealing from their children?

    Sorry but if someone goes on for more than one paragraph l skip it, and hope for the best.

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