Surviving Toxic Families During the Holidays?
If so, I wrote the following - enjoy!
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Now, let's begin with:
Step 2.) Introduction
Be you on Facebook? If so, your experiences might be like mine...
I'm seeing lots of folks posting about how not everyone is looking forward to the holidays and how one should support these folks.
Now, I 100% agree.
The next question, though, is HOW you can support these folks.
Move now to:
Step 3.) Some Useful Ideas!
Mull over these suggestions... which one of them appeals to you?
Invite them over during the holidays.
Invite them out during the holidays.
Post inspirational memes on your FB wall about inner strength and personal growth (sometimes a very subtle approach is required, but if you know your friend follows you/reads what you share, it can make a positive impact).
Engage in conversation via chat - tell them you're thinking about them, wish them well, and then (any convo you think they might enjoy).
Those are dandy if you are a social person.... but what if not?
Move now to:
Step 4.) If You're An Introvert, Consider These Ideas
Some people want to help but hate talking with folks.
That's fine - y'all can consider the following instead!
Write a post about how to lift OTHER people's spirits (sometimes doing good for others makes people think, we'll I'm still in a lousy situation but I did brighten the life forothers!). aka, visit a local hopsital, nursing home, shelter, SPCA, etc., write cards, bring goodies for pets, etc.etc.etc.
Go to your local newspaper section and see what activities your town is offering. Create a post about that on your FB wall so local peoples will see it.
But what if YOU are the lonely person and honestly don't give a darn about anyone else because life is so bleak?
That can happen bunches... and when it does, do NOT feel guilty about it. Life ... is..... and sometimes it's what you truly *hate*.
Move now to:
Step 5.) Gift *Yourself*
You really can, you know. Think about:
Write a love letter to the person you want to *become*. ie, express how miserable your life is on paper, and then write how different it would be if XYZ etc.etc.etc.etc. happens.
You'll get out a lot of your anger/frustration/hopes/dreams and such things can often lead to a feeling of temporary peace.
Give yourself permission to *grieve*. Life CAN suck, you know... and it's so important to acknowledge one's own inner pain and sadness. As a matter of fact, have a personal grieving party- order your fav comfort foods, get your fav movies, and plop yourself in front of the TV/computer and indulge in a massive pity party.
Again - you're honoring the very very very REAL pain you might be experiencing (even if others say, jeepers, there's millions of folks worse than you, buck up and stop being a tweeblehead! Decaf coffee to them I say. This is a time for you to take care of YOU).
But what if it's you who lost someone close to yourself?
Consider the following....
Step 5.) Don't Hold It In.
Write them a letter. Express how much you miss them. Honor the good times and if it comforts you, believe they are a guardian angel now for you while you're still on earth.
Reach out to others who have lost the same person... perhaps get together to honor their memory once more.
Remembering the good times..... it's a healing thing to do.
Step 6.) Your Takeaway
So what's your takeaway?
It's always better to be above ground than not, even when you feel utterly miserable (and yep - loss, toxic families, etc. can really smooshilate the holidays for anyone).
You do NOT have to be the victim of feeling icky and not doing anything.
You can take steps to address and honor what hurts you and turn it into something supportive for the future...
... lift the spirits for others...
... kick fate in the right direction.
And give yourself permission to make 2017.... shine.
Step 7.) What You've Just Learned
You just learned the useful ways to spread cheer to people who might be sad during the holidays:
Invitations
Tips for Introverts
Gifting Yourself
Letting The Pain Out
But you're not yet done! Finally, move to:
Step 8.) Your Next Steps
Your next steps are to DO!
Pick one of the ideas above and make it happen.
Need inspirational memes to share?
Consider places like:
https://www.facebook.com/MotivationalMemes/
https://www.pinterest.com/explore/motivational-quotes/
Love Memes. Best Collection of Funny Love Pictures
And need additional help and resources? Benefit from:
USA Suicide Prevention
1800 273 8266 - USA Suicide Prevention Hotline, https://afsp.org/
Great Britian Suicide Hotlines
Hotline: +44 (0) 8457 90 90 90 (UK - local rate)
Hotline: +44 (0) 8457 90 91 92 (UK minicom)
Hotline: 1850 60 90 90 (ROI - local rate)
Hotline: 1850 60 90 91 (ROI minicom)
United Kingdom Suicide Hotlines - Suicide.org! United Kingdom Suicide Hotlines, United Kingdom Suicide Hotlines, United Kingdom Suicide Hotlines, United Kingdom Suicide Hotlines!
International Suicide Hotlines
Index of /hotlines/international
National Coalition against Domestic Violence
What is Domestic Violence?
International Domestic Abuse Resources
National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence
Dealing with Toxic Families During the Holidays
http://www.oprah.com/omagazine/Deali...g-the-Holidays
Holiday Stress: 6 Ways To Deal With Difficult Family Members During The Holidays | The Huffington Post
Tips for Surviving the Holidays w/ Toxic Dysfunctional Parents & FOO
Its okay to be estranged from toxic families
https://www.bustle.com/articles/1124...-toxic-parents
https://www.myptsd.com/c/threads/est...members.23440/
LGBTQ Support
The Trevor Project
It Gets Better Project | Give hope to LGBT youth
https://www.cdc.gov/lgbthealth/youth-resources.htm
The coffee is in your cup....
Make it a stellar brew today!
Grow strong,
Barb Ling
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