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What To Do When You Don't Feel Like Doing Anything... ?

by ksmusselman
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Hey all Warrior People...

I'm in a slump. Jan. 1 my little brother/best friend was in a motorcycle accident - pronounced dead at 5AM Jan. 2. That's how 2017 started.

Ever since then, I haven't felt like doing a damned thing. I go through "up" spells once in a while, so I started designing Tshirts and have them on Merch by Amazon, SpreadShirt, SunFrog and TeeSpring.

I haven't felt like blogging but fortunately I get enough guest post submissions that my blog stays fresh. It's up for sale now though because we got into some financial trouble; we lent my brother some cash when his wife left, and he'd just said he'd have it back to us after the New Year - obviously THAT didn't happen, and the only asset I have to recoup those funds is my blog.

I've been tossing around the idea of going for grief/bereavement counseling, and I still might do that.

But as far as working online, I'm at a loss as to what to do next because I just don't feel like doing anything.

I think my brother was blessed with all of the creativity; God skipped over me and gave that to him. LOL

I do help my husband with eBay listings so I feel like I'm contributing. And right now I have a few things of my father's (he passed away last year) to put on eBay so I need to do that today.

But lately, I'm just wandering around in a fog trying to figure out what I want to do next. My brother used to help me brainstorm, so I'm really feeling lost these days.
  • Profile picture of the author Ron Lafuddy
    Get out and meet some people. You need to get your energy level up and keep it up.

    It takes work...and doing, especially when you don't feel like it. That's the time when it's most important that you take action. Consistency is vital.

    Commitment is everything towards building new habits that feed and nourish your mental health.

    Fill your schedule with things to do and get moving. That's the answer!

    Good Luck
    Ron
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  • Profile picture of the author David Beroff
    Sincere condolences on both of your recent losses.

    Not sure if it'd help, but some people travel a bit to get some fresh air and perspective. It needn't be far. Even Hershey or the Amish country would work.
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    • Profile picture of the author ksmusselman
      Thanks David. Actually, we only live about a half hour from "Amish country;" we practically drive right through it to my son's place.

      Hershey's only about an hour or so away too.

      And later this year we'll be making at least one weekend trip to State College after my stepson and his family move up there.

      Pennsylvania has some beautiful countryside so once in a while when hubs and I have to run an errand, I'll have him take the long way - scenic drive home.

      I do get out more now than in the winter, even if it's just to take a walk around our grounds - we have a small farm.

      Right now I feel like I'm on a roller coaster - and I HATE roller coasters! LOL Next month is the Memorial Ride for little bro and we'll be spreading his ashes at a stop along the way. :-(

      Maybe after that, I'll start feeling better.
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  • Profile picture of the author David Beroff
    Right, and that was my point, that you don't have to travel far or incur a lot of expenses in order to "get away". (I'm just north of you guys, outside of Scranton.)
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    • Profile picture of the author ksmusselman
      I'm geographically challenged; where is that relative to Harrisburg - Pittsburgh?

      PA is a gorgeous state though, isn't it? I really wouldn't want to live anywhere else!
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      • Profile picture of the author David Beroff
        Originally Posted by ksmusselman View Post

        I'm geographically challenged; where is that relative to Harrisburg - Pittsburgh?
        Pretty much straight north of you, right up the Turnpike about an hour and a half.
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  • Profile picture of the author Mark Singletary
    I'm sorry for your loss.

    Ron and David have given some good advice. I would add to not put off counseling too long. It really can help people cope as they work through the stages of grief.

    Grief isn't just because of a person that was lost but opportunities, money, or other things related to what was lost. Talking things out may help you to know which direction to go with your life and business. While the counselor probably has no clue about online business, working through the process can help provide clarity in some cases.

    Hang in there. I hope things get better for you.

    Mark
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    • Profile picture of the author ksmusselman
      Thank you, Mark. Yeah, it's all hitting at once right now.

      I think - no, I know, I still miss my old job from which I was down-sized waaaay back in 1994. Nothing - not one thing - has felt right or gone right since then - job or at-home business.

      Then as medical issues started bombarding me, I was fired from three jobs while I was trying with my doctors to figure out what was going on.

      I've also had to shut down two successful online service businesses over the last few years due to medical issues.

      I also had a dream of launching a successful real estate investment business, however it was a dream I'd shared with my brother for decades. We were still working on a way to get it off the ground when he died. Now I have no interest in it at all and I have our REI website up for sale too.

      I did make a fast eBay sale today though! I have a whooole lot of music stuff - vintage sheet music and instruction books, along with a bunch of CDs - that were my father's that were given to me by my nieces after my brother passed.

      I just started getting them listed early this afternoon and one of them sold already! So that's a positive anyway. ;-)
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      • Profile picture of the author tagiscom
        Originally Posted by ksmusselman View Post

        Thank you, Mark. Yeah, it's all hitting at once right now.

        I think - no, I know, I still miss my old job from which I was down-sized waaaay back in 1994. Nothing - not one thing - has felt right or gone right since then - job or at-home business.

        Then as medical issues started bombarding me, I was fired from three jobs while I was trying with my doctors to figure out what was going on.

        I've also had to shut down two successful online service businesses over the last few years due to medical issues.

        I also had a dream of launching a successful real estate investment business, however it was a dream I'd shared with my brother for decades. We were still working on a way to get it off the ground when he died. Now I have no interest in it at all and I have our REI website up for sale too.

        I did make a fast eBay sale today though! I have a whooole lot of music stuff - vintage sheet music and instruction books, along with a bunch of CDs - that were my father's that were given to me by my nieces after my brother passed.

        I just started getting them listed early this afternoon and one of them sold already! So that's a positive anyway. ;-)
        Yes, l am also sorry for your loss, and walking in nature helps, or the universe can give you signs, that your brother is fine, and you need to move forward.

        I can't really offer advise on Real Estate or Ebay, but l am a whiz with graphics, so if you need advise in that area, let me know.

        Take care.

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  • Profile picture of the author flopitdown
    Do what you have fun doing. I believe if a person cannot entertain themselves, they are not going to be truly happy later in life.
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    • Profile picture of the author David Beroff
      Originally Posted by flopitdown View Post

      Do what you have fun doing. I believe if a person cannot entertain themselves, they are not going to be truly happy later in life.
      You know how I can tell you didn't bother reading the original post?
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