Using the term 'Cougar'

by Michael Motley

Posted: 15 years ago 34 replies

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If you dont know, the term 'milf' is no longer really used. The term now for a late 30's to mid 40's female who dates a guy in her 20's is Cougar. There is a big stink going on down here right now with many of the women saying that Cougar should not be used because it sounds predatory (apparently they've never been on the business end of a cougar prowling a bar, it can get pretty dicey.)

Ok girls ladies, here's what we'll do. Lets just use the same term for a 40 something female that dates 20 something males as you use for 40 something males that date 20 something females.

After a few months of using 'pervert' or 'letch', we'll run that 'cougar' term by you again see how it sits.

Kevin Flask 15 years ago

Presuming the women are single...

If a married woman seeks an affair with a younger man, does that make her a "Cheet-ah"?
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knight8 15 years ago

I call them sharks because you can see them cruising through the bar with a fin of desperation and lust poking above the crowd. My experiences in being pursued were definitely predatory and the times when I have followed through have been the same.
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KimW

15 years ago

I personally think its disgusting there is now a TV series advocating this lifestyle.
(Ive not seen the show so that is an uneducated biased opinion)
But let me add,milf was a term for a woman that was hot,though maybe a crude term, while cougar is a term for an older woman that is on the prowl, there is a difference.

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Dan C. Rinnert

15 years ago

Originally Posted by KimW

But let me add,milf was a term for a woman that was hot,though maybe a crude term, while cougar is a term for an older woman that is on the prowl, there is a difference.

That was my impression. And, I thought MILF was a newer term than cougar. Seems (to me at least) like cougar has been in use a lot longer than MILF. But, then again, I only know of those terms because of TV and the Internet. Never heard anyone in real life use either term!

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Michael Motley 15 years ago

I have no problem with either term...or either type of female . There are a lot of very sharp looking women that are 30+. No longer do women let themselves go after a certain age. I know my gym is filled with females that are 30ish, 40ish that are amazing looking
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garyv

15 years ago

A Milf is a hot mom. A cougar is a horny old lady that may or may not look good (and not necessarily a mom).

I don't find a cougar lifestyle offensive, as long as they are single. Women like pleasure just as much as we do.

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ThomM

15 years ago

Why when an older women goes after a younger man she's called a cougar, when if an older man goes after a younger women he's called a pervert:confused:

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Michael Motley 15 years ago

Originally Posted by ThomM

Why when an older women goes after a younger man she's called a cougar, when if an older man goes after a younger women he's called a pervert:confused:

thats what im screaming.
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- ThomM 15 years ago
  
  Originally Posted by Michael Motley
  
  thats what im screaming.
  
  I had to go back and read your original post.
  Not high enough to comprehend much at the moment
  
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CDarklock

15 years ago

Originally Posted by ThomM

Why when an older women goes after a younger man she's called a cougar, when if an older man goes after a younger women he's called a pervert:confused:

Keep in mind that the older woman is going after younger men who are looking for women, while the older man is going after younger women who are trying to do their homework.

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ThomM

15 years ago

Originally Posted by CDarklock

Keep in mind that the older woman is going after younger men who are looking for women, while the older man is going after younger women who are trying to do their homework.

Not true at all.
My mother was 20 years younger then my father yet in her late 20's when they meet and married.

I understand what you're getting at though.
I've always liked younger women and most assume I mean teenagers, which would make me a pervert.
Now at 56 to me a younger women would be between 20 and 50.
The problem is finding the right age.
A 20 year old would kill me, a 50 year old would be to mature (yes I admit I'm immature).
It doesn't matter though, the only women that seem to find me interesting lately are in their 70's and heavily medicated

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Dan C. Rinnert 15 years ago

Originally Posted by ThomM

Now at 56 to me a younger women would be between 20 and 50.
The problem is finding the right age.

For you, no younger than 35.

( Age / 2 ) + 7
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- ThomM 15 years ago
  
  Originally Posted by Dan C. Rinnert
  
  For you, no younger than 35.
  
  ( Age / 2 ) + 7
  
  That would make her 15 years older then me maturity wise, that would work
  
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TimPhelan

15 years ago

Try plentyoffish and/or match.com Thom. These sites are the best for finding someone IMO. From these sites I have met some awesome women.

Originally Posted by ThomM

Now at 56 to me a younger women would be between 20 and 50.
The problem is finding the right age.
A 20 year old would kill me, a 50 year old would be to mature (yes I admit I'm immature).
It doesn't matter though, the only women that seem to find me interesting lately are in their 70's and heavily medicated

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ThomM 15 years ago

Originally Posted by TimPhelan

Try plentyoffish and/or match.com Thom. These sites are the best for finding someone IMO. From these sites I have met some awesome women.

Actually I was sorta joking Tim.
I'm getting to old, cantankerous, and set in my ways to be playing that game anymore.
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KimW

15 years ago

I think mine may have been misunderstood, but thats often the case on the internet.
I stll think that to have a tv show around the concept is in very poor taste,but I think my definitions and differences was right on target.

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ThomM

15 years ago

Originally Posted by KimW

I think mine may have been misunderstood, but thats often the case on the internet.
I stll think that to have a tv show around the concept is in very poor taste,but I think my definitions and differences was right on target.

If your definition of MILF is Mothers I'd Like to F*** then yes they are.
Sorry to be crude but that is what MILF stands for.

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KimW 15 years ago

Originally Posted by ThomM

If your definition of MILF is Mothers I'd Like to F*** then yes they are.
Sorry to be crude but that is what MILF stands for.

Yes, that what it means alright.
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Michael Oksa 15 years ago

Originally Posted by ThomM

If your definition of MILF is Mothers I'd Like to F*** then yes they are.
Sorry to be crude but that is what MILF stands for.

Hi Thom,

I must admit your definition has me stumped.

I was only able to think of a few four-letter words that start with F, and none of them seem to make sense in this context.

Could you tell me which of the following words the F stands for?

Face, Fact, Fade, Fafa, Fair, Fail, Fake, Fall, Fame, Fang, Fans, Fare, Farm, Fast, Fate, Fats, Faun, Faux, Fava, Fave, Fawn, Faze, Fete, Feet, Feta, Fear, Feed, Fern, Feat, Fees, Feel, Felt, Fell, Fend, Fens, Fess, Feud, Feds, Fest, Fire, File, Fish, Firs, Fife, Fiji, Fill, Find, Finn, Firm, Five, Fins, Fits, Fixe, Flea, Flee, Flat, Fled, Flit, Flag, Flip, Floe, Flan, Flap, Flue, Flab, Flew, Flop, Flow, Flak, Flaw, Flax, Flex, Flub, Fore, Foal, Foes, Fold, Fool, Foci, Foil, Foot, Ford, Fort, Four, Foam, Font, Food, Folk, Fork, Form, Free, Fret, Frat, Frog, From, Frau, Fray, Frit, Fuse, Fuel, Furl, Fuss, Fury, Furs, Fume, Full, Fund, Fuji, Fudd, Fugu, Funk, and Fuzz.

Thanks in advance.

All the best,
Michael
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- CDarklock 15 years ago
  
  Originally Posted by Michael Oksa
  
  Fork
  
  That one.
  
  It's usually followed by spooning.
  
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Dave Patterson 15 years ago

When I was in my twenty's I didn't at all mind those women in their 30's and 40's.

Now in my 50's I still find that to be the case...
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- Ken Strong 15 years ago
  
  Originally Posted by Dave Patterson
  
  When I was in my twenty's I didn't at all mind those women in their 30's and 40's.
  
  Now in my 50's I still find that to be the case...
  
  We need a term for this... Dave, how would you like to be the first "orangutan"?
  
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KimW

15 years ago

Michael, all those words and I can't believe you didn't figure it out.
He is talking about Mothers I'd Like to F***.
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Michael Oksa

15 years ago

Originally Posted by KimW

Michael, all those words and I can't believe you didn't figure it out.
He is talking about Mothers I'd Like to F***.
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Kim

Thanks Kim, I just figured out whaich four-letter F word I forgot on my list.

Can't believe, as much as I enjoy movies, that I forgot the word film.

D'oh!

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Killer Joe

15 years ago

Originally Posted by Michael Oksa

Thanks Kim, I just figured out whaich four-letter F word I forgot on my list.

Can't believe, as much as I enjoy movies, that I forgot the word film.

D'oh!

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Michael, do you have something against a foul fowl fart?

I didn't see it on your list.

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Michael Oksa 15 years ago

Originally Posted by Killer Joe

Michael, do you have something against a foul fowl fart?

I didn't see it on your list.

KJ

Thanks Joe.

Dagnabbit, now I'm even more confused.

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KimW 15 years ago

I've actually seen that formula before,can't remember where though.
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HeySal

15 years ago

Guys are using the term "cougar" for any older woman they talk to these days. I have been approached a few times by guys then get called a cougar when they ask my age and I tell them. I have to remind them that I didn't come out looking for them. There seems to be a tendency for younger guys to think a woman is prowling every time she leaves the house to do anything but grocery shop. There's also some perception that after 40 a woman is "grateful" for attention from a younger man. It completely blows them away if you aren't interested.

I'm thinking that a bit more aerobic exercise might keep the testosterone from clogging up the neuron synapses.

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Dave Patterson

15 years ago

Originally Posted by HeySal

Guys are using the term "cougar" for any older woman they talk to these days.

No wonder I've felt like I've been existing with one foot in another dimension these last few years...

I'd never even HEARD the term until I read about it in this thread. :confused:

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Killer Joe

15 years ago

Originally Posted by Dave Patterson

No wonder I've felt like I've been existing with one foot in another dimension these last few years...

I'd never even HEARD the term until I read about it in this thread. :confused:

Ditto, and I consider myself on the cutting edge of anything related to broads.

I'm at a loss...:p

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Ken Strong 15 years ago

Originally Posted by Dave Patterson

I'd never even HEARD the term until I read about it in this thread. :confused:

That's OK -- I get all my news and cultural information from the OT too.
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HeySal 15 years ago

I actually heard it on TV the first time and thought that it was just something they made up on the show until I was actually called one a few months ago. What a lark. It doesn't bother me so much that the term is used - it's the fact that some of these dumb kids actually would assume I have my claws set for them just because I am single and out of the house. WTF are they thinking?
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KimW 15 years ago

I think I first saw the term on craiglist a few years back.
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- Killer Joe 15 years ago
  
  Originally Posted by KimW
  
  I think I first saw the term on craiglist a few years back.
  
  Kim, that was 1967 Cougar, I saw that ad, too :p
  
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