Damn, and l thought that this thread was going to be about Claude,.............l am shattered!

what does doing the right thing have to do with being a man ? surley that would apply to one and all regardless of sex and would be basic knowledge for most ?

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The right thing is highly subjective and realative to the society and time .

You can read too much into what it means to be a man .that is just stating gender .that is why other descriptive words like honest our hard working reliable .

It's mean you born with it. Man or Woman, there are is only 2 genders.

I believe that if you go to an Anthony Robbins seminar and go on stage you will have your answer?

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What does it mean to be a man?

I've never asked myself that question. It's just not how I think.

But...what's it mean to be a good person? Still not how I think.

But...what's the best way to get through life? To be kind to everyone. To treat people fairly, even when you aren't getting what you want. Once you accept that as an unbreakable rule, decisions become easier and life becomes easier.

What's a guaranteed prescription for misery? Blame others for your setbacks and problems. This guarantees that your life will never improve, and you'll never be happy (whatever that is).

I prefer to be a good man instead of..
What Does It Mean To Be A Man?

PS.. Its not a gender question. More of an old saying. Alas, many of the younger generation do not know there is a difference. Life experiences and all.

Being a man is taking ownership and responsibility of my actions.Being a man is in having respect for myself and my fellow human-beings.

I gained some interesting perspectives on this topic after my Tony Robbins life coach suggested I read "The Way of the Superior Man". Don't judge a book by it's title. It was interesting and got a lot deeper than "do the right thing".

It really opened my eyes about relationships as well...a man's role, expectations from the female etc. Women should read the book as well as they will gain a better understanding of men and how they operate...yes, insert the jokes here now....but I got a lot out of the book and it has helped improve my relationship with my wife.

My wife and I discuss this question once and a while haha. I don't think 'doing the right thing' is exclusive to this idea of being a man or woman, because children can 'do the right thing'. In my opinion 'being a man' can be defined as when you have the ability to and start taking care of yourself no longer being dependent on your parents. Keyword dependence. Just my take

>RE: What Does It Mean To Be A Man?

I'll let you know as soon as I figure it out. Seriously.

I second that,...oh, wait, things are going pretty well for me at present,.....no, still Claudes fault!

True, a real man in a war zone, will take bullets and do heroic things to protect his fellow man, and usually ends up dead, but not always.

By the way doing the right thing doesn't necessarily mean choosing "right" from "wrong." It means that no matter what happens you will choose the right path that will make you more successful.

I hope that makes sense.
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For example I spent a long time drealing with "Mental Ilness" and for me doing the best thing has been really helpful
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That only is really helpfully when you know the difference between reacting to everything and responding .

Taking responsibility is more about developing your ability to respond . Rather than the assignment of blame .

I'll partly quote Jordon Peterson or mash his concepts together . Clean up your room suffering and chaos are part of life. Your role if you want a happy life is to carve out patches of order from the chaos.

I will bring up your mental condition as I really refer noot to call it an illness . How responsible are you or who us to blame for it . And how much good will it do . On the other hand you have this condition and it is your responsibility to make choices every day that don't make it a problem and actually find the benefit in it.

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All i'm going to say is this... Being a man or accepted definition thereof in 2019 is totally different from days gone by...

John my preference is not to call it mental illness . If there is one thing social md I a has shown it is everyone is wired differently . A large number of people where just able to actually like everyone else and hide their differences .

A large number of successful entrapeeneurs are dislexic . The tech industry is full of men with high functioning autism . Most great artists and musicians have real bad cases of depression bi polar disorder


Every successfully person probabably has some condition that can be considered mental illness.

I am crazy so I do not believe positive thinking is as close to important . As postivly defineing the words you use first than practicing def thinking in those positive word definitions

I think I will have to become a guru of the concept but I'm hiding rightnow

Being a man may have different meaning to many people depending on once upbringing.
The truth is, the belief and value of most people were passed down to them as a virtue of what they were taught and what they saw and hear since these are the notable ways we learn in addition to our own experience which unfortunately dominate us most than our experience which we get in later years.

As someone from Africa, we have our extended family depending on the most successful ones in the family as well as those in the process of becoming. Being a man in Africa means making loads of money. In some family they don;t care how you make that money and to this end most of the younger generation have taken to internet fraud and what have you because the leaders have failed the nation and the pressure from their family is just too much to bear for most of them and this I feel deeply pity for.

To some people being a man is being macho. Being the first to appear at any fight scene and being the "Blow man" and getting all the attention of everyone around as a strong man.

Yet to others being a man is being able to womanize. Date countless women and have pleasurable sex with many of them without marrying any.

The truth is, while all these opinion and divers views may mean something to everyone we must understand that there is but one truth in life and that is living a meaningful life which can be achieved by doing good.

Gotta figure stoopin' low for Claude is the pinnacle of innuendo.

Actschwly, I ate that once in a real swanky Paris hotel.

"Would you care to see the dessert menu, mademoiselle?"

"Sure. You got Ben & Jerry's?"

"May I recommend the pinnacle d'innuendo?"

"What in hell is thaaat?"

"Essentially an exotically sauteed banana drizzled with a honey and tangerine jus, accompanied by a sliver of spicy sausage speared tip to tip."

"So ... kinda like corn on the cob?"

"Oui. Only way more expensive."

Claude .

Guys who use that line usually have no idea how to shut their miths until someone feels the need to punch them out.

They will tend to talk crap to people they feel are weeker than them and push the other person to throwing punches

They also tend to be with others and pick individual targets .

Then there are people from chicago. .usually nice enough people .until you do or say something that gets them to point out they are from Chicago.

To put up with something or take responsibility for it; to deal with something, such as pain or misfortune, without complaining.

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The problem I have with most of western self help . Is it guided by a western ideal of what success is . So for the most part the self improvement is about making more money to buy more stuff

There is a small percent of the population mainly male who will do nothing but work all the time .

And in my view most self improvement attempts to transform people into that .

And shits on people who have the nerve to enjoy things things besides work

Jeffry .
I lived as a street preformer in Vegas for a year and half until two years ago.

So I am seeing that he makes enough to have a drummer and a keyboard player and it does not look like they those two are on the public sidewalk. Maybe he has a deal to set.up there.

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what type of deal you have done and why younger following you.

Love people. Be nice. Be friendly. Do not deeply fear emotions so you repress them and act angry, as many men mean well in so doing but are cowards around little energy waves in their minds LOL. Be loving. Accept people. Open your mind. Spend more time in silence. Ever quality applies to women, and children, too. I am inclusive like that. Good question Jonathan.

Humanity.

A man is no bigger than a woman. If I can get a little detail about why you asked this question, I might be able to answer this.

I feel something happened with you, which made you feel like you are not a man anymore. Did you scare of something?

Trust me, you are already a great human being. Ups and downs won't disturb you until you make your focused.

Good Luck with you my friend.

Dan by horrified you mean the second he said it you found it cute and laughed . Then realized if he said it again in public other people may laugh . Then everyone who laughed would be guilty of some type of crime

After all laughing at a joke like that .has nothing to do with it just being something cute a 3 year old said . And some sign of hidden racism or some kind of hate .

Gotta read books on how the communists or the Soviets policed thought to understand the progression of political correctness and where things are going.

That's fine John .

If you want to create suffering and challenge and hard times in your future because that worked for you in the past .

Go ahead eventually you will learn there are better ways being discovered every day .

In any case I have chosen to create the present based on the future I want . Not based off of the past. We create our past to justify our present .

There is what happened in the past and how we remember what happened . Or worse yet what we chose to remember to explain the present. Is what we call our past.

So John do you want the same amount of pain suffering agony and challenge in the next 10 years you went through the last ten years .

And if you want to learn more in the next ten years. Can you handle it more

If that worked for you in the past to learn more you have to go through more.

Or can you learn to learn and grow without pain suffering challenge. Blah blah blah

Tldr . If you think that the pain and suffering you went through to learn the last 10 years.was needed.
if you want to learn a lot more in the future. Then be ready for a lot more pain and suffering.
If pain and suffering is the only way you are willing to learn and grow

All I know is, I got mostly zero control ovah who else been born rn, less so 'bout their opinions, even less so 'bout any powah they might have ovah Moi for whatevah reason existed before I showed.

This presents me with options 'bout my stance toward the reality in which I find myself ... may even prompt me to question said reality with a view to figurin' better ansahs.

I would wish this always to be troo, for anywan happens along here.

As an optimist, likely I figure this thought to sumplace maximally impactful -- sum wiser tamara from offa which more bountiful hooman conflux shimmies.

Thing is, if what I jus said is troo, it gotta always have been troo -- or truth ain't worth nuthin.

So how this statement play back when Romans figured the pathway to a perfect life meant killin' Christians alongside their favorite pets in concrete architectural splendor....

All I know is, I got mostly zero control ovah who else been born rn, less so 'bout their opinions, even less so 'bout any powah they might have ovah Moi for whatevah reason existed before I showed.

This presents me with options 'bout my stance toward the reality in which I find myself ... may even prompt me to question said reality with a view to figurin' better ansahs.

Before we got boats -- or any decent tools whatsoevah -- we all moseyin' around in our own backwater, united as a species by our total ignorance of anywan hangin' out more than 100 miles away from our stoopid cave.

All I know is, I got mostly zero control ovah who else been born rn, less so 'bout their opinions, even less so 'bout any powah they might have ovah Moi for whatevah reason existed before I showed.

This presents me with options 'bout my stance toward the reality in which I find myself ... may even prompt me to question said reality with a view to figurin' better ansahs.

It occurs to Moi how we been around for way so long bcs we capable of progressivly smarter self-sparky.

Strike flint ... prodooce fire.

Parachute noo people into the history of hoomankind ... generate potential for salvation as problems present 'emselves rn.

But strike of flint gotta be troo in this regard.

Let innocence loose on the evidence, mebbe 2030 gonna be sumthin'.

Stifle outlook an' sully the visible, likely evrywan gonna end up stoopid.

Your thoughts about it is good, as for me alos he need be gental and know and show good manners!

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For me it's a strong belief in what you do, and be able to take a responsibility for what you do

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Key that post almost needs to be a post by itself with a sticky .

And that is no where close to what the regular examples look like .

So far it been one of those statements Jon makes with his rose colored glasses on .

And you responding with an example of someone who probably died or was killed for doing what you point out in the example

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Wow - pretty amazing all the different answers that people gave and how the topic has evolved. Being a man has sure become a lot more complicated than in the past - the very fact that so many young men feel they need to ask themselves the question is sad.

Gotta figure the Zaaahmbie Apocalypse gonna even out any kinda gender divide.


With zero kids to birth, no aspiration demands any kinda recognition, an' no diffrence when it comes to EATIN' BRAINS BRAINS BRAINS between flesh swings offa your breastbone or down between your legs, we all similarly suited to equality's Ground Zero.


As placebo control experiments go, Zaaahmbie hoomankind is a dream paradise.


Feel free to factor in your variables at will.

I ask my mamma when I was a knee high to a grasshopper, How will I know when I am a man? My mamma said to me, Son, I says Son, When your balls drop, then your on your ways to bein a real man.

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Be kind, Gentle, sexiness, Lovely and genuine.

Be patience !!!

but i am a gentle man

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It's sad the way things change. Gillete, for example, tailored one campaign to men LONG ago, and as much said it in the related jingle BUT, in the end, all they were saying were that they were the best shaver for men. Whether true or not, it should have offended NOBODY!

And then they came out with a few campaigns that made a lot of people upset. Basically, they said men are anything BUT what many men are.

And who ever actually said they were perfect? But there is a LARGE chasm between not being up to the task, and being the antithesis of whatever. I wish everyone were perfect. And I certainly wish I were. But nobody is.

Anyway, it is sad the way some things have changed.

Welcome bavk Steve. Don't be a stranger.

An ambiguous question in 2019...

For me, I will say that being a man is ability for someone to take full responsibilty, also be able to work out something and be self dependent.

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