How to get your spouse on board

4 replies
  • OFF TOPIC
  • |
Hi warriors,

I'm brand new to internet marketing and brand new to this forum. I'm looking for advice on how to move forward with building an on-line business when your spouse is less than 100% supportive. Or less than 50% supportive. Or not supportive at all.

The day job isn't cutting it, so I've been spending the past month or so researching ways to pull in some extra cash online (typical story, right?), but whenever I approach my wife with some of my ideas for "internet marketing" she starts to cringe.... She asks why I can't just focus on working harder at the day job or on a second job in the evening.... It's frustratingly ironic. We know that we need to bring in more income, but I can only talk to her about earning money from a "real" job, something "dependable."

I've read lots of stories from successful marketers about how they endured scoffs from family, friends, coworkers when they were getting started. I'm finding myself in kind of a similar situation. I can deal with most of the unsupportive commentary outside the home, but fighting it at home makes things a lot more difficult.....

Anyone else here have a similar story? How do you deal with it?

Thanks,
Ben
  • Profile picture of the author War_Guy
    Hey Ben,

    I would say that I would not be doing this, if it were not for the TOTAL 100% support of my spouse (in my case, wife, call me old fashioned!) .

    I would recommend that you get another/better job and keep your marriage. This is under the pretense that I know nothing about you or your wife/life. This is just a general statement.

    Get the money thing out of the way first, then come back. There is no quick way to earn money here or any guarantee that you will earn any money. I will say that you WILL loose money, first and it maybe a lot (or too much!) for your marriage to survive.

    Are you ready to gamble that?

    I have lost thousands and had a long hard time explaining it to my wife. She has a great Job and works really hard, I'm embarrassed about the amount she makes compared to me. But, she still supports me and that is what keeps me in the game.

    What ever you decide, I wish you the best.
    {{ DiscussionBoard.errors[1329935].message }}
  • Profile picture of the author TLTheLiberator
    Tell your spouse that you want to explore the possibilities of an online business and these are the best of times to do so.

    Tell her that it won't cost much.

    ( you don't need an expensive course )

    You don't have to spend any/a lot of money on promotion but then you'll have to do some strategic work to spread your marketing messages far and wide.

    If you have say $50-$100 per month to invest in your online venture - all the better.


    Help her understand that real online business has nothing to do with mlm or those silly recruiting people schemes.


    ( a lot of people think online business is mlm & recruiting people type of junk )

    Your offer...

    If you don't make any decent money in 6 months then you can look for an extra job.

    ( try 9 months first )

    Ask for time, understanding and peace.


    ( That's all you need from her, not a super enthusiastic spouse, cause she may not want to be a sounding board for you )

    You need to...

    Buckle down and select a proven online business model.

    Then get strategically busy conducting it.

    Here's a thread that should help you to quickly get on the path and reduce your confusion and info-overload.

    http://www.warriorforum.com/main-int...hese-days.html

    All The Best!!

    TL



    Ps. You may want to look at the domain name investing/parking model also.

    PPs. This forum can supply you with the knowledge you need to make it happen - don't blow it.
    Signature

    "It's easier to fool people than to convince them that they have been fooled. -- Mark Twain

    {{ DiscussionBoard.errors[1329957].message }}
    • Profile picture of the author quixoticmarketing
      Hey TL, funny you mention MLM.... A lot of my wife's skepticism is based on the fact that I have dabbled in MLM ventures in the past, but they never panned out....

      I totally get that none of this is "get-rich-quick" crap. It's building a business, like any other business.... Finding a target market, understanding their needs, delivering those needs.... Just need to help her understand... Or at least be understanding...

      Thanks much for the response!
      {{ DiscussionBoard.errors[1330137].message }}
      • Profile picture of the author TLTheLiberator
        Originally Posted by quixoticmarketing View Post

        Hey TL, funny you mention MLM.... A lot of my wife's skepticism is based on the fact that I have dabbled in MLM ventures in the past, but they never panned out....

        I totally get that none of this is "get-rich-quick" crap. It's building a business, like any other business.... Finding a target market, understanding their needs, delivering those needs.... Just need to help her understand... Or at least be understanding...

        Thanks much for the response!
        Bingo!

        Let her know that you've given up the silly mlm stuff and perhaps she'll relent.

        TL
        Signature

        "It's easier to fool people than to convince them that they have been fooled. -- Mark Twain

        {{ DiscussionBoard.errors[1330151].message }}

Trending Topics