My wife's sons spelling dilemma - HELP NEEDED!

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Ok here's the deal...

My wife's son Ben wants to join the RAF as a mechanic. He's currently in his last year at high school. He excels in practical subjects and maths but he's absolutely terrible at written English - he has the writing ability of a 10 year old but he's now 15.

The problem is he needs minimum grades in certain subjects. One of those subjects is English and he needs at the very least a GCSE Grade C.

In an emotional conversation this morning my wife admitted that she's not dealt with this situation correctly and failed to encourage and motivate him to read and improve his writing. I don't want to go into too much detail here as to why because it's not appropriate, nevertheless as I'm sure you'll agree it's a big thing for any mother to admit!?

Ben's Dad is a successful salesman but like Ben his written English is terrible. Ben sleeps over at Dad's three nights a week so has regular contact and a good relationship. However, Dad is not particularly hands on with helping Ben with his studies, he just reminds him a lot that he needs to get good grades.

I've offered to help Ben but he doesn't know it yet because he's round his Dad's at the moment. We have a good relationship but I've kind of taken a step back in regard to parental stuff with him before although we do stuff together sometimes. Both myself and his mum are confident that he'll let me help him.

You see Ben has no problem articulating himself -for his age he is extremely articulate. The problem is putting his thoughts into writing. Something happens or is lost between the thoughts leaving his brain and entering his hands. His handwriting is often illegible and his spelling is to put it mildly terrible.

I'm going to install my copy of Dragon Naturally Speaking on his netbook, buy him a good quality microphone and encourage him to speak his thoughts and let the software transcribe it for him. This will help him no end with his graded coursework. I know there is a learning curve with this software and I know the software takes a while to 'learn' the way you speak. But I also know with a good microphone it works very well.

However Dragon Naturally Speaking is not going to be there to help him when he sits his written exams.

So...

I've got seven months to turn a fifteen year old boy who dislikes reading and has no confidence in his writing skills into a Grade C GCSE pass in English Language.

We know the best we can hope for is Ben scraping a GCSE pass by the skin of his teeth but we also know that he'll sail through the other subjects that he needs good grades for.

So why am I posting this?

Do any of you guys know of any software, resources or even a crash course in spelling that can help Ben. Please don't post links to your product because you happen to market in this niche, and please don't post links to YouTube Videos that you 'think' will be helpful.

I'm interested in solutions that has worked for you or someone you know and helped them improve their spelling and the quality of their handwriting.

If you prefer then pm me.

Thanks a million for reading this post - all help and advice will be considered and discussed.

Garry.
  • Profile picture of the author getsmartt
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  • Profile picture of the author Dave Patterson
    Also have him tested for dyslexia.....not liking reading, bad spelling/handwriting are common to dyslexics.

    If that's the case you will need another approach altogether.
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    • Profile picture of the author GarryMSayer
      Originally Posted by Dave Patterson View Post

      Also have him tested for dyslexia.....not liking reading, bad spelling/handwriting are common to dyslexics.

      If that's the case you will need another approach altogether.
      Yeah we did think that.

      My wife works as a Learning Support Assistant at Ben's school and has a good working relationship with the teachers.

      Ben goes to a handwriting class once a week. The class is designed to help kids turn scruffy illegible handwriting into readable handwriting. Since Ben has been taking these extra lessons there has been a slight improvement with his handwriting. The teacher of this class thinks Ben is borderline dyslexic but not dyslexic enough to be labelled / categorised as a dyslexic.

      Concerning the 'typical traits of dyslexia' thing Dave, an ex of mine is a diagnosed dyslexic but her handwriting is big, legible and 'easy-on-the-eye' readable. She also enjoys reading, avidly reads a book a week albeit slowly, but admittedly her spelling is poor.

      However, me and the wife have just had a quick chat and agreed that we are going to get him tested for dyslexia: besides teachers are only human and because of this prone to making errors of judgment.

      Anyone know of any online sites or resources that are effective in diagnosing dyslexia? Anyone have experience in getting an online diagnosis for dyslexia? Was it an accurate diagnosis?

      Again guys please don't send me links to sites / products that you 'think' may help. I'm looking for advice from warriors with experience of this subject.

      Thanks for the advice so far though guys.

      Dave the two occasions I've started an off-topic thread requesting help you've contributed with helpful advice so thanks for that buddy.

      Garry.
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    • Profile picture of the author HeySal
      Originally Posted by Dave Patterson View Post

      Also have him tested for dyslexia.....not liking reading, bad spelling/handwriting are common to dyslexics.

      If that's the case you will need another approach altogether.
      This is my first suggestion as well. I have lived with someone with severe dyslexia. He was brilliant and learned quickly auditorily, but couldn't read well. He went to the same school system for 12 years and NOT ONE teacher spotted the problem. He drew me a map when we were first going out and one look at that map revealed what his problem was.......it was drawn perfectly.....if you held it to a mirror.

      If you find no such problem --- don't use "helpers" such as Dragon. You aren't helping him in the least bit by giving him a band aid.

      First get the program "hooked on phonics".......he might think he's a bit old for it but studying phonetics a bit WILL help his spelling (and his reading in general). Also get him some books with subjects he will really enjoy - and make him read them. If he cheats at it you or mom need to sit down one hour a day and make him read out loud. If there are problems that go beyond lack of exposure, they will be revealed most quickly this way, too.

      Written language is not instinctual and needs to be taught. The only real way to learn to spell is by reading. He can memorize words that are hard for him, but recognizing the words over and over again in text will cut the necessity of having to memorize.

      If he is never a great speller, don't worry about it as long as he is good enough to get by for whatever he needs it for. Written language is not instinctual and the evolution of the English language has filled it with exceptions and just plain oddities. If he chooses a career in which he will need to be exceptional, then it's best he get started now, it's already late.

      Don't use electronics to "help" him or you are doing him more damage than you will ever realize. If his assignments aren't making the grade, then someone, whether you, mom, or a hired tutor, needs to sit down and help him correct his errors before he turns his papers in.
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  • Profile picture of the author Stevie B
    Garry,

    I can only speak from knowing a friend who has a dyslexic child.

    You are on the right track of going through the school, but you need to be well informed so that you can 'challenge' anyone in authority if you're not getting progress. Otherwise you may get pushed off with someone's opinion rather than a proper assessment from a properly qualified professional.

    Check out the British Dyslexia Association website:
    Getting Help for Your Child - About Dyslexia- The British Dyslexia Association

    They also have a helpline for advice (number is on the site).

    Good luck. Ben is lucky to have support from you.

    And, my personal opinion regarding reading material - if he's passionate about the RAF/flying etc, then he'll be more likely to read books about that (and improve his english along the way) than trying to digest academic books on improving his grammar or spelling

    Kind regards

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    • Profile picture of the author GarryMSayer
      Originally Posted by Stevie B View Post

      Garry,

      I can only speak from knowing a friend who has a dyslexic child.
      How and where did they get their diagnosis from? How do they encourage their child to read?


      Originally Posted by Stevie B View Post

      Check out the British Dyslexia Association website:
      Getting Help for Your Child - About Dyslexia- The British Dyslexia Association

      They also have a helpline for advice (number is on the site).
      Will do thanks.

      Originally Posted by Stevie B View Post

      And, my personal opinion regarding reading material - if he's passionate about the RAF/flying etc, then he'll be more likely to read books about that (and improve his english along the way) than trying to digest academic books on improving his grammar or spelling
      That's a valid suggestion. Just had a chat with the wife about it and we've agreed to speak to Ben tomorrow (he's round his Dad's tonight) and ask HIM what HE would like to read.

      Steve you're a star thanks a million.
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