Do You Look Your Age?

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Although, now, my hair is starting to go, when I got divorced I lost weight living alone, my face and body got slimmer and I am relatively unlined compared with some. I always think I look better and younger in the mirror as compared to being photographed.

So, how do you rate yourself, do you look your age or still think you have some youthful traits?
  • Profile picture of the author discrat
    I see you're up to your old antics again. i.e. worthless threads with no reedeeming value
    to them.

    I'll bite, though. At 55 I have thinnng hair but my complexion is clear without any wrinkles whatsoever. ( many my age have some sort of aging wrinkles even if it's around the
    neck or crows feet around the eyes)

    If it was not for my hair I would look around 40 or so.
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  • Profile picture of the author Monetize
    A lady never tells her age.

    I can't divulge the secrets to my youthful appearance but
    over the years, I have asked people (strangers like store
    clerks) how old I look and they always guess that I'm
    younger than my actual age.

    So the answer is NO, I do not look my age.
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    i would say i look a wee bit younger lol
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  • Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

    Although, now, my hair is starting to go, when I got divorced I lost weight living alone, my face and body got slimmer and I am relatively unlined compared with some. I always think I look better and younger in the mirror as compared to being photographed.

    So, how do you rate yourself, do you look your age or still think you have some youthful traits?
    I look every second of my age. From every angle....even in the dark.
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    • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
      Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

      I look every second of my age. From every angle....even in the dark.
      You know full well you don't have a reflection in mirrors, you can't Count on it.
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    • Profile picture of the author Monetize
      Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

      I look every second of my age. From every angle....even in the dark.

      You are adorbs. Don't listen to what Mark says.
      (or whatever his name is)
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  • Profile picture of the author Jamell
    I have grey hair now I keep my head bald but people think that I am in my thirties although I am 43 .
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  • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
    As you get old or older, one of the things I find annoying is how people treat you. Are you ok Mr soandso, raising their voices to speak to you. It's all a bit condescending. I'm just as sane and with it as they are.

    In hospital, they keep asking you your name and date of birth almost every time they come in to check on you. I suppose there are good reasons for that, to see if you are still with it. However, it does not make it any less annoying.

    For us oldies here, does this experience happen to you?
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    • Profile picture of the author Monetize
      Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

      As you get old or older, one of the things I find annoying is how people treat you. Are you ok Mr soandso, raising their voices to speak to you. It's all a bit condescending. I'm just as sane and with it as they are.

      In hospital, they keep asking you your name and date of birth almost every time they come in to check on you. I suppose there are good reasons for that, to see if you are still with it. However, it does not make it any less annoying.

      For us oldies here, does this experience happen to you?


      People yell at you because they think you are deaf.

      Maybe they don't realize that they are being ignored.

      My Husband was in and out of the hospital for several
      months, I think they ask your name so that there aren't
      any mix-ups.

      The statistics are not in the patient's favor.
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    Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

    I look every second of my age. From every angle....even in the dark.
    ...and from a great distance!

    Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

    As you get old or older, one of the things I find annoying is how people treat you. Are you ok Mr soandso, raising their voices to speak to you. It's all a bit condescending. I'm just as sane and with it as they are.

    In hospital, they keep asking you your name and date of birth almost every time they come in to check on you. I suppose there are good reasons for that, to see if you are still with it. However, it does not make it any less annoying.

    For us oldies here, does this experience happen to you?
    For me being the same age as Discrat, gray hair here and there and a slightly receding hair line but that is about it. I am losing weight and doing Palaties twice a week, so feel better and look batter over long periods of time.

    I feel like Bill Oddie in the Goodies skit there he comes in the room every year not looking a day older and saying, "21 today" then tells his aging friends that he is dying, but never does, (RIP Greame Garden).

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  • I'm still young at heart but look much better wearing a facemask, eyeglasses, and hat.

    I stick out like a sore thumb in Asia. Big guy, light skin, blondish hair. Most people are surprised that I'm younger than they guessed. They typically add on another 10 years, at least, in their guesses.

    My dogs still seem to like me, though, no matter how fat, ugly, old, or bald I get.

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  • Profile picture of the author guinemojo23
    youthfulness lies in heart not in age even if you are in your 60's and consider yourself in your 30's believe me then your are young.
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  • Profile picture of the author Jason Kanigan
    Nope. Put a hat on my head and I lose 10+ years. When I was in my early 40s as a marketer people told me they thought I was in my 20s (why? were they listening to what I talked about? I guess not). I remember dating someone who was just 2 years older than me awhile back, and going for breakfast one morning in Charlotte this black guy was staring at me incredulously because of the difference he perceived.

    For the past year I've dated someone who also looks younger so we match a bit better haha.

    I'm glad I got to keep my face.
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  • If everyone looks younger than their age....it means that's what people look like at your age.


    And how many old people have been told they actually look their age, or older? None. When we had our store, older customers would ask me how old I thought they were. I would take my real guess, subtract ten years, and act like I was astonished that they were actually their age. Nearly all of them looked their age.


    A few days ago was my 50th class reunion. I didn't go, but saw lots of photos on Facebook of the event.

    A couple of the guys looked a bit younger than they were (all 68 or 69)...but most everyone looked like 5 miles of bad road. And so do I.

    Only a few of the attendees looked enough like they did at 18 for me to recognize them.

    I'm told often that I look younger than I am. A kind lie, from people being nice.
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    • Profile picture of the author discrat
      Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre

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      I'm told often that I look younger than I am. A kind lie, from people being nice.
      If it's any consolation you epitomize what it means to be beautiful on the inside (psychopath or not )
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      • Originally Posted by discrat View Post

        If it's any consolation you epitomize what it means to be beautiful on the inside (psychopath or not )
        Well....that's not true, but it's kind of you to say.
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        • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
          Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

          Well....that's not true, but it's kind of you to say.
          It's that inner psychopath that makes you glow...not to mention the years where you worked at that nuclear power plant.

          Never had a class reunion, not a thing in the UK. I think I would be recognized. Now I wonder how many of your class were deceased after 50 years, statistically their would be a few. I know of one guy in my class who died in his 20's. I worked with his brother for a while.
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      Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

      If everyone looks younger than their age....it means[I] that's what people look like at your age..... A kind lie, from people being nice.
      This is not directed at Claude, I wonder how many exaggerate a little. After a certain point, most of the 30 and under crowd probably could not say how old someone is over the age of 45 to early 50s. Someone who is in shape and well-dressed over 55 will look younger than someone out of shape. Compared to a heavy smoker and/or drinker in the same age group.

      A commercial running currently during the news shows two pictures. The before picture is about the time they graduated or got married. The after pictures are of smokers who are in poor health or right before they pass away. The current one running the past 2 weeks is a smoker in a wealth chair struggling to cut food. The final scene says she was 58 when they passed away. She looked absolutely older than most people in their late 50's early 60's.
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      • Originally Posted by DWolfe View Post

        This is not directed at Claude, I wonder how many exaggerate a little. After a certain point, most of the 30 and under crowd probably could not say how old someone is over the age of 45 to early 50s. Someone who is in shape and well-dressed over 55 will look younger than someone out of shape. Compared to a heavy smoker and/or drinker in the same age group.
        That's a good point.

        And I have an observation that in your 50s, some can still look young, and many look like grandparents. I know several speakers and business owners that are in their late 50s and early 60s. Most can pass for much younger.

        But they are not the norm. They invest in daily exercise and spend money to look good...cosmetic dentistry, botox, tummy tucks, hair transplants, a strict diet.....and having their photos slightly retouched.

        But once you are my age or older (When people want to be complimented on how young they look), to the vast majority, we simply look old. Eighty still looks like seventy.

        Let's be honest. Looking seventy, when you are eighty...isn't much of a difference.

        Eventually, we start bragging about how old we are, because we can still get around.

        It's just a facet of human behavior that I find interesting.



        Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

        Now I wonder how many of your class were deceased after 50 years, statistically their would be a few. I know of one guy in my class who died in his 20's. I worked with his brother for a while.
        At 65 (mixing men with women), about 30% are already dead. About 25% of the graduating class attended, I think.

        Over the decade, several old classmates would come into my store, and they would sometimes recognize me, sometimes just by my voice. Without exception, I was saddened by the condition they were in. And I have to assume they saw me the same way.
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      • Profile picture of the author Monetize
        Originally Posted by DWolfe View Post

        a smoker in a wealth chair struggling to cut food.

        @DWolfe - That is the funniest typo I have ever seen in my life
        because I am sitting here thinking "I need a WEALTH chair!"
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    • Profile picture of the author Monetize
      Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

      If everyone looks younger than their age....it means that's what people look like at your age.


      Some people just don't age as much as others.

      A few days ago there was a late night infomercial
      about an anti-aging product, and they featured a
      woman in her fifties that had a baby face.

      Her youthful appearance had nothing to do with
      the product, she could have put Crisco on her
      skin and she would still have that baby face.

      Using that lady to promote the product is a form
      of false advertising.
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  • Profile picture of the author JForsberg
    I turn 31 in a few days, and currently working with mostly 18-24 year-olds at a 7-Eleven. None has not been surprised to learn my age, so I guess I don't. Which is nice, I guess.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    I think I look my age but that's OK...I've done 'young' - now it's time to do 'old'.

    My hair should be gray but it's still the natural dark blond with just a few gray strands you have to look for. I'm old enough that 3 people have asked me 'what color do you use' and then want to examine my 'roots' when I say 'none'. silly people.

    I don't move like most other people my age because I've always been active and have no joint or health issues. I work out 3X a week with a trainer and weigh 5 lbs more than I did in college. I still throw a saddle on a horse and go for a ride but I did stop being the person who 'checks out' a new horse to see how well behaved he is - or isn't. I don't take the chances I've always taken because I know I'm too old to bounce. Common sense rules at any age....or at least it should.

    I recently had an annual physical and my doctor said "I want to be YOU when I'm your age". That's a good thing. I'm not a fool so offered to trade with her.

    There is a beauty to aging that you miss if you are always trying to 'look younger'...there's less stress....less pressure to accomplish, etc. If you have children - they are grown so you know how well you did as a parent. So many things you worry about as a young person simply don't matter as you get older. Also, you can say really outrageous things and get by with it when you are older.
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    • Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

      There is a beauty to aging that you miss if you are always trying to 'look younger'...there's less stress....less pressure to accomplish, etc. If you have children - they are grown so you know how well you did as a parent. So many things you worry about as a young person simply don't matter as you get older. Also, you can say really outrageous things and get by with it when you are older.
      Yup. It wasn't until my 50s that I started noticing how an older face told a story.

      My wife is 76, and...to be honest, that's the age I would guess her at. But every time she smiles, there is a beauty....a calm serenity that shows through...that I've never seen in a young woman.

      The two most beautiful movie stars I've seen were Viveca Lindfors and Jessica Tandy.

      In their seventies, both were stunning, striking beauties.

      When I see a face of a 20 year old, I see a painting that isn't done. No detail. No real character. I really think this way.

      Even men. A craggy old boxer, with a twisted nose and cauliflower ears is a thing of beauty to me. Like a beautiful ancient tree, twisted in the constant wind.

      OK, back on Earth.....
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      • Profile picture of the author discrat
        Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post


        When I see a face of a 20 year old, I see a painting that isn't done. No detail. No real character. I really think this way.
        Wow, really profound!! Never thought of it that way but really rings true. Thanks Claude
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      • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
        Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

        Yup. It wasn't until my 50s that I started noticing how an older face told a story.

        My wife is 76, and...to be honest, that's the age I would guess her at. But every time she smiles, there is a beauty....a calm serenity that shows through...that I've never seen in a young woman.

        The two most beautiful movie stars I've seen were Viveca Lindfors and Jessica Tandy.

        In their seventies, both were stunning, striking beauties.

        When I see a face of a 20 year old, I see a painting that isn't done. No detail. No real character. I really think this way.

        Even men. A craggy old boxer, with a twisted nose and cauliflower ears is a thing of beauty to me. Like a beautiful ancient tree, twisted in the constant wind.

        OK, back on Earth.....
        "When I see a face of a 20 year old, I see a painting that isn't done. No detail. No real character. I really think this way.

        Even men. A craggy old boxer, with a twisted nose and cauliflower ears is a thing of beauty to me. Like a beautiful ancient tree, twisted in the constant wind."

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  • Since I was 6yo, I have always endeavored to look at least 2 months youngah than I am, so's all the ghosts an' spookies pass me by in favah of people ain't gaht no teeth.

    (Even the ethereal gravitate, trust me.)

    Prolly I should git married sumtime soon, but I too busy sportin' lousy hair.
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    Everything looks good but I can see changes in my eyesight and I easily get tired now.
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  • Profile picture of the author Alex Koh
    I'm 48. But my hair isn't falling out or even gray yet. I do fitness and feel like 35. However, when it comes to accomplishments and opportunities, it's crucial to rely on qualifications rather than appearances. (spam link removed by moderator)
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  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    I just came from the gym and swear I feel 10 years older now than I did before my workout.
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    • Profile picture of the author discrat
      Originally Posted by Kay King View Post

      I just came from the gym and swear I feel 10 years older now than I did before my workout.
      Kay, you're just getting old
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  • A craggy old boxah with a twisted nose an' cauliflowah ears walks into a store.

    Cain't find what he lookin' for, so he queries the checkout gal.

    "You got anything gonna make me smell real good?" he says. "I am almost 98 years old and I've been washing with the same soap since I was 11."

    "Sure," says the gal, her features vaguely amoeboid bcs she only 19. "You want fresh and punchy, exotic and sophisticated, or dark and mysterious?"

    The guy sighs. "Wow. That's some big choice. I never realised--"

    The checkout gal leaps outta her seat, her feachahs blurriah now bcs she movin' with enthoosiasm, but if she were to stahp for a moment, there would actschlly be minimal diffrence bcs she kinda almost born yestahday.

    "Why don't you try all three at once?" she says. "Evoke your own characteristic odor from a range of possibilities?"

    "So I am paying three times over because I'm a vulnerable old timer? The hell kinda offer is that?"

    "No way," says the gal. "Whichever 3 soaps you buy gonna last 3 soaps long. So why run with the one soap when you can blend all three?"

    The guy starts noddin'. "Hmmm. You got a point there. But lemme try 2 punchy and one exotic. When you got ears like me, there ain't **** all mysterious going on."

    "Deal," says the gal. "Kinda works bcs there's a 2-for-1 offer on the punchy rn, so that's real cool."

    "OK."

    "So ... tell me ... is there a secret sweetheart behind all this different new soaps strategy?"

    The guy's ears swell with the redness of a priapic baboon. "Yeah. Sure. You got me."

    "Then she will LOVE this combo, for sure."

    "Gotta hope so. She's 107, and she's seen pretty much everything."

    "No way, babe. You gonna knock her dead, prom."

    So the boxah leaves the store, clutchin' his trio of soaps like noo horizons gonna open up for his rejuvenated pugilistic ass.

    Meantime, the countah gal slowly dissolves into a pool of almost intangible nuthin'.

    Then fades from view like she was nevah even there at all.
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  • Profile picture of the author Kay King
    Maybe - I know my BS meter goes off a lot earlier than it used to....
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  • No matter how I look, I feel my age + about 30 years.

    But I've got to work on myself so that I don't act so old and instead act like I have plenty of years left to do lots of good things. The universe, or whoever or whatever, has really tested us this year. It's been one thing after another. I've got to learn how to deal better with the cards I'm dealt, that's for sure.

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    I believe it's important how you feel. If you feel younger and more confident, that's perfect. You should pay attention more to your emotions than looks.
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  • Profile picture of the author Po Last
    My hair turned white
    When I was still young.
    My ginger beard
    Has also lost its color.

    I've got a little belly
    That I can't get rid of.
    But I don't need surgery -
    I'll age with dignity.

    My looks may fade
    As years go by.
    But lasting beauty
    Comes from inside.
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    i look younger too
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  • When someone says you look younger than you are, it's a way of avoiding one of the biggest social blunders you can imagine....telling the truth about how someone else looks.

    If someone looks 40 or older, we always shave a decade or so off our guess...just to be safe.

    Me? I'm 68 and look like 9 miles of bad road. And when I stand up (or use any of my joints) it sounds like fire crackers are going off. Anyone who tells me I look younger than I am is lying.

    And anyone who asks "How old do I look?" Is just begging for a compliment...which they always receive.

    I've learned a few lessons in my life. Here they are;

    Never ask a woman if she is pregnant.

    When someone asks "How old do I look?" Never....never tell the truth. Always shave off 10 years, and then marvel when they tell you they are 5 years older than you said.

    When a host makes you a meal, or a cup of coffee....no matter what, you are required to compliment them on the great food or drink.

    When someone tells you their weight, marvel at how well the pounds are hidden.


    And when you go see a doctor, even if you are dying...and they ask "How are you today?"....you have to say "Just fine, and you?"

    My doctor once asked me how I was, and I asked "Do you aske everyone that question?". He said "Yes". I said "Do they all say they feel fine?". He said "Yes".

    I asked "Then why are they here?"

    This is why I'm never invited to parties.... Twice.
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    • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
      Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

      When someone says you look younger than you are, it's a way of avoiding one of the biggest social blunders you can imagine....telling the truth about how someone else looks.

      If someone looks 70 years old, we always shave a decade or so off our guess...just to be safe.

      Me? I'm 68 and look like 9 miles of bad road. And when I stand up (or use any of my joints) it sounds like fire crackers are going off.
      Oh, so you can still stand up, luxury.

      Certain mirrors, if well lit, can make you look younger than you look to others. A photo can be re-touched or well lit to show you at your best. But, when someone videoed me aged around 58, I thought, who's that old man, that's not me.
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      • Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

        Oh, so you can still stand up, luxury.

        Certain mirrors, if well lit, can make you look younger than you look to others. A photo can be re-touched or well lit to show you at your best. But, when someone videoed me aged around 58, I thought, who's that old man, that's not me.
        You can buy pink lights that are used when you video yourself. It makes an old person look healthier. years ago, I had a pet iguana. It started being lethargic...and it started losing its green color. Eventually, the entire iguana was white.

        And then it died.

        I think I know how it felt.
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          Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

          You can buy pink lights that are used when you video yourself. It makes an old person look healthier. years ago, I had a pet iguana. It started being lethargic...and it started losing its green color. Eventually, the entire iguana was white.

          And then it died.

          I think I know how it felt.
          I was going to say don't worry, for now your still a Hulk. But then I looked up the meaning of the word. "an old ship stripped of fittings and permanently moored"
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          • Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

            I was going to say don't worry, for now your still a Hulk. But then I looked up the meaning of the word. "an old ship stripped of fittings and permanently moored"
            This is not a joke.

            Years ago, Cheryl and I were watching a nature show about how salmon went to the ocean, and then swam upstream to their birth place,

            Immediately after they spawn, the salmon just slowly swim around for a couple of weeks as they deteriorate and then die.

            I looked at Cheryl and said "I feel like I'm at that stage of life. I've spawned, and now I'm just swimming around...falling apart..."
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            • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
              Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

              This is not a joke.

              Years ago, Cheryl and I were watching a nature show about how salmon went to the ocean, and then swam upstream to their birth place,

              Immediately after they spawn, the salmon just slowly swim around for a couple of weeks as they deteriorate and then die.

              I looked at Cheryl and said "I feel like I'm at that stage of life. I've spawned, and now I'm just swimming around...falling apart..."
              Oh so true. You have fulfilled a primal urge, to reproduce and have done your part to help in the propagation of the species. Just a few hundred years back, had you been around then, you would statistically have not reached the age you are now. But thanks to sanitation, safer living conditions, good, easy to come by food and advances in medicine, here you are, still alive and kicking.

              When I think about it. I would have been deaf in one ear for most of my life without anti-biotics and penicillin. I would also be dead by now but for the Stent in my heart or having been diagnosed as diabetic and cut back on sugar. All impossible just a few hundred years ago.

              We are lucky to have been born into a more modern age where stuff like this is available to us to keep us going. It's like we are being artificially kept alive. Heck, there's even a vague chance that the aging process will be cracked and you could be kept alive indefinitely and even have the ageing process reversed.

              The question is, even if you could afford it, would you want it, is it desirable, or would you think you have fulfilled your destiny or goals in life and be happy and accepting about it coming to an end. Personally, for me, having seen what I can only describe as a ghost and photographing it makes me more accepting of the possibility of consciousness continuing in some way so it makes me even more inclined to let go as their may be something else that allows for our continuation.

              I expect you read about the rich guy who spends millions each year in the pursuit of youth and is using every possible means to stay young and reverse the ageing process. It appears to be working for him, at least superficially. Best of luck to him.
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              • Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

                The question is, even if you could afford it, would you want it, is it desirable, or would you think you have fulfilled your destiny or goals in life and be happy and accepting about it coming to an end.
                I've asked Cheryl if she would become a vampire to live longer...No.

                Would she want to live twice as long? No.

                Would she take a free pill that would keep her young as long as she likes? No.

                So...No for me as well.

                I'm not happy or accepting about dying. But bring dead won't be painful, and I won't miss anyone.

                Like I've said before, my strongest fear is that Cheryl goes before I do..

                My secondary fear is that I become mentally ill or senile, and am dependent on others for my care.

                Frankly, anything else, I can accept pretty well.

                The people that spend lots of money on living forever? Or the cults that promise living forever?

                Well, so far, it's hasn't worked.
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                • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
                  Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

                  I've asked Cheryl if she would become a vampire to live longer...No.

                  Would she want to live twice as long? No.

                  Would she take a free pill that would keep her young as long as she likes? No.

                  So...No for me as well.

                  I'm not happy or accepting about dying. But bring dead won't be painful, and I won't miss anyone.

                  Like I've said before, my strongest fear is that Cheryl goes before I do..

                  My secondary fear is that I become mentally ill or senile, and am dependent on others for my care.

                  Frankly, anything else, I can accept pretty well.

                  The people that spend lots of money on living forever? Or the cults that promise living forever?

                  Well, so far, it's hasn't worked.
                  Now, is no longer the time to want to live forever as the world as we know it is folding. Perhaps you read the recent ongoing scientific study of the heatwave that happened at the south pole recently. Much melting of the surrounding sea ice occurred and it's not recovering well. They project that if a similar heatwave hits each year then there will be no ice or snow there by 2030. That would constitute a 200 feet sea level rise and many continents being partially underwater.

                  We lived in a great time of relative stability in the world from the 50's up until around 2007. That's something to celebrate. We spent most of our life in the best of times.
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  • Profile picture of the author Nikewskkfcusa
    It's fascinating how lighting and angles can play tricks on our perception. Mirrors, when strategically lit, can indeed have a flattering effect. Photos, with retouching and favorable lighting, can capture us at our best. However, video can be quite revealing. I had a similar experience when I first saw myself on video - it's like meeting a different person. Aging gracefully is a beautiful journey, though sometimes it catches us by surprise.
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  • Profile picture of the author lanfear63
    I just gave myself a haircut. It was getting long and I was looking like some balding professor or aging pop star from the 1970's who's reluctant to lose his bangs. I used to have a sort of young Robert Plant look back in the day. I have not paid for a haircut for several years now and seem to have the knack of doing a good job. Of course these days, less and less to cut.

    But, every time I do, a few people say, oh, you look quite a bit more youthful. It's still pretty 70's but short. I also trimmed my eyebrows. Why people neglect to do this escapes me, it looks unsightly when the hairs start curling round. Their are a few things you can do to look more presentable and a bit more youthful. Personal grooming helps. I am also a beard hater, For most people, it makes them look older, especially if it's long.
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    • Profile picture of the author DWolfe
      Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

      . I am also a beard hater, For most people, it makes them look older, especially if it's long.
      Nothing screams Boomer more than a gray Goatee or beard! I know a few people who have beards, each one looks older than they actually are.
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  • Profile picture of the author max5ty
    I don't think anyone ever thinks they look their age...and in the marketing world, it's a given that most don't think they look as old as they are.

    I'm 63 now. I'm getting to the point I don't care how old I look. I've been in marketing and copywriting for almost 4 decades...now, I just tell it like it is and let the chips fall where they may. I guess that's a benefit of getting older and not having to worry about an income.

    I have gray hair and have never tried to color it. Some say I look like a model for older guys...or maybe I didn't hear them right

    There are times I look in the mirror (especially in the morning) and I think, 'Wow, I'm looking old'

    Just love yourself and your experiences for what they are and learn to live each day as a new experience.

    You're never to old to do anything you want to do
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    • Originally Posted by max5ty View Post


      Just love yourself and your experiences for what they are and learn to live each day as a new experience.
      It is without doubt how an acceptance of immediate nowstuffs is condoosiver to naht blitzin' out as a crank than if'n evrythin' is WRONG WRONG WRONG in yuh own stoopid braino.

      * sob *

      Yeah, but I nevah gaht to hold that boopsy cutesy rabbit in the pettin' zoo when I was 6yo.

      * sniff *

      I sorry, trooly I am ...

      * wail *

      Aw, yanno, you jus' wanna live for the moment, trooly you do ...

      * snort *

      but ... but I cain't evah forgit that goddamn bunny ...
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      • It's interesting to me that virtually everyone that is over 40 says that people think they look younger than they really are.

        When statistically, half of old people look older than they really are.

        I want to break this insanity by being the first person on this planet that is over 40...stating categorical that I look older than I really am.

        There. Break the bonds of social delusion. Join me in declaring that we look worse for wear...that we are falling apart...that we have seen better days.

        I'm 68 and look 74. There I said it.
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        • Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

          It's interesting to me that virtually everyone that is over 40 says that people think they look younger than they really are.

          When statistically, half of old people look older than they really are.

          I want to break this insanity by being the first person on this planet that is over 40...stating categorical that I look older than I really am.

          There. Break the bonds of social delusion. Join me in declaring that we look worse for wear...that we are falling apart...that we have seen better days.

          I'm 68 and look 74. There I said it.
          FFS Claude, I figured you were 85.

          Polydirectional kudos drips your way real easy ...
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      • Profile picture of the author DWolfe
        The Macy's Thanksgiving Parade had Cher singing a Christmas song. From a distance with all the makeup on. It would be hard to say how old she looks. On the other hand, the Rolling Stones are going back on tour. A few of them look like death warmed over.
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        • Originally Posted by DWolfe View Post

          The Macy's Thanksgiving Parade had Cher singing a Christmas song. From a distance with all the makeup on. It would be hard to say how old she looks. On the other hand, the Rolling Stones are going back on tour. A few of them look like death warmed over.
          Cher looked great.

          But great hair, surgery, spa treatments, a very good diet, make up, and distance will make anyone look better.

          My guess is that close up, at the end of the day, she looks about 77. There are changes in our bodies that happen right on cue, no matter what we do. We can hide these changes a little, but they are still there.

          I just saw a photo of Cher at about 73, without make up or photo shop. She looks about like every other 73 year old woman. She still has a great voice though, assuming her voice on TV wasn't recorded.

          I watch old movies made in the 1930s and 1940s. At 35, these people are showing their age, and at 50, they look elderly.

          But back then everyone smoked all day, drank all night, and ate crap food.

          Nobody looked good at 60. And now, there are plenty of 70 year olds that are still vibrant, attractive, and healthy.

          It just means that, as a species, we look younger than we did in the past. Because we take better care of ourselves.

          But no matter who we are, or what we do...if we live to 80..we all look about the same.
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      • Think about this;

        If everyone actually looked 5 years younger than they are, then they would actually "look their age" because now that is the normal way to look at that age.

        In the movies in the 1930s and 1940s...a 50 year old man was considered old, and looked like it. Leading ladies were usually in their early 20s...or even late teens.

        Now, leading men in romantic movies can still be in their 50s, and women play romantic roles into their fifties and older.

        It's because we don't all work in foundries and caves...we don't smoke three packs a day and drink ourselves into an early grave.

        And we actually know what good nutrition is now.

        Even in the 1950s, a person that didn't smoke or drink, exercised , and ate well....was called a "Health Nut" and was laughed at.

        Now, we have a different cause of early death, gross obesity. Maybe 40% of adults in the US are obese, and 25% of these obese people are diabetic, caused by their obesity.

        We can't go shopping without seeing a half dozen people who are so fat they can't walk, and have to use those scooters when grocery shopping. And almost none of these people make it to 90.
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        • Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

          Think about this;

          we don't all work in foundries and caves...
          Which is why progress is kinda cool --

          less'n we wanna help usselves accidentally back to a world of belts an' braces an' subjoogated wimmin while we all throwin' on lumpinzilla sports caps of a redsy incredsy grievencehole-spittin' spew.

          The right kinda infummayschwaahn always has procreatively catalytic effects beyond, say, jus' lies an' shitola.

          An' we may blundah inta this hooman hinnyshinny 'bout astronauts an' caves at any stage of our mortal journey.

          Bcs, yanno, plenty kids bein' born today!

          See how they squirt their unashamed jooces of emergence right inta any narrative gowin'.

          Also, we gaht long souls down to their last.

          What would you want for these diverse kinda innocents?

          Awaitin' life ... awaitin' death?

          Gotta figure predatory marketin' demographicstuffs is becomin' increasingly insultin' (an' irrelevant) to anywan' endeavorin' to

          a) smile authentically

          2) naht shit thuh frickin' pants.

          Always, for evrywan, the deal is so:

          g) What is the availably exotic panorama?

          58) How may I best cavort 'longside its ass with doo respect to self, plus also ongowin' culchrl momentum of a heartsy naychyoore?

          Main thing is: I can still pass for 18 if'n I bend ovah without no panties on.

          Look me in the eye when ima moody, likely I chanelin' sum long dead demigoddess of a violent-yet-hopeful dummeanheure.

          That they still let me in the store to shahp for *like* zucchini is a misstirry to Moi, tellya.
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    • Originally Posted by max5ty View Post

      I don't think anyone ever thinks they look their age...and in the marketing world, it's a given that most don't think they look as old as they are.

      I'm 63 now. I'm getting to the point I don't care how old I look. I've been in marketing and copywriting for almost 4 decades...now, I just tell it like it is and let the chips fall where they may. I guess that's a benefit of getting older and not having to worry about an income.
      To me, one of the best benefits of being 69 years old? I no longer care how I look to attractive women. Losing the constant need to attract the females is maybe the most liberating thing that's happened in my life. Like losing a 50 year serious drug addiction, and knowing that you are cured forever.
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    all people say i do look my age , idk it is good or bad
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  • Profile picture of the author Raz
    When I was 30, many people thought I am 20-ish. I wish I will be 'ageless' like Donnie Yen.
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    Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

    Although, now, my hair is starting to go, when I got divorced I lost weight living alone, my face and body got slimmer and I am relatively unlined compared with some. I always think I look better and younger in the mirror as compared to being photographed.

    So, how do you rate yourself, do you look your age or still think you have some youthful traits?
    Got a lot of money? Get a hair transplant treatment, no kidding.
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    for the most part yes, health plays a big part on our age i think
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  • Originally Posted by lanfear63 View Post

    I always think I look better and younger in the mirror as compared to being photographed.
    Because looking at yourself in the mirror, you focus on the good parts, and your face is moving, blurring lines. A photo is static...and a stark reminder of what others see.

    Me? I look thinner in the mirror. Why? Because I'm focusing on the few decent attributes I have left....and ignoring the fact that I'm shaped like a partially deflated balloon.

    But a photo? I see the whole thing at once, and it's harder to fool myself.


    Our self image has defenses....even from ourselves.
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    • Profile picture of the author discrat
      Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

      Because looking at yourself in the mirror, you focus on the good parts, and your face is moving, blurring lines. A photo is static...and a stark reminder of what others see.

      Me? I look thinner in the mirror. Why? Because I'm focusing on the few decent attributes I have left....and ignoring the fact that I'm shaped like a partially deflated balloon.

      But a photo? I see the whole thing at once, and it's harder to fool myself.


      Our self image has defenses....even from ourselves.
      Also do you fall into mode of thinking
      " I look better in person than I do in a photo"??

      Lots of people do. But I sincerely think some people do look better in person. Some worse. One of my good friends once told me he was out in Hollywood at a club. And in walks Cameron Diaz in person. He said she was much more attractive in film/photo than in person. He said she was average looking at best compared to all the other women at that club..

      Anyway , enough of the shallow Hal talk. I think in the end all the really matters is what's inside the person. As I get older iam realizing this more and more!!
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      • Originally Posted by discrat View Post

        Also do you fall into mode of thinking
        " I look better in person than I do in a photo"??
        The only reason I think I usually look better in a photo is that the photo is posed. Lighting hides many faults. Positioning hides many faults.

        And all photos were taken in the past.

        By the way, the position of my head shot (to the left of this post) was just to hide the fact that I have a double chin.

        People are vain...even when they have no reason to be vain.
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        • Profile picture of the author discrat
          You look about 45 in that photo
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          • Originally Posted by discrat View Post

            You look about 45 in that photo
            I think I was about 50 years old.

            The photos on my book covers were taken when I was about 56 years old.
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            • Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

              I think I was about 50 years old.

              The photos on my book covers were taken when I was about 56 years old.
              It is only hooman to reflect forensickly in this way.

              Most supah sized turtles been around since before NINTENDO don't recognize they evin exist, let alone contemplate how long they been dowin' it.

              My prahblem is, gossamah exotica been dowin' the biz since before nowan eveh knoo it existed.

              So, yeah, I am 15yo an' still naht QUEEN.

              The hell is gowin' ahn?

              Always, sum fustically adorned mumblah would appear before me, an' I would age on.

              Tellya, mosta the crowns they had figured for PRE SHE CAIN'T EVAH disastah nevah actshwlly fitted nowan.

              The fyootyoore is always so air that way.

              Anywan wantsta gaze upon it must always wish to be infinitely swept away.

              Or step aside exactly.

              That is why hunnybees luv hunny.
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  • Profile picture of the author diana popova
    Well I think I do
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  • Profile picture of the author 7amoudymh
    I think I look my age or even older.. I'm always working and I don't have time to take care of my body and face to look younger.
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    This time not looking that much young but I should control my stomach tammy and do some exercise and effort to look good and handsome.
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    yes sometimes
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    No.College students routinely think I am one of them.
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    • Originally Posted by socialentry View Post

      No.College students routinely think I am one of them.
      My cats routinely think I am one of them.
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        Originally Posted by Claude Whitacre View Post

        My cats routinely think I am one of them.
        You should probably stop using their litter box.
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          Originally Posted by Frank Donovan View Post

          You should probably stop using their litter box.
          And drinking their Cat Nip?

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  • Profile picture of the author spartan14
    Well in my case i look older than my real age .People thinks that i have 40 years or more when in fact i have 33 .I think my dificult childhood makes more mature because of the pain that i endure
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    Yes I look like my age or even younger only due to following proper diet, exercise and a good fashion sense.
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